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Females can be so soft, so accommodating, so understanding. It’s our charm, and our curse. We want to be the cushion our man rests his head on after a long day. We want to be the easiest part of his life, his support system and his unrelenting comfort. We want to be these things so much, that sometimes we forget about ourselves and our needs. For fear of being demanding, we can become a doormat. But never forget that, he should be all those wonderful things to you too—supporting, comforting, understanding. If you’re not getting what you need, admit it to yourself. Even if you understand why he can’t give it to you—even if you can come up with a dozen excuses for him, excuses don’t keep you warm at night.

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He couldn’t pay for me forever

It’s true—if you link up your lives, it’s just not sustainable for a man to pay for you every single time you get popcorn at the movies or a pack of gum on a road trip. He may even let you foot the bill on meals sometimes. But, paying for someone isn’t about covering somebody who couldn’t cover themselves. It’s about treating someone. And that is a concept that should never leave a relationship. If your man has gotten lazy about treating you, always expecting to just go Dutch on every single bill, even on romantic dinners, or just looking at you to foot the bill, don’t just make the excuse that he can’t pay for you forever. No, he doesn’t have to pay for you forever, or every single time. But, he should still occasionally be treating you.

Jasmyn Tully - Source: thecomingcrisis.blogspot.com

Well…when you’re a white person who just committed a crime, it seems the trend to get out of the situation is to make up a scary black man (or two) and point the finger at him. Fail much?

That’s what a 17-year-old man thought would work after he stabbed his friend in the neck as she was sleeping. The girl, 17-year-old Jasmyn Tully of Tukwila, WA, was sleeping when her friend allegedly felt the “urge to hurt someone” according to a Tukwila detective. He tried to strangle her as she was sleeping, and when she put up a fight, he proceeded to stab her in the neck. While the young man later claimed he was high at the time and had spent a majority of the day on drugs, he initially tried to use the “blame the black man” excuse to no avail. His uncle told KOMO News the following:

“He said that he had smoked large amounts of what they call spice — I believe the name of it is K2. It’s sold at smoke shops all over the place in this state.”

Spice??? Clearly there are way too many drugs available for people to get their hands on (like the suspect) and use as an excuse for reckless behavior. Tully and the suspect were hanging out in the same home (who the actual home belongs to isn’t clear) at the same time when she fell asleep. With his urge to hurt someone, he attacked her and after the murder he cut his wrists to cover up the crime as an attack of some sort. According to the victim’s uncle, Dave Tully, “We thought she had made the turn down the right path. We had a lot of hope for her.” She was supposedly just a few days away from turning 18. Poor girl…

These type of stories are just too sad to me. If you feel the need to hurt someone, why not just hurt yourself? To attack someone in their most vulnerable state and then run around blaming a fake black man for it is just absolutely horrendous. And when did people start thinking that making up an imaginary black boogie man was acceptable? From women who are trying to avoid marriage and responsibilities and cover their own crimes (“I was kidnapped by a black man, that’s why I’ve been gone all this time!” “A black man stole my car and took my child!”), to folks like the suspect, it’s just very pathetic at this point. I guess it’s very telling that these individuals know a lot of police will believe their stories because in their eyes, violent crimes by black men are common. That’s a pretty horrible way of thinking and is all WAY too common in this country.

I don’t care how old he is or what drugs he had in his system, but they need to prosecute this young man as an adult. And they need to do something with these people who have “Blame the black man” syndrome in general to send a message. Senseless crime. Sad excuses.

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