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Another miscarriage. I felt my heart sink as I sat watching what appeared to be a Livin’ Lozado marathon on OWN. During this particular episode, the show’s star, Evelyn Lozado, found out that she had suffered yet another miscarriage. This was her second in just a matter of months. After the incident, Lozada went to the doctor, who informed her of the risks associated with pregnancy as women aged. I knew it. I’d heard it before, but somehow I’d forgotten my own age.
As the doctor threw out a number that I’m only a few years shy of reaching, I began to get serious. What if I can’t have a child? What if I’m not even married or ready to conceive by 35 (the age that doctors say infertility rates begin to increase)? What if I’m not even ready by 40? I mean it’s not like I have a man. Would I even get to have a child?
My mind was racing and soon my sympathy shifted from Lozada to myself. I needed to talk to my gynecologist. And though I’m only in my early 30s, I wanted to make sure I was doing everything I needed to in advance to prevent issues that may come up when trying to start a family. What I began to find out about Black women and infertility wasn’t exactly what I wanted to hear.
For starters, there are more than seven million infertile women in the U.S. It’s evident that women of all races struggle with getting pregnant. It’s not limited to race; but what differs is that, according to research, White women are more likely to seek infertility help than Black women. Costs of treatment and issues of self-consciousness were among the reasons researchers say some Black women suffer in silence. As a result, some give up trying to conceive and simply go childless, despite the hopes of being a mother.
The reality is that women who seek this treatment that could cost upwards of $20,000 dollars are usually White, married, and wealthy. According to studies conducted by the Department of Health and Human Services, 15 percent of white women ages 25 to 44 in the United States have sought treatment to assist with their infertility woes. That’s in comparison to only eight percent of Black women. But here’s the kicker: according to the same studies, Black women had almost twice the chance of suffering from infertility than their White counterparts. I’d be mendacious if I said that these statistics didn’t worry me. And the fact that I’m slowly creeping up on 35 only compounds that concern. According to studies, women aged 35 to 45 have a 20 to 35 percent chance of miscarriage.
The statistics were enough to scare me straight to my gynecologist. I knew that I was certainly not ready to have a child, but I needed to make sure I was taking care of my health. While I couldn’t do anything about my age, I could do something about my lifestyle choices. Doctors recommend that you practice safe sex. Of course, this doesn’t pertain to when you’re trying to conceive, but in the meantime, make sure you’re being safe to prevent yourself from contracting sexually transmitted diseases such as chlamydia and gonorrhea, which are leading causes of infertility.
Ensuring that you are maintaining a healthy body weight, not smoking, and reducing your caffeine intake are other ways to ensure you’re decreasing your chances of infertility. Some gynecologists even recommend taking prenatal vitamins even if you’re not expecting due to the folic acid benefits.
I’m not ready to have a child, but becoming a mother is definitely on my vision board. That’s why I’ve decided to get serious about becoming pregnant — even though I’m not presently trying to conceive.
For a lot of women, fertility issues are something to keep private and even feel ashamed of due to mounting pressure from spouses, family members, friends, and even physicians to conceive. But not Evelyn Lozada. When the reality star suffered a second miscarriage after giving birth to her second child Leo, born in 2014, Evelyn went public with her struggle in interviews and, of course, on TV.
We got a chance to talk to Evelyn and her daughter Shaniece about battling infertility issues, the effect on their family, and how their relationship has grown over the years. Check out what they had to say about all that and more in the video above.
I’ve seen the softer side of Evelyn Lozada up close. Each time we’ve spoken, she’s always fiery but never offensive, shady like an old friend but sweet and evidently cut from an authentic cloth. I’ve never seen the Bronx-bred Latina toss a bottle IRL, though as a Basketball Wives fan, I know she’s got it in her. On the VH1 show orchestrated by Shaunie O’Neal, she played a villainous bottle-tossing bully a lot of us cringed at and swore off as any type of role model. After her violent altercation with ex-husband and former NFL star, Chad “Ochocinco” Johnson, however, Lozada did the emotional labor to mature and finally showcase a side of herself that young women can learn a thing or two from on her reality show, Livin’ Lozada.
