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The writing was certainly on the wall with Masika and Yung Berg. Immediately, after the details of Yung Berg’s assault against her leaked to the press, homegirl was conducting interviews, defending the former “Love and Hip Hop Hollywood” star.
Though Masika told police officers, that Berg hit her, drug her by her hair and then pinned her to the wall before grabbing her throat, it wasn’t long before she changed her tune.
Later, in her first interview on the matter, Masika claimed that she was not attacked. She blamed Berg’s behavior on the alcohol and said she was primarily focused on Berg becoming a better person.
But Mona Scott Young and ‘nem weren’t hearing it or taking any of Yung Berg’s foolishness. And they fired him from the show.
But while VH1 has cut ties, Masika is still hanging on.
Yesterday, he posted a picture of the two of them in bed together and she commented underneath it, “Daddy <3″
Then she posted the same picture on her own Instagram page. And as you might assume, people are going all the way off in the comment section. And both Masika and Yung Berg deleted the duplicate image shortly afterward.
What do you think about these two? Are you surprised?
Last month, we told you that Janay Rice would be sitting down with Matt Lauer to discuss the violent incident that led to now husband, Ray Rice’s suspension from the NFL. It’s been nearly a year since the shocking altercation took place and the couple has since gotten married. Also, shortly after the interview was filmed, Ray was reinstated into the league following an arbitrary hearing where Judge Barbara S. Jones ruled that he had been completely honest regarding the incident with league reps during his June hearing, which led to an initial two-game suspension. This, of course, meant that turning around and suspending Ray indefinitely would be punishing him twice for the same offense, thus resulting in the second suspension being lifted. When asked during her chat with Today, for which she was joined by her parents, whether or not Ray had been “ambiguous” during his initial hearing, Janay had this to say:
“No. Not in any way. And, you know, I feel like if they wanted to know more details then they would have asked. But there were no further questions. It — it’s been consistent with everything that he’s been saying since February.”
This would of course mean that NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell was not being forthright when he alluded that Ray withheld information during his preliminary hearing. While she didn’t exactly call him a liar, she did say that Goodell wasn’t exactly truthful.
“I can’t say he’s telling the truth. You know? I know for a fact that he told — that Ray told the honest truth that he’s been telling from February. So —”
As for why the league handled things the way that they did, Janay agreed that they were simply trying to cover themselves.
“I think they did what they had to do for themselves.”
There was also some pretty interesting dialogue about the night of the assault and the aftermath.
MATT LAUER: We’ve only seen you months after the incident. And I can’t imagine that you were that calm when you started to realize exactly what happened in that elevator. Can you describe those emotions?
JANAY RICE: I was furious. We came home, and we didn’t talk the entire ride. Well, I didn’t speak to him the entire ride home. He tried to talk to me. I didn’t want to hear any of it. I just knew he hit me, and I was completely over it. I was done. … I just didn’t even want to entertain it — any explanation. Of course, in the back of my mind and in my heart I knew that our relationship wouldn’t be over because I know that this isn’t us, and it’s not him.
And also, her hopes for Ray returning to the field sometime in the near future.
MATT LAUER: What’s it going to take in your mind, Janay, for another team to take a chance on Ray Rice?
JANAY RICE: For them to look past this situation, which I know is going to be hard. But at the end of the day he’s a football player and that’s what they should be — really be focused on because he’s proven himself as a football player for seven years. There’s never been a question on what he can do on the field.
MATT LAUER: And you think an owner and fans of the team can get those images from that elevator tape out of their minds?
JANAY RICE: With time. We know it’s going to take some work. So I think once he, you know, shows them who he is and they reach out to people here and they find out the things that he’s done, then I think it’s definitely good — you know, it could help.
Watch a clip from her interview below. Thoughts?
In what’s become an all too common occurrence, another pro football player has been charged with domestic assault. Ex-NFL defensive back Fred Smoot is currently facing charges of misdemeanor domestic assault after a woman called police alleging he grabbed her during a fight at an Ashburn, Virginia, home over the weekend.
