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A Presence From Your Past: Could You Take A Former Friend You Had A Falling Out With Back In Your Circle Years Later?
This friend of mine, make that a former friend, we had been cool since junior high. We were part of a clique of close friends, going to homecoming together in similar colors, kicking it post-prom, hitting up each person’s college graduation parties, crying together through each other person’s sorrows, celebrating each person’s come-ups. But post-college, life got a little too real for everybody, and the stress of life caused this friend to be come very anti-social. She fell out with one of the other members of our clique, and all of a sudden there was all of this pressure on me to maintain friendships with both parties, even though they acted as if the other couldn’t be trusted. After feeling too much pressure from said friend, who seemed more bitter and hurt than the other, I told her how I felt (since their problems had nothing to do with me and I didn’t want to be in the middle), and she didn’t like what I had to say. That was the last real conversation we’ve had in years.
I actually loved this friend very much, so to fall out with her was almost like a bad break up with an ex. No crying, but the confusion and hole left in my life could have warranted a few tears. We had shared many special moments together and I looked at her more like a sister than a friend, so when she decided she didn’t want to be bothered with any person in our clique, including moi, and moved on with her life, I was pretty hurt. And mad angry.
I haven’t received such a call, and if I did, I think I would be there if she needed me, but honestly, I would try and keep her at an arms length. Consistent friends who don’t let things fester are a precious thing, but friends who ditch you when they don’t get their way and then come back around are…many things in my opinion, but let’s just sum it up by saying they’re more of a liability. Besides, years have gone by! We’re practically different people in different places in our lives. And for that reason alone, it might be time to move on and keep looking forward…
But if you’ve ever fallen out with a friend and they came back around and wanted to be cool again, could you trust them enough to take them back in your circle?
The Family That Preys–The TV Version: See The Full Trailer For Tyler Perry’s OWN Series, “The Have And The Have Nots”
Sex. Lies. Deceit.
According to Tyler Perry’s serious Alex Cross-esque voice, that’s what we can expect from his new OWN show, The Have And The Have Nots. Last week we showed you a short trailer for the program, but the full one-minute trailer has been released, and yes, it’s messy. But that could be a good thing entertainment wise.
However, it’s hard to tell if the show is supposed to be a soap opera of sorts or if it’s just a very dramatic black version of a telenovela drama, but something about it reminds us of a mix of the Tyler Perry film, The Family That Preys, and the BET show, The Game. There’s the cheating white husband, messing around with the money-hungry young black woman (Tika Sumpter’s character), who just so happens to be the daughter of the man’s maid. And the show is shot very much like The Game–with cinematic aspirations. Either way, it all seems a bit familiar. Here’s the full synopsis so you can understand what you’re about to see:
From prolific writer, director, producer Tyler Perry, “The Haves and the Have Nots” is a new television drama which follows the complicated dynamic between the rich and powerful Cryer family and the hired help who work in their opulent mansion set in Savannah, Georgia. From the outside, the Cryer’s are the enviable face of success and wealth, but behind the veil, the family’s dysfunction threatens to destroy their world of privilege. Cryer family patriarch Jim Cryer (John Schneider, “Dukes of Hazzard”) is a powerful judge whose double-life, including tawdry affairs with high-priced escorts, puts his family and political ambitions at risk. His wife, Katheryn Cryer (Renée Lawless, “Wicked”), is the ultimate matriarch portraying a loving and dutiful wife, but she is willing to do anything to protect her family’s status. Their son Wyatt (Aaron O’Connell) is a troubled angry jock who cares little for his own image and finds himself in and out of rehab. His sister Amanda (Jacyln Betham), a struggling law student, tries harder to live up to her parents’ expectations, but unknowingly has befriended a scurrilous young woman, Candace Young, with the power to ruin the entire family. Hanna Young (Crystal Fox) is the Cryer’s maid and the matriarch of her family. Despite having no money, she has found other types of wealth through religion and virtue. She prides herself on her dutiful son Benny (Tyler Lepley), the glue who helps keep the family together. Hanna does have one dark secret, however, her estranged daughter Candace (Tika Sumpter, “Gossip Girl”) — a manipulative opportunist who will stop at nothing to get what she wants. In a bizarre coincidence, Candace is shocked to find out that her newfound friend Amanda’s father is Jim Cryer, the very man who has been paying her for sex and who also employs Candace’s mother as his family’s maid. Armed with this knowledge, the dramatic stage is set for what will be, in Candace’s eyes, the opportunity of a lifetime.
