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“I Had Chosen Boys” Halle Berry On Why Her Marriages Haven’t Worked

April 5th, 2016 - By Veronica Wells
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We’re all very familiar with the conversation surrounding Halle Berry, especially when it comes to her romantic relationships. People cannot seem to figure out why this stunning actress can’t seem to keep a man. While we often find the suggestion rather insulting, it’s a question Halle has asked herself.

According to theGrio, in a recent sit down with fellow actor Dondre Whitfield, at the annual Student African American Brotherhood (SAAB) Conference, Berry shared her feelings about her third divorce and her choices in men.

After separating from husband Olivier Martinez, Halle said she was feeling terrible.

“I was feeling really down because I filed my third divorce. I thought, ‘I can’t get it right.’ I was feeling heavy-hearted, embarrassed and ashamed. I thought, ‘Surely it’s my fault. I need help. This is not where I want to be. I should be somebody’s wife. I wanted to be a wife and mother. How I became an actress, I don’t even know.’ But I was three times divorced with two baby daddies and I don’t even know how this happened.”

Well, after a bit of self reflection, she figured it out.

“I looked at the part that I played and looked at the part the men I had married played. I had chosen boys. I wanted to do grown up things, but I was not with a grown up. I was choosing from a superficial place. I became a monster. I was head banging mad, because it was not working. Here, I am a woman, trying to be married to a boy.”

Then she gave the group of young brothers, some advice,

“As women, we need our men to stand up and be men. Take care of us and serve us. When you do that, we will fall over and bow at your feet. But you have to start it, because God made you first.”

Halle is such an interesting lady. And this is certainly an interesting response. I generally don’t advocate for anyone speaking ill against their exes in a public forum, especially if you have a child with said ex. But I also think that Halle’s words aren’t too far from the truth. Her exes probably were boys. They’ve certainly displayed boyish behavior in the public eye.  David Justice and Eric Benet are still, decades after being separated and divorced, talking about her in the media. And in the case of Justice, even blaming her for his professional struggles. If that’s not boyish, refusing to accept responsibility for your own shortcomings, I don’t know what is. God only knows what they were like behind closed doors.

And we could have told her that Gabriel and Olivier were behaving like less than men when they two got into that knock down, drag out brawl over the holidays. Not to mention the fact that Gabriel was asking for quite a bit in child support, possibly hoping to live off of it himself. Just a mess.

There’s certainly truth to Halle’s statement. And while these men certainly weren’t perfect, I also wonder if she got to the bottom of the reasons why she continues to choose them?

What do you think about Halle’s comments, fair, foul or a little bit of both?

The Myth Of The “Pretty Crazy” Woman

November 5th, 2015 - By Charing Ball
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Halle Berry is crazy because she has been doing to men what they have been doing to us – and getting away with – since the beginning of time: loving them and leaving them.

It’s the leaving them part that really makes me love her more.

After all, she could be talking about “For better or worse” while steadily digging a deeper ditch into a bad relationship out of fear of being labeled as someone who can’t “keep” a man, or worse, Pretty Crazy.

If you don’t know what the latter is, allow me to explain. According to ancient folklore, which is a based on every comment made by every loser dude and hating ass lady on the sideline, every Halloween a succubus named Lilith rises from the pits of feminist hell and gives birth to a legion of drop dead gorgeous yet two-faced women called the Pretty Crazies.

Dressed in all black like the omen and armed with nothing more than their mesmerizing good looks, the Pretty Crazies roam the streets, bars and groceries stores of the world, luring “nice” guys into their dangerous traps with promises of love, happiness and whatever else men envision should come with dating pedestals.

Once these sad and pitiful lamb-like creatures are firmly in their clutches, the Pretty Crazy reveals her true dark and twisted She-devil self. She then goes to work tormenting and torturing these poor souls for no good reason at all.

The more these poor guys try to resist, including telling her “no,” the worse the torture on their souls becomes. That is until these broken, wounded animals somehow find the strength to break free (i.e., habitually cheat or beat her up).

It sounds like a ridiculous horror story, but we see warnings about the Pretty Crazies everywhere. In film and television, she is the femme fatale known as Carmen Jones. In music, she is the archetype of the classic Jimmy Soul song “If You Wanna Be Happy”: “If you ever want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife.” And on the Internet, she is a man’s “crazy” ex-girlfriend, wife or baby mother.

