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The other day I was scrolling through “Facebook Memories,” you know the app that curates your posts and statuses from today’s date in years past. It’s easily one of the best features on the site. Everything I was seeing made me smile and reminisce, until I stumbled across something that induced a cringe.
It was a status where I tagged or mentioned my former boo thang. I cringed mostly because I didn’t talk about our relationship publicly. Mostly because it was so loosely defined for us that I didn’t feel comfortable putting it out there for the people, knowing that there would be questions, comments and prying dips into our business. Plus, when you break up to make up and then break up again, it’s hard to keep a consistent posting schedule that wouldn’t indicate that there are problems in paradise. So, I was scared. The last thing I want in life is to look like a fool, on social media or in real life.
But on this day, years ago, after homeboy put in a bit of a request for a shoutout, I wrote a Facebook status including his name. It was years ago, but thanks to memories, it popped right back up, making me cringe.
I think it was with this failed relationship in mind that I was so hesitant to put my new, current, infinitely more stable one on social media. I didn’t want questions. I didn’t want to cringe if it didn’t work out. And I didn’t want to look like a fool. I had never readily admitted these things to myself. It was just a feeling, a sense that I had, that I may or may not have been able to articulate if asked.
Little did I know, my mother would be the one to do just that.
I texted her a picture of my boyfriend and I and she was so inspired that, without my permission, she posted it on her Facebook page. She was dead wrong. After I had my sister log into her account to delete it, I told her how wrong she was, that it wasn’t her place to do that. She wasn’t trying to hear me.
“Girl, get off my phone talking crazy.”
“Moooom,” I pleaded, “I haven’t even posted a picture of us yet.”
And then she asked me a very simple question that caused me to examine myself.
“Why haven’t you?”
That’s when I realized that while I absolutely didn’t want my mom to be posting my business, there was really no legitimate reason why I hadn’t. Different dude, different relationship. No reason to be hesitant.
But I can’t lie. A part of me remembered cousins and associates who had put entirely too much of their relationship business on social media early, only to find that the relationship fizzled. And what were once happy, optimistic, romantic, “my boo is better than your boo” statuses turned into embittered, single and salty, messy breakup posts.
I thought of Ciara posting her N for Nayvadius tattoo and calling him her king. And especially her interview with Brides magazine. And we all know how that turned out. It was embarrassing. We were embarrassed for her.
Then again, I’m sure Ciara felt sure about her relationship. Particularly after Future proposed to her…and got her pregnant, whichever came first.
So, much like relationships themselves, it’s a gamble either way. You do it…or don’t do it and hope for the best.
When you feel comfortable sharing your relationship on social media?
Facebook is used for a lot of things. Meeting new people, catching up with old friends, promoting businesses and organizations, and for some people, being a troll. But in the case of 18-year-old Nakasia James, she used the social media platform to confess to her followers and anyone else who may be interested, that she allegedly killed her boyfriend, 21-year-old Dorian Powell.
According to the Los Angeles Times, police in San Bernadino, Calif. are searching for James after police were called Monday at 2:30 a.m. about a domestic disturbance, which ended with a woman stabbing her boyfriend. But by the time police arrived at Powell’s apartment, he was dead at the scene, and James was already gone. According to a statement from the San Bernadino police, they are unaware of her whereabouts after the fact and are searching for the 18-year-old.
“Nakasia is aware that she is being sought in connection with this homicide. At this time it does appear to be related to a domestic disturbance inside the apartment.”
And that’s what a woman with the same name and Facebook profile as James (Nakasia “Macc” James) said occurred when sharing her confession on Monday. A profile police say is definitely James’s account. She said that she stabbed Powell in self-defense.
According to KTLA News, police said there are no other reported incidents of violence related to Powell’s residence. They are urging her to come forward.
Over the weekend, we told you about the disturbing prank this woman played on two, little girls, the children, presumably her daughters.
In case you missed it, the woman instructs the girls to open a present from the aunt and uncle. When they find out it’s a Black doll inside, the eldest girl looks around confused while the younger one throws the box away from herself and immediately starts crying.
While any decent parent would take the doll and explain to her daughter that she appreciate any gift she receives and ask her why she’s so against having a Black doll, this mother bursted out laughing, like she was encouraging the behavior and the younger one’s disgust.
The video spread like wild fire. And apparently, the original poster didn’t take too kindly to the response because it has since been deleted.
