All Articles Tagged "emotional cheating"
Wouldn’t it be great if everyone you encountered respected the fact that you are in a relationship? Better yet, if you could completely write off or be cold to anyone of the opposite sex when you’re taken, without being viewed as a major b-i-you-know-what? Unfortunately, that’s not the way the world works. Men will try to talk to you when you’re out without your guy. And it would be no fun if you had to sit in the corner while your single friends had all the fun. So, you’re forced to walk the fine line between being friendly, and being flirty. But where is that line? Well, if you’re doing any of these things, you’ve crossed it.
Cheating doesn’t just start at someone’s lips and end in their pants. Cheating describes anything you do with someone that you wouldn’t want your partner to know about. So many people engage in sketchy behavior and say, “It’s not technically cheating.” Oh yeah? Then why don’t you call up your partner and tell them in detail what you did? No? Don’t want to do that? Exactly. If you really love someone, your mentality shouldn’t be, “What can I get away with?” It should be, “I want to be super conscious that I don’t even accidentally find myself in a situation that would hurt my partner.” And, all of these situations would.
It’s a tricky thing: integrity in love. Love is certainly not black and white. As we get older, we learn what we do and don’t want in a partner. Sometimes, we learn it while in the relationship. You can’t help who you fall in love with, and you can’t help when you meet that person. Sometimes timing is just not right.
We all know stories of two people meeting, taking each other from their current relationships, getting married and living happily ever after. It happens. But, should it? If you’re considering leaving your current man for another, consider your reasons for doing so or you may just end up feeling massively guilty, and no happier than you were with the last guy…
Think on this before you do…
“Everything is great, but…” You or a friend has probably started a sentence about their relationship like that before. We’re all slight perfectionists when it comes to relationships. Differences between a partner and us stick out to us like a sore thumb. But, you need to stop and ask yourself, is our difference in opinion over this issue worth ending the relationship over? Or will it actually not affect our ability to lead a stable, happy relationship? Here is a list of things you do, and don’t, need to agree on with your partner.
Do you have a lot of male friends? That’s fine! It’s healthy to have friends of the opposite sex. They can give you insight into the mind of man, and they can be adorably protective in a big brother way. But, how do you know when you’ve crossed the line from just caring about each other as friends, friends with their own partners at that, and instead, find yourself having an emotional affair?
“I revealed too much too soon. I was an emotional sl*t.” – Carrie Bradshaw
Do you find yourself going above and beyond to connect with every man you date? Do you ever leave dinner thinking, “He probably didn’t need to know I’m insecure about my weight?”
While some women are more guarded than North Korea’s southern border, others are so eager for a relationship that they instantly dive in, head first. By the end of the first date, he knows the details of her childhood, how her father hurt her, why she had sex with half of the football team in college and the ways celibacy has changed her approach to dating.
He doesn’t need to know all of that.
Purging your emotional ups and downs to a man who barely knows you is the last thing an eligible bachelorette should do. In some ways it makes you appear more desperate than the physically promiscuous girls looking for love in bed. It’s equivalent to giving it up on the first night and then trying to start a serious relationship. In an attempt to resell yourself for more dates, you become like a used car salesman. Who wants pre-owned baggage when they can get something (that at least seems) shiny and new?
A woman without mystery leaves nothing to be desired. Tell a man everything about you and he doesn’t go home hungry for more. It’s important to take your time establishing emotional connections. See if he likes the surface before you open up your heart.
Revealing too much too soon doesn’t only make you seem anxious, but it also puts you in a compromising position. All nice guys aren’t good guys; and, someone who hasn’t even committed to you as a loyal friend is suspect to share your personal business. The very same way sex tapes are leaked, your skeletons could be involuntarily exposed to people you may or may not know.