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True Life: I Know I’m In Love When…

February 21st, 2013 - By MN Editor
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With all the messages we receive from the media about love and what it’s supposed to look and feel like, it can be hard to know what your own feelings are telling you or how they’re misleading you. If you’ve ever wondered whether or not you were in love with someone, see what some of our Facebook followers have to say about themselves and how they know when they’re in love.
Shena: When your pride doesn’t matter..

Christinas: As soon as I see him, all of the stress of my day instantly melts away like it never happened.

True Life: I Fell For An Ugly Man

February 7th, 2013 - By MN Editor
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It’s no secret that love is a powerful force. It causes us to do and say things we’d never expect of ourselves. And though we live in a society that is hyper concerned with the way people look, love has the power to make you overlook physical imperfections and see a person for who they are inside. With that in mind, we asked our Facebook followers if they’ve ever fallen in love with a man they initially found unattractive and whether or not they thought they were capable of doing so. See what they had to say. 

 

Nyah: not that he wasn’t attractive but that his looks didn’t pull me before his personality….

and he isn’t bad looking it’s just he isn’t some pretty boy

 

Dana: it depends on how unattractive i think he is to start with. but the more time you spend with someone the better they start to look to you.

 

Annette: Yes, and have. He was exceptionally smart, funny and that’s a turn-on for me.

 

Denise: Yes, he was sooo unattractive, dressed nice though. And he really though he was the ish. I think it turned me on too bcuz he was a basketball referee and a smart man overall. But ooooh he was ugly!!

 

Monique: I have. He was very slim. I used to tease him and draw stick figures and say it was him. After talking with him, loved his humor and overall personality. We dated for 5 years. My “type” of men was broadened by dating him.

 

Laurie: absolutely! he was and still is a wonderful, hard working, generous, caring man.

True Life: He Told Me The Worst Lie Ever

January 17th, 2013 - By madamenoire
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In the history of relationships, men and women have told their fair share of bold-faced lies. But since this is a women’s site and women are much more willing to share, we asked our Facebook followers to tell us the worst, whether morally, emotionally or just plain ridiculous, lie they’ve ever heard from a man. See what they had to say and once you’re done reading, feel free to share the worst lie you’ve ever heard in the comments section.

Jerisa: That he was paying our rent and in actuality he was saving his money to move without telling me, while I was pregnant with his child

Toy Toy: That’s my ex wife but we live together!

Martha: I was giving her a ride to school, ROTFL!!

Tori: His parent Died.

Takiyah: I have roommates & the house is a mess… That’s why you can’t come in…

Valencia: He wasn’t married and only had 2 kids. Negro had 5 by 4 different women Lmao! Guess his a&$ couldn’t count lmao

Alexandra: I aint gay! I was choking and he was giving me the Heimlich”

Betty: my doctor says I can’t have sex because I have a heart problem

La’Donna: The child he seemed to be babysitting frequently was a friends, when it was actually his baby: by his niece…….

Bear: I slept with all these women to make sure, you were what I really wanted. And it took all that for me know I love you.

Mississippi: “The barber shop was crowded that’s what took so long”…I guess he forgot he went to the barbershop the day before..

Tiffy: That he used to be a dancer with Ginuwine in the clubs of Atlanta O_o.

La-Quita: Baby I know we’re supposed to get together today but my mama at the nail shop & she asked me to bring her a soda, she thirsty.

KO: omission..umm when I married you..you knew of 1 kid..but in reality I have one older & younger than him

Pamela: I am gonna rock ya world..don’t let this age fool ya…#epicfail

Vanessa: “I have stage two stomach cancer.” He isn’t going to chemo though, he claims he’s tired of going… Yeah OK!

Zuhra: I got a STD because my “THANG” touched the inside of the toilet bowel. FA REAL??!!!

Senita: I graduated from a private school in a rich white neighborhood” …actually, he was a high school drop out who lived in the hood all his life. When I was just casually talking to his mom – I brought it up -and she stopped. stared at me for a sec… fell out laughing. still not sure why he thought that was impressive-guess he took me for that type.