Generally speaking, society has a strange relationship with pretty women and girls. They are the object of our desires, but we do not always love them. Their beauty is inspiring, but they also can’t be trusted. They are cunning and manipulative, but also deemed dumb and shallow. They are they symbol of confidence, but deep down, we all see them as insecure narcissists. And finally, they are considered trophies, but no man (or woman) really wants to do the work to win them.

With the duplicities in expectations we place on pretty women and girls in the world, it is no wonder many of them can’t “keep” a man.

Or don’t have complexes.

Speaking as a pretty girl (here is the part where folks run to Google to check out my picture, but relax–nobody said you weren’t a pretty woman/girl too), I can certainly see the perks of having a pretty face. For instance, a starry-eyed store clerk once gave me a free slice of pound cake because I had a pretty smile. I graciously took my free pound cake and wore my pretty smile all the way to the train station. Then I was accosted by another starry-eyed man who too told me I had a pretty smile before offering to suck my right breast.

The point is, the pretty grass ain’t always greener on the other side.

Street harassment aside, I once had a boyfriend who looked me dead in the face and told me that I was the most beautiful woman he had ever dated. In the same breath, he also said that he didn’t trust me. I thought he was joking because he was wearing the same starry eyes and dubious smile as the guy at the train station.

But then he spent the rest of our relationship doing things to show me that he was dead serious.

For instance, whenever we were out in public, he would grip me up tightly by the arm and lead me down the street just like I was John Coffey in the film The Green Mile on the way to the electric chair for killing those little White girls. He also had a habit of being suspicious of my male friends and even some of my girlfriends. And then there was the time when he picked a fight and tried to belittle me in public when he caught some man checking me out. And he also constantly accused me of lying and trying to manipulate him.

For a while there, I thought it was me. For a while there, he told me it was me. My angry reactions, which often were responses to his gas-lighting, were proof to him that I was too emotional and crazy. That’s what he told folks.

But the truth is that he was insecure. And although he had considered me his dream girl, he couldn’t handle the glare. In particular, from other men who snuck peeks and smiles in my direction. Having a pretty girl on his arm was supposed to bring him attention. But very few folks were paying attention to him at all. And some even questioned how he was able to snag a catch like myself.

It wasn’t that I was crazy, it was that he was insecure, jealous and stricken with fear that I was going to eventually leave him for someone more worthy.

And after a couple more months of his prodding and pushing to make me crazy, I finally snapped. No need to explain what that looked like (we’ve all been there), but let’s just say that my snapping eventually became his self-fulling prophecy.

Looking back, my relationship with this dude was not my proudest moment. I should have left as soon as I saw the signs. And after him I began to seriously do the work on myself to figure out why I attracted men like him into my life. But through that relationship I also gained a deeper understanding of how mental illness is used to malign women, particularly in relationships.

It is true that some pretty women have unchecked mental issues. Unchecked mental illnesses are a serious problem that affect millions, regardless of gender or personal aesthetics, in this country alone. But some of these pretty women who supposedly are too crazy to keep a man are actually just average women trying to own their own choices, particularly about what they want and expect in a partner.

In other words, many pretty women are single not because they are crazy, but because they haven’t found the right one yet. And a pretty woman might go through multiple relationships, not because of some mental illness, but because she recognizes that she does not have to stay in bad relationships and that there are better options.

And she has better options not because she might fit society’s narrow physical standard of pretty and because men (and women) are drawn to her, but because she knows that regardless of how she looks, she is too pretty for that crap.

Besides, even if a woman is mentally ill, does that mean she deserves to be abused?

What’s most interesting about the pretty crazy lore, particularly as it relates to Berry, is how very few are questioning the sanity of her exes for the part they played in these bad relationships. The mysterious “WS” abused her like a Black ninja. Christopher Williams hid behind a bookcase, a potted plant and his current wife (whom he once denied) when a fight broke out during an episode of Real Housewives of Atlanta. David Justice seems to attract women who “erroneously” accuse him of domestic abuse. And Eric Benet doesn’t wear shoes.

Halle Berry may have really bad taste in men, but none of that detracts from the fact that these men are the bad taste.

