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Get Em’ Bae: Should Your Man Fight Your Battles With Your Friends?

February 8th, 2015 - By Toya Sharee
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So by now if you’re familiar with my taste in TV, you know my guilty pleasure are the ladies featured on Lifetime’s Little Women: LA. The reality show is no different than Basketball Wives or Love and Hip Hop as a group of twenty and thirty-somethings navigate dating, friendship and motherhood with all the added challenges that being a dwarf can bring. Once you get past the height requirement you’ll find the same catty arguments, competitive relationships, and drink throwing that you’ll find on any VH-1 line up.

(**Warning: Spoiler Alert) Last week’s show featured cast mates Terra and Christy going head to head after Terra suspects Christy created unnecessary drama by revealing to friend Traci that Terra is pregnant. Traci has been trying desperately to get pregnant, and Christy who is known for pitting the friends against one another in the past defends her action saying that she wanted to prepare Traci for Terra’s big news since she felt she might feel resentful or jealous that she failed to get pregnant first. Terra ends up calling out Traci for being shady in a big blow up by a friendly bonfire, where Christy’s husband’s Todd runs to her defense. When Traci’s husband Erik’s suggest that Todd let the ladies hash it out on their own, Todd insists that a real man defends his woman, even if it is to her own friends.

Hmm…I can’t completely disagree with where Todd is coming from, but I must admit it’s always made me look at a man funny when he’s involved in drama and cat fights. As stereotypical as it may be, I’m used to men solving their problems with a few cuss words and clowning each other’s sex lives before having a beer over a game of 2K and forgetting why they were mad in the first place. When a guy gets overly involved in the “he said, she said” my respect for him instantly drops down a few notches.

I guess at the end of the day it’s less about what gender you are and more about maturity. Someone has to be the voice of reason and as much as I want my husband to have my back in situations where I feel I may be surrounded by snakes, I also need him to sit me down and be blunt about when I’m being a b**ch.  It’s important for couples to know their place in the partners’ relationships. Some situations don’t require your input and are best left worked out among those directly involved. There are three sides to every story: the person you love’s version, the other person’s point of view and the truth and it’s natural to side with the person you sleep next to every night. But just because you love them, doesn’t mean that they’re right. At the end of the day as much as I may not want my husband to be hurt, he’s a grown ass man and to some extent, can fight his own battles.

You also have to be ready to accept all the things you may not want to hear when everyone has kissed and made up. It’s all good when your better half is on the front line with you because you’ve decided you collectively hate your girl Tamika, but what about when you and Tamika decide to squash it and your man still remembers how upset she made you and all the times HE had to wipe away your tears? You can’t expect other people to forgive those who have caused you pain, just because you’ve decided you’re over it.

My husband is truly my right hand and I most definitely want him to back me up when it counts, but the truth is I know my friends best and it’s unfair to allow him to bully them when the beef is clearly between me and them. When you allow your man to fight your battles, boundaries get crossed that aren’t easy to come back from and he may start to believe he has license to disrespect your friends. It can leave you in an awkward position in the middle exploring where your loyalties lie. You don’t want to create an environment where your man is comfortable talking to your friends however he feels like. At the end of the day how your partner treats those you chose to have in your life says as much about the respect he has for you, as what he has for your friends.

Does your man get involved in you and your friends’ affairs?

Toya Sharee is a community health educator and parenting education coordinator who has a  passion for helping  young women build their self-esteem and make well-informed choices about their sexual health.  She also advocates for women’s reproductive rights and blogs about  everything from beauty to love and relationships. Follow her on Twitter @TheTrueTSharee or visit her blog, Bullets and Blessings.

Rehab For Christmas? Celebrities Who Did NOT Have A Happy Holiday

January 5th, 2015 - By Meg Butler
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Santa wasn’t nice to everyone this year. Along with presents, these celebrities got divorces, failed drug tests and prison visits for Christmas.

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Chris Rock and Malaak Compton-Rock

Divorce is never easy, especially when the news comes during the holidays. But Malaak Compton-Rock has been having an extra unhappy holiday since Page Six spotted Chris Rock spending his holiday vacation in St. Barts with a mystery woman.