Joan: His daughter was sick and he had to drive from New Orleans to Shreveport to be with her. I ran into him into 2 hours after I talked to him.

Tynia: “My baby’s mama killed our son by throwing him over the project fence.” (The child was 8 years old…and very much alive.) The father proved to be mentally ill.

Carolyn: That he had a yeast infection and not a STD dumbest thing I ever heard.

Latosha: I only want to put the head in…

 

True Life: I Learned A Valuable Life Lesson In 2012

January 3rd, 2013 - By MN Editor
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By now, January 3, you ‘ve thought about the year that just passed. Hopefully, as you reflected you found that the year was full of more good than bad; but even if that wasn’t the case, there was definitely a lesson to be learned from it all. We checked in with our Facebook and Twitter followers to see what they had to say about the lessons that they’re going to take into 2013. 

Tracy: Not to worry or stress over things I have absolutely no control over…..learning to let go and truly trust God!

Bernadette: You can’t pray and worry. Pick one!

Rachel: Physical and mental health is imperative for a successful happy life.

Melody: That if I don’t love and care for myself, others won’t either.

Robin: Last year I stopped hiding myself from the world and enjoyed my fullness, my loudness, my sassiness and make no excuse for who God made me…. I love it!

Monique: The value of money means nothing after losing a loved one. Living in happiness and peace is now my goal in life.

Shakeda: Always trust your instinct!

Tuere: A very wise, deep brotha told me that everything serves to further. Our triumphs keep us inspired, our mistakes are supposed to teach us and help us grow. Even the “bad” things that happen are supposed to be calls to action for us. They are there to get our attention. No matter the outcome, it ALL serves a purpose. Even if he only came into my life to deliver that message, he was a blessing for me.

Gerilyn: Don’t hold back life is truly what u make it, embrace ur God given gifts nd believe they’ll carry u through

Evita: That one sentence can change your life forever. My six-year-old son was diagnosed with Medulloblastoma; a brain cancer. He was a normal kid and we had no signs. I used to complain about my life being mundane before and now I WISH I had that “mundane” life back. Appreciate what you have now; you never know how long you’ll have it.

Mahalia: I learned that yeah your heart will be broken a couple of times. But you shouldn’t stop loving because a couple of bad people abused the privilege. Keep an open heart and you will find true happiness nothing is wrong with you!

Sheena: No matter who or what comes into your life, putting your children first will always bear the richest rewards! God blessed you with the gift of a child, so cherish, love and nurture it and He will never turn his back on either of you!

Nosi: When going through adversity there is always a break through!! Key word THROUGH.. meaning it wont stay like that forever.. It will get better.

Deborah: Follow your gut whether it is a good gut feeling or an uneasy gut feeling. That gut feeling is The Holy Spirit covering you in all aspects. Follow your gut it will not steer you wrong. Trust me!!!

Tynesha: To have boundaries and keep them, learn when to let people in a keep them out.

Bwann: ….Never log on ‘Worldstar.com’ as the level of ratchettness can slowly kill your brain cells and cause you to search online for more fuckery resulting in severe damage to your brain (frontal, parietal and occipital) lobes and cause memory loss!!

Ask A Very Smart Brotha: I’m Engaged But I’ve Fallen In Love With Another Man

December 20th, 2012 - By madamenoire
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Maggie: If you have a dream that your partner is cheating, does it mean he really is? Cuz imma cut his throat? Thanks

DY: Thanks for writing this. It explains why this woman I used to date would be staring at me while clutching a butter knife when we woke up in the morning. I thought she just wanted some waffles.

 

Rachel: After how much time dating should you discuss the future including Marriage and Babies with your significant other?

DY: 17.9% percent of the day? I don’t know, lol. What I do know though is that if you two are on the same page, you probably shouldn’t have to have that conversation all the time. If you find yourselves always bringing it up and disagreeing on certain aspects of it, then maybe it’s time to reevaluate things

 

Angel: Why do some men string women along dating, knowing their intentions are ill from the start (to drop her like a bad habit when its all said and done)? The dating doesn’t necessarily involve sexual contact either, in other cases it may.