“I’m Not Trying To Be The Voice Of Halle’s Exes”: David Justice Explains Rant, Makes Things Worse

November 4th, 2015 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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As we told you yesterday, in the wake of the news of Halle Berry’s split from her husband of two years, Olivier Martinez, her first husband, David Justice, put the actress on blast on Twitter. He alleged that Berry and “her Hollywood team” always try to destroy the character of the men she loves and leaves, and even Berry’s second husband, Eric Benet, attempted to chime in with a “My man at @23davidjustice is tweeting some truth dis’ mornin’!”

Nothing like exes coming together to kick someone while they’re down! Yeah, it was quite petty.

And that’s probably why Justice is now trying to explain himself. He spoke to Access Hollywood and made it known that he was just sick and tired of it still being insinuated that he abused Berry. The actress never stated explicitly who physically hurt her all those years ago, but not only Justice, but her ex-boyfriend Christopher Williams said it was Wesley Snipes. And considering that he never refuted such damaging claims against himself, Snipes would probably agree (but never admit) that he put his hands on her.

Still, Justice said that people still assume he’s an abuser, and it has followed him all these years later as he coaches kids and has his own family. And with the way the Internet works, it’s unacceptable for those rumors to still be floating around. Rumors he felt that Berry never tried to squash.

“I’m not trying to be the voice of Halle’s exes,” Justice said. “What I was trying to do is let everybody understand that I am in the community coaching kids from baseball to basketball to football.  I’m trying to be a role model and I don’t want these kids and my kids’ friends reading [reports] and then everyone looking at me like, ‘I didn’t know coach did that to some woman.’ I don’t want parents going, ‘I didn’t know my kid’s coach did that to some woman.'”

Justice continued, “Not only have I never hit Halle, Halle has never verbally said that I hit her.  What Halle said was that she had been in abusive relationships. Everyone at that time assumed it must have been me because I was the only guy at that point in time that everyone knew she had dated or married.”

Justice told Access Hollywood that his split from Berry was quite ugly, and his reputation took a hit at that time. But all these years later, in the “social media era,” he said it was time to speak up.

“Twenty years ago, I didn’t have any kids. Twenty years ago, I was just trying to get away from a bad situation. A lot of things were said about me that [weren’t] true, that [weren’t] a part of the relationship. Because we are in the social media era, something like this gets reported and if I don’t say anything, people will take that as it must have been true. I can’t have that. I have a 15-, 13-, 11-year-old and I’m in my community coaching, trying to be a good role model.”

Justice continued, “It’s not about me trying to get my name back in the media. I’m not trying to get a reality show. I just felt like I needed to say something. I don’t like the fact that when I’m brought up there has to be this stigma of this alleged abuse.”

And despite trying to send a message to Martinez that Berry was going to slander him next, and having Benet play his cheerleader on Twitter, Justice said he doesn’t talk to any of Berry’s exes.

“I am not in contact with Halle or any of the boyfriends, nor am I trying to be. I’m not that dude.”

Check out what Justice had to say when he hopped back on Twitter last night. Read from the bottom up:

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Interestingly, Berry still hasn’t publicly cleared Justice’s name. In fact, she hasn’t mentioned that man in Lord knows how long.

And on a side note, you know, abuse isn’t always physical. Considering that Berry said she had been in “abusive relationships,” she may have also meant that she was verbally abused by one of the men in her past. And this is interesting, what with Justice’s focus on just making sure it’s clear that he’s not a physical abuser. You never know, this could also be a reason Berry never attempted to set the record straight.

In my mind, by going on his Twitter rant yesterday, Justice may have done more to fuel the fire of speculation than to actually quell it…

Eric Benet And David Justice Are Embarrassing Themselves Over Halle Berry Right Now

November 3rd, 2015 - By Brande Victorian
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Do any of y’all have that one ex who stays checking for you just so he can catch you slipping? Well Halle Berry has two — at least — and their names are David Justice and Eric Benet.

Last night David had a field day going in on Halle and her latest marital issues on Twitter. While initially David seemed to only be attempting to clear his name of domestic violence rumors (though I still don’t see why he wouldn’t put out a formal statement for that) it wasn’t long before he got downright messy, accusing Halle of dirtying all of her ex’s names.

Not once has Halle Berry stated David Justice was the ex who abused her. Perhaps she didn’t do her ex-husband any favors but not saying the abuser wasn’t him, but once Christopher Williams outed Wesley Snipes as the culprit (just as David did with those silly parenthetical “WS” asides) everyone accepted the actor as the abuser and essentially moved on. It sounds like David’s issue should be with the media for reporting incorrect facts, not the woman he hasn’t been in a relationship with since ’97. Also, D, you were a #formerhusband not boyfriend — a former husband whom Halle had to seek a restraining order against. Maybe that’s why people think you’re the man that left her deaf in one ear.

