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My parents love boxing. My dad loves to tell people stories about how he took my mother to a fight, when they were still dating, and she was so full of adrenaline that when a woman stood up in front of her, blocking her view, she subconsciously pushed her back down into her seat.
And though years later, my mother began to find it too barbaric, my father is still a fan.
Earlier this week, he and I were talking and I asked him about his plans for the weekend. He said that he was planning on inviting our male family members and his friends over to watch the Mayweather/Pacquiao fight. But he was a little disappointed that the receiver connecting his sound systems to the television wasn’t working, so they wouldn’t be able to experience the fight in surround sound.
He was disappointed but he was still going to host, particularly since my grandfather, my dad’s father-in-law, was so excited about it.
But a few days later, my dad called us back to say that he was having additional reservations about paying $100 for the event.
“You know, I just don’t know if I can put money into Mayweather’s pocket knowing what he does to women.”
If you’re unfamiliar, Floyd Mayweather has a well-documented history of abuse against women, both physical and emotional.
In 2010, he pled guilty to assaulting his ex-girlfriend and mother of his child Josie Harris. He spent two months in jail for the crime. He posted images of ex girlfriend Shantel Jackson’s abortion and defended the decision saying that Shantel asked him to make her famous.
His own son, Koraun, called him a coward for not only the way he treated his mother, but refusing to admit it. Some of his children have witnessed the abuse and have been threatened by their father. He’s pulled a gun on the woman with whom he was in an intimate relationship.
And if that weren’t enough, there’s also the slut-shaming. Mayweather was quoted as saying, “If a female shows half of her body, she’s asking to be disrespected.”
It’s a lot y’all.
In fact, Deadspin reported that there are at least seven documented instances of assault with five different women attached to Mayweather’s name.
He has a problem. And after my father did some research and learned some of this information, he just couldn’t support him.
I spoke to him today about his decision and he said, “It’s too concentrated an effort to abuse women. It’s so hypocritical that we made such a big deal about Ray Rice. Ray Rice is a choirboy compared to Mayweather.”
And while my father came to the conclusion, it wasn’t an easy one.
“I appreciate boxing and I appreciate his style. He’s a bad boy! But every penny you pay, he gets a percentage.”
My dad admits that he wants to see the fight and he’s certainly receiving quite a bit of pressure to watch it. My 96-year-old grandfather called my father again today asking him if he was sure he didn’t want to watch the fight. When my dad said no, he wasn’t paying for it, my grandfather, who is a devout, old-school, non-imbibing Christian, suggested that they go and watch it at a local bar.
My dad says my grandfather is looking to him for permission.
Fear of missing out (FOMO) is real.
And I understand it. I don’t think it’s an understatement to say that this is the event of the Spring.
But sometimes, it’s just not worth it to be in the know.
This was not to shame anyone about their decision to watch Mayweather get paid to do what he does outside of the ring as well; but I do wonder, did anyone else have these same reservations?
WNBA players Brittney Griner and Glory Johnson still plan to tie the knot on May 8, despite their recent arrest. Last week, the couple was taken into police custody following a brutal domestic altercation stemming from serious “relationship issues.”
As previously reported, cops were called to the couple’s residence by Johnson’s sister after guests were unsuccessful in their attempts to pry the women apart. Friday, Johnson took to Instagram with an apologetic message letting fans know that she and Brittney are doing okay and that they still intend to take the plunge. Her message reads:
WE’RE OK! @brittneygriner and I are home, injury-free, and still wedding planning! We know we must set better examples, even during the most trying times, and we are EXTREMELY sorry for all the negative attention we brought to ourselves, our family, and the league. We are actively seeking help in order to do BETTER. Thanks for all the Love, Support, and Prayers that were sent our way. #LoveLife #StillBlessed #WorkInProgress #NobodysPerfect.
As the WNBA continues to investigate the incident, many have been taking to the Internet demanding that both Johnson and Griner receive the appropriate punishment for their actions.