DY: Because, 99.9% of the time, men who do this don’t actually know either. Many guys don’t enter new relationships with a “plan” other than “hmm. she’s cute.” And, when that happens—and, when they realize that she just aint the one for him—women get “dumped.”

It may seem intentional, like you were being strung along on purpose, but most times it’s really not.

 

Karmin: Is it ok to tell a man on the first date that you want to have like 5 babies with him?

DY: Sure. And by “sure” I mean “only if you get aroused by people taking out restraining orders on you”

 

Kat: When a woman has more drive than her man, is it wrong to hold him to higher standards, give him a timeline to set goals and get his act together and if not she moves on?…Is that too harsh?

DY: Not at all.

 

Leila: What are your thoughts about women being with older men 17 yrs older ?

DY: You like it, I love it.

That being said, it’s interesting how people’s opinions on the older man, younger woman thing depends on perspective. Basically, 30-something women attracted to and only interested in dating older men=cool. But, if a 30-something guy said that he was only interested in 21 and 22 year old women, he’s a lame.

True Life: I Knew I Was A Grown Woman When…

November 15th, 2012 - By madamenoire
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Andrea When I got my bill from Sallie Mae.

 

Ashley When the stuff my friends did in high school and college was no longer cool as an adult

 

Quichea When I stopped caring about what people thought of me and stopped fighting with my children’s father. I moved on and toward Christ. I became a better mother, friend, daughter and woman. #thanksbetoGod

 

Kelli  When I was 28 I quit the job I hated and packed up to start over in a new city. Best decision I ever made!

 

Tonya My momma always said, “u ain’t grown til u on yo own.” So, I became grown when I had to pay every bill in my apt PLUS rent all by myself. I was 22 years old then.

 

Jay When I learned how to take responsibility for and accept myself.

 

Nettie The day my mother died in 2006….

 

Tonia When I suffered my first miscarriage…..

 

Maria When I buried my husband. I was 29.

 

Nica When I had to get my “grown A$$” up @ 3 am to warm up a bottle for my screaming baby 22 yrs ago. Def don’t miss that

 

Tevina  When I gained the admiration and respect of other grown women.

 

Deborah  I realized that I was officially grown when, sometime after 40, I saw there isn’t anything that I truly own worth more to me than the love from my children.

 

La Janee I realized I was a “woman” when I was able to be honest with myself about certain things in life. I was able to critique myself and deal with my own issues. I became a woman when I started to deal with certain things that were previously weighing me down. I learned to accept my flaws and love myself. Now that I am doing that, I am definitely grown and can hold my own. Life is so much better! <3

 

O.b. When I took over care of my brother who has a disability because my parents couldn’t get their act together. I was 24 and he was 22, and 11yrs later, I am still on it. #goodsistersrock! (:

 

Pamela  When I divorced my abusive husband and was raising my three boys all alone.

 

Tawni After I learned who I am, and how to take care of me.

True Life: I Used A Man Once…

November 1st, 2012 - By madamenoire
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There are some, Kanye West in particular, who would argue that if you can’t use someone, then they are useless to you. Yes, this is true. We all use people for something, even the people we truly love. But there are some people who we’ve intentionally or unintentionally misled. Whether we’ve misled them to believe we value them more than we actually do or we value what they can do for us more than the person they are, there are ways you can unfairly use a person, particularly in the dating arena. We checked in with our Facebook followers to see if they’d ever done this. See what they had to say. 

Karla: I always get to the point where I can…and then punk out!

Sonya: Everybody uses someone for something. All things we do are to fulfill a need or want. I also believe that everyone should be of use to somebody.

Lerona: No..i dont play with people hearts n mind that can get u hurt..

Christie: I admit I did, once in college. For about three or four days. The guilt was so much I just finally broke down and told him I didn’t like him that way. I haven’t done it since, I couldn’t live with myself.

Tasha: “Used” is such an Ugly word – I like to think of it as an mutually rewarding exchange of goods and/or services, where EVERYONE benefits … <3 … so that would be NO ! :)

Jacqueline: I have come to the realization that I HAVE used men for sex. Sex has always been on MY terms sooooo. {unless we were in an Exclusive relationship}. I am not sure how you can “emotionally” use a person.