As if this twitter saga wasn’t enough, in came Eric Benet this morning, cosigning the foolishness, with the following back and forth with David.

Eric has been sketchy ever since he claimed to have a sex addition — and then didn’t. Whether one applies a clinical term to stepping out (repeatedly) or not, Eric still appears to have been unfaithful, so unless he’s going to discuss that truth, it’s probably best not to open his mouth at all.

Olivier has yet to speak for himself in this divorce saga but given the damage we already know he can do, as evidenced by the number he did on Halle’s ex, Gabriel Aubry’s, face we don’t have to look too deep to see he might have anger issues. The paparazzi can also attest to that.

The bottom line is no one is blameless when it comes to the demise of a relationship but this immature, and very public, banter between Eric and David right now simply serves to fuel the sexist, biased, and unfounded claims that Halle Berry is some crazy nut who destroys every man who comes across her path. (And yet the Kardashians live on in untainted glory, but I digress.) Both of these men have been separated from Halle for too long to be having this bitter bromance bonding moment on social media. The only reason either is even being talked about right now is because Halle’s going through a divorce; otherwise they both remain pretty irrelevant. I wouldn’t want my name associated with my ex for the rest of my life either, but that’s the price you pay when you get involved in a high-profile relationship and both knew the cost before they decided to walk down the aisle. Seeing as though it’s been nearly 20 years since the end of their marriage for David and 10 for Eric, both only need to do one thing: get over it.

Sexual Healing?: 15 Alleged Celebrity Sex Addicts

December 8th, 2014 - By Rich
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Many of these alleged celebrity sex addicts have admitted to their problem and have sought treatment via rehab clinics. However, others were outed by spouses and other scandals – and though they won’t admit that they have a problem, the public seems to think they do.

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Sexual Healing?: 15 Alleged Celebrity Sex Addicts

Man Crush Monday: Soulful Singer Eric Benet

September 8th, 2014 - By Rich
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When Eric Benet signed to Warner Bros in 1994, he had one mission and that was to make music that reaches and touches the souls of all folk. At the turn of the century Benet had throngs of screaming female fans swooning over him. The hit single “Spend My Life With You” helped to win fans over. Benet has released six studios albums, The One being the most recent. And there are a slew of artists that influence Benet’s sound. He spoke on those musicians that continue to impact his music with EBONY:

Yeah there’s quite a few that I could, but I’d like to speak about R&B. I’d like to talk about somebody like Chaka Khan and I think of the early days with Rufus. And it was the kind of music that when I was a kid, I said I want to make that kind of music. I want to make R&B music where arrangement-wise and instrumentally I’m pushing the envelope. I’m not just oversimplifying the structures of my songs or the arrangements of my songs. I want the melodies and the voicing to have some depth to them. And I also want my lyrics to mean something to people and now, 30 years later, Chaka Khan is singing stronger and better than ever and that’s always the artist I aspired to be.

Music aside, Benet’s got style and we’ve got the proof in the pictures included in this gallery. Click continue to check them out.

Man Crush Monday: Eric Benet

‘I’ll Keep Moving Forward:’ Eric Benét Talks Halle Berry Break-Up

April 28th, 2014 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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It’s been nearly ten years since Eric Benét and ex-wife, Halle Berry split. However, unsurpisingly, such a high-profile relationship is difficult for the public to forget. Their divorce was plagued with rumors of cheating and conflicting reports that pegged Benét as a sex addict. The “Sometimes I Cry” singer has since moved on and found love in Prince’s ex-wife, Manuela Testolini, but he admits that the Halle chapter is still very much a part of his story.

“You’re never able to take the players out of the story, but in anybody’s life, there are personal hurdles that’ll make you wonder ‘How did I get here?’” he told theGrio about his split from Berry. “But on the other side of that, if you stay positive, if you keep moving, if you stay still and try to observe, absorb and learn as much as you’re supposed to learn in that pain, there’s a whole lot of evolution and light on the other side.”

While the divorce was clearly a challenging time in his life, the 47-year-old father says the experience taught him a lot.