Just a couple of months ago, we were reporting on Brittney Griner and her fiancée Glory Johnson’s appearance on “Say Yes to the Dress: Atlanta.” Unfortunately, it seems that things have gone awry between the lovers.
According to TMZ Sports, the pair was arrested in Phoenix, Arizona yesterday following a domestic dispute. Law enforcement responded the couple’s home at 4:30 pm after receiving a 911 call from Johnson’s sister about a violent altercation between the two women.
Cops who responded to the call say that both parties had “minor physical injures” when they arrived. Griner had multiple cuts and a bite wound while Johnson was bleeding from a lip injury. A police report from the incident reveals that Griner and Johnson had been fighting for a few days and had been experiencing serious “relationship issues.”
The more recent altercation erupted after Griner threw a dog bowl at the wall. Johnson’s sister said that she broke down and called the police because no one was able to “get them pulled apart” and she feared for their safety. It was not immediately clear what they were fighting about.
Griner and Johnson announced their engagement last summer and had plans to tie the knot next month. It’s unclear if the wedding is still on at this point. The WNBA has confirmed that they’re currently investigating the incident.
Shanetta: Hi Damon, I know it’s pretty common to hear about women who have a child with a man and can’t let them go afterwards but in my case, the roles are reversed. Between the constant strolls down memory lane, flirting, attitudes whenever I get male attention and the infamous weekly declarations of his love and desire to be with me, (literally almost every week since I became pregnant 3 years ago), it takes a toll. Now the problem is, the day I took the test, he left, packed his things and told me to get an abortion. I didn’t hear from him again until about 2 weeks later. By then, my trust in him was completely destroyed. So finally, my question is, is the fear of becoming a father THAT real to make you leave the one you supposedly love? Also, what do I do when a man goes above and beyond to prove his love for me, but rarely acknowledges our child without my pushing him to do so?
DY: Whether it’s because of nerves, anxiety, or just plain fear, it’s not extremely uncommon for men to freak out about a pregnancy. Of course, not all men do this. In fact, most don’t. But some hear that news and just don’t know how to handle it.
But, there’s a difference between “freaking out” and “breaking up with your girl and telling her to abort the child.” That’s just insane. And badgering you about getting together — while at the same time ignoring his child — takes the insanity to another level. At this point, you just need to tell him that while you’ll need his help in raising your child, the romantic relationship ship has sailed. One baby is enough. No need to be raising two.
More than a year after their violent Valentine’s Day incident made headlines, Ray and Janay Rice are speaking out about the night that changed their lives forever. In an interview with New York magazine, Janay revealed that Ray’s priorities became a bit distorted and he was all about his NFL career as their relationship progressed.
“Football came before everything and everyone,” Janay recalled.
While she admits that she understood Ray being career focused, it did present a strain in their relationship.
“It was definitely frustrating. It was hard knowing I wasn’t his first priority,” she explained.
According to the 27-year-old, things intensified once she gave birth to their daughter, Rayven, who didn’t sleep much at the time.
“I felt I was doing everything by myself,” Janay said. “After a while, I resented that. I felt like a walking zombie. I told Ray he needed to change more diapers.”
Though she voiced her concerns, Ray only came up with more excuses to stay away from home, including booking charity engagements on his only day off.
“I get home, I’m spent,” he recalled. “There’s no time to talk. ‘I got practice the next day.’ ”
Ray went on to say that things worsened and communication came to a halt.
“It got to the point where if she had an issue, I would basically just go silent,” he said. “There wasn’t a lot of yelling, screaming, nothing. I would just wake up, go to practice. Then game day gets here. I’d rush for three touchdowns. The family’s over at the house. She’s still got that problem she’s thinking about. And I think, I scored three touchdowns today. Everything’s all right.”
“That’s not what a man does,” Janay recalled telling him. “I know what a man is supposed to be. I know how a man acts in a relationship. I know what a father is. I experienced it.”
The night of the fight, Janay recalls wanting to spend time with her then fiancé, but instead he chose to partake in a group celebration with his half-brother, his girlfriend and another couple at the Revel Casino.
