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My younger brother got married last year and even though I wasn’t exactly thrilled to have new family members, I always played my part as his big sister and tried to remain politely diplomatic from a distance. It wasn’t that they were bad people; it was more of a personality thing. Not to sound like a snob, but they were a little rough around the edges and even though I don’t consider myself high-maintenance, I definitely make the effort to stay fashionably current. Maybe it’s because I reside in the fashion capital of the world – you kind of have to step up your game in order to get the right kind of attention.
My brother’s in-laws hail from Atlantic City but he and his wife remained in Maryland and they bought an amazing house, which they absolutely adore. So of course they couldn’t wait to play host for the holidays and they invited the whole family on both sides to indulge them. I had planned on spending the holidays with my boyfriend’s family but I suddenly found myself single and even though I tried to get out of it, I ended up on the Bolt Bus headed for Greenbelt, MD. It was actually Thanksgiving Day, and I arrived later that evening, exhausted, starving and moody. All I wanted to do was dive into bed. I didn’t have the energy to pretend that I was happy to see everyone or pretend that I enjoyed the food. My sister-in-law’s mother is a notoriously bad cook who relies on canned goods and artificial flavoring and I knew that I would not end the day with a good home cooked meal.
As soon as the door flew open, I was readily embraced and everyone seemed to be a having a jolly good time. There was food everywhere; music blasting and there was liqueur. Lots and lots of liqueur, I had no choice but to jump right in and things got even more chaotic. This was my first bonding session with people that I didn’t know very well and I felt that I needed to try to stay sober and behave myself so they at least have a good impression of who I really am. But that plan went out the window once I downed my third vodka and cranberry. I wasn’t sure if this was an indication of the way the in-laws get down for the holidays but I knew why I was drinking so much. I needed an escape from what I thought was going to be a disastrous affair but even in my drunken haze, I could tell that the feelings being expressed were genuine. I felt guilty for being so judgmental in the beginning and not giving them a chance to show me their true colors.
We spent the next day nursing our much-deserved hangovers and I was able to really connect with everybody as we sat around and shared stories and experiences. I found out that both my sister-in-law’s mother and grandmother were breast cancer survivors and they actually instigated my first mammogram exam this past summer. After a nice long weekend, I hopped on the bus back to New York, and as I looked out the window, I felt grateful. I was thankful for the fact that my brother had married the love of his life and inherited a new family. I was also thankful that I was able to share the wealth and I couldn’t wait for another opportunity to get to see them all again.
Every couple will have their differences—big and small—and while, for the most part, we appreciate one another’s differences, and even try each other’s habits/viewpoints on for size, there is one difference that you just can’t mess with: vices that you don’t share. For the sake of this article, we’ll use alcohol as an example. But the rules apply to almost any vice from smoking to online shopping.
A new study from Yale University found that African American college aged “girls” (read: women) are less likely to develop drinking problems than white girls because of cultural and environmental factors.
The study cited parental disapproval, a more conservative attitude toward drinking and higher church attendance as reasons why there is such a stark difference between the two racial groups. The New Haven Register summarized the findings like this:
The study, published Thursday in the journal Alcoholism: Clinical and Experimental Research, focused on 3,500 female twins, both identical and fraternal, “to look at the relative contributions of genetics vs. environment on (the) age of first drink and problem drinking,” Sartor said.
What we found is that there’s no shared environmental effects” in African-American teens who abuse alcohol, Sartor said. “Family environment is not playing a role in problem drinking.” For black girls who drink heavily, genetics and individual experiences, such as different friends or traumatic events, are more relevant, she said
At a community and cultural level, European-Americans are not doing as good a job at protecting their girls from problem drinking as African-Americans are.”
Interestingly enough, this is not something we needed a study to tell us. As someone who attended a predominately white university, when girls were being carried home, throwing up in elevators or falling out in the street they were white. Not that black girls didn’t get wasted but the numbers didn’t lie.
While the study cited church and less importance placed on drinking etc, after some discussion about the issue in our office we also concluded that black people are less carefree when we go out partying. Many of us are keenly aware of the fact that if we get too intoxicated to take care of ourselves and end up causing some type of disturbance, we’re less likely to get the benefit of the doubt. We just might be interacting with the police. And if have to interact with the police that just might mean we’ll endure abuse, mistreatment or in some cases even death. If we get too drunk and end up lost or missing we know there won’t be national searches looking to ensure that we’re returned to our families safely.
