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Does this ever happen to you? While having a normal conversation with your partner, one of you gets triggered into a sudden extreme reaction. It may become a hot volcanic explosion or a cold freeze when one person shuts the connection down completely.
We call this “Sudden Reaction Syndrome”. Perhaps you were talking about a chore to be done or a bill to be paid. Maybe it occurred during a simple discussion about an upcoming event or another person. Without warning, and often without explanation, there’s yelling, blaming, bickering… or abrupt withdrawal.
Many people try to solve or fix the conflict by asking, “Who started it?” This question is not very helpful; it’s better to inquire, “Why does this keep happening?” Even more important is the question, “What can we do to prevent it from happening again?”
To change the nature of vicious reaction cycles, you need to understand trauma, which is usually at the core of Sudden Reaction Syndrome (SRS). In clinical literature, the severe form is called Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
However, sudden reactions come in a very wide range, from mild to severe. On one side of the spectrum are outward-directed reactions, such as:
- Escalation in language or tone (outbursts of anger, blame, etc.)
- Expressions of verbal or physical domination and control
- Threatening non-verbal body language or facial expressions
- Moderate to high drama
- Momentary or sustained violence.
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Something’s different. And you have a sneaking suspicion that he’s up to no good. Could he be cheating? We’ve got a few signs that suggest he might be. If we’ve missed any of the breadcrumbs that clued you in, leave ‘em in the comments section.
The Allen Iverson child support woes continue as his ex-wife is seeking the rest of the money for their children.
Tawanna Iverson filed documents earlier this month asking a judge to order Iverson to pay up front child support for their children until 2026 when their youngest child turns 18. The total comes out to just over $1.2 million, according to TMZ.
Tawanna has notoriously had to take Allen to court over child support issues in just the last year. When they divorced, he was order to pay $8,000 per month but refused to do so. After going back and forth yet again, a judge ordered Allen to pay $40,000 in back support.
Basically, she’s trying to be proactive in all the Allen Iverson child support drama.
No word on how the judge will rule yet but clearly, Tawanna thinks she will have to continue to fight him in court to financially take care of their children and she doesn’t want to do it anymore.
The Iversons had quite the tumultuous relationship until their divorce was finalized in February. Unfortunately, their children are being hurt by the continued messiness.
One thing for sure: Allen Iverson must have some secret accounts somewhere to make all of these payments. No one really believed he was as broke as it was originally reported anyway.
It’s no secret that there has been quite a bit of drama going down behind the scenes on the set of R&B Divas: Atlanta; executive producers Nicci Gilbert and Faith Evans have been pretty vocal about that. But who knew there was messiness on the set of R&B Divas: LA as well? Dawn Robinson recently opened up to Mara the Hip Hop Socialite about what’s been going on when the cameras weren’t rolling and the way she’s telling the story, initially, producers were pretty frustrated with the show’s lack of drama. She also expressed that she believes the show was craftily edited to make co-star Kelly Price look bad. Sound familiar? Check some highlights from her interview below.
On Kelly Price’s portrayal on the show:
“See, this is the thing; this is what’s hard. When you show a bunch a stuff, and you have all this footage, and then they just break it down to certain parts of it, and then they omit certain things that you did say, but they don’t put that part in there because they want you to look a certain way. So this is why I was telling her, ‘Kelly, whatever we do, don’t react to people in an angry way, because they’re going to film that, and that’s what they’re gong to show. They want to show us fighting against each other, they want to show anger, the angry Black woman, and you’re so much better than that. Please hold your peace as much as you can, and don’t let these people take you off your greatness. You are a queen – we don’t go there, don’t do it.’”
On being led to believe that the show wouldn’t be about drama and bickering:
“They said they wanted a different type of show. They did not want drama – they pretty much guaranteed that it wasn’t going to be drama. That it was going to be a positive show. What the guy Phil [Thornton] told me – Phil is one of the producers – he said, ‘We want this to be like a ‘Waiting to Exhale’ type show.’ ‘Cause I told them, ‘As long as it’s classy. I come from a classy group, and plus I was raised by my parents to be a good person. I don’t go for that drama and fighting and all that stuff.’ So when they offered me Atlanta ‘R&B Divas’, I said no, because I don’t live in Atlanta.’ I was working on a project with Maxine [En Vogue group mate] at the time, and I was just afraid like a lot of artists who are afraid to do a reality show because of what they see happen to other artists on reality shows. So I turned it down because I was afraid, not because I was being difficult. I was just afraid, and I didn’t want to relocate too. I live in LA, I didn’t want to relocate to Atlanta. But of course they’re going to tell you only half of the story, and again, I don’t care to…I’m a grown woman, I’m 47-years-old. I don’t care what people think about me, I stand for myself, I stand for truth, and that’s always going to be who I am.”
