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“They Find New Ways To Kill Us Everyday” Gabrielle Union On The Challenges Of Raising Young, Black Boys
It seems like every other week, I find something new to admire about Gabrielle Union. Whether she’s speaking out about women’s issues, race and racism, or the industry, she always speaks thoughtfully and poignantly. And her thoughts on raising the sons she shares with Dwyane Wade. Naturally, as the children of parents in the industry, they have advantages that she and her husband weren’t accustomed to growing up. And so they both have to make sure that their children still remember the conditions of “the real world.”
Recently Union appeared on the cover of Essence and in a behind-the-scenes video she spoke about the challenges she faces in raising Black boys to take pride in themselves but to present as subservient when confronted with police.
“Our conversations about race and police are constant. Even if society didn’t give us hashtags everyday to prompt us. I was raised talking about it all the time, very aware. Whether that be from Black scholars, and other Black intellectuals, Black artists. My mom was just very diligent about supplementing out “education.” Now I have to use education finger quotes because I didn’t know anything. I got to college and was clueless. I think they teach us what they want to teach us. And it’s up to you to figure out what you don’t know and be clear that you’re ignorant and then you can do something about it. I try to make sure our boys are not as ignorant as I was. We are raising privileged Black boys, which creates an interesting situation. That me and D—we weren’t raised with that kind of privilege. So we’re kind of learning through their eyes. They’re rich kids. The kind of friends they have, talk kind of crazy to adults. ‘Not you guys.’ because A. that’s not the house we have and B. you can’t say crazy, disrespectful things to authority figures and think you’re going to walk away and make it home. That’s not your reality. You’re gonna have Uncle LeBron, Uncle Chris Paul and Uncle Carmelo. Those are your perks.”
Then she spoke specifically about an incident where she and Dwyane feared for their sons’ safety. The boys asked Gabby if they could go to their neighbors’ basketball court and play. She said no because it was after dark.
“I don’t trust our neighbors to not see our teenage boys, our tall teenage boys, as children and not as threats to put down like an animal. D didn’t ask me if the boys had asked me. They pulled the ole okie doke. He doesn’t tell me until 30-40 minutes later when I asked where they were. And he was like, ‘Oh yeah, they walked down…’ I panic and then I get him to panic. We hop in the car and we go track them down. We told them to stop where they were. If they were under a street light, to just stay there. And as we’re in route to them there are cop cars coming from [their direction]. And it wasn’t even the cops that I was necessarily afraid of. Our neighbors have personal security too and in a stand your ground state, an open carry state, they’ll shoot you first and get off later.”
I try to think of every scenario but they find new ways to kill us everyday. We try to make them as aware and as informed as possible without stripping them of their pride. That’s a tough thing. How do you arm our Black boys with all the knowledge and all the pride and all the power that we can but then ask them to be subservient when it comes to illegal search and seizure. I still struggle with it. And it’s hard to tell somebody this is how you have to act. You don’t have to believe that about yourself but this is how you have to act so you can come home.”
Gabrielle Union is striking quite the fierce pose for the November issue of Essence, and talking about everything from her fears as a stepmother of Black boys, to aging, and the drama surrounding Birth of a Nation.
Inside the issue, the 43-year-old said that she doesn’t worry about aging because she has more important things to worry about.
“I’m at an age where my ego doesn’t live and die by how many lines I have,” she said. “There’s more to life than line counting.”
That “more to life” includes being a great stepmother to husband Dwyane Wade’s sons Zaire and Zion, as well as the ballplayer’s nephew Dahveon whom Wade has custody of. She told the magazine that she worries often about them all of the time, especially with all of the instances of police brutality that have been in the news as of late.
“Until they walk through the door, I’m terrified,” she said. “Sometimes I just want to stay off my timeline, because it makes those waits until they walk through the door a thousand times worse. One of my biggest fears is them being a hashtag on some bulls—t.”
