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From One Father To Another: President Obama Shares Parenting Advice With Jay-Z

October 20th, 2012 - By Veronica Wells
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Some of us are still struggling to understand the friendship that exists between President Obama and the Carter family. Whatever the nature of their relationship, we can certainly understand how both parties benefit from having each other in their respective corners. The president gets the backing (and financial contributions, $4 million just last month to be exact) of some of the biggest stars in the music industry and Bey and Jay get to expand their empire by kicking it with the president all the time.

At a radio station in Cleveland, Ohio, the president continued to speak about the budding friendship with Jay-Z and Beyoncé by sharing the fatherly advice he gave to the rapper/mogul when Blue Ivy was born.

“I’ve gotten to know these guys over the first several years.  They’re good people. Beyonce could not be sweeter to Michelle and the girls. So they’re good friends. We talk about the same things I talk about with all my friends.”

“I made sure that Jay-Z was helping Beyonce out [with the baby], and not leaving it all with Beyonce and the mother-in-law.”

This friendship still feels a bit too opportunistic to appear genuine; but if it happens to help the president get another term, then I’m not mad. Plus that advice is not too bad either.



From One Father To Another: T.I. Gives Jay-Z Advice On Being A Good Dad

May 22nd, 2012 - By Brande Victorian
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Say what you will about T.I. but with six kids under his belt, he knows a little something about parenting. Having a bunch of babies doesn’t make you a father but from what we’ve seen on “T.I. and Tiny’s Family Hustle,” he’s definitely a man who takes pride in being a good dad and supporting his children.

Early in his career, TIP was dubbed the “Jay-Z of the south” for his lyricism and now he has some advice for Jay on how to be the “T.I. of fathers.” During an interview with Fuse, he laid down a little wisdom for how Jigga should go about life as a new father, particularly as a father to a baby girl.

“Little girls are going to judge men they meet in the future based off how their father treated them. You’ve got to be her first love, her first everything so when she run into nonsense in the street then she’ll know, ‘Nah, my daddy would never do it like that, so this isn’t even worth my time or attention.’”

Preach. T.I. also had one more thing to add:

“Another piece of advice is enjoy the moments. Enjoy the moments because once they’re gone, they’re gone.”

It was clear  from his expressions, T.I. misses having a baby in the house. He and Tiny’s youngest son, Major, is four now, but TIP said he particularly misses King as a baby (probably because he’s so bad now—sorry, had to say it.)

“King, when he was small, he had the fattest little cheeks,” he gushed. “He just looked like a cute lil’ baby boy. Then he started stretching out and getting long. … Now I need another baby. You miss those baby moments.”

I think Tiny misses those moments too which means they might be hustling to make that happen on season 2 of their show. We’ll have to watch and see.

Check out the clip of T.I. sharing his parenting advice here. What do you think about what he said?


Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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XXL Staff Suspended Over Too Short Video

February 16th, 2012 - By Brande Victorian
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Once Too Short’s “Fatherly Advice” video went online last week, the viral disgust spread like wildfire. Later the same day the video was removed from XXL’s site, but many said that wasn’t enough and they demanded that the publication’s editor-in-chief, Vanessa Satten, be fired. So far that hasn’t happened, but the staff responsible for uploading the video has been suspended.

On Monday, XXL and Too Short issued an apology for the clip which went up last Friday. For XXL’s part, the EIC stated she agrees with those who were angered by the video and relinquished responsibility for the posting:

“I do not see all content before it goes live. When I saw this video, I was truly offended and thought it crossed the line. I had it taken down immediately. I am disappointed that an employee decided to post it and I am putting internal procedures in place to make sure content like this does not go on the site. The video goes against my value system and represents poor judgment on behalf of the individual who posted it.”

And Too Short was basically, Too Short:

“I want to apologize to anyone I may have offended with the XXL video interview I recently did. When I got on camera I was in Too $hort mode and had a lapse of judgement.I would never advise a child or young man to do these things, it’s not how I get down. Although I have made my career on dirty raps, I have worked over the years to somewhat balance the content of my music with giving back to the community. Just coming from a man who wants to see young people get ahead in life, I’m gonna do my best to to help and not hurt. If you’re a young man or a kid who looks up to me, don’t get caught up in the pimp, player, gangster hip-hop personas. Just be yourself.”

Since issuing this statement, the internal procedure has meant suspension for those who were responsible for producing and posting the video, and development of a new method of uploading to make sure this doesn’t happen again. Vanessa Satten also wants to make it clear that she is in no way down with the “fatherly advice” that was shared, saying in another statement that as soon as a reader made her aware of the video she had it taken down.

“As a woman, I in no way find the content of the video acceptable. To think I would ever approve anything that would harm women or endanger children is absurd. Under no terms should sexual assault be tolerated, nor do I endorse making light of it.”

Since comments are closed on both statements, it’s hard to say whether this will satisfy the public, but I’m curious why the content of the video wasn’t discussed before production began anyway. Sounds like someone is passing the buck. I vote no more Too Short videos period.

Do you think Vanessa Satten should be fired over the Too Short controversy? Is suspension enough for the XXL employees behind the video?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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Too Short Gives Disgusting Fatherly Advice About Girls to Middle School Boys

February 10th, 2012 - By Brande Victorian
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Too Short never claimed to be a role model and I’m not sure why XXL is making him out to be one, but for some reason the magazine has given him a platform for “fatherly advice” and in his third lesson on the birds and the bees, he’s giving middle school boys some disturbing tricks on mind manipulation to “turn little girls out” and essentially take advantage of them sexually. Here’s what he said:

“When you get to late middle school, early high school and you start feeling a certain way about the girls… I’m gonna tell you a couple tricks. This is what you do, man. A lot of the boys are going to be running around trying to get kisses from the girls, we’re going way past that. I’m taking you to the hole.

There’s a general area down there, a little spot that girls have that feels really good to them. Don’t kiss them down there yet, that’s later in life. But this is what you do. You push her up against the wall or pull her up against you while you lean on the wall and you take your finger and put a little spit on it and you stick your finger in her underwear and you rub it on there and watch what happens. It’s like magic. You gotta find her spot, they all have a different one, but it’s somewhere in there. Just go for it. When you feel like it becomes a little more moist that’s when you know you’re doing it right.”

I personally think his advice is pretty irresponsible, yet somewhat expected from a raunchy rapper such as himself, but XXL really shouldn’t promote this type of foolishness for young boys, particularly when he’s leaning heavily toward aggressive sexual behavior played out against pre-teen girls.

Check out the clip and see what you think. Should XXL take this down?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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