“It was an annoyance to me,” Janay said. “I was a little perturbed, though I didn’t communicate that to him.”
Instead, she stayed silent for the entire three-hour car ride to Atlantic City, New Jersey. After having a few drinks, the couple began bickering.
“We were drunk and tired,” Janay said.
Eventually, the altercation took a violent turn and Ray knocked Janay unconscious in the hotel elevator.
“Ma, I made a huge mistake,” Ray recalled a text message he sent to his mother. “I’m probably going to go to jail tonight.”
And of course, we know how the rest of the story unfolded. Apparently, the interview is a part of Ray’s attempts to redeem himself and clean up his image in hopes that an NFL team will pick him up for the 2015 season.
You can check out the couple’s full interview here. Thoughts?
It’s one of the worst feelings in the world to find out that someone you admire isn’t really who you thought they were. We’ve all felt that way when our favorite actors, singers and public figures had their bad behavior put on blast after being arrested or exposed by someone from their past. Here are a few uber-popular stars who still remain in the spotlight (and still get a lot of love from fans) despite past violent behavior.
Terrence Howard actually has more in common with his “Empire” character, Lucious Lyon, than you might think. Like Lyon, Howard has an extremely dark past: the actor has been accused of domestic violence at least six times. Some of these counts include the time he allegedly approached his ex-wife with a knife before knocking her down and kicking her. He was also accused of choking and punching another ex-lover in the face.
Ever since singer Michel’le transitioned into the world of reality tv, she’s been very open and candid about her relationships with both Dr. Dre and Suge Knight. And while we might assume, based on his track record, that Suge was the most violent in their relationship, it was actually Dr. Dre who gave her the most trouble. It was quite the shocker. And since the news is so unexpected, it’s the question that consistently comes up during her interviews.
Recently, the R&B Diva sat down with Vlad TV and revealed some more details about the extent of the abuse with Dr. Dre, including the time he shot at her. See what she had to say in these excerpts below and then watch the full video below.
You and Dr. Dre have a child together right?
Yes, he’s 24. Right at the peak of my–I went on the Hammer tour and found out I was 6 weeks pregnant and we had two more months to go. I had to come home and drop that baby and finish out some more shows and then I became a stay-at-home mommy. Which made my career go *makes car screeching noise* I don’t advise it if you want to be in this business. The baby can take a year and a half off. You want to bond with your child.
Her relationship with Dre after the child
It became more strained because he was able to get up and just go where I couldn’t do that anymore. I couldn’t follow him anymore. And I think it became more disrespectful because then, if you’re not there, somebody else will be. I don’t want to say he wasn’t ready to have a baby but he had already just had a baby. When I met him he had two women pregnant… When I met him one was in the belly and then one had just dropped. So there were two babies born within a year or so apart. And we had just started dating…So three already, one had just came out and one was in the belly. That was five. Mine made number six. While I was with him he had two more. I know! I know! I don’t know I just guess I cared for him. I know it doesn’t make sense now.
How bad the abuse get?
I had five black eyes. Oh I was getting dragged on the floor, shot at…
What led to the shooting?
We partied…and I guess I don’t know what I always did. And I always say it couldn’t have just been me. So one night we was arguing, he went and got the gun and I just made it through the bathroom door and he shot at me and missed me by this (holds up measurement fingers) much. He shot at me. And you know what I did? I left the bullet in the hole. It was in the door and then it went through the side of the wall in the bathroom and I left it there for a while, just so he could see it. But he never tried to shoot me anymore. Thank God. But the beatings were…it was a lot.
You know what my grandmother said, eventually: ‘When a man beats you, he doesn’t like you. He has women issues and it starts probably with their mothers.’ And I said ‘You’re probably right.’