But the impression it leaves is a lasting one.
And instead of being angry and going on about her life, this mother in Wisconsin, decided to counter that hate and negativity, with a more positive, loving message.
She posted the following video on her Facebook page.
The video was sweet but it’s Katie Nachman’s words below it, that really send the strongest message
I love this post, not because we need White folks’ acceptance, approval or endorsement. I love the video and the words that follow it because Ms. Nachman gets it. She’s not rainbows and Skittles and kumbaya, looking at society through colorblind lenses. She understands the world is a different place for people of color. And instead of trying to ignore that unfortunate fact, she’s seeking to address it, from childhood, where it usually starts. Parents are the biggest influence in the life of children. They subsequently shape who their children will become, for better or worse. And these two girls in the video are fortunate to have someone who not only understands the injustices and racism in our society but who is also willing to fight against them.
The levels people will stoop to for “likes” these days is getting lower and lower.
Two students from Kansas City, Missouri shared a very disturbing video of themselves in a motel room with a girl, a fellow minor, who appeared unconscious on the bed. The young girl was naked below the waist, and her shirt had been pulled up, exposing her bra. One of the boys in the video was reportedly seen fondling the unresponsive girl.
And while the boys thought they were going to get props of some sort for sharing the clip, those who follow the teens criticized them for doing so. The criticism got so bad, with one of the boys arguing with followers that he didn’t rape the girl, that the boys eventually removed the video. But before doing so, one of their classmates, reportedly a mutual friend of the boys and the girl in the video, took screenshots of the video and eventually shared it with local police.
According to KCTV, the Kansas City Police Department’s cyber crime and crimes against children units are investigating the situation. A report has been taken, but no charges have been filed as of yet.
A teen girl has gone on to post on Facebook to say that she is the one in the video. She stated that she has spoken to police and is hoping that the boys will be prosecuted for taking advantage of her. According to KCTV, a student from the Raytown School District told reporters that the boys have shared video in the past of classmates they’d molested while intoxicated.
According to the police report, the girl in the video met the boys at a pool hall on Saturday the 19th, was taken to a motel and was assaulted that weekend.
The Raytown School District has issued a statement, expressing that they will provide whatever assistance necessary to aid Kansas City police in their investigation.
“The Raytown School District has been made aware of accusations against two students in an off-campus incident. While we cannot control choices made by students outside school hours, we will cooperate to assist police in any way we can.”
What conclusions would you draw if you found out that your husband or wife had a secret social media account? Would you assume it’s harmless? Would it lead you to believe that they’re cheating? One man found himself in this very predicament and turned to Reddit for advice after he learned that his wife had been hiding her Facebook account.
I noticed over the last four weeks or so that my wife has been very phone-centric. A lot more than usual. One day at our in-laws, as I was walking towards her, I noticed she opened an ‘incognito’ tab on her phone.
She has been very private with her phone in the last four weeks. So much so that she rarely leaves it around or in the open. She tends to turn it over or take a second glance to make sure its turn upside down, whenever I am around.
So I checked my router logs and noticed for the past two days that she’s logged into Facebook at least 12 times.
Of course, one can argue that his wife’s actions are harmless, but hiding anything in a marriage is a red flag. And the fact that he caught her conducting herself inappropriately on the social networking site in the past has this concerned husband thinking the worst.
She’s had Facebook in the past, and she’s been ‘caught’ twice before speaking sexually/sensual/emotionally to guys. One was when we were dating for about three years; the other was after we were married for about three years. So I don’t know what to think.
How would you advise this man to handle this situation?
Ladies! If you haven't seen the first episode of our Special Edition of Ask a Black Man, click here. The first episode was all about "The List" and our next episode is all about Dating and The Internet. The men cover topics on how to find love online, what apps to use, and the do's and don'ts of online dating. What do you think about their thoughts on posting photos and some of the apps mentioned in the segment?
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Ladies! If you haven't seen the first episode of our Special Edition of Ask a Black Man, click here. The first episode was all about "The List" and our next episode is all about Dating and The Internet. The men cover topics on how to find love online, what apps to use, and the do's and don'ts of online dating. Make sure you tune in on December 8th to find out their thoughts on how you can find love online.
Want to know more about the men on this special edition? Make sure you read their cast profiles, here.
Be sure to check out FYI's new series #BlackLove on December 8th @10:15/9:15c
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Back in July, Facebook founder and chief executive, Mark Zuckerberg, announced that he and his wife Priscilla Chan were expecting their first child.