When she’s not busy looking after the young-ins, Wade is busy shooting Being Mary Jane, which returns in January, as well as her films Almost Christmas, which comes out November 11, and Birth of a Nation, which just came out on Friday. Union said that while she hopes people will give the latter film a chance because of its powerful story, she understands if those put off by the controversy surrounding filmmaker Nate Parker choose not to.
“As a rape survivor and as an advocate, I cannot shy away from this responsibility because the conversation got difficult,” Union said. “I don’t want to put myself above anyone’s pain or triggers. Every victim or survivor, I believe you. I support you. I support you if you don’t want to see the film. I absolutely understand and respect that. I can’t sell the film. This movie has always been about more than one person, and for the outspoken feminist advocates and allies who risked a lot to be a part of this project—Aja Naomi King, Aunjanue Ellis, Penelope Ann Miller—we are okay if you have to sit this one out, and we’re okay if you don’t, and we understand.”
Union also shared behind-the-scenes video and a photo from her photo shoot on Instagram. It included her dancing in a fringe jacket to Mariah Carey’s “Dreamlover”:
Don’t you love everything about this photo shoot and cover? Wade sure does. He was caught by The Shaderoom saying that he hoped his wife kept the trench coat she wore front and center because “I got plans for it.”
Naughty, naughty…and we love it.
Janelle Monae has been outspoken about quite a few things. She’s been vocal in support of Black Lives Matter, penning a song for the movement, “Hell You Talmbout.” She performed at a benefit concert to aid the victims of the Flint Water crisis. And she’s been outspoken in promoting the rights of women.
And now, unfortunately, after the death of her cousin, she’s having to speak out about against gun violence.
Yesterday, the singer tweeted:
— Janelle Monáe, Cindi (@JanelleMonae) August 31, 2016
— Janelle Monáe, Cindi (@JanelleMonae) August 31, 2016
— Janelle Monáe, Cindi (@JanelleMonae) August 31, 2016
Hearing your uncle on the phone while he tries to make sense of his daughter being murdered is the most helpless feeling in the entire world
— Janelle Monáe, Cindi (@JanelleMonae) August 31, 2016
According to the Kansas City Star, Natasha Hays, 37, died when gunfire struck her home at about 3:45 a.m. on Tuesday. Hays three children, ages 14, 16, and 18 were not harmed.
Marco McElwee, who is married to Hays’ cousin said, “She was a hard-working mother of three. She did not deserve this. She did not deserve to be in the predicament she is in right now- for us to be in the predicament that we are in now.”
While a neighbor heard the gunfire and looked out the window to see a gray car with a sunroof and spoiler, speeding away, police have not made any arrests.
McElwee said that Hays worked as a caregiver.
“She spent the majority of her time helping somebody else, and she ended up in a helpless situation. The community lost a good citizen, a good person.”
The family is asking anyone with information about the drive-by shooting to call the police. They are also asking any local businesses or anyone else in the area who has surveillance cameras to submit the video to authorities.
Every death is a tragedy but Monae’s cousin is the latest in a string of relatives of celebrities affected by gun violence. Dwyane Wade’s cousin was recently killed in gun crossfire. T-Pain’s niece was stabbed to death in front of the Walgreens where she worked. And Toya Wright had to bury both of her brothers after they were killed sitting in their car in New Orleans.
Sad news for the family of Dwyane Wade today. The Chicago Bulls’ shooting guard took to Twitter to break the news that his cousin was a victim of Chicago gun violence after being killed in a crossfire Friday afternoon. Nykea Aldridge died while walking down a South Side Chicago street when several men started shooting at each other. Wade expressed his grief with a short plea that the violence in the city must come to an end:
My cousin was killed today in Chicago. Another act of senseless gun violence. 4 kids lost their mom for NO REASON. Unreal. #EnoughIsEnough
— DWade (@DwyaneWade) August 27, 2016
CNN reports that one of the bullets shot Aldridge in the head while another went through her arm. Her aunt Jolinda Wade revealed that the woman was pushing a stroller on her to way to an elementary school when she was shot. She died 45 minutes later at a local hospital. Jolinda, Wade’s mother expressed through tears that Aldridge was an innocent victim who lost her life as a victim of senseless violence:
“She wasn’t bothering nobody. She was just going to register her kids at school.”