Oh! I tried off and on. I would move out. Ok, yes, I would move down the street. Ok maybe I wasn’t trying to get too far away. But because we always got back together. We had been together for almost a decade. We would break up, I’d give him three months to sew his wild oats, thinking ‘Of course we’re going to get back together.’ And that didn’t happen. And I think his last wife, I just couldn’t do it anymore. It’s too much. I’d already waited out the babies, the baby mamas, the hookers, the hoes…I was growing up and I was just going, ‘It’s got to be something better.’
Was it for the money?
And it wasn’t about money because we (her family) were never broke. I never got with Dre for money because he didn’t have a driver’s license, a car or insurance…or a house. We lived with his Auntie, who I ended up calling mommy.
Was he helping financially with his child?
Yes…well, I had to take him to court but…well, that’s an issue right? You should never have to do that. But now they’re great.
If he just would have done the right thing, I wouldn’t have needed to go to court.
Lord. Michel’le has been through it all! You can watch the full interview below.
Chris Brown Talks Awkward Domestic Violence PSA At The Grammys, And Why He’s Ready To Impregnate, But Not Marry Karrueche
Anytime Chris Brown sits down for an interview, you can be sure that he’s going to say something very interesting or very crazy. I’ll let you decide which statements are what after you check out what he had to say on The Breakfast Club today. The singer, there to promote his tour with with Trey Songz and the Fan of a Fan album with Tyga, talked about why he falls out with Karrueche publicly, why he went in on Tamar Braxton and Adrienne Bailon, and people continuously bringing up his past. He definitely had a lot to say. Check it out.
If His Social Media Rants Get Him Into Trouble With The Judge Presiding Over His Probation
I wouldn’t talk about the judge because I’m not off probation all the way. So I would say that I don’t think it would make a difference. I think even if I was at church every day, it would be something to talk about. I think how media has kind of–not to say targeted me because I’m not here to be like “Woe is me,” that’s bullshit. But I feel like the only thing that’s highlighted in my career over the last five years is my negativity. Only thing I can do is put my positive music out and do what I do and be great at that. That’s the only thing that has been successful is the music. People can’t deny an undeniable hit.
The Percentage Of Blame He Would Put On Himself And The Media For His Image
It’s 50/50. I’m not going to sit there and say I’m a saint. But I definitely say that a lot of the choices I made in the past reflect now. So now, I don’t have the benefit of the doubt. “Oh, Chris didn’t do it.” People be like, “No, he did it!” It’s because of my past decisions.
Why Chris & Karrueche Always Fall Out Publicly
A lot of the times, I’m impulsive. I don’t have no filter. Whether it’s a relationship issue, whether it’s her or me, we don’t know how to communicate sometimes, to be able to be like, let’s talk about this before we say some sh*t and then we’re back together next week. Then you give everybody else the option to depict our relationship and set their own basis for how we live our life. It’s better for growth and maturity when you communicate and talk through a relationship and understand each other. I’d rather do that and not make my stuff as public because it’s not anybody’s opinion! And people’s lives is sh*t so they can’t comment on mine anyway.
Agreeing With Kanye Saying That Karrueche Probably Couldn’t Do Better Than Brown, And Bringing Up Rihanna
I feel what he meant by it. I’m not saying that as an arrogant statement…there’s nowhere else to go. Even with ol’ girl. The first one. Who else she gon’ go to? That’s nice, [Leonardo DiCaprio] is a good choice, but who else in this game she gon’ go to? Some corny singing rapper? You know what I’m saying? What she do now, I got respect for her and whatever her choice is, but at the time, not to toot my own horn, but who’s hotter than me?
Where Things Stand With Rihanna Now
We’re cordial. I respect her space. She respects mine. Too much talking leads to “Hey, what you doing? What’s up? What’s up? We gon’ hang out?” It just complicates things.
On People Bringing Up His Abusive Past
It’s not even about, “Oh, he doesn’t show any remorse.” How much remorse am I going to show? It’s been damn near almost 10 years. I just feel like, if you not going to get over it, you’re never going to get over it.