Smoot, who played for the Minnesota Vikings for two seasons and seven seasons with the Washington Redskins until 2009, was arrested Sunday afternoon according to the Loudon County Sheriff’s Office and later released on a $2,500 bond. A court date has been set for Jan. 5, 2015 in Loudoun County Juvenile and Domestic Relations Court, according to CBS news, and until then Smoot must obey conditions established in an Emergency Protective Order and maintain good behavior until that date. Regardless of his behavior during that time, this accusation has likely already tarnished the 35 year old’s aspirations of launching a media career, with NBC sports noting the ex-pro baller who contributed to CSN Washington, WTTG-FOX 5, CBS Sports Network, and WJFK-FM has already been suspended indefinitely from the latter. WJFK-FM Program Director Chris Kinard told CBS, “Fred has been a contributor to the station and there are no plans for him to appear in the future.”
As for Smoot’s defense, his attorney Jon Huddleston issued a statement saying there’s no credence to the charges his client faces.
“We ask for patience in allowing the legal process to play itself out. These are the vindictive actions of a disgruntled ex-girlfriend which arose after Fred broke off their relationship more than a month ago. It is unfortunate that [the accuser] has elected to engage in a campaign to defame Fred and ruin him both personally and professionally. We are confident that Fred will be appropriately exonerated.”
Last Friday, representatives from the Black Women’s Roundtable met for a second time with Roger Goodell, commissioner of the National Football League, spending two hours discussing recommendations to both handle existing domestic violence issues and, hopefully, eradicate the problem entirely.
“The key that we honed in on was prevention and intervention strategies,” Melanie Campbell, president and CEO of the National Coalition on Black Civic Participation and the convener of the Black Women’s Roundtable.
Campell couldn’t discuss the details of the recommendations because she wanted to give the NFL a chance to consider the options and decide on next steps. However, among the suggestions were a number of organizations that are led by women of color that can serve as resources in cities across the country that have NFL teams, according to a press release about the meeting.
What Campbell did discuss was the need for diversity on the panel that is making decisions about how to proceed on this issue. A single women of color has been appointed to the panel the NFL created to address these issues, but, as Campbell says, “We feel they can do more. Hence the recommendations.”
To be sure, domestic violence is an issue that’s larger than the NFL.
“Cultural change needs to happen,” Campbell continued. “Domestic violence is a problem in this country. There’s an opportunity to hone in on that. To be able t work and engage with [the NFL] is the best we can do.” And, perhaps, the NFL can serve as a model for how the country can move forward.
In terms of diversity, the Black Women’s Roundtable sees its role as one of bringing cultural nuance to the table. One example Campbell used was where Black women turn for help. Traditionally, it’s not a hotline, but rather a church or family member. So any strategies moving forward should take that into account.
But whether the league ultimately does what needs to be done is up to them.
“The devil will be in the details when it comes to their policy changes,” Campbell told MN. “It’s up to us to make sure this isn’t lip service.”
There’s no deadline for feedback on the recommendations, but Campbell says communication continues.
“Surely this is something that won’t get fixed overnight. But it’s important to stick with it. We’re talking about people’s lives,” she said.
Blogger Sandra Rose is known for starting mess with her unsubstantiated, salacious and speculative headlines. Y’all remember how she came for Faith Evans’ son, claiming that he was gay during his high school graduation. Basically, she takes pride in being messy.
Everyday she’s coming for someone else. And yesterday, in addition to saying no one cared about Solange’s wedding (laughable), Rose also claimed that Tamar’s husband, Vincent Herbert, beats her.
Here’s what she tweeted.
Tamar doesn’t take lightly to much criticism; but she really wasn’t down for this sort, considering that she’s been pretty open about dealing with an abusive relationship in the past.
Here’s what she said in response.
Rose, being the troll that she is, was probably delighted to see that Tamar not only read something she wrote but took the time to respond. Naturally, she wanted to keep the conversation going.
And Tamar responded again.
Rose continued to respond. But fortunately, sometime during the night Tamar realized that Sandra Rose is nothing but a troll and deleted the tweets she screen shotted from her Instagram page.
But we’re wondering whether or not she’ll actually go through with this lawsuit business. It might be an exercise in futility but it would certainly teach Sandra Rose a lesson.
What do you think, should Tamar sue her?
Matt Lauer has been playing coy for at least a week now. It was about a week ago that rumors started to swirl that he would be interviewing Janay Rice, Ray Rice’s wife or both she and her husband together.
Well, someone let the cat out of the bag.