A shining star in the OWN network lineup, Lozada’s latest TV platform chronicles her life as she manages her mommy duties to 22-year-old daughter Shaniece and 2-year-old son Leo, expands her career and enjoys life with fiancé and MLB player, Carl Crawford. Here, Lozada’s hardened demeanor–fostered by an anger further steeled by a rocky relationship with her father, a lack of self-worth, and shi–y men she once dated––softens. The Angry Black Woman trope that cloaked her ascension to success, even though she’s not African-American, slowly fades. In the second season, which premiered on Mother’s Day, she’s emotionally miles away from the petty he-said-she-said drama we witnessed on BBW. That’s now been replaced by Thanksgiving dinners with the in-laws and dealing with the aftermath of devastating traumas, such as losing a child. The show even tackles the impact her past choices have had on her daughter.
Thanks in part to Iyanla: Fix My Life, where the former fiery BBW frontwoman unpacked her violent relationship with Johnson and admitted to accepting tumultuous situationships due to a lack of self-worth, Lozada’s misdirected anger and hurt has now waned. On this reality show stint, she has done away with talks about her “inner circle,” becoming much more transparent about her emotional hurdles and ultimately, more likeable. Don’t get it twisted, though. You can tell she’ll still knuck if a person bucks in her direction unprovoked. However, everything about her actions screams that she’s evolved into a more secure, self-controlled version of herself. She’s much less crippled by her tattered past as she’s slid into her mommy and soon-to-be wife role with the ease of a fully actualized and emotionally unbroken woman.
Of course, every BBW fan will always remember that one time she lunged across a table to attack Jennifer Williams, her then ex-BFF. I mean, when not-so-shining moments play out on national television, they tend to have incredible staying power in that way. At one point, a bulk of the discussion surrounding her was overwhelmingly and, arguably, unnecessarily negative. But what’s great is that Lozada has shattered those stigmas she once carried around like a Chanel bag.
For anyone working on their own daddy lessons and past pains, you’ll find yourself smiling at how she has blossomed into someone inspiring. Though the reality TV queen is not sitting down giving you a play by play of how to get your sh-t together every week, her everyday life is a glaring example of how unpacking your past hurt will lead your life in an overwhelmingly positive direction; how you can overcome anything that’s weighing you down. People’s assumption of who you’re supposed to be can fester and paralyze you into becoming nothing more than their expectations of you, but the point is to break those emotional chains.
While you could probably tune into a million other shows, I say give the second season of Livin’ Lozada (which airs on OWN on Saturday nights at 9/8c) a shot. It’s an inspiring example that we all owe it to ourselves to not only be happy but to also be whole.
Fertility awareness has been front and center over the past year. A host of celebrities from Tyra Banks to Chrissy Teigen have opened up about struggling to conceive. More recently, Evelyn Lozada opened up about suffering her second miscarriage since giving birth to her son two years ago. We were able to catch up with the reality star, who discussed her plans to continue trying for a baby, her upcoming wedding, and the new season of her reality show, “Livin’ Lozada”.
MN: What can we expect from the new season of “Livin’ Lozada”?
Well, one of the main things that I talk about—and it’s starting become public now—is that I had another miscarriage on Thanksgiving, and the cameras were with me during that whole process. So you know, me miscarrying, my struggles with fertility and trying to figure out what’s happening because obviously, I had my son two years ago and everything was fine. I’m very open about that. Shaniece opens about how my past relationships and friendships have affected her life, which is news to me because I didn’t really know that until I started filming. I mentor a young lady on the show, which is cool. She’s 17 and pregnant. I’m still mentoring her now. So you’ll see me on the show. It’s interesting just meeting with her and just remembering that I was that same person years ago. And you’ll see all of that on the show. And of course, you’ll see me as a mom.
MN: When you miscarried on Thanksgiving, you chose not to say anything to anyone during the holiday. I know that had to be traumatic. How did you manage to masque your emotions?
