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Talk about crazy. I guess this is one of the reasons people argue that you shouldn’t live together premaritally; because when you want out, it’s just too hard to leave.
This was the case for a woman in Orlando who decided the four year relationship with her ex-fiance, Faron Thompson, 29, wasn”t going to work out. She was in the process of packing her stuff to move out of the apartment they shared together, when she remembered that she’d left her engagement ring on the kitchen counter. When she went to grab it that’s when Faron allegedly tried to shove it down her throat. He then threatened to burn the house down and while she was holding a one-year old child, pushed her against the wall, covering her mouth and nose with his hand.
The woman broke away and called the authorities.
As Thompson was being arrested, instead of utilizing his right to remain silent, he said, “Women always claim assault, but never accept responsibility for provoking someone.”
If there was any doubt about whether or not he assaulted his ex-fiancee, that comment right there kind of removes all doubt. He should have kept his mouth shut.
What do you think about this story? Should the girlfriend have gone back for the engagement ring?
Clutch describes what has to be on the list of every woman’s nightmares: You’ve announced the you’re getting married, invitations have been sent, the bridesmaids have been alerted, the venue and the cake have been chosen. And then the unthinkable — he calls off the engagement.
Once that sinks in and many, many tears are shed, you have to start going about cancelling the wedding. The final step is deciding what to do with the ring.
“In the case of etiquette versus the law, etiquette says that the ring should be returned. But according to the legal system it all depends on where you live, who broke off the engagement and how you received it,” the article says.
In places like New York, New Mexico and Michigan that have no-fault divorces, there are also “no-fault engagements,” so you have to turn it over. In California, it depends on who broke off the engagement. If it’s the lady, she has to hand over the goods.
In Montana, the ring is considered a gift and no matter what, the recipient gets to keep it. The author thinks this is appropriate. We’re going to disagree in favor of etiquette and the no-fault states. In those places “an engagement ring is considered a gift in contemplation of a marriage.” But it’s not just in those places. Anywhere in the world that a marriage proposal is offered and accepted, it’s in contemplation of… yes, a marriage.
If the engagement is terminated, the sentimental purpose of the ring is also. Rather than asking why he would want the ring back, you should ask why one would want to keep it. For the money? Perhaps during the course of planning the wedding, you’ve made deposits that are now forfeited. If you’ve mutually decided that the ring is meant to cover those expenses, then fine. It’s no longer a symbol of love and devotion, it’s an item with enough value to be used towards the cost of the failed wedding, which is now a failed business transaction. The former couple should now feel free to trade it in to mitigate the financial damage as much as possible.
But in all things, one must act with honor; be your best self, as Oprah might say. A difficult situation is made only more difficult when you have to have awkward or angry conversations about the sorts of matters that too intimately mix the emotional and practical.
The ring was intended to be a tangible expression of your feelings of love. When the love is gone, the ring should go with it, back to the giver, the first step in wiping your slate clean so you can move on.
What do you think?
Amber Rose is so excited about her upcoming nuptials with marijuana-smoking rapper, Wiz Khalifa. Insert “hoe into a housewife” joke here. In an interview with PEOPLE, Rose said, “I think about it constantly. Like all day. No matter what I’m doing I always have my wedding on my mind. So I’m really excited.”
Aww, well isn’t that cute. The 28-year-old stripper turned, uhm…model? is picking up various bridal and food magazines so that she can get some inspiration for what she wants to look like on her big day and what food’s going to be served.
For details on Amber’s big day, visit HelloBeautiful.com.
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It finally happened: your man popped the question and now that altar is so close that you can almost feel the taffeta brush against your face. But a lot can happen along the way from the proposal to actually legally becoming husband and wife. While an engagement is a major commitment, it can also be a stressful time for the couple who’s burdened with the opinions of family and friends, the responsibility of planning a wedding and containing pre-wedding jitters. Too much time sweating the small stuff could possibly leave the love you both share in the dust. The list below includes some common Q&A that can nag at even the nicest nuptials.
Dear Very Smart Brotha,
I am a 22-year-old female that recently graduated college, and I dream of settling down with my 23-year-old boyfriend. We’ve been together for three years and I am truly happy with this man. We live together and I do things that most wives do such as cooking, cleaning, etc. My close friends and family tell me that I need to stop shacking up because it will not lead to marriage. I understand what they’re saying, but I feel like if I move out it would be a step backwards in our relationship. Moving out after living together for so long is similar to breaking up. We’ve talked about marriage before and he said he plans on in it within the next couple of years. It is hard to tell if he means it or if he’s just saying that so I wouldn’t move out. My first question is would you guys eventually marry a girl you’ve been living with for so long? and my second question is should I move out and move on or stay for a couple more years to see where things go? I know we’re both still young so I’m not asking him to marry me now. I would just like to be engaged so I know that the relationship is headed towards commitment in the future.
Waiting & Wondering
The season of love is upon us ladies. For some of us this may be the year you get to answer that question you’ve been waiting for and don the rock you’ve always dreamed of. Whether you’re expecting a proposal or not we have some questions for you:
Does your ring have to have a carat minimum?
Would you tell him if you didn’t like it?
Do you want to pick it out; or do you trust him to do his own thing?
Poor fellas they have so much to think about.