Franchon Parlour, a company that specializes in preparing clients for photo shoots, recently posted images of a very made up Janay, cameras in a living room and an NBC News logo on Instagram, leading us to believe that Janay was the main interview subject. The images have since been deleted from the Instagram page but there were others that appeared on the company’s Facebook page. Without the logo, of course.
I guess it’s really not that much of a secret anymore since Matt Lauer himself, confirmed to TMZ that the interview went off without a hitch.
The jury is still out on whether or not Lauer sat down with both Janay and Ray in their Maryland home but NBC sources told TMZ that Ray will make an appearance. Ray Rice’s people have not confirmed the news but TMZ was told that Ray was home when the interview took place…so all signs point to yes.
As you know the main reason for the sit down was so the couple could address the infamous surveillance footage which shows Ray Rice knocking Janay unconscious in an elevator back in February. And according to sources, Janay was very open about discussing the incident.
Other sources believe that Ray won’t be the only one making an appearance. Allegedly, Janay’s mother will be featured in the segment as well. It’s said that both of Janay’s parents are very supportive of the couple’s marriage.
It would have been nice to hear solely from Janay, considering we’ve already heard from Ray and even friends of the couple. But that’s not how the cookie crumbled, for whatever reason.
No official air date has been announced but we’ll be sure to keep you posted.
After the whole melee with Porsha and Kenya from last year’s reunion, Kenya compared that hair pulling incident to a man beating his wife. While that might have been a little extreme, in an interview with theGrio, Kenya explained why she was so sensitive to Porsha’s attack.
It actually triggered memories of an abusive relationship from her past.
“I was really young. I was in high school, and I was dating a much older man. He was every bit of what you would think an abuser would be. He tormented me physically, mentally and once even nearly killed me by putting me into the hospital from stabbing me with a finger nail file.”
“I lived through that very early on and I feel actually blessed because I did go through it so young and I know the signs to look out for with the men that i’m dating now. And whenever I see a hint of it, I don’t choose to be with that person because I know what it looks like.”
When asked what she would tell other women who may find themselves in a similar situation, Kenya said:
“Love is not someone who will hit you, someone who will talk down to you, someone who controls you, someone who doesn’t allow you to be with your friends, someone who wants to be every part of your life, that’s not love. And my advice would be if they are experiencing that, then they need to tell someone, they need to confide in someone that can help them.”
She also expressed that she wished she had taken her own advice as a teenager.
“I wish I had told another man that it was happening to me because I feel like a man would not stand for it on any level, to see a young woman being abused in that way. So I would say, try to stop seeing that person, get help, counseling yourself, which I had to do. And also, tell someone.
I’m blessed. I’ve had a lot of things to overcome in my life and I just feel blessed that I am here. I’m really not supposed to be here…but I’m here.”
Bill Cosby, R.Kelly, Chuck Berry, Ray Rice, Michael Jackson, Tupac, Dr. Dre and Chris Brown have all been accused or found guilty of sexual misconduct or physical violence against women and/or children. Yet most, if not all of these men, continue to have a devoted fan base, and many of the people who admire them are women.
To this day, Bill Cosby is considered one of the most valued men to ever grace the small screen thanks to his role as Heathcliff Huxtable on “The Cosby Show.” This is true despite numerous accusations of rape. Chris Brown continues to have millions of fans who sing his songs and declare themselves #TeamBreezy, many of them young girls and women, even though he battered longtime girlfriend and fellow pop star, Rihanna. Ray Rice knocked his then-fiancée (now wife) out on camera and Baltimore Ravens fans still clamored to defend him to get him back on the field. Women who were fans told reporters, “I absolutely 100% support him.”
So, how do we, as fans, cope with the disgusting behaviors of those in the media who we are fans of and/or glorify? And when do we transition from cheek-turning consumer to apologist? That’s a big question for anyone who’s ever embraced “Bad” or “P.Y.T.” as a personal anthem. Rather than immediately questioning Michael Jackson’s colorful and odd behavior when allegations came out about him, fans determined that the child who slept in Jackson’s bed was lying and that his family was trying to extort the singer. The public questioned, “Who would let their child sleep in bed with a grown man?” Yes, many fans were hopeful believers in the King of Pop and dismissive of the boy, and to this day, those parts of his past are ignored by those who have known and loved Jackson since they were young.