It was Thanksgiving and we were at my fiancé’s family’s house. I always say that when they watch the show, they’re probably never going to believe that I miscarried that day because I kept it together. But I feel like being around his family really helped me because it kept my mind off of it in a sense because there were so many people there. It was my second one. I knew that there’s nothing I could do to change it, so I was going to make the most out of the situation. My son was with his dad’s side of the family and they were super excited that we were there. When I got back to the house, I cried and I prayed and I dealt with it then, but I didn’t let it break me down. It’s out of your control. What are you going to do? There’s nothing to reverse that.
MN: Do you know why this keeps happening?
Well, you’ll see my journey on the show, through vaginal appointments and everything. But just because I want to be very, very transparent with my process and my story. But really, there’s no clear answer other than I’m pushing 40 and some of my eggs are a little more mature than others. Other than that, I’m pretty healthy. I’m like, gosh, things have changed so much in the past two years, but, it does. Your body changes and although you feel great, things are going on internally that you don’t realize.
MN: Are you open to pursuing other options for carrying or conceiving or are you still trying the traditional way?
Right now, it’s the traditional way. And you’ll see that be the end of the season, I’m struggling like, “Well, what do I do?” because obviously I need to make a decision soon, right? So you know, I still don’t know where I’m going with that.
MN: How difficult is it for you to relive these things on television?
It’s not easy, but I also look at it like I want women to be more open to having these discussions. A lot of women don’t talk about miscarriage. A lot of women are ashamed and feel responsible. That’s the reason why I’m so public about mine because me knowing that it’s more common is healing and it helps me. Now that I’ve opened up about mine, a few girls told me that they miscarried and I had no idea. It’s a conversation that doesn’t really take place, but it helps the healing process when you talk about it. You know, like, “Oh, okay. It’s not just me. It’s not my fault. This just happens.”
MN: Well, switching gears to something a little lighter. We love weddings. Are you open to sharing any of your wedding plans?
When we plan and finally do it—because it’s been crazy—he works a lot and when he’s not working, I’m filming. And then we’re trying to have a baby and I’m dealing with miscarriages and then we have a toddler. It’s been a lot going on. It’s not something I’m going to announce to the world. You’ll probably know about it once it’s done and over with. I’m very private about my personal life—or I try to be.
MN: How has your relationship with your daughter changed now that she’s older?
We’ve gotten closer. I was a child having a child, so we could always relate with a lot of things. We liked the same clothes and we like the same things. That’s been great, and as she gets older and evolves, we get closer. It’s great to see your children grow up and become great people. She’s a great young woman.
“Livin’ Lozada” returns with all-new episodes this Saturday, May 7th at 10pm on OWN.
Last summer, reality star Evelyn Lozada shared that she was devastated to learn that she suffered a miscarriage. Unfortunately, history would repeat itself just months later.
In an interview with Life & Style, the 40-year-old bride-to-be shared that she miscarried a second child on Thanksgiving Day.
“I miscarried on Thanksgiving Day,” the “Livin’ Lozada” star told the publication. “I was like, ‘This cannot be happening to my life again.’”
Sadly, Evelyn was enjoying the holiday with her fiancé, Carl Crawford, their two-year-old son, Leo, and her future in-laws when the tragedy occurred.
“I was literally miscarrying my baby,” she shared before revealing that she opted to keep quiet about what was taking place because she “didn’t want to dampen the mood.”
During the first season of Lozada’s OWN reality show, fans witnessed her suffer the first miscarriage, which was caused by low levels of hormones. Despite her unfortunate luck with her previous two pregnancies, the mother of two shared that she does plan on trying again for a third child.
“I love being a mom,” she said. “After two miscarriages, it makes me want to be a mom even more.”
In 2012, Evelyn Lozada had a “coming-to-Jesus” moment with Fix My Life host, Iyanla Vanzant. Lozada, who was notoriously known as a “Basketball Wives” mean girl spoke with Vanzant after she was assaulted by her then-husband Chad Ochocinco and revealed some of the underlying issues behind her constant rage.
The session proved to be a life changer for Lozada, who levitated her anger issues and became a more affable person. Lozada also became engaged to LA Dodgers athlete Carl Crawford and gave birth to their adorable baby boy, Carl Jr. All seems to be on the up and up for the mother of two, but that doesn’t mean she might not need to be checked on every now and then.