It’s a sad tale; but for many of us, we don’t even leave the house on the same level of abandon or “carefreeness” that white women do. In addition to the safety issues, we know that if we’re in a mixed crowd many of us are also worried about how we’ll be perceived if people who aren’t black see us out here acting a fool.
But that’s just our theory. What are some of the reasons you think African American college-aged women drink less than white women?
After dating for a while and taking a break and then getting back into the game, it’s no surprise that we pick up certain habits along in the way. Unfortunately, a lot of women pick up certain habits that really need to be broken. If you’re looking to get back into the dating world or you want to make sure that your dating etiquette and techniques are actually going to get you the results you want, make sure you aren’t doing these things.
Growing up, drinking was never a big thing for me. My parents rarely drank and apparently in high school I was hanging out with the wrong crowd; because while my peers were getting wasted at house parties, I was raving about the wonders of Simply Lemonade.
So needless to say, witnessing how much drinking was a part of adult, social life came as a bit of a surprise. I was surprised that some folks seemed to get uncomfortable when I mentioned that I didn’t plan on drinking for the night. Eventually, I would find cocktails I like and I do sip every once in a while, (mimosas are my fave); but, I still don’t view alcohol as a requirement when I step out. I know that a lot of people do though; but I thought, for sure, that the one time folks would avoid alcohol completely was when they were pregnant.
I was wrong about that too. I remember once going out with a pregnant acquaintance who was celebrating her birthday. When everyone else ordered their cocktails, she quietly and sheepishly ordered a glass of wine, rationalizing that a little wouldn’t hurt right? I was shocked! But she wasn’t the only one. Women who weren’t even pregnant, talked about how they planned to drink a little bit during gestation because their doctor friends had told them it was all right in moderation. Well, ok then, to each her own.
But to me, all of this just seemed so risky. We all know that the a fetus receives nutrients through the mother’s bloodstream, the placenta and then onto the fetus’ bloodstream. Even if you’re drinking in small amounts, that’s still going directly into your baby’s blood stream. And what seems like a small glass of wine to you, is not so small to a growing baby, especially when it’s not being digested first. The whole drinking while pregnant notion sounded a bit selfish. I kept thinking if you can’t give up alcohol for 9 months, are you really ready to handle the other sacrifices that will inevitably come, for the sake of your child?
But maybe I have the whole thing wrong because a recent UK study found that drinking in moderation, two units of alcohol (i.e. a glass of wine or a half pint of beer) a week, didn’t pose any threat to children. The study which has been going on for over a decade categorized pregnant women into four groups: abstainers, light drinkers, drinkers etc. Researchers then studied the children after birth, measuring cognitive abilities, emotional development and behavior. They found that the light drinkers had children with no deficits compared to the children of abstainers. Surprisingly they found that the children of the women who drank lightly had fewer behavioral problems and higher cognitive abilities.
Despite the findings, the study is not carte blanche for women to be able to drink with reckless abandon, believing it will make their children intelligent and well behaved. There are obviously other factors that contribute to these characteristics. Plus there are some people who have a negative reaction to alcohol. Whether that be the mother or the child, drinking even lightly could still pose a potential threat. But the study is interesting considering it goes against everything we’ve been told from medical professionals for years now.
It’ll be interesting to see if the results of this study affect the women who were on the fence about completely eliminating alcohol during gestation. Will health professionals start issuing guidelines and portion controls rules about pregnant drinking?
Like I said, personally, drinking is not a big deal to me so I’m sure I won’t even consider sipping while I’m pregnant. There are just too many things that can go wrong during pregnancy; that if I could control this one thing, I wouldn’t feel comfortable risking it.
What about you though? Did you already drink during your pregnancy? Do the findings of this study change your beliefs about drinking during gestation? Is it something you feel comfortable doing?
First dates, or dates in general, can be nerve wrecking, anxious, and exciting all at the same time. For many of us, we are going out with a guy we are actually interested in and want to make a good impression. For the rest, maybe it’s just for a free meal. Either way, there are always a lot of things to think about before you go out on with someone. Like these 14 things.
Well, this a bit disheartening but nobody is perfect.
Tracy Mourning, wife of former Miami Heat player Alonzo Mourning, was arrested on Friday morning driving under the influence in Miami.