Sounds ratch! Check out the full trailer below and let us know if you’re feeling it. If you are, you should know that The Have And The Have Nots premieres on OWN on May 2 at 9 p.m. And if you’re not, well, you can always catch up on episodes of Iyanla: Fix My Life…
May has arrived and you know what that means: summer is almost here! Once Memorial Day weekend hits, the start to family barbeques and trips to the beach with friends and lovers has arrived. If you’re like me, you are also gearing up for the summer blockbuster season of 2013. With an array of movies to choose from this summer season, here is a list of my top nine films that call for your undivided attention, featuring some of the most celebrated Black actors and actresses and those to watch.
‘There’s A Big Difference Between 35 And 43′ Nicci Gilbert Speaks On Syleena Johnson Drama On Season 2 Of ‘R&B Divas’
We know that “R&B Divas” Season 2 trailer we showed you yesterday is still in your heads. You know, the one where Syleena Johnson told Nicci Gilbert to “suck 10 bags of d**ks” on her way out the door. Yeah.
Well, we had to know what all the beef between these two is about so we chatted up Nicci Gilbert to get the scoop and she did not hold her tongue! Check out what she had to say about why these two just can’t seem to get along.
Well, well well. There once was a time when Tv One’s “R&B Divas” was one of the more positive reality shows on television. But baayybe judging from this recently released trailer from the premiere episode it would seem that all of that positivity and sisterliness has fallen by the wayside.
In the first video we watch a discussion about the ladies touring together escalate to Syleena throwing Nicci Gilbert out of her house, telling her to suck ten bags of d!cks on her way out.
Lawd have mercy. She said all of this after she had just put down the cross. Smh.
Take a look and see how it all transpired below.
And then in another scene, Monifah confronts Nicci about the altercation asking her what’s her personal problem with Syleena.
From the looks of things, I can see why these women touring together might not necessarily be the best idea.
This is super messy; but I won’t lie, it only makes me want to check out the Season 2 premiere tomorrow night, May 1 on TV One at 10 pm ET.
Make Up Already! Rihanna Continues To Be The Biggest Critic Of Ciara And Her PR Team (“Why Am I STILL The Main Topic Of Her Interviews!!”)
According to MissJia.com, the issues between Rihanna and Ciara are still going, but things are starting to seem a bit one-sided. While Ciara does address their problems in almost every interview she has been doing for her new album, Ciara, and new video, “Body Party,” she’s kept it pretty tame and civil. She basically doesn’t know why Rihanna doesn’t like her, but she’s focused on staying positive no matter what. But as I’ve said before, it would probably be better if Ci Ci just didn’t waste time answering questions about her, because not only is it a distraction from the great things she has going on, but Rihanna is just out in these streets waiting to pop off about it.
Miss Jia says that an Instagram follower tagged Rihanna in a screenshot from a recent interview Ciara did where the ATL singer was asked about the Bajan singer and seemed to handle it calm and cool without throwing shade. But the interview was enough to get homegirl to vent, AGAIN, at Ciara and her publicist. Whoever that person may be.
“Why am I still the main topic of her interviews!! She don’t be shame tho? How she let em play her like that everytime?? It’s like, “yea I know you’re here to talk about (insert album title) but we wanna talk about a more relevant topic…Rihanna!!!” Like she sits there and falls for it everytime!!!!”
*Sigh* I don’t really have much of an opinion about this anymore because it’s starting to be sad at this point. It’s like a mean girl coming after the new girl on the block or something. But really, we know how folks like to pop off when others are walking around with their names in their mouth, especially bringing them up in the media. But seriously though, let’s just grow up already ladies. There’s enough room in the game for both of you.
What do you think of her comments?
“How U Gon Hate From Outside???” Rihanna Exchanges Words With Ciara AGAIN…Over Social Media Of Course
And the drama continues.
It was 2011 when Ciara was a guest on Fashion Police, and while chatting it up with Joan Rivers about an ensemble Rihanna wore to the Grammys, Ciara went on to tell a story about how Ri Ri basically comes off as a mean girl in person. Why? We don’t know:
“I ran into her recently at a party. She wasn’t the nicest. It’s crazy, because I’ve always loved and respected what she’s done in fashion. It wasn’t the most pleasant run-in.”