This Saturday on Livin’ Lozada, Evelyn’s OWN reality show, we’ll see her reunite with Iyanla for an “accountability check” as she discusses her new life and how she’s managing it. During their conversation, Evelyn delves into her relationship with Carl and reveals something very interesting to Iyanla.
Watch Evelyn open up to Iyanla in the exclusive clip below. “Livin’ Lozada” airs Saturdays at 9 p.m. ET/PT on OWN.
In the first episode of her show, “Living Lozada,” Evelyn Lozada announced, much to our surprise, that she was expecting another child.
Sadly, the exuberant feelings didn’t last too long, in the promo clip for the next episode, her doctor told her that her hormone levels were so low, they seemed to suggest that the pregnancy wouldn’t come to term.
Later, in an interview with People, Lozada confirmed that she did indeed have a miscarriage.
“When I went to my first appointment, everything looked great. My progesterone levels were good.
My hormone levels were dropping. My doctor said, ‘Let’s just see what happens and if anything changes.’ ”
“At my next appointment, my ultrasound went from looking really perfect and beautiful to looking pear-shaped,” says Lozada. “You could just tell, it didn’t look normal.”
Sadly, the process wasn’t a smooth one.
“for me the most heartbreaking thing was knowing that it could take up to a day to maybe a week for it to happen,” says Lozada. “I became so obsessed with it. I kept taking pregnancy tests and one would come out positive, then one would come out negative. It was so hard not knowing when I’d lose the baby.”
The miscarriage finally happened during a photo shoot her family had scheduled to help her feel better.
“I had to stop the photo shoot and just lay down. It was hard.”
Though Evelyn had the love and support of her family, she said it was mostly an experience she endured alone.
“You have a million and one questions in your mind as to what happened. You just feel responsible. It’s your body. It’s a loss that only you can relate to.”
Evelyn questioned everything, from the things she ate during her pregnancy to her age.
“It’s nothing that you ate, or did; it’s not your age. One out of all four to five pregnancies end in miscarriage,” she explains. “I have three girlfriends and it’s literally happened to each and every one of them.”
I responded to the news that Evelyn was pregnant with joy. Yet, others thought she was too old to be having more children. As someone who comes from a family where women have babies into their forties, I didn’t see an issue with it. Particularly, at a time in her life when Evelyn is not only in a seemingly more stable relationship but she’s in a better emotional and psychological space. A better adjusted mother is an asset to a child.
Plus, I thorough enjoy women over thirty giving birth to children, defying the notion that we all need to rush to have children before we’re all “dried”and”shriveled.” We all have a different story. And they don’t have to include a husband and baby before 30. There is life after 35. You can even produce it.
And like the news that she was pregnant, people are equally disappointed with Evelyn’s decision to share her miscarriage story, claiming that she was using the tragic event to further promote her show.
That’s a given. All reality stars are profiting off the stories of the lives, good, bad and ugly. While many are tripped up over the method, I think the message is a pretty necessary one.
Like Evelyn said, many women have suffered from miscarriage and many of them needlessly blame themselves for the loss. There’s a certain level of shame many women feel about having lost a child, so they keep the traumatic nature of their experiences to themselves.
My mother who had at least two, possibly three miscarriages, before I, her first child was born, describes that own period in her life as rather dark. She spoke about hearing a ripping sound and realizing she’d lost a child, trying to collect and save one of the embryos and feeling like everyone around her had a baby.
I don’t say that to be morbid, though it is. I say that because it’s such a common occurrence and women need to know that there is hope after this.
And that’s the message Evelyn was trying to spread in sharing her story.
She concluded her story with People saying, “This was just another tragic incident in my life that I had to deal with. But I say God doesn’t make mistakes. Women just need to hold out hope.”
Evelyn is taking her own advice and is still optimistic about the prospect of having a child. “I’m not checking for when I’m ovulating or anything. I’m like look, I’m pushing 40. I’m going to be 50 with a 10-year-old! If it happens again, that will probably be my last.”
Will Evelyn gain further exposure from this story. Of course. You’re reading about her right now. But I’m also sure her words will help someone who believes their suffering through this alone.