Watch: Tamar Quits ‘Braxton Family Values’ In Season 4 Teaser

June 16th, 2014 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Source: WE tv

Those Braxton sisters stay with some drama, but have they finally reached the end of the road? WE tv recently debuted a teaser for season four of the popular series and it looks like the Braxton women have all reached their breaking point. For starters, Tamar basically quit the show during a super dramatic scene with the Braxton family therapist, Dr. Sherry.

“This is not who I am,” an emotional Tamar can be seen telling Dr. Sherry. “This is my last scene and season.”

Of course, we all know that Tamar can get really dramatic at times, so it’s hard to tell whether or not she was merely speaking from a place of hurt or if she actually plans on abandoning the show. So far, no announcements have been made regarding her future with BFV, but her departure wouldn’t be a complete shock. As you may recall, her WE tv spin-off,  “Tamar & Vince,” caused a lot of tension and even seemed to stir up a bit of jealousy amongst the sisters. I suppose we’ll have to stay tuned to see what’s really going on.

The other sister who seems to have reached her tipping point is Towanda. In another scene from the teaser, Towanda goes into complete meltdown mode.

“Nobody cares! Nobody cares about me,” she screams before knocking a bunch of drinking glasses off of a table.

This season is definitely going to be an interesting one. “Braxton Family Values” returns to WE tv in August.

Watch the teaser below. Will you be tuning in?

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Tamala Jones Explains Why She Called Out Porsha Williams; Porsha Fires Back

March 17th, 2014 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Last week we told you that actress Tamala Jones called out RHoA star Porsha Williams over rumors that Porsha is engaged in a hot and heavy romance with Teodoro Nguema Obiang Mangue, son of Teodoro Obiang Nguema Mbasogo, President of Equatorial Guinea. Though Porsha quickly came forward to clear up the rumors, she must not have come forward quickly enough. In no time, Tamala released a statement calling her out.

“Miss Porsha Williams … Now you know you should shame the devil & tell the truth! U grew up in the church & lying was never [ok] … You may have a man, but the one you’re claiming belongs to me! Check your pr or your head but don’t step on my toes,” Tamala tweeted.

After receiving a hail storm of criticism for not only dating a dictator’s son, but stooping to fighting with a woman on social media over a man, Tamala addressed why she found it necessary to call the newly divorced reality star out.

“I came at Porsha to prove she lying,” Tamala told an Instagram follower who came to her defense. “They don’t need anymore heat on how the country’s money is spent, especially when someone is lying about it I wrote to you because you stood up for me & thank you for that. God bless you.”

The “Castle” actress also defended her relationship with Mangue and Equatorial Guinea.

“I don’t care about money…I care about people. Who I date is irrelevant, what I do is. Equatorial Guinea has had a bad rep 4 too long .. I spend time there donating to the 1st ladies school 4 children .. I’m also planning to build a women’s & children health center .. Nobody ever shows the positive .. This country is beautiful & the people are not starving, their public housing is better than some people’s homes in the US .. I wish people would go see things for themselves instead of reading bs!!”

Interestingly, after remaining silent regarding Tamala’s attempt to call her out, Porsha finally responded.

” @TamalaJones TMZ came up with the story take it up with them and your man. You seem cool stop embarassing yourself #notinterestedinhim.”

“@TamalaJones Please stop tweeting me. DM me so I can teach you how to release an official statement to claim your man. #childish.”

Tamala’s publicist Mo Greene then responded to Porsha.

“@Porsha4real Hello Porsha, this is @tamalajones Publicist. Your Latest comment was very unnecessary. My client has not mentioned you in any negative regard. Please refrain from any publicity antics you are trying to pull. My client is a very well-known and respected actress and wishes not to be pull into any media or television drama. TY have a great Day.”

Messy.

Y’all Got To Do Better: Celebrity Baby Mama Drama That’s Too Common In Hollywood

January 27th, 2014 - By Meg Butler
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Relationships are tough — especially when you’re living them out in the spotlight. We’ve seen makeups, breakups, shade, and twitter feuds as our favorite celebrities try to navigate the the ins and outs of their non-traditional family situations. Here are 15 kinds of celebrity baby drama making headlines these days.

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The Future Reality Show

We’re glad that Ciara is taking the high road and getting along with all three of Future’s baby mama’s, but this Instagram publicity shot of the whole team feels…awkward. Does anyone smell a reality show in the mix?

