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There are women who could care less if they ever get married. Then, there are those of us who fantasize about the day that we will be given the opportunity to stroll down the aisle in a white dress and exchange vows in front of oo-ing and ahh-ing family and friends. And finally, there are those who take the desire to be married to a whole new level and become fixated and practically obsessed with the idea of marriage. As folks say about Kim Kardashian and J.Lo, you’re too in love with the idea of love and the fairytale ending. The ladies who ooze of thirstiness and desperation. While there’s nothing wrong with desiring to be married someday, there does appear to be some detriment that comes with being desperate. For one, desperation leads many women to settle for Mr. Here and Now instead of holding out for Mr. Right. Not to mention that most men can spot a desperate woman from a mile away. This could result in him heading for the hills or taking advantage of her thirsty ways and leading her on. But how can you tell that your healthy desire to get married has become an obsession? Check out these signs to find out.
You’re willing to settle down with just about anyone
Have you ever found yourself trying to make serious commitments to a man you just met or have only gone on a couple of dates with? Are you already matching up your first name with his last or imagining how your children will look? Pump your breaks, sis. Jumping into a relationship and trying to get all Cinderalla with any man who smiles at you is not the move. Slow and steady wins the race and marriage is supposed to be a life-long commitment, so try being more selective about the man you are willing to give your heart and time to. It may save you from potential heartache, headaches and thousands of dollars for a pricey divorce.
Social media is great to promote your event or market your company, but did you know you get the most results are certain times? A report called Strategies for Effective Wall Posts: A Timeline Review by Buddy Media, a social media consulting company, shows the best times to post. Wednesday is the worst day of the week to advertise on Facebook, while Saturday and Sunday are the best, reports The Huffington Post.
The study discovered that on Wednesday, the rate at which users “like,” share or comment on Facebook brand posts is 7.4 percent –below the average daily interaction rate. On weekends this activity increases drastically. During Saturdays and Sundays the interaction rate was 14.5 percent.
However, the report found that many companies are advertising and posting on the wrong day. “Only 14 percent of posts published by brands appear on the weekend, while Wednesday is the most common day for brands to post Facebook content,” writes The Huffington Post.
Besides the day, there are also certain times when it is better to post. The report revealed that brand posts published between 8 p.m. and 7 a.m. receive 14 percent higher interaction than those published between 8 a.m. and 7 p.m.
“When not at work, people are more likely to spend time perusing Facebook and interacting with Page content,” the Buddy Media report states.
The report also offers advice for companies on how to post for the best consumer results:
- Limit brand posts to one or two times per day. Brands that post one or two times per day see 19 percent higher interaction rates than those who post three or more times per day.
- Brevity is key. Posts should be no longer than 80 characters. Posts with more than 80 characters receive 23 percent less interaction.
- Ask questions. Posts with questions generate 92 percent higher comment rates than non-question posts.
- Use emoticons. Posts that contain emoticons receive 52 percent higher interaction rates; the emoticons : D and : P have the highest interaction rates.
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Regardless of your industry, it is no longer a question of “if” your small business should have a social media presence, but “how” those platforms should be used. According to the 2012 Social Media Marketing Industry Report, 85 percent of businesses that have a dedicated social media platform reported an increase in their market exposure, and 58 percent reported an increase in sales.
Your social media accounts can do much more than serve as an outpost for your website. Social media is a great way to establish your brand as a thought leader in your industry. It also can be used to build a community of evangelists, involve your customers in your creative process, and reach new audiences.
The key to a dynamic social media presence is good content. Satisfying Internet users’ insatiable appetite for content can seem daunting. But, most brands are sitting on a gold mine of stories to share without realizing it. Here are a few ways to find those stories:
1. Get employees involved.
The people who make your business work are the best resources for content. Social media should be a part of everyone’s job description. Ask employees to create guest posts, or ask for regular updates on clients, corporate culture, and other under the radar developments that you can share online. Making employees visible online humanizes your brand, and they offer a unique perspective that is compelling to readers.
2. Offer behind-the-scenes access.
Everyone likes to feel like they have access to something exclusive or rarely seen. Give your fans and followers that feeling of privilege by offering something extra that they wouldn’t be able to find on your blog or website. Share slides from presentations, videos from events, or a sneak peek at a new product or service.
3. Set a Google Alert on keywords that impact your business.
Narcissism isn’t attractive in person or online. Don’t just talk about yourself, talk about what’s happening in your industry. A reputation for sharing important content will make you a thought leader in your field. Google Alerts and RSS feed subscriptions are especially helpful if you don’t have enough time to produce original content of your own. Direct your followers to good content that’s already out there.
4. Spotlight your customers.
Share the spotlight with the people who use your products or services. It will not only showcase your success but also give exposure to your customers, something they will appreciate. Promote your clients when they do something noteworthy, and they will do the same for you.
5. Build a community.
Social media is not a one-way channel of communication. Posting content without engaging audiences may work for some large brands, but small businesses need to make friends online. New friends can quickly become new customers. Customers don’t want to be advertised to, they want to be engaged. Ask questions and get feedback on the work you’re doing. Contests and promotions are also a great way to keep fans and followers excited and coming back for more.
