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Emily B of “Love and Hip Hop” may have needed to be included on the list of Folks Who Need a Twitter Take Down because even though she doesn’t tweet much, whenever she does it’s usually about Fab, and it’s usually a hot mess.

This weekend, Em hosted a party with Morris Chestnut in Detroit, but despite being in the presence of one of the finest actors around, Emily couldn’t keep her mind off of her man—if we can call him that—Fabulous. After tweeting a few pics with Morris, she uploaded the pic above, saying: “Yall ladies can have Morris I have my Fantasy man..hehe”

Emily went on to tweet a line from one of Fab’s songs, “Wolves in Sheep’s Clothing,” before she was totally out, saying:

But her loyalty keep her from them other boys Let em holla, she just gonna exist above the noise ..

It’s too bad her loyalty doesn’t keep him from them other girls; and sorry, but he doesn’t even look interested in this pic.

I’m sure Emily wasn’t serious about not returning for a third season of “Love and Hip Hop,” but if she did leave her departure would be one of several from the looks of the reunion show. They might have to pull together an entirely new cast.

What do you think? Are you still interested in hearing about Emily and Fab’s love story or are you over it?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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There’s no hope for “Love and Hip Hop’s” Emily B. I’ve accepted it and I’m almost OK with it, except for the fact that she doesn’t know how to be dumb on the low.

There’s a reason people say don’t tell your girlfriends everything about your relationship. One, it’s so you don’t fall victim to the hater friend who’s never going to like the man you’re with regardless of who he is, and two, it’s because once you air your man’s full load of dirty laundry you can never repair his reputation with your girls. You may have forgiven him, but your friends probably never will.

Emily failed on that rule big time. Not only did she tell her friends every trifling thing that Fab did wrong to her, she gave about 3 million viewers tons of reasons not to respect that man every Monday night for two seasons, now we’re supposed to keep our eyes peeled for the day these two make a happy home nine years after being “together?” Not gone work.

As if Em didn’t sound silly enough on last night’s Love and Hip Hop Reality Check Reunion, after it was over she instagramed a photo of Fab sleeping on her chest with the caption “Don’t Sleep On Us.” If they were an undercover couple new to the scene, or if he was worth a damn as a man, the pic would be cute, but knowing what we know about him, her, and the next 30 chicks, it just makes you want to say, no, Emily. You’re the one who’s sleeping.

I’m past getting angry at her for being with Fab, I just want her to go about this whole break-up/make-up/fake separation situation a little bit smarter, and a lot more discreetly. It’s hard to feel the same level of giddy excitement that she does when she talks about a man finally claiming her about ten years in. Where they do that at? Especially when you know the next day she’ll be crying again.

Whenever my friends and I were reuniting with an old thing we kept it on the absolute low. It was always funny because we’d pretend to be mad at one another for not telling but we knew exactly why we didn’t: we had no idea if the situation would turn out well and we didn’t want to hear anyone’s mouth. So, instead of being all googly-eyed and saying “Antoine sent me flowers and we’re going on a date tonight” and hearing, “the same Antoine who cheated on you with those three girls and lied about it when you caught him?” you just go do you, and if it works out after the trial reuniting period, great, you’ll tell the world. And if not, well, you’re the only one who has to know about it. There’s no embarrassing “I told you sos” or explanations about what lessons you learned because you kept everyone else out of it.

I get that Emily’s in some version of love but she needs to stop trying to sell everyone else on it. The public isn’t buying it and I’m inclined to think she’s trying to convince herself that situation is right by getting everyone else’s approval.

Everyone has been dumb and in love before—maybe not for nine years—but most of us have experienced an on-again/off-again/never speaking to him again/back with him again mess of a relationship. When you’re in a situation like that you just have to keep it close. No one is going to understand why you keep going back and no one will get why you’re crying but still refuse to leave, but the key to not having to explain any of that to people is keeping a tight lip on your break-up and make-up. If the relationship is just between two people, then all the other messy stuff should be to.

Have you ever broken up with a guy and had to deal with criticism from friends when you took him back? If you’ve ever still messed around with an ex, were you quick to tell your friends or did you keep it on the hush until you knew it was going somewhere?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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By now we have all seen the season finale of Love & Hip-Hop. Plus now that the reunion is set for Monday Feb 6th , I can’t help but recap the show’s most controversial moments. Chrissy, Emily, Yandy and Olivia may not be the best female role models but we can definitely learn from their continuous on-screen drama – good or bad…

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Fabolous’s rep with women has pretty much been in the trash since Emily let us in on his indiscretions throughout their nine years together on Love and Hip Hop. Despite the allegations, rumors, and even the facts of their “relationship,” Fab still says he’s not the bad guy and, if anything, it’s the producers of the reality show who don’t care about Emily.