Do You Have Sudden Reaction Syndrome?

November 15th, 2013 - By Madame Noire
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Does this ever happen to you? While having a normal conversation with your partner, one of you gets triggered into a sudden extreme reaction. It may become a hot volcanic explosion or a cold freeze when one person shuts the connection down completely.

We call this “Sudden Reaction Syndrome”. Perhaps you were talking about a chore to be done or a bill to be paid. Maybe it occurred during a simple discussion about an upcoming event or another person. Without warning, and often without explanation, there’s yelling, blaming, bickering… or abrupt withdrawal.

Many people try to solve or fix the conflict by asking, “Who started it?” This question is not very helpful; it’s better to inquire, “Why does this keep happening?” Even more important is the question, “What can we do to prevent it from happening again?”

To change the nature of vicious reaction cycles, you need to understand trauma, which is usually at the core of Sudden Reaction Syndrome (SRS). In clinical literature, the severe form is called Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

However, sudden reactions come in a very wide range, from mild to severe. On one side of the spectrum are outward-directed reactions, such as:

  • Escalation in language or tone (outbursts of anger, blame, etc.)
  • Expressions of verbal or physical domination and control
  • Threatening non-verbal body language or facial expressions
  • Moderate to high drama
  • Momentary or sustained violence.

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Signs Your Man May Be Cheating (That You Often Ignore)

October 10th, 2013 - By Meg Butler
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Something’s different. And you have a sneaking suspicion that he’s up to no good. Could he be cheating? We’ve got a few signs that suggest he might be. If we’ve missed any of the breadcrumbs that clued you in, leave ‘em in the comments section.

The Allen Iverson Child Support Wars Continue: Ex-wife Seeking Over $1 Million In Child Support!

August 31st, 2013 - By Drenna Armstrong
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The Allen Iverson child support woes continue as his ex-wife is seeking the rest of the money for their children.

Tawanna Iverson filed documents earlier this month asking a judge to order Iverson to pay up front child support for their children until 2026 when their youngest child turns 18. The total comes out to just over $1.2 million, according to TMZ.

Tawanna has notoriously had to take Allen to court over child support issues in just the last year. When they divorced, he was order to pay $8,000 per month but refused to do so. After going back and forth yet again, a judge ordered Allen to pay $40,000 in back support.

Basically, she’s trying to be proactive in all the Allen Iverson child support drama.

No word on how the judge will rule yet but clearly, Tawanna thinks she will have to continue to fight him in court to financially take care of their children and she doesn’t want to do it anymore.

The Iversons had quite the tumultuous relationship until their divorce was finalized in February. Unfortunately, their children are being hurt by the continued messiness.

One thing for sure: Allen Iverson must have some secret accounts somewhere to make all of these payments. No one really believed he was as broke as it was originally reported anyway.

Dawn Robinson Says ‘R&B Divas’ Producers Unhappy With Show’s Lack of Drama

August 12th, 2013 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Source: WENN

It’s no secret that there has been quite a bit of drama going down behind the scenes on the set of R&B Divas: Atlanta; executive producers Nicci Gilbert and Faith Evans have been pretty vocal about that. But who knew there was messiness on the set of R&B Divas: LA as well? Dawn Robinson recently opened up to Mara the Hip Hop Socialite about what’s been going on when the cameras weren’t rolling and the way she’s telling the story, initially, producers were pretty frustrated with the show’s lack of drama. She also expressed that she believes the show was craftily edited to make co-star Kelly Price look bad. Sound familiar? Check some highlights from her interview below.

On Kelly Price’s portrayal on the show:

“See, this is the thing; this is what’s hard. When you show a bunch a stuff, and you have all this footage, and then they just break it down to certain parts of it, and then they omit certain things that you did say, but they don’t put that part in there because they want you to look a certain way. So this is why I was telling her, ‘Kelly, whatever we do, don’t react to people in an angry way, because they’re going to film that, and that’s what they’re gong to show. They want to show us fighting against each other, they want to show anger, the angry Black woman, and you’re so much better than that. Please hold your peace as much as you can, and don’t let these people take you off your greatness. You are a queen – we don’t go there, don’t do it.’”