Has your small business found success leveraging social media? Share some of your favorite tactics in the comment section.
Well looky looky, a brotha proposes to his lady finally (“So you gon’ marry a n***a???”) and now they’re displaying their love for the world to see. Lil Scrappy and his fiancée Erica are covering this month’s issue of Rolling Out and the mag sat down with the couple, and their daughter Emani, to give readers an inside look on why what seemed to be a dysfunctional union on-screen works so well in real time.
In the interview, Scrappy touched on his issues with how he was portrayed on the show, and his disappointment with the fact that people assumed he was a bad father:
“They kept saying I was a bad father,” he shared while on set for his rolling out cover shoot.
As he reviewed his photos through my camera’s viewfinder, he continued. “That was the one thing that kept getting to me. It was messed up because they heard Erica say one thing, and then they took it and ran with it. I have always been there for Erica and Emani, so it kind of got to me when they would say that…I’m not like these other baby daddy dudes out here. I really take care of mine.”
Another gem in the interview, Erica expressed what she took from her time on the series, and where she’s at right now:
“I’m in a very good place in my life right now,” she shared, while watching Scrappy take some solo photos. “I learned so much about myself through this process with the show, and now I’m just looking forward to this next chapter in my life.”
Here’s to hoping that these two will tie the knot soon (and not have like a 8-10-year engagement or some ish) and that he can keep his wandering eye on track. The two seem to be very much in love looking at these photos, and we’re happy to see that these two might actually have a shot at being a happy family for their little lady.
Check out some more photos from the shoot, and be sure to check out the interview the two lovebirds gave to Rolling Out at their site. Ca-ute!
What do you think of the shoot?
*Photos courtesy of Rolling Out
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I know there are a lot of Brandy fans out there, and you all want your girl to win in more ways than one. But I just wish she would stop trying to pressure her man into giving her a ring every time she’s interviewed by the press.
When Ebony asked Brandy about potential wedding bells and her relationship with boyfriend Ryan Press in May, the singer replied:
“I wish we were engaged. He’s taking a little long on the ring side of things…”
Now in an interview with Sister 2 Sister three months later, she’s still singing the same old I Wish song like she’s Carl Thomas.
“I keep hearing about a ring,” Brandy told the site. “People keep calling me, hinting to me about it, but I don’t know.”
First off, I need those people to stop trying to spoil any potential surprise engagement/not get Brandy’s hopes up unnecessarily. Second, even though the singer talks about the journey to finding the right one, saying, “It starts with me” and that she has to marry “somebody that I can completely be myself with,” it’s clear she isn’t being completely honest when she tells S2S “I’m going to be patient and let it happen and just let it be.” If that was the case, she wouldn’t have ended the interview with:
“I guess it will happen when it’s the right time. Keep your fingers crossed for sometime soon I will be engaged.”
You guess? Keep your fingers crossed? Correct me if I’m wrong (and I know you will) but that doesn’t sound like someone who is too secure in her relationship moving forward, or who has even had a discussion about marriage with her boyfriend. I know how exciting the prospect of marriage is for women and I think it’s totally fine to admit that you want to be married and you want to marry the man you are currently with. But why not tell the media that she and Ryan have talked about marriage and they’re not rushing into things or something that doesn’t make the potential engagement seem so one-sided? I know proposals are often talked about like something that just lands into a woman’s lap but any couple who intends on building a successful, lasting marriage will have real discussions about expectations and timelines and all of those important things prior to any ring shopping or press interviews.
Maybe Brandy considers this a way to drop not-so-subtle hints to Ryan and get that coveted rock sooner, but this is also a way to get embarrassed quickly if that ring never comes. I will cross my fingers that the latter never happens. What do you think about Brandy’s engagement talk?
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It’s no surprise that Aretha Franklin, the Queen of Soul, would be a diva. With her church-grown, powerhouse voice people have been singing her praises for decades now. Though we’ve never heard of Aretha being out here acting a fool, she’s not one to hold her tongue when she wants something, is not happy or has some news to share. Check out her most diva-ish moments below.
Today my friend called me and asked, what I originally thought was an obvious question. “Gurl, how important is an engagement ring to you?” The question came with a story about a couple of her coworkers. One of them, a man who’s in his early 20s proposed to his girlfriend of seven years. Though, he had the ring when he initially proposed, he had to send it back to Kay because it was the wrong size. All of this would have been acceptable if homegirl’s engagement parties weren’t coming up. She was going to be without a ring for her parties and that was unacceptable. She called Kay’s corporate headquarters complaining about their tardiness.
In that case, the ring wouldn’t have been that important to have. Sure one would like to have an engagement ring for engagement parties; but if it’s not there because it’s being resized, then that’s something I could live with. My engagement, and the subsequent celebration, is more about the person I’m going to spend my life with than the ring said man bought me.