On being told by producers that the show was boring because there was no drama initially:
“Because we were such a part of the show, the producers speak to us midway and said, ‘You guys have a boring show.’ And I said at the meeting, ‘Is that because we’re not fighting against each other? We’re not pulling each other’s hair out? We’re not negative against each other? Is that because we support each other, and we’re loving towards each other as women? You want to see the negativity because in your mind, drama is what gets the ratings.But at the same time right now, what we’re seeing is that the show so far – and this is midway through filming. so this is half way through filming – what we’re seeing now is that the show, so far the four episodes that they’ve shown have been very positive and very loving, and people are reacting to the positivity on the show. And so, they have the highest rating in TV One history, our show is the highest rated show in TV One history, and that’s positivity. This show is not negative so far, and yet you guys have the highest rated show in TV One history without any drama? That says a lot – that means it was never necessary in the first place. Real life has enough drama in it without having to add to it and create some stuff ’cause you guys want ratings. It’s just ridiculous, so it’s pretty sad, but we don’t control that.”
“I’ve just been praying with Kelly because her heart is broken over what she’s sees of herself [on the show]. You build up a career to a certain point, you fought and battled through that career to be heard and seen. People talked about her weight and all the different things, and now to have a reality show tear you down? Uh uh, no, uh uh, no way! I’ll be damned. Because these people go on to get different jobs, when we have only one career. I always tell people that all the time. You guys can get six other women in our place; each season, a new group of six women. We only have one career. I only have one Dawn Robinson, and I’ll be damned if somebody’s going to come in and take it all because of some reality show. That is not what I signed up for! I signed up for positivity.”
Well, talk about taking the easy way out.
On Friday, reports surfaced that Chris Brown had a seizure while at a recording studio. There were few details about what caused it but the news was that he’d suffered from them as a child.
Well, now we have our answer: if you’ve ever said something bad about Breezy, it was your fault.
That’s right, according to TMZ, Brown is blaming his seizure on the people who bring him down. They contacted his rep and received the following response when asked what triggered it:
It was due to “intense fatigue and extreme emotional stress, both due to the continued onslaught of unfounded legal matters and the nonstop negativity.”
He must have forgotten that it is his temper that seems to flare to the “Nth power” as soon as someone says something he doesn’t like. He must have forgotten that during that car accident situation from a couple of months ago, he was the one who gave false information.
So, we’re sorry, Chris, if you decided that you wanted to act like a member of a new millennium version of NWA and have given us no reason to really like you anymore. We’re sorry that you won’t take a break to get yourself together so that you know how to deal with pressure a bit better.
But please, spare us the sob story and be accountable.
That said, we don’t wish the worst on anyone so we truly hopes he finds out what triggered the seizure and can get it under control. There are many of us who know what stress can do to the body (and we don’t doubt that he has a lot of it) so maybe if he can get to a place where he finds some peace – because we know people will never stop talking – this type of thing won’t happen again.
Back To Court: Royce Reed Says Dwight Howard Has Taken Their Son…And She Doesn’t Know Where They Are
Well, it was only a matter of time before these two were back in the media for more antics.
According to TMZ, former “Basketball Wife” Royce Reed has gone to what we assume is a Florida court to ask for an emergency hearing to find her son, Braylon. Braylon is the son she shares with basketball star Dwight Howard. Royce claims Braylon went to California to visit Dwight but she hasn’t heard from them since he’s been there.
Royce also says Braylon has a medical condition and is out of medicine. According to her, Dwight hasn’t bothered to refill Braylon’s prescription.
In her alleged filing for this hearing, Royce says Dwight’s parents called her at some point to let her know Dwight and Braylon were in Colorado. Royce is asking that the court order Dwight to refill the prescription so their son’s health won’t be in danger. Further, she wants to know exactly where their son and how she can get in touch with him.
See, this interesting because after a quick search, this popped up on Royce’s Twitter timeline:
So, how can it be that she’s saying she hasn’t heard from him since he got to California when she tweeted that he’d been there for a month and she, in fact, went to visit? The only possible explanations are: (1) there’s no truth to this filing or (2) maybe the details are a little incorrect.