Of course, we know the two ladies exchanged some equally not-so-nice words on Twitter after Ri heard word of what the “Ride” singer said about her. There was a moment where Ciara said Rihanna didn’t want to see her on the stage (performance wise), and Rihanna replied with a biting, “Good luck with bookin that stage you speak of.” While the two ladies seemed to make up at the end of their back and forth, things remained pretty tense after the fact, especially in March of this year when it was speculated that Rihanna’s best friend and assistant, Melissa, came for Ciara and her new song “Body Party” through Instagram.
After all that, you would have thought these women would all move on, but Ciara has been making her media rounds to promote her new disc, Ciara, and of course, most of the questions are either about her new beau Future, or her issues with Rihanna. Sick and tired of it we guess, Rihanna took to her Instagram to vent:
And catching word of the direct shade, Ciara responded back, but kept it short and sweet on her Twitter:
“I am baffled. The obsession really makes no sense. This is getting out of hand…”
“Somebody please point her in the right direction, cuz she clearly needs love and affection..:)”
And you know it’s getting out of hand when Jackée Harry (the one and only of 227 fame) of all people jumps in on her Twitter to give her two cents, asking the ladies to chill out and be better examples for their fans:
@ciara @rihanna You’re BOTH Beautiful & Immensely Talented. PLEASE Squash The Beef & Increase The Peace, Ladies. #BeTheExample ..
You would think these women would have way too much going on (and a lot of money to spend) to waste time and energy trying to publicly embarrass one another. You’re on tour! You have a new album coming out! Do yourself a favor and stop talking about one another, because clearly they’re not adding anything positive to your life. But alas, as I said earlier, the drama continues.
What do you think about their comments?
The Drama You Want, is the Drama You Won’t Get! How To Handle The Negative Reaction Negative People Want To Get Out Of You
Do men really desire a drama free relationship, even if the relationship is casual? Or, do men like drama from women on a certain level? A few years ago, I was blessed with one of the smallest and greatest gifts known to mankind by giving birth to my son. Not only was I blessed with this gift, but I was given a long-awaited title of mom. While I was blessed with the gift of my son and the privileged title of mom, I also had the burden of encountering confusion, unnecessary drama and a lack of respect from the father of my child. From the day my son was born, his father constantly did and said things that infuriated me, brought me to tears and damaged my self-esteem. He would always try his best to break me down, rather than lift me up. Oftentimes I wondered why he would do such a thing, especially now that I had given birth to our child (because of course everything was fine before our son was born). Then I finally realized that he wanted a drama filled reaction out of me so he could say that he had a typical “baby mamma” that came with the expected drama. Once I realized what he was doing, I stepped back and told myself that I would not react foolishly (not that I ever did) to any of his negative comments or actions towards me and our child because I realized that I could not waste my precious time reacting to him and wasting energy when I had a child to care for. I decided that I would be stern with him, but I would no longer be attitudinal or irate with him. I also realized that the more I responded to him negatively, the more mental power I gave him over me. So after consciously deciding to stop reacting negatively to his actions and feeding into him, my life became more peaceful; and to my surprise, he was more enraged and upset with my positive actions or non-reactions. He eventually figured out that I was not going to react out of pocket towards him anymore, so he stopped for a while. To this day, he still tries to get a rise out of me, but his antics don’t work.
After I realized that my son’s father wanted a drama-filled relationship, I thought to myself…WHY? Why would any man want a relationship with a woman that is a 24/7 headache? Then I realized that unfortunately, this is what some men want because they get a rise out of it and they just like women with a little extra fire in their bones. I also came to the sad conclusion that some men are simply used to having relationships with women who like to perform dramatically because it is what they are used to. Now, some women may say that the men they are involved in relationships with make them behave in a certain manner. This may be true to some extent because oftentimes, when something doesn’t go the way it was anticipated, we allow our emotions to get the best of us, and we instantly react without thinking. However, it is always better to walk away from a person and a situation before you allow it to get the best of you. My relationship with my son’s father taught me some valuable lessons, but the most valuable lesson I learned is not to allow someone to take me out of my character as a woman. This lesson is a simple, commonsense one that is known, but it is often overlooked and not applied. With learning this lesson, I also had to learn how to put aside my ego and control my emotions. Putting aside my ego and controlling my emotions allowed me to listen to the person and filter through what they were saying and how they were reacting, giving me the advantage when I responded because I gathered all information needed to render a calm, intelligent response…which in turn angered them, insulted their pride, or caused them to back down and apologize. How and why do I put aside my ego and control my emotions? I pray and ask God to show me how He wants me to handle situations, and every time I do He shows me. The drama my son’s father wanted out of me was something I refused to give him. In fact, the drama that anyone wants me to give them is something I refuse to give because a moment of drama is not worth me laying aside the woman I am. What would it prove? Nothing. How would I benefit from it? I wouldn’t. Is it worth it? Not at all. Maintaining your character is worth more than a moment of ego driven drama. Let it go and let God.
Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For? Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin.
Bridezillas And Hating Bridesmaids: 10 Things You Shouldn’t Say Or Do When You’re Planning Or Participating In A Wedding
I know I’m not the only person who felt enormously stressed by simply being asked to be a bridesmaid in a wedding. The whole opportunity to support my loved one was nice, but I saw a side of folks, including other bridesmaids and the bride, that I wasn’t too crazy about. If you are the one planning a wedding or just trying to take part in one to make somebody else happy, please don’t be the person to do the following:
Don’t Assume People Are Balling Out Of Control
You might be rolling in dough while preparing for your big day, or as the maid of honor, you might want the bridesmaids to put in big dollars for getaways, spa sessions, and unique ways to celebrate bridal showers and bachelorette parties, but always remember that times are hard. With people having to buy dresses, gifts, pay for travel expenses and more, folks need to be reasonable in what they expect from wedding parties and family, unless you just want to keep things very small. But trust, if people can’t afford certain expenses, I’m sure they’ll let you know reeeeeeeeal quick.
“I Mean…His Music Still Hot”: Chris Brown Discusses Drake Drama, Tupac And People Testing His Patience On Purpose
Chris Brown has been out and about lately in an effort to promote his upcoming release, X, which will be released in the late summer. However, his lead single, “Fine China” will drop on April 1. While talking about the music, Brown has also been discussing Rihanna and the drama that surrounds his life. He continued to do just that when visiting Big Boy’s Neighborhood today. He opened up about trying to “coexist” in this music industry with arch-nemesis (kidding!) Drake, his love for Tupac, people testing his patience, and how past depression after the infamous domestic violence incident between him and Rihanna in 2009 and the backlash he received for years helped shape him into a better man.
“Oh yeah, people can coexist in the music industry.
It’s more me being real saying what I gotta say. I ain’t out here trying to go at him, I ain’t got ni**as–I aint got people after him. We just chillin’. I have my differences and he has his. His music still hot!”
On whether the female DJ who played “Started From The Bottom” in the club (when he said “F**k Drake!” on the microphone), and other people in general are trying to test his patience:
“I be chillin. I would look like the corniest dude ever if I sat up there and got mad every time I heard his records. He gone hear me, I’m gone hear him…I’m not going to put myself in a situation for anything to mess up my career. Focus on what it is and focus on the music.
It was funny, I think the girl tweeted and said, “OMG, he called me a girl DJ. Yes, I said it’s awesome we have a lady DJ in here. I said that’s amazing. I don’t know how that was sexist or you take offense to that. But it’s always a target or you feel like it’s a target. Also, it’s also me too. It’s the choices I make and it’s also me having to be able not to put myself in those surrounding or in those situations. It’s just a learning process.”
On doing a better job of keeping his relationship with Rihanna out of the public eye:
“It also has a lot to do with how much we’re in the public eye or how accessible we are. Mystery is key. That’s why half the time I don’t get on my Twitter, I don’t even have an Instagram anymore. The mystery is in the music and in the magic. Whatever my talent is I want people to focus on that so I can be able to do my personal stuff without people having to KNOW, know.
His appreciation of Tupac:
“I just identify with a young black male who deals with trials and tribulations but who can express his art through his poetry. I’m passionate so I can identify with that. Everything I do is passionate, I wear my heart on my sleeve…I can identify with how Tupac kind of had that in him.”
On whether dealing with the animosity towards him after the domestic violence episode in 2009:
“I was going through early stages of depression. I prayed on it, I stayed humble and stuck with all the people I grew up with. Went back to being Christopher instead of Chris Brown…it happened when I was 18, so 19 is the year everybody was like ‘We’re not playing his music, we don’t really like him. It’s a no all the time!’ For a 19-year-old young man it’s kind of hard not being able to accept people not liking you when they loved you for whatever. It was kind of hard, even friends not talking to you, friends in the industry talking bad about you, but I think it’s a learning step for me. I wouldn’t even take it back. I wouldn’t change it for the world. What I went through and what I’m going through now in life is making me a better person.”
Check out both parts of his interview on the next page!