Why He Lashed Out At Tamar And Adrienne Bailon
Mine is a roast. If you want to say something about me, let me just joke. But I don’t say the stuff that’s like, “Okay, yeah, he got her.” I say the stuff that’s going to hurt and feel like someone took a dagger to your veins. I’m getting smart now because I’m realizing that when people are in panic mode and they need to sell something or they need to get ratings, it’s “Let’s poke at Chris Brown because he’ll bite on it. He’ll say something and we’ll get a reaction out of him because guess what? It’s going to bring our ratings through the roof because he’s going to go all the way and then he’s going to look like the bad guy and we’re going to win.” I’m starting to realize it. It’s still fun to me because I like to entertain.
On The Domestic Violence PSA At The Grammys
I left before that came on. I didn’t even know until I looked at my Instagram and Twitter. My thing is, that’s great. If you’re going to focus on that, that’s great. But also talk about Mike Brown. Talk about all these injustices going on as far as politically, and all the things that’s wrong with our country. Don’t use the music to just talk about domestic violence, because ya’ll don’t talk about it on nothin’ else…Then you got other people in the crowd that are artists, I don’t know half these people because I don’t listen to their music, but I saw little tweets like, “Well then you shouldn’t have let Chris Brown come to the awards.” To me, that’s a slap in my face, because that has nothing to do with you. If you are in a totally different lane and you’re doing whatever you’re doing, your opinion shouldn’t be that valid. You should worry about what the hell you’re doing. Old Chris Brown would have come over and smacked you in your mouth, but the new one is like, “Cool, tell me how to get into them pearly gates since you’re perfect. I need to know how to get on that VIP list because I want to get there too.”
If He’s Ready To Settle Down With Karrueche
I’m too young for that. I can deal with babies. That’s different. I don’t follow the certain formula…I’m cool having a baby. The marriage thing? I’m not cool with giving you half of what I earned all my life. Prenups, all that, that’s cool. But in our generation, marriage has been distorted to our generation of people because it hasn’t worked. The older generation, it worked…as our culture, generations from being teenagers to now, it’s all about the turn up. I’m not promoting the turn up, but that’s what our mentality is. So it’s all about what’s hot at the time. Those values aren’t instilled in us right now. We don’t have leaders to instill that. I’m particularly not going to be that leader because I’m going to turn up with you [laughs]. As I progress and find out who I am more, when I’m more in my 30s, then maybe.
What He Thinks Of People Saying He Could Have Been The Next MJ, But Blew It
The funny thing is, I am on that level. I’m not saying I am Beyoncé and Michael Jackson. If you know you’re great, you know you’re great. When people say, “He’s supposed to be that,” it’s because they know I am that.
I can’t look back and say, “I wish I could have done it this way,” because I’ll be mad at my life because I didn’t get it to the fullest potential. All I can do now is say, “You know what, I’m just going to to kill everything I do.”
Toya Wright Talks Separation From Memphitz, K. Michelle’s Accusations And Declining ‘Love And Hip Hop’
Ever since K Michelle made her initial claims that producer Memphitz physically abused her, we wanted to know who this guy was. And it turns out, not only was he still involved in the industry, he was romantically linked–and then married to another recognizable name and face, Toya Wright.
And while both Memphitz, Toya and even some of their friends have always vehemently denied that he abused K. Michelle, the association alone took a great toll on Memphitz’s career and ultimately his marriage to Toya. Essentially, she believes it’s the reason they are separated today. And in a recent interview with Necole Bitchie, she explained what all of this did to Memphis mentally and how it hurt their marriage.
The current status of their relationship:
The current status of me and my husband [is] we are separated at the moment. And, we’re just- everybody has their marital issues. And right now, you know, we’re separated.
I mean, what is going on with my husband, like I said when I spoke on it, is bigger than me. Micky has been going through something for the last few years since the whole lawsuit thing against his ex [K. Michelle] and Viacom and it really took a toll on him and it caused him to be a different person. So I think that, going through all of those things, and having all of that stress and the world looking at you one way as a “woman beater” and person that steals someone’s money. It’s hard for you to get back into your industry when you had a career and not a [just] job and somebody defames your character. I mean, it’s a lot to deal with day to day.
