Source: EURweb.com

Nothing shows you where you stand with a bride like the absence of a wedding invite.

Basketball Wives castmember and bride-to-be Evelyn Lozada’s book is titled “Inner Circle” and it’s pretty clear who is still not in hers: former castmate and friend-turned-enemy-turned-cordial Jennifer Williams.

When EURweb.com asked Chad “Ochocinco” Johnson’s fiance if Jennifer was invited to their upcoming nuptials, she had this to say:

“We’re not like ‘oh hey, come be a bridesmaid at my wedding. I can’t do that.’ She hasn’t been invited because everything just happened … there were things that were said about Chad in interviews and that’s where a lot of all of this drama stems from. I don’t want anyone feeling uncomfortable,” Lozada said. “…When me and Chad, when we got engaged, there was so much controversy surrounding us. Oh, they’re just doing this for a show. They are media whores. I’m like ‘We’re really together.’ People had a lot of negative things to say and she was one of those people that just wasn’t … and that’s what hurt me the most because I’m like ‘We’ve been friends. Even if I felt this way about your man, I’m not gonna publicly say that because that’s you’re man. And that’s what bothered me.

This isn’t a shock considering their epic fall out and the pending lawsuit could not just be smoothed over with a hug, a tear and a Happy Mother’s Day email. Although, I do think an invite would speed up their reconciliation process — if there is a true desire to be reconciled — inviting someone who doesn’t support your relationship to your wedding is just weird.  No one is predicting that these two will ever be the friends that they were. And considering the fact that Evelyn isn’t inviting her to this grand, televised event, it seems she doesn’t want them to be anyway.

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Describing herself as a “good Christian girl” Kenya Bell tells the Examiner’s Njai Joszor that it was her Christian faith that kept her so calm when Evelyn threw a wine bottle at her during an argument on one of season four’ episodes:

“To be honest with you, the scene right before the wine bottle incident, I went to church. So, (it was) Jesus,” Bell told the Examiner. “But seriously, I didn’t want to fight. I have a master’s degree in engineering. I do want to do other things besides the reality show, as far as business ventures, so I really don’t want to put myself out there like this nut that can’t control her temper.”

That’s the first we’ve heard of Jesus taking the wheel. But as someone accused of stabbing her husband and claiming to be professionally trained to fight thanks to her Dad, maybe only the son of God could have kept her as calm as she was.

The reality star also told the Examiner that her “Hate Me” song was not about any Basketball Wives castmates—in particular:

“Okay so I’m like a good Christian girl. The songs that I put out before, like ‘Fly,’ are very mainstream easy going songs,” she said. “I hooked up with Jazze Pha, he’s like “no no no you need some flavor. It’s not a diss song to the ‘Basketball Wives.’”

With lyrics like:  “Watch yo mouth/This is my show./I’m takin’ ova/Snappin’ on you silly hoes. Them b****es hate me/They make me famous tho.” I’m not sure if anybody believes that’s not a direct diss to her castmates, but okay.

At the time of the interview, Kenya said she wasn’t sure if she was coming back to the Basketball Wives for Season 5. It’s unclear whether she wasn’t sure if she wanted to or if she wasn’t sure if Shaunie was giving her the axe. She survived the cut announced today, so maybe that means she’ll be back next season…with Jesus by her side.

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We talked about Evelyn Lozado and Jennifer Williams hugging and making up on the reunion show yesterday, but did the two really work it out off-camera? Considering the show was taped a little over a month ago, you’d think that would be sufficient time for two busy best friends who’ve been fighting for an entire season-and-a-half to have a little chat on the phone at least, right?

VH-1 was wondering the same thing and they sat down with Evelyn to get the scoop on how much making up these two have actually done in real life. Here’s what she said:

VH1: When we spoke before the reunion, no one had any idea how it would go, it was pretty tense beforehand. So when you and Jennifer got on stage and actually reconciled and hugged, that was big, but she said “I don’t want to do this here,” and it sounded like you guys would have a follow up conversation. Did that happen?

“I sent her an email just letting her know that I meant what I said on the reunion, I didn’t want her to think that it was just a reunion stunt, and she responded, she wished me happy mother’s day, and we said we would talk, and that was the last of it because I’ve been all over the place. We haven’t spoken since then.”

VH1: Do you want to pursue it and speak with her, or are you just going to see where things go on their own?

“I’m just taking things one day at a time, it’s still a sticky situation with everything else that’s going on, so I’m just not doing anything.”

VH1: Were you surprised by how it played out at the reunion?

“Yeah, I was. I didn’t think that that was what would happen, but I’m also glad and relieved and it was a load off. And it also shows that we can be grown adults and women and move past it. We can fight, argue, whatever, and then bury the hatchet.”

VH1: Shaunie made that statement about finding a balance on the show at the very beginning of the reunion, and by the end of the reunion, it really did seem like you guys were working to be more positive.

“Yeah, it was a great response at the reunion and on my Twitter feed, it’s all been very positive. Because it was tough during the season. It’s been insane. But we’re good.”

“Insane” is an understatement, but it’s nice to hear that their reconciliation wasn’t just for show, although it still is a little odd they haven’t actually talked yet. Jen’s probably taking her sweet time before re-entering the world of Chad and Ev, but who knows, she might end up showing up for the wedding!

Do you think it’s odd Jen and Evelyn haven’t spoken since their reconciliation?

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