Apparently, another one of my friend’s coworkers shared my sentiments. But she took it a step further. She told my friend that though she had been married for eight years, she’d only received her ring two years ago. She rationalized the statement by saying that “I didn’t need a ring because I married for love.”
Hmm… Sure, the ring is not everything but I can’t cosign going without one for eight years.
I know I’m not the only woman who thinks the ring is a symbol of the love a man has for you. In other words, if a man knows you want a ring, the love he has for you should compel him to get you one. And I don’t say that to mean that it has to be extravagant. We’re going into this marriage under the assumption that we’re going to be together until death. So if you have to go the cubic zirconia route in the interim, I’m cool with that because we can always upgrade. But a ring of some kind is important.
And in all honesty, I want the ring to mean a lot to him too. A man who always has an excuse as to why he just can’t wear his wedding ring is a suspect individual. If you’ve lost weight and it no longer fits, congratulations…but you need to be in the process of getting it adjusted. If you get your hands dirty during the day, that’s nice but it needs to be in your work locker, in the car, or on a dresser so it can be replaced at your earliest convenience. If you’re a married man walking around with no so much as a tan line where your ring should be, I have to question your commitment.
We all know that there are women who will throw themselves at a man, your ring serves as a deterrent…at least for the women who have some semblance of a moral compass. (We all know there are plenty who are actually attracted to the ring.)
Your wedding ring is a physical sign of your spiritual commitment.
But that’s just me. Ladies, how important is the ring to you?
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The Woman Behind The Baller: Amar’e's Fiance Dishes On How They Met, Her Move To NYC, and The Grand Proposal
Alexis Welch is winning.
After ten years and three kids with New York Knicks power forward and center Amar’e Stoudemire, he proposed to her last week…in Paris…with an 8.5 carat stunner for all of his Twitter followers to see:
A couple of days later, he referred to his new fiance as his “lioness” on Twitter while they took in the Miami-Celtics game courtside. Well, anyone who can stay with an NBA player for ten years and three kids without a ring is certainly a lioness.
Outside of these reality shows, we rarely hear from NBA wives and girlfriends, especially while things are good, but Alexis talked to the New York Post today about how they met, the proposal and moving to NYC.
About the proposal she said:
“I’m usually on top of everything, but he got me. We were going to France to visit Cognac [area],” says Welch, who describes a whirlwind trip of cognac tasting, plus a jaunt to Paris, where they stayed in the royal suite at Le Meurice Hotel Belle Etoile, went to the Louvre and took in a Kanye West and Jay-Z concert.
On their last night in the French capital, she says, “We went back [to the room], and there were rose petals leading to a balcony with a 365-degree view of Paris. We walked out to the twinkling lights of the Eiffel Tower.
“He had an acoustic-guitar player. He had a saxophonist. This is another side of Amar’e that people don’t get to see. I’m just getting teary-eyed talking about it.”
Stoudemire hired a photographer to capture their trip, including the magical moment.
The duo flew home the next morning to tell their children, who are equally excited.
The pair met when they were just nineteen. Welch says the conversation clicked, and because she is 5-foot-10, she liked that he was 6-foot-11: “I’ve always liked guys who were taller than me when I wear heels.”
About moving to NYC from Miami, she told the NY Post that she isn’t expecting her life to change too much. “She does plan on working with the Amar’e Stoudemire Foundation, which focuses on outreach to at-risk youth, adding, ‘I’ll take my time and only do things that make sense for our family.’”
Welch says most of her friends are in Phoenix but she likes the Knicks players wives and girlfriends and she feels closest to Tyson Chandler’s wife.
She said: “It’s been a whirlwind. I’m so overjoyed. Everyone is calling, wanting to know all of the details. I’m marrying my best friend.”
A wedding date hasn’t been set, but the couple plans to marry in 2013.
Alissa Henry is a freelance writer living in Columbus, OH. Follow her on Twitter @AlissaInPink or check out her blog: This Cannot Be My Life
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Miley Cyrus may not be old enough to drink, but she’s certainly exercising her legal right to get married. The 19-year-old starlet recently announced her engagement to her boyfriend of three years, actor Liam Hemsworth, who is only a few years older at 22.
So what was the first reaction here at Madame Noire? Shock, of course.
Then, personally, I wondered if they’re going in with the expectations of divorce. Besides the fact that they both work in an industry mired with temptations and distractions (and which has definitely added to the high divorce rate of Hollywood), they’re both extremely young. I can’t believe that Hemsworth has gotten everything out of his system at the age of 22. I’m less worried about Cyrus’ fidelity as I am with Hemsworth’s ability to remain faithful without having the chance to experience his “boys will be boys” phase.
Sure, three years is a solid period of time for a relationship but I am doubtful that it suffices when the two in the relationship are both under 24. They’re both in a period of their lives which is ripe for change. When I was Cyrus’ age, I was in my second year of college. I was unsure about my career path, my notions about love, and was yet to fully appreciate my place in the world. In other words, I was changing a lot. I know that everyone “feels ready” at different points in their lives but I doubt most people are ready by 19 to embark on a successful, life-long commitment.
How old were you when you felt ready to take the plunge?
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