Nearly two years after she chucked the deuces to VH1 and “Basketball Wives,” Evelyn Lozada is preparing to return to reality television. On Saturday, July 11, the mom and wife-to-be will be premiering her new docu-series, “Livin’ Lozada,” which is slated to air on OWN.
As previously reported, the series highlights Lozada’s new life with her fiance MLB star Carl Crawford, her 1-year-old son Carl Leo and her daughter Shaniece Hairston. Viewers will get to witness the 39-year-old learn to be a mom to a small child again, 20 years after the birth of Hairston, who recently celebrated her 22nd birthday.
In addition to gearing up for the premiere, Lozada and Hairston are also celebrating the launch of her #SippinBeauty challenge in conjunction with youthH2O age defying system and Vitamin World. The mother-daughter duo is inviting fans and beauty enthusiasts to partake in the 60-day challenge, which requires them to consume the daily supplement that is said to have hair, skin and nails benefits.
“youthH2O has so many endless age-defying benefits, it’s all natural and with their new delicious Blooming Apple flavor and improved formula for hair, skin and nails, I’m excited for everyone to experience healthy growing hair like mine,” said Lozada.
Over the next few weeks, participants are asked to document their progress with hair selfies on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram using the hashtag #SippinBeauty. Lucky entrants of the challenge will be awarded gifts and prizes.
“When it comes to hair and beauty treatments, today’s modern women need simple, easy to manage, healthy beauty regiments,” stated Sherry Zikria, Director of Marketing for Revival Labs. “The Summer #SippinBeauty challenge will reinforce our message for everyone to have a healthy lifestyle choice with youthH2O and Vitamin World.”
“Livin’ Lozada” debuts on OWN Saturday, July 11. Will you be tuning in?
If you’ve just gotten used to the fact that we no longer see Evelyn Lozada living la vida loca on “Basketball Wives” every Monday night, you’re in for a rude reminder. The reality star is quickly returning to a TV near you as the Oprah Winfrey Network has just announced the air date for her upcoming docu-series — a fancy name for another reality show — which has gotten a name upgrade: “Livin’ Lozada.”
We first heard this show was in the works back in March. At the time, the series was announced under the working title of “Evelyn,” but along with the official series name and air date of July 11, the network has also updated the show description as follows:
“Livin’ Lozada” follows the lives of Evelyn Lozada, of “Basketball Wives” fame, and her 21-year-old daughter Shaniece. Evelyn has moved on from the heartache of her highly publicized divorce in a big way. She is engaged to big league baseball player Carl Crawford and the happy couple have a one-year-old son, Leo. Between learning to be a mom all over again, setting up a new home in Los Angeles for her and her family, working on getting the sequel to her first book published, as well as dealing with issues surrounding her family back East…Evelyn has a lot going on!
Not to be outdone, her daughter Shaniece, has a blossoming modeling career and is working on starting her own bikini line, looking to her mom for advice which she (sometimes) takes. Each episode is filled with close friends and relatives in the ladies’ lives who help round out a world filled with laughter, support and encouragement as we follow Shaniece carving out the new life before her and Evelyn moving on from her past and embracing the new life she has found.
Should be interesting, if for no other reason than to see Leo’s cute little self on the screen each week.
“Livin’ Lozada” will debut at 9p July 11 on OWN and will be followed by the return of the popular docu-series, “Flex and Shanice,” at 10 pm. Will you be watching either series?
Evelyn Lozada Reality Show: Starring Her Fiance And Daughter
Evelyn Lozada is getting back into the reality TV game, but this time it’s a family affair. Tentatively titled Evelyn, she’ll star in the show with her Major League Baseball player fiance Carl Crawford. She’s hooked up with Oprah Winfrey’s OWN and will executive produce the show as well. The mom spend five seasons on “Basketball Wives” before taking a hiatus. In that time she started dating Crawford and they have a one-year-old son, Carl Jr. Evelyn’s daughter Shaniece is 21 and will also appear and the reality show which will follow Lozada’s journey as a mother finding balance between her relationship with adult daughter and her role as mom to a new baby.
Evelyn is slated to premiere in July on OWN.
Are you excited to see Evelyn back on the small screen?