As a rambunctious adolescent, I happily blasted “Dead Wrong” by the Notorious B.I.G. on my Sony Walkman (the portable anti-skip CD player kind), so much so that I wasn’t fully taking in the problematic lyrics that people pointed out to me. I tried to quickly rationalize the song, claiming that “He probably doesn’t believe a word that he’s saying.” And I’ve made similar excuses for other artists, actors and athletes, but I’m starting to feel a way about it…
And the reason why I can not blindly consume certain media like I used to is because I realize that everything we take in affects us. And while I know that “Dead Wrong” has been a favorite of mine in the past, I have to remind myself that problematic music simply isn’t palatable for me, as a woman or a feminist. That music looks to undermine me via content that is often hateful, misogynistic and homophobic at times. Even without content that is abrasive, such as those delivered by the late Notorious B.I.G., I continue to be offended by artists and actors I once revered, who I’ve realized often exhibited, or still exhibit f’ed up behavior. And no matter how lovable the Huxtables still are, I can’t continue to endorse a man who’s been accused of violating women over and over again.
I’ve decided that I’m not going to pay for or entertain anti-woman behavior anymore, which is what I’m doing when I pay for the products and/or art of celebrities whose values don’t align with mine. I don’t want to negotiate away that part of my awareness, but, that’s just me. Ultimately, it’s a personal decision. If you can comfortably listen to Dr. Dre, knowing that he once violently attacked a woman and then bragged about it, then do you. But for me, I feel that I’m condoning that behavior each time I bounce my head to any of Dr. Dre’s music or I look to buy one of his overpriced products. Others may not feel that way, which I can respect.
Guilt isn’t the goal here either. Listen to and watch your stars proudly, understand the messages that they’re trying to convey and recognize that while some content or conduct is product of a facade, a lot of it isn’t.
All things considered, I’ve only mentioned black male celebrities in this article, but there are PLENTY of women, as well as non-black artists and entertainers, who betray women with their actions and words, and real dialogue should take place regarding their place in our lives.
“I Ask That My Privacy Be Respected”: “LHHH” Star Masika Tucker Speaks Out For First Time Since Attack By Yung Berg
“Love and Hip Hop Hollywood” personality Masika Tucker was attacked last week by co-star and boyfriend Yung Berg, aka, Christian Ward. Allegations came out that out that the rapper got pissed off because his credit card didn’t go through when they went out for dinner after the reunion taping. According to the police report, when she confronted him in their hotel about acting a donkey, Berg “allegedly grabbed her by the neck, threw her to the ground and dragged her by her hair” and “hit her in the face.” After initially being charged with “obstruction of breathing,” that charge has been dropped, and the rapper has since been charged with three counts of assault and one count of harassment. And on top of that, he has been fired from his short-lived gig on the reality show.
While both Ward and Tucker have been quiet about what happened, she is finally speaking out, if only to ask for her privacy to be respected.
A photo posted by Masika Kalysha (@masikakalysha) on
And while people on her page scoffed at a reality star who exposes her business for money asking for privacy, this whole situation did occur in her private life, and it’s not a simple and silly reality TV storyline–it’s domestic violence.
What do you think of her statements?
Exclusive: Hazel-E Isn’t Surprised By Yung Berg’s Alleged Altercation With Masika; Says He’s Been Aggressive With Her In The Past
Earlier today, it was revealed that Yung Berg was arrested for allegedly attacking his girlfriend, “Love & Hip Hop Hollywood” co-star Masika Tucker. Moments ago, we were able to catch up with Hazel-E, who is an ex-lover and co-star of the rapper as well. Apparently, she found out about the alleged fight just like everyone else did.
“I read the reports and I have no clue what’s going on. That’s not my business or my problem.”
Interestingly, Hazel doesn’t seem too surprised by the accusations, as Berg has behaved aggressively towards her in the past as well.
“I mean, as you see in episode six, there was an altercation with us in the car and you see that he didn’t, you know, restrain me or walk away. He definitely engaged back with me in that car scene and dumped my purse all over the street.
So you know, with my experience with him in that scene alone, I felt like you never defended yourself when you got your chain snatched or when you got hit in the back of your head, but you were ready to tussle with me in the vehicle. It raises an eyebrow for me.”
As previously reported, a source close to the situation is alleging that Masika and Berg’s fight occurred after his credit card was declined during a night of partying.
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