Many of us who’ve seen Royce on Basketball Wives know she can be a bit dramatic but I don’t think she’d be dumb enough to file a claim like this when there’s evidence on the internet to dispute it. Not that Dwight couldn’t or shouldn’t refill the child’s medicine but if she was out there, she could have done it too.
A judge has yet to rule on whether or not a hearing is necessary.
Things that make you go hmmmm…
Is your life constantly in turmoil? Do you span the entire spectrum of emotions every single day? Is somebody always after you? OR…are you just a drama queen who doesn’t have the emotional toolkit to properly handle the exact same stuff everyone else is going through? Here are a few questions to help you find out.
When It’s Time To Take A Break From Dating: Sometimes we go from one relationship to the next without taking a break. It can be because we are afraid to be alone, or bowing to societal pressures that tell us we have to be in a relationship, in order to be okay. It’s often because we are hurt and want to use the excitement of a new relationship to distract us from the pain of the last one ending. Rebounding, jumping from one relationship to the next, usually produces less than satisfactory results. Among them are:
- Due to judgment clouded by emotional pain, it’s easy to choose someone who is completely wrong for you as your next partner and be blind to their flaws.
- Because you haven’t processed the raw emotions left by the ending of the previous relationship, you are left off-balance and more likely to react inappropriately to emotions and situations with your new lover.
- Without time out for reflection that would give you insight into where your last romancewent wrong, it’s common to repeat the same mistakes continuously. It’s as if you are playing the same script out again and again with the same character, just different actors.
- Although you may meet a great person as a rebound, it’s likely that you won’t be in the proper place to be a good partner to them and may unintentionally sabotage the relationship.
- Worst of all, you lose touch with yourself and forget that you are ultimately the only person who can make you happy. Because you’ve forgotten this, you put all the pressure on those outside of you (usually most of the pressure goes onto your romantic partner) to create your happiness. This is the kiss of death to relationships as no one likes to be with someone who is needy.
I’ve definitely been guilty of this type of insanity. Here are a couple of examples and how it turned out for me:
Repeating The Same Relationship: In my early 20s, I never put men first in my life. Relationships weren’t a big deal to me but I always had someone in my life. And I know I was hurting these men because they all knew I could take them or leave them. But I kept dating, even if it meant hurting them. Then one day I got a big shock of reality. I had been dating this guy for almost two years when he found out that I had been cheating on him. He was devastated. When I saw how hurt he was, it hurt me. It wasn’t that I wanted him back—I cheated on him for a reason. It was excruciating to know that I was the reason behind someone feeling that much pain.
That’s when I decided to take a break from dating until I discovered what I wanted out of it. I was only 24-years-old at the time.
So for a few years, I took a break. I went out with a few people but I told them up front that I absolutely wasn’t looking for anything serious. At least I was finally being honest with them and myself for once. I knew exactly what I wanted for myself: world travel and my career. But when it came to relationships, I just didn’t care one way or another about dating. I could take it or leave it because I was busy living my life. However, I realized if I was going to start dating again, I needed to change my attitude since I didn’t want to hurt anyone intentionally.
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When we heard Claudette Ortiz was being added to the cast of “R&B Divas LA,” there was one thing we wanted to know: what’s the real deal with the drama between her and her ex- City High cast mates. If you watched the first episode of the reality show last week, or followed their story, you know Claudette was involved with both members of the group at one point — dating Robby Pardlo before marrying Ryan Toby. Well when the singer came by our Los Angeles office we asked for a little more info on the break-up and how her ex-husband Ryan feels about her being on the TV One reality show and airing their laundry. Here’s what she said.
What in the world is going on with the two of them?
So we just told you that Siovaughn Wade hit her ex, Dwyane, and his lawyer with a $1 million lawuit. She claimed they had an agreement which called for funds from his endorsements deals to be deposited into a joint bank and he’s not living up to it. she also said she was unable to make payments on the mortgage or the insurance to go with it and was asking for the money to cover it.
Well, she’s changed her mind. According to the Chicago Tribune, Siohvaughn dropped the lawsuit on Thursday (which was around the time everyone found out a lawsuit even existed). She filed a voluntary dismissal order at the Circuit Court of Cook County Law Division and the suit was then dismissed without prejudice.
For those who don’t know what “without prejudice” means, it means that the current suit is dismissed but there can be a re-filing of the same claim in the future.
There was no word from Siohvaughn or her attorneys (whomever they may be at this point – she’s had a few) as to why she decided to drop the lawsuit.
Do you think it’s possible Dwyane gave her the money just to make the “problem” go away?
Will these two ever find some common ground?