Here’s a few snippets from his interview on the Angie Martinez show yesterday:

Thoughts on Love and Hip Hop

It’s just not my cup of tea. It’s just one-side of what’s going on. I don’t bash it but I’m not really in support of it either. I don’t think it depicts me the way I am; it just depicts a one-sided version of what’s really going on.

Feelings about Kimbella being added to the cast

That’s how you know the producers of that show… I wouldn’t say that they don’t care about Emily but they’re there to make entertaining television. If they can dig up a girl from four years ago who can make an interesting twist in an episode of their show then guess what, they’ll do it. Where did she come from?

On whether he’s the bad guy

I’m not. From their depiction of what I am, I can see why people would think that but I’m also not going to bash the show and get into a verbal back and forth with my son’s mother over some people who really don’t know me and they don’t change anything in my life.

Are you and Emily in a good place?

I think so; I think we have a great relationship as far as being a mother and father or woman and man or whatever our situation is without a title. I think we’re in a good space communicating. She’s traveled with me for my birthday; she hadn’t really did much traveling with me at all but I thought it was a time where we could hang out and get to re-getting to know each other. Now we’re at different ages; I’ve known her for years and now we have a son together; her daughter’s older. It’s a different situation so it’s kind of like regrouping but the show is entertainment, so they’re not going to show that.

Well, it’s clear Emily’s not keeping her distance despite moving out of Fab’s place. Read the rest of the transcript on NecoleBitchie.com or listen to the interview on Angie Martinez.

Do you think Fab is right about the producers of the show digging up Kimbella and adding her to the cast? Do you still think he’s the bad guy?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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It’s amazing how I never grow tired of Sex and The City reruns. Each time I watch an episode from the iconic HBO show about four thirty-somethings figuring out their romantic lives in the Big Apple, I either learn something new or a lesson will further resonate with me. In the early years of the show, the narratives spoke to the universal struggles of love and dating but once SATC hit the big screen, all truths went out the window in favor of movie fluff. Oh well, that’s why we have the show. Nothing can replace the clever and smart writing of the series and the way it integrated the Manhattan city landscape into so many of the scenes.  Aside from heightening my appreciation for HBO, SATC also taught me a lot about dating, relationships, ageing and the universal struggles of city women everywhere. Here are just a few:

Last week I was really proud of Emily B.’s “independent woman” celebration on “Love and Hip Hop” when she announced she was moving out of Fab’s place and getting her own spot. I’m new to the show but from what I gathered from past clips, friends, and the blogosphere, Fab doesn’t even try to pretend like he and the mother of his 3-year-old son were ever in an exclusive relationship during the past nine years. Because of that, I was even more impressed with the mellow vibe of the small gathering (until Chrissy busted out the guns and attacked Kimbella for saying she slept with Fab back in the day). I had expected something like Jennifer’s divorce party on “Basketball Wives,” but Emily definitely appeared to be marking a new chapter in her life, minus Fabulous and his bed-hopping drama, with confidence and style.

But last night Emily seemed to take a step back, not because she cried or admitted that she still loves Fab, but because her choice sounded more like a ploy to make him finally commit rather than to really move on. When she told Chrissy that she was moving out and Fab wasn’t happy she said, “I feel like maybe if I can move forward and he can see this strong independent person… maybe he’ll change his life.”

That wish is something that’s in the back of every woman’s mind when she makes the difficult decision of having to leave a relationship she’s invested too much time and energy in. We think the ending will turn out like a romantic comedy where the man suddenly has an epiphany, downs a glass of act-right, and becomes the partner we’ve wanted him to be all along overnight.  Unfortunately, the story rarely ends that way. Number one, most men can smell this tactic from a mile away. If I was in Fabolous’ shoes, and Emily came to me the way she explained things to Chrissy, it would be immediately apparent that it wouldn’t take much to get her back. Throw in an empty promise, act right for a couple of weeks, buy her something nice, mix it all together and voila, she’s not going anywhere.

Number two, most men don’t seem to figure out they’ve lost a good thing until the woman is totally over it and couldn’t care less when he tries to reach out somewhere down the line. Too little, too late. (Sad irony.)