Chicago police spokeswoman Michelle Tannehill told reporters that the two men responsible for the shooting are in custody and that Aldridge was not the intended target in the shooting. She also revealed the child in the stroller was unharmed.
Wade has publicly criticized the city’s rampant gun violence in the past when he took the stage at this year’s ESPY Awards with fellow NBA superstars LeBron James, Carmelo Anthony and Chris Paul to speak about the issue. He and his mother also participated in an ESPN discussion on gun violence in America that was recorded at a YMCA in Chicago.
Our condolences go to the Wade family at this tragic time. No mother should have to fear her or her children’s lives while walking through the neighborhood to register them for school.
According to court papers obtained by Bossip, Siohvaughn Funches says $10 million is what it will take for her to end all the back and forth with ex-husband Dwyane Wade and his attorneys. She claims that she’s due this large amount of money because many of the NBA star’s endorsement deals were made while the pair was married. That includes partnerships with the likes of T-Mobile, Staples and Gatorade. Considering that she supported him before he made it to the league and after, money from those endorsements, as well as a part of his “royalties and other revenue,” she believes should go to her. All of this came out in papers filed last week in the malpractice case against her former lawyer. In case you missed it, Funches felt that her former lawyer Brian Hurst pressured her into taking the $5 million settlement in 2013 after failing to show her Wade’s business contracts, therefore keeping her out of the loop of how much Wade was really making. This, despite Hurst allegedly telling Funches throughout his representation of her that she was entitled to at least $10 million.
Funches reopened their divorce case, which a judge gave the green light to, after Wade signed a new two-year contract with the Chicago Bulls worth $47.5 million in July. So now she’s going after both Hurst and Wade.
According to Bossip, “Funches said Hurst failed to get her key demands met in the case, like making Wade pay her law school tuition, travel expenses for their sons and getting their marital home appraised. She said the lawyer agreed to the settlement without Funches’ OK, which included a clause that she couldn’t trash talk Wade – something she said she’d never agree to.”
At this point, Funches believed Hurst sabotaged her case, as he reportedly didn’t even tell her when she needed to show up for court, didn’t fight to have Wade pay her legal fees or be penalized for violating an injuction in their divorce case, and didn’t seek alimony for Funches, who was allegedly unemployed and in law school when they divorced. And as the court papers state, she believes that had it not been “for the defendant’s negligence,” she would have indeed received a higher settlement.
It’s #TravelTuesday, folks!
I don’t know about you, but when I travel, I enjoy taking part in physical activities more than anything else. That includes learning how to surf, going for a jog in front of some beautiful scenery and hiking with friends. (My personal recommendation includes the Diamond Head Summit Trail in Oahu, Hawaii.) So imagine my excitement when I saw that Gabrielle Union is down for finding time for fitness with a fun twist during vacations.
The actress has been in China with husband Dwyane Wade as he takes part in the Way of Wade Tour. It’s an annual opportunity for the NBA baller to get to meet fans abroad, promote new products that are a part of his Way of Wade line, and put on basketball demos for kids. But not only did she go to support Wade, she also went to launch her own shoe as part of his line — the Zen Pandas. Those shoes, according to the actress, sold out during a launch in Beijing. And as she told Vogue.com about her foray into fashion, “More recently, I’ve become a sneakerhead and love to get creative with styling for my sneakers. I’m excited to debut my new Li-Ning high-tops I designed, the Zen Panda. I’ve discovered you can be sexy and comfortable.”