According to The Huffington Post, Mourning was clocked going 28 miles over the speed limit in Coconut Grove while driving her Porsche.
When a police officer finally stopped her a few blocks down, she’d apparently been swerving and she ran a stop sign.
At that point, the officer says Mourning then put on her charms and asked in a nice voice, “What did I do officer,” followed by a wink and then saying, “Was going fast, wasn’t I?” Okay so even at almost 4am and knowing she was wrong, Tracy tried to use the “bat your eyes” trick to get out of any trouble.
But the officer wasn’t buying it. He said her eyes were bloodshot, she was slurring her speech and reeked of alcohol. After failing a roadside sobriety test and refusing to take a blood alcohol test, she was then arrested.
No word yet on what time she was released and when she’ll have to appear in court. Her hair still manages too look good, even in the booking photo.
The Mournings have become pillars of the community in Miami where they spend countless hours giving back. Alonzo has been known for years to throw one of the best fundraising events in town with his “Zo’s Summer Groove.” Along with that huge money maker, the couple often scouts for other ways they can get back.
Hopefully, Tracy can get this taken care of and be extremely careful when it comes to drinking and driving (how about just don’t do it).
Honestly, how many of you still get behind the wheel even though you know you’ve probably had one too many drinks? Do you still get in the car with someone who you know has had too much to drink and let them drive?
Before You Get Serious With That Brother, Make Sure You Know Who He Is After He’s Had A Couple Of Drinks
Although you may not be privy to everything about a man you’re dating before you fall in love, one thing you need to be sure of before you get ‘in too deep’ is his relationship with alcohol. Yup, make sure you know how he acts on a night out at the bar and after a couple of drinks. Besides observing his behavior on dates, how he interacts with friends, how he treats you, how often he calls his mama, you also need to know how he handles his liquor…because it may not be pretty.
I learned that early on in the dating game. On the first date with a guy I was crushing on in college, I got to see just how vulnerable he was when it came to alcohol. He couldn’t stop ordering rounds and I ended up having to be the one to take the wheel at the end of the night. It was a sorry sight to see his red shot eyes, being so oblivious to his own state. You see, he was/is one of those guys in complete denial about their drinking. He didn’t seem to think anything wrong happened on that date. He really had no idea that he had a drinking problem. I saw him many nights after that, because of mutual friends, acting in the same unattractive way, complete with red eyes and a disoriented nature. I’m a fan of manly men and a man who can’t handle his liquor is definitely not manly in my eyes.
I often feel sorry for the women that swoon over my seemingly together, handsome cousin. He’s a Monet for sure. On the surface, he’s handsome, outgoing and holds down a good job, but anyone who has crossed paths with him on a Saturday night out knows that he’s not a great catch at all. It’s sad really. He’s one of those aggressive drunks. He always drinks too much at each and every event. And his drinking manifests itself in the form of anger. I really can’t say whether or not his aggression is related to deep-seated pain but what I do know is that alcohol brings out the worst in him.
We all know that some people are happy drunks, some people are sad drunks, some people are touchy-feely drunks, and some people are angry drunks. Me, I want the guy who doesn’t fall into any of these categories; I need someone who controls his drinking to the point where he rarely gets drunk. Obviously, one’s relationship to alcohol can indicate a lot about his level of self-control. And if you’re dating to vet whether someone will make a good life partner and head of household, control is key.
Have you ever been turned off by a guy after you’ve seen him under the influence?
Rarely do you hear or see a newsflash about a sober celebrity. Instead, today it’s all about catching celebs acting out in their drunken sloppiness — like uploading messy pics to Instagram. However, there are some celebs who pass on the Courvoisier, or try to stay away from liquor as much as possible. Here are 15 dry celebrities you won’t catch in a stupor anywhere.
Despite being the face of Midori liquer, Kim Kardashian is the one Kardashian sister who doesn’t drink. Kim claims that she hates the taste of alcohol altogether but she will have a drink on certain occasions. With a baby Kimye on the way, her non-drinking habits are even more ideal.
Every year, people like to make resolutions so that they can have a better year and be a better person, but it never fails that midway through the year, they realize they aren’t doing any of the things they said they would do. We make the same promises to ourselves and can’t keep most, if any, of them. Let’s have a look at the most popular resolutions people like to make — and fail to keep. Hopefully, you don’t fall into this category.