In addition to their burgeoning bundle of joy, Zuckerberg recently revealed that he would be making a “very personal decision” to take two months of paternity leave once his daughter is born, as reported by The Telegraph.
“Studies show that when working parents take time to be with their newborns, outcomes are better for the children and families,” Mr Zuckerberg wrote in a post on the social network. “At Facebook we offer our US employees up to four months of paid maternity or paternity leave which they can take throughout the year.”
Since Zuckerberg’s announcement, there’s been much of discussion about time off policies, especially in the tech world. According to The New York Daily News, “Tech giants like Amazon, Microsoft and Netflix recently announced extensions for paid paternity leave, ranging from five months to a full year. But such privileges remain rare in any industry: Only 12% of private sector workers even have access to paid family leave, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics.”
Interestingly, as the stats clearly show, Mr. Zuckeberg’s personal decision is one that is uncommon among many those in senior ranks of powerhouse tech firms — even for regular Joe’s, too. Whether you’re flipping hamburgers, working a steady 9 to 5, flexing your entrepreneurial skills as a self-made boss, or just as heralded as Zuckerberg, it actually seems like paternity leave isn’t a necessity but a luxury these days. But it should honestly, be the other way: a necessity not a luxury.
The idea of paternity leave is great as both mother and father will be able to fully bond with their new baby and make their new family their top priority, but the sad and honesty truth is not everyone is privy to such an ideal situation — unless you’re ridiculously financially stable because this kind of leave is rarely paid.
For all the women I know that have been pregnant, they’ve all took maternity leave, but none of their significant others took paternity leave. I’m honestly not even sure if their jobs offered it to them. In my own perfect world, when I decide to get pregnant, I’d want to have the option of both myself and my significant other having idle time away from work to focus on building our family.
What about you? Has your significant other ever taken paternity leave during/after a pregnancy? If so, how did it work out for you and your family?
It’s not until you break up that you truly realize how many digital memories you share with your ex—or how frequently he updates his Facebook page. And honestly speaking, when you’re suffering from the post-breakup blues, the last thing you want to be doing is having an emotional breakdown in your job’s cafeteria because you decided to check Facebook during your lunch break. Of course, the obvious solution to this problem would be to unfriend and block your former lover on all social networking outlets, but this brash move isn’t for everyone and can be especially traumatizing to both parties when the split was amicable in nature.
Thankfully for those of us who are still crazy enough to take chances on love, Facebook’s user experience division team is always looking for new ways to improve the social media platform. Thursday, they introduced a new feature that will allow users to limit and manage how they interact with their exes.
According to Facebook Product Manager Kelly Winters, members of the site will be prompted to take advantage of the new “Take A Break” feature once they change their status from “In A Relationship” to “Single.”
How it works:
• Users will “see less of a former partner’s name and profile picture around Facebook without having to unfriend or block them. Their posts won’t show up in News Feed, and their name won’t be suggested when people write a new message or tag friends in photos.”
• There is also an option to “limit the photos, videos or status updates that a former partner will see.”
• Digital memories will no longer be a problem because with the click of a mouse, users can “edit who can see their past posts with a former partner and untag themselves from posts with that person.”
“This work is part of our ongoing effort to develop resources for people who may be going through difficult moments in their lives,” Winters explained. “We hope these tools will help people end relationships on Facebook with greater ease, comfort and sense of control.”
Facebook began testing the new feature in the United States on Facebook Mobile Thursday. After collecting feedback, they expect to roll out the feature in other markets.
Facebook’s new “On This Day” feature has the potential to make you laugh or cry, depending on what day it is. Thankfully, a new add-on to the feature will now allow you to prevent the social networking site from reminding you of those memories that you would prefer to forget.
In case you’re unfamiliar, the “On This Day” feature will share old posts and photos from that particular day in your Facebook history to your newsfeed. It can be wonderful if the memory is of that New Year’s Eve you and your best friend spent in Vegas. However, most of us probably don’t want to be reminded of the day we became “Facebook official” with that cheating ex.
Thankfully, Facebook developers read our minds and decided that it was time to make a few adjustments to the feature. To block out the unpleasant memories, all you have to do is head over to Facebook.com/onthisday and select “Preferences.” From there, you can either select the “Dates” or “People” options, which will allow you to block memories involving specific Facebook users or dates.