“One of the great things about that time was learning to shut out the noise … Realizing what’s important to me is my family, my daughter and my career. It was a way to learn how to shut everything and it doesn’t really matter what you think and I know what the truth is. I’ll keep moving forward, ” he added.

As for whether or not he still speaks to his Academy Award-winning ex-wife, Benét says:

“No we haven’t stayed in touch. I just keep moving forward and being happy.”

And speaking of difficult times, he also opened up about losing his daughter’s mother in 1993 following a tragic car accident.

“My daughter, India, for most of her life I was a single father,” he explained. “Her mother passed away in a car accident when she was 15 months old. As you can imagine, there’s really no way to describe how [that feels]. There was so much loss and fear and trepidation about the future. Am I going to be able to do this. I mean, I had this amazing partner to parent this beautiful person with me. At the end of the day, I had my family, I had God and I had this amazing little baby.”

Thankfully, Benét says life is certainly looking up these days.

Guess Which Male Singer Will Be Busy Caring For A Newborn This Summer?

March 15th, 2014 - By Raven Carter
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Another baby Benet is on the way. Congrats are in order to singer Eric Benet and his wife Manuela Testolini. Us Weekly reports that the couple will welcome their second child this summer.

The couple broke the news to friends and family by posting a picture of their 2 year-old daughter Lucia’s “to-do” list which included learning how to use the potty and becoming a big sister.

Benet also has a daughter named India from a previous relationship, but was left a single father when India’s mother died in a car crash. He was married to Halle Berry for three years before the couple split in 2005, and then went on to marry 37 year-old Testolini in 2011. Testolini was previously married to singer Prince. Berry has since had two children and is married to actor Olivier Martinez.

After admitting to cheating on Berry repeatedly during their marriage, in 2002 Benet checked into a 35 day sex addict rehabilitation program. The couple attempted to reconcile, but ultimately announced their separation in 2003 and finalized their divorce in early 2005. In an interview with People that same year, Benet stated he never actually had sexual intercourse with anyone but Berry during their marriage and did not believe he ever was a sex addict, but enrolled in the program as suggested by her mother so the marriage would “have a shot”. He says that ultimately the couple brought too much baggage into the relationship from previous situations in their lives. He credits his daughter India with helping him survive such a difficult time.

“There were times I felt I could not imagine when I’m gonna smile again. But I couldn’t face my daughter and break down in tears. I had to take India to school every morning, so I had to have that brave face on. No matter how dark things had gotten for me, I’d wake up, look at her and think: What a perfect reason to be happy. That little girl just keeps on saving my life.”

Benet seems to be in much better place now and we wish him and his family a heartfelt congratulations.

Will You Watch? Eric Benét To Host and Executive Produce New Music Reality Show!

November 17th, 2013 - By Drenna Armstrong
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Before you say no, just give the idea an open mind because there’s a chance Eric Benét will have a hit show on his hands.

According to a press release obtained by Billboard, Sub Stars “will pit the best ‘underground’ musicians, discovered in the subway systems of major U.S. cities against one another.” Like most of the other singing and musical reality shows, the winner of the show will win a record deal. There’s also a chance to win cash and other prizes.

The show will also be more interactive than other shows that have the normal dial-in and vote routine. Sub Stars will allow fans and viewers to use the Sub Stars app to find talent and vote for contestants.

Creator and executive producer Phil Viardo started a Kickstarter campaign last Thursday in hopes of raising almost $400,000 (or more) to help fund the new show.

Eric Benét, who will serve as both co-executive producer and the host, says of the show: “Sub Stars gives truly unique characters, with a different and innovative sound, a platform to showcase their musical individualism and talent.”

Some of the best talent can be found in the train stations so this could actually work.

Okay, so now you can come to a better decision. Do you think you’ll give Sub Stars a chance whenever it finally hits the small screen or do you think they’ve finally run out of ideas and this is desperation.

Star Gazing: The Celebs Step Out For The 2013 Soul Train Music Awards!

November 9th, 2013 - By Drenna Armstrong
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The stars were out in Las Vegas Friday night for the 2013 Soul Train Music Awards. Hosted by actor Anthony Anderson, the focus for this year’s awards show has been to make it as much fun as possible. Now, the show doesn’t actually air until December 1st (on Centric and BET) so we don’t know if they succeeded; however, we know how they looked.  Check out some of the photos from the red carpet on the next two pages!

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