But back to the fitness focus. In between all of those activities, Union made time to take on the Great Wall of China with friends. She wasn’t playing around:
Of course, she didn’t conquer the entire thing. That would take more than a day (reportedly 18 months). Still, she enjoyed the sights and sounds that accompany such a trek, and at the same time, got a damn good workout in on one of the seven wonders of the world. And such fitness feats are what keep the 43-year-old looking so flawless.
A photo posted by Gabrielle Union-Wade (@gabunion) on
Here she is with friends, including Miami Heat player Udonis Haslem (who is glistening in the back) afterward.
Love it! What challenges would you love to take on abroad?
In case you hadn’t heard, Dwyane Wade announced earlier this month that he would leave the Miami Heat to join the Chicago Bulls as part of a two-year deal worth a whopping $47.5 million. And while we’re sure he’s excited about the opportunity to return to his hometown to play, no one is probably more thrilled about this news than his ex-wife, Siovaughn Funches. Let Chicago’s WGN break down this possible come-up for both parties:
Wade’s ex-wife reportedly said she wants to re-open her divorce settlement with her fellow Robbins, Ill., native.
According to the Chicago Tribune, Siohvaughn Funches asked a judge to throw out her settlement agreement with Wade, and give her a larger portion of his basketball earnings, including part of his new contract.
Funches is suing her former divorce lawyer, Brian Hurst, for malpractice, alleging he agreed to the deal with Wade without her knowledge, the Tribune reports.
Hurst denied the claims to the Tribune on Thursday. On Friday Judge Martin Agran threw out her lawsuit. But he did offer her the chance to file an amended lawsuit, and Funches’s new lawyer, Thomas Gooch, says she “absolutely” intends to do so.
The former couple, who were high school sweethearts, married in 2002 and divorced officially in 2010 after years of ugly fighting in court. Wade initially filed for divorce in 2007. They have two children together and she was with him when he won his first championship title with the Heat in 2006. It made sense that when he decided to move on, she would want something to help her adjust to the major change in financial status, and so, in 2013, she was awarded $5 million in their initial divorce settlement. And yet, now that he’s received one of his largest contracts, she wants more. Knowing what she’s said that she’s gone through and their history, does she deserve it?
When I read about her hope to reopen the contentious divorce settlement process, I could only think about a conversation I had with a lawyer I met at a friend’s brunch this past weekend. He was anti-marriage, and when I asked why, aside from not feeling the concept of monogamy, he also wasn’t happy about how ugly he has seen things play out in divorce proceedings. His specific issue?
“Why should a woman get access to what I’ve worked hard for when it’s over?”
He would go on a long spiel with questions like, “What if she cheated?” “What if I marry someone else? How does it look I’m still paying another woman’s way?” and “If she files and wants to leave me, why should she still have access to my money?” I would go on to try and explain to him that I do think some women are owed financial support. For instance, a woman like my mother. Granted, my parents are still together, but if she were to leave, she would be someone who deserved alimony for her many years of sacrifice. You see, she worked hard in the early days of my parents’ marriage, doing so while my dad tried to get the education necessary to be in his desired field. She would provide him with loans, as well as the family as a whole with the benefits and the money necessary until he started moving up the ranks. After having their third child together, she would stop working after struggling to balance a 9-to-5 job in the city of Chicago before running home to play, feed, answer homework questions for and put to sleep her kids. She had one more child with my father (me) after the fact, and hasn’t worked a full-time job since. That was nearly 30 years ago. He went on to be very successful and we, with my mother’s early contributions, finally were able to live comfortably.
As I told the lawyer, and as I truly believe, women, natural nurturers, are always helping the men in their lives. This is often true even if they’re not in the office with these men making business deals, coming up with the ideas that make millions, or as Drake tried to say when Vanessa Bryant was tempted to walk away from her marriage to Kobe with multiple homes and millions, “with me shooting in the gym.” But they are there holding things down, providing meals, comfort, stroking egos, raising children and offering everyone a secure home and home life to return to at the end of the day. As Vanessa perfectly put it in response to the rapper, “I don’t need to be in the gym. I’m raising our daughters, signing checks and taking care of everything else that pertains to our home life.”