On being led to believe that the show wouldn’t be about drama and bickering:

“They said they wanted a different type of show. They did not want drama – they pretty much guaranteed that it wasn’t going to be drama. That it was going to be a positive show. What the guy Phil [Thornton] told me – Phil is one of the producers –  he said, ‘We want this to be like a ‘Waiting to Exhale’ type show.’ ‘Cause I told them, ‘As long as it’s classy. I come from a classy group, and plus I was raised by my parents to be a good person. I don’t go for that drama and fighting and all that stuff.’ So when they offered me Atlanta ‘R&B Divas’, I said no, because I don’t live in Atlanta.’ I was working on a project with Maxine [En Vogue group mate] at the time, and I was just afraid like a lot of artists who are afraid to do a reality show because of what they see happen to other artists on reality shows. So I turned it down because I was afraid, not because I was being difficult. I was just afraid, and I didn’t want to relocate too. I live in LA, I didn’t want to relocate to Atlanta. But of course they’re going to tell you only half of the story, and again, I don’t care to…I’m a grown woman, I’m 47-years-old. I don’t care what people think about me, I stand for myself, I stand for truth, and that’s always going to be who I am.”

On being told by producers that the show was boring because there was no drama initially:

“Because we were such a part of the show, the producers speak to us midway and said, ‘You guys have a boring show.’ And I said at the meeting, ‘Is that because we’re not fighting against each other? We’re not pulling each other’s hair out? We’re not negative against each other? Is that because we support each other, and we’re loving towards each other as women? You want to see the negativity because in your mind, drama is what gets the ratings.
But at the same time right now, what we’re seeing is that the show so far – and this is midway through filming. so this is half way through filming – what we’re seeing now is that the show, so far the four episodes that they’ve shown have been very positive and very loving, and people are reacting to the positivity on the show. And so, they have the highest rating in TV One history, our show is the highest rated show in TV One history, and that’s positivity. This show is not negative so far, and yet you guys have the highest rated show in TV One history without any drama? That says a lot – that means it was never necessary in the first place. Real life has enough drama in it without having to add to it and create some stuff ’cause you guys want ratings. It’s just ridiculous, so it’s pretty sad, but we don’t control that.”
On how Kelly Price feels about her depiction on the show: 
“I’ve just been praying with Kelly because her heart is broken over what she’s sees of herself [on the show]. You build up a career to a certain point, you fought and battled through that career to be heard and seen. People talked about her weight and all the different things, and now to have a reality show tear you down? Uh uh, no, uh uh, no way! I’ll be damned. Because these people go on to get different jobs, when we have only one career. I always tell people that all the time. You guys can get six other women in our place; each season, a new group of six women. We only have one career. I only have one Dawn Robinson, and I’ll be damned if somebody’s going to come in and take it all because of some reality show. That is not what I signed up for! I signed up for positivity.”

 

Guess It’s All Our Fault: Chris Brown’s Seizure Allegedly Caused By ‘Constant Negativity”

August 10th, 2013 - By Drenna Armstrong
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Source: WENN

Well, talk about taking the easy way out.

On Friday, reports surfaced that Chris Brown had a seizure while at a recording studio.  There were few details about what caused it but the news was that he’d suffered from them as a child.

Well, now we have our answer: if you’ve ever said something bad about Breezy, it was your fault.

That’s right, according to TMZ, Brown is blaming his seizure on the people who bring him down. They contacted his rep and received the following response when asked what triggered it:

It was due to “intense fatigue and extreme emotional stress, both due to the continued onslaught of unfounded legal matters and the nonstop negativity.”

He must have forgotten that it is his temper that seems to flare to the “Nth power” as soon as someone says something he doesn’t like. He must have forgotten that during that car accident situation from a couple of months ago, he was the one who gave false information.

So, we’re sorry, Chris, if you decided that you wanted to act like a member of a new millennium version of NWA and have given us no reason to really like you anymore.  We’re sorry that you won’t take a break to get yourself together so that you know how to deal with pressure a bit better.

But please, spare us the sob story and be accountable.

That said, we don’t wish the worst on anyone so we truly hopes he finds out what triggered the seizure and can get it under control.  There are many of us who know what stress can do to the body (and we don’t doubt that he has a lot of it) so maybe if he can get to a place where he finds some peace – because we know people will never stop talking – this type of thing won’t happen again.