And I watched it. I went through it with him for three years. And I’ve been to counseling with him and all types of things so he can get back strong. It’s a lot for him that’s on him and choosing to live our marriage publicly. Everybody has an opinion and when somebody has the bigger platform to share their story and the other person doesn’t, it kind of gets one sided.
And for him- I always get upset when he reacts out of anger on social media because I know that’s not really him and that it’s coming from a bitter, angry place because the world has turned him into that person, constantly accusing him of doing this and doing that and he’s constantly struggling to get back to what he had.
On fighting for her Marriage
When I met him, he had a career. He was a self made guy with his own. And then to fall back into my shadow and then to be known as a “woman beater” it’s kind of a lot.
I’m just praying for him and praying for our situation. I’m a person that is all about love and our family and I don’t like to give up. Especially being married two times. I don’t even like to go through the whole dating stage and all of that. I love my husband and I’m praying that we can get through this and he can get back right to the person that I met because he’s not the person that I met. This whole situation has changed him into someone else.
Where his resentment toward her came from…
You know he started to blame me, for- you know- he had the opportunity when it first happened to go on the show and um-
Love and Hip Hop. He wanted me to go on the show with him. Well, the producer wanted me on the show but that’s not really my thing and I was like ‘No, we’re newlyweds. And we have kids.’
That show don’t really represent what I represent as a woman. I was like, ‘Na, I don’t want to do that,’ because it’s so much drama. Not that I have anything against it, it’s just not for me.
So, he felt like, it was my fault that he didn’t go on the show and he had the opportunity to defend himself. We took another route and that route caused him to get blackballed in the industry and he kind of blames me for that and I have to deal with that everyday.
At that point, we had just got married. And to go on a show and argue with your ex, even for me to be put in that situation, I just felt like it was too much. I was totally against that and he just felt like, this was the opportunity for him to defend himself and was like, ‘No, I don’t think so. If this is not true, then you should handle it accordingly.
If someone is defaming your character, you gotta sue them or do what you gotta do. Especially after you ask them not to mention your name or likeness and they did it anyway, and it’s like [the show] lead people- even if they didn’t say your name- it lead people to my [husband] and… he started to resent me for that.
At the end of the day, I can’t go against what I believe in. That’s not something I was cool with. I don’t want my husband on a tv show, going back and forth with his ex, [while] we’re trying to move forward. You’re in another relationship, that’s your past.
So, another woman is accusing Columbus Short of abuse.
According to TMZ, Agostina Laneri, who is reportedly pregnant by Short, requested a restraining order against the former “Scandal” actor last week. In Laneri’s filing, she accused Short of being emotionally abusive to her and physically abusive to her child. During one incident, Laneri alleged that he struck her son and then when she confronted him about it, he justified it by saying that “the boy needed to learn.” Bizarrely, she also claims that he threatened to kill fellow actor Jamie Foxx.
“If I choose to kill one of these n****s … I will do that,” Laneri claims Short told her. “I’m that crazy n**** that will be on the news as the n**** that murked [murdered] Jamie Foxx.”
Laneri also says that he told her, “Y’all should be very afraid. Very afraid,” and “Don’t forget who I am. I have a knife.” Of course, this isn’t the first time that Short has been accused of trying to intimidate a lover with a knife. As you may recall, Short’s estranged wife Tanee McCall-Short alleged that the actor pulled out a knife and held it to her throat.
“He placed the knife close to my neck and threatened to kill me and then kill himself,” McCall-Short told police. “He insisted that we play a game he called ‘Truth or Truth’ and told me if I lied to him he was going to stab me in the leg. He started randomly listing names of people we knew and accused me of having an affair.”
Laneri works as a celebrity fitness trainer. It’s currently unclear if she intends to follow through with her pregnancy. Short has been ordered to stay 100 yards away from her and her son.
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