Ebonie: I had a girl friend who tried to convince me to try and use this guy financially and I couldn’t! I mean he would do anything I asked, but I wasn’t into him! I felt sooo bad because I’m really not that type of person. I said never again will I attempt to do that.

Porsha: Laaawwwddd have mercy at one point I had Mr. Fix It, Mr. He Sho Can Get It, Mr. Mechanic, Mr. Good Convo, Mr. Cuddle, and Mr. Take Me Out/Pay For Everything & Not Ask Any Questions. Lol it was GREAT!!!!

Doni: Yes i have and no I didn’t feel guilty about it. Sorry

Monica: Well, I didn’t think it was using at the time… but I let a guy take me to Germany for a week after only going on 2 dates with him… Well, halfway through that 12 hour flight on the way there I realized I did NOT like him like that… I spent the entire week getting him on wine at dinner so he’d pass out before he got a chance to try to put the moves on me. lol oopsie

April: I don’t have a boyfriend full time. When I need sometime to listen I go to 1 of 2 guys. Sex have a guy for that……date, have a guy for that..just makes Isht easier. A far as financial things, I never ask for anything but I do enjoy the gifts.

Takara: I had a sponsor who was older in my early 20′s. He took me shopping, on trips, and gave me whatever I needed. I left b/c he started acting crazy! I didn’t feel guilty b/c he was fun 2 be around especially when he drank. But I knew I had no intentions of being with him or giving him any.

Vanessa: You can use a man for sex and not break hearts. Lol believe me alot of men dont mind being used for that and I thank them for their cooperation and service

True Life: I Had To Learn The Hard Way…

October 11th, 2012 - By madamenoire
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You know what they say God or life gives you the exam first and the lesson later. As unfair as that may seem, that’s just the way of the world. The greatest lessons, the ones that really sink in are the ones we had to learn through experience aka “the hard way.” We asked some of our Facebook followers which lessons they learned not by reading a book or through observation, but by going through one of life’s trials and coming out better educated and equipped. See what they had to say. 

Mitzi: Believing some people never change, would have saved me heartbreak 18 years later

Korama: A soul in disarray is of no good to me. Learned that from my ex husband, whom i thought if i prayed hard enough and showed him a good woman he would in turn be good. He was a damaged spirit before me and attempted to damage me by any means.

True Life: Yeah, I Said It Then…But I Regret It Now

July 26th, 2012 - By madamenoire
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The Bible says that the tongue is the most unruly member of the body. Now, I don’t mean to preach to you, but you don’t have to be a Christian to know that that’s true. Catch us on the right day, at the right time and we’re bound to say something extremely reckless and out of character. There’s no need to judge, we’ve all done it, or will eventually. We checked in with our faithful Facebook followers to see if they would share those same experiences. They graciously opened up and shared their flaws and regrets. Hopefully, these admissions won’t make you feel so guilty about your own tongue slips. And most importantly after reading these words, we hope that you’re inspired to take a minute before you say something you’ll wish you hadn’t.

Te’ Michelle: “Okay, just this once…go slow.” :-|

Sharon: “You’re gaining weight and I’m worried about your health.” He heard “you’re fat.”

True Life: I Have Body Quirks

March 26th, 2012 - By MN Editor
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As women, loving the body we see in the mirror can be an arduous task. So arduous, in fact,  many of us never master it. Countless women will spend minutes, hours, even days of their lives comparing themselves to other women, whether they see them on the street, on a magazine cover or on their television screens. We receive so many messages about what female beauty is supposed to be, it can be hard to accept the reality. We asked some of our followers to describe what they considered to be flaws on their body. We didn’t ask them to do this so we could all laugh at our fellow sisters or throw a pity party. We did this so we could show that no woman is completely happy with her body but the key is learning to accept what you have and make the best of it. After reading some of these body quirks perhaps you realize one of these things:

1.) My quirks aren’t that bad.

2.) I’m not alone.

3.) This process of putting it all out there, helps us to accept what we have and move on.

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