And we all know that women aren’t alone in receiving alimony. According to Reuters, with many women becoming the breadwinners in their homes these days, more and more women are paying alimony, too. The contributions of the person at home aren’t lessened because they don’t result in the financial success.
But just how long does a person need to fund the dreams and lifestyle of someone else? How much money will it take for Funches to feel rightfully compensated for her support during their relationship, which ended nearly a decade ago? When are you owed for the success you helped to bring about, and when are you just looking to live off of someone else instead of getting back to work like the rest of us do every day?
It’s quite the complicated conversation. But based on the fact that it keeps coming up, one can’t help but wonder.
Gabrielle Union and Dwyane Wade make their own rules. They don’t really care much about what the public has to say about them, which may explain why the Miami Heat shooting guard recently posted what appears to be a post-sex video on Snapchat.
The video, which depicts Wade and Union lying nude under a blanket begins with Wade recapping their wonderful evening for his Snapchat followers.
“Dinner was great; food was good,” he said while looking into the camera. “Now, it’s time for the best part of the night.”
In another Snap, a sweaty Gabby pops her head into the frame, while smiling from ear to ear.
“Y’all wanna know what goes down in the Wade bedroom?” he asks. “F-ck-ng sleep.”
Yeah, okay Dwyane.
Peep the clip below. Thoughts?
It’s the craziest thing. Ever since I decided to get cable, I’ve spent less and less time in front of my television. All the shows I used to be addicted to, I haven’t even tried to catch up on.
But one show that’s remained a must-see for me is Being Mary Jane. I’ve been watching since the beginning and enjoy how raw and real the storylines can be.
Something very raw and real about the show, I must say, are the sex scenes. And Mary Jane Paul has a lot of sex. From having sex in a gym locker room shower, and fingered on a couch, to being felt up in a nightclub, Mary Jane has quite the healthy love life (and I’m not mad at that). To make those scenes all the more believable and steamy, Gabrielle Union has to strip down, roll around and make out with some very handsome men. But Union is a very married woman. So what does Dwyane Wade think of her scenes?
When a Twitter follower asked him that question during the Being Mary Jane season finale on Tuesday, he seemed unbothered about them. But he made it clear that he has a comical agreement with Union when it comes to how those scenes are filmed. The funkier, the better:
He’s got jokes! Wade actually tweeted through the entire finale in support of his lady, and it was quite cute:
People often view marriage as the end of freedom, but Gabrielle Union says that tying the knot provided her and husband, Dwyane Wade, with a very different experience.
“Some people look at marriage as the end of freedom, and for some reason, especially my husband, has looked at it as the freedom to finally be the man he always wanted to be,” Union told “The Today Show”. “I’ve had to get used to him being so freakishly happy. It’s been good. He’s happy, and we’re comfortable.”
According to the “Being Mary Jane” actress, married life has been pretty good to her as well.
“We really enjoy each other in a way that’s probably not healthy for us,” she joked.
As for how she’s enjoying being married to a younger man, the 42-year-old beauty had this to say:
“It doesn’t get old. Every day he gets out of bed I’m like, ‘Yes! Thank you Jesus.’ He looks just as good going as he does coming. It’s nice. It’s not a bad gig.”
Union also addressed her comments about businesswomen and infertility that went viral last month.
“I actually wasn’t talking about IVF for me personally, but more of just, in general,” she shared. “It was just to shed a little on [the fact that] fertility is an issue. Period. Having a career is not the price that you pay. I think TV shows and film kind of make the frigid, single, focused career woman seem like her career is the root of all of the problems in your life. You can’t find a man; it’s the career. Marriage falls apart; it’s the career. Kid gets an F in algebra; it’s the career. And that’s just not the case.”