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Actress Debbi Morgan Opens Up About Overcoming Domestic Violence: “I Was Always Smiling And Acting Like I Was Happy”
Though sensationalized headlines regarding domestic violence have quickly begun to fade, the issue of abuse in American households still remains. While it may not be as much of a hot-button topic as it was just a few months ago, “Power” actress Debbi Morgan is still working hard to shed light on the prevalent issue through her memoir and one-woman stage play, The Monkey On My Back. Check out some highlights from her chat with News One’s Roland Martin below.
On her one-woman show and memoir, The Monkey On My Back:
“It’s based on three generations of women growing up and living with domestic violence; starting with my grandmother, my mother and myself. We know that this is a huge, horrific issue in this country right now…globally, really.
On how acting helped to mask the abuse:
“I’ve been acting since I was sixteen years old and it really helped me quite well because I could use all of my acting skills to sort of hide behind this mask. I was always smiling and acting like I was happy and full of joy. I was hiding behind this mask with so much insecurity, humiliation, pain, fear.
On growing up seeing her father abuse her mother:
“I was a child of domestic violence and listening to my father’s loud, abusive rhetoric permeating throughout the apartment, furniture being knocked over, glass shattering, my mother’s blood-curling screams, were probably always being ingrained in the crevices of my soul for a very long time.”
“I think so much attention is paid to the abuser and the abused—you know, the woman, and in many cases, the man. But I don’t think enough attention is paid to the children. For me, growing up in that fear, it dictated so many of the choices that I made in my own life. It nearly rendered me incapable of stopping the cycle of abuse in my own life.”
On how the abuse manifested in her life:
“I was a victim of bullying. I went through physical and emotional abuse at the hands of a teenage boyfriend. I suffered severe emotional abuse by three of my four husbands. I was just caught in this cycle. I mean, spinning like a washing machine.”
Listen to Debbi’s full interview here.
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Earlier this week, we told you that gospel recording artist James Fortune had been arrested for allegedly assaulting a family member. It’s now being alleged that said family member is his wife, Cheryl Fortune. According to My Fox Houston, attorney Toni Jones, who represents Roger Davenport, the biological father of James’ stepson, is claiming that James struck Cheryl with a bar stool.
“He’s been charged with aggravated assault of a family member with a deadly weapon. And I believe that weapon is being alleged as a bar stool,” Toni said. “I believe the Stafford PD were concerned at the time of the investigation interviewing her that possibly her leg or her pelvis may have been fractured or broken.”
In addition to stepchildren, James and Cheryl have three children together.
“The most serious thing that could happen and we’ve seen this happen before is Mrs. Fortune or those children could end up dead,” Toni added.
Sadly, if these accusations are true, this isn’t the only time James has been violent with his family. He was previously sentenced to six years of deferred adjudication for placing his then 4-year-old stepson in scolding hot water as a form of punishment.
James was released on $20,000 bond. If convicted, he could potentially face up to 15 years behind bars.
Domestic violence has once again become a hot button issue and “Law & Order: SVU” is tackling it head on with another episode “ripped from the headlines” portraying the intricacies of these situations which happen more often than most of us care to admit.
“The Walking Dead’s” Chad Coleman and Meagan Good are slated to guest star on the Nov. 19 airing titled “Spousal Privilege.” In the episode, Coleman plays an ex-sports star turned reporter accused of assaulting his girlfriend (Good). A press release notes that “Despite photographic evidence of the abuse, the case becomes complicated when the couple tries to keep the charges under the radar.” Sound familiar?
Executive Producer Warren Leight said of the episode:
“Domestic violence, with a push from Mariska Hargitay’s NO MORE campaign (www.nomore.org), has recently sparked a long-needed national dialogue. ‘Spousal Privilege’ explores the personal and legal complexities of this intractable problem. We are thrilled that Chad and Meagan are joining us to take on this challenging episode.”
We’re thrilled “Law & Order: SVU” is shedding light on a major issue so often swept underneath the rug, especially in the world of sports. What do you think? Will you tune in?
On this week’s episode of “Love and Hip Hop Hollywood,” Ray J and his longtime manager Morgan Hardman had a bit of an argument when Ray J believed that she was defending Teairra Mari in all of her foolishness.
And though they resolved it in the moment, it appears that their relationship went from bad to worse. The two have fallen out apparently and Morgan Hardman took to Instagram to explain what happened.
Tell the real reason I don’t f**k with you and why I don’t work for you because you put your hands on me in front of my child talking about you gonna have me killed wow all in front of my son you drunk ass ni**a go get some help cause I’m not the only one UR beating on hows that for some [tea] 10 years of book loyal to the wrong f**k boy.
And then she captioned it.
I hate ni**as that beat woman but you never see them putting they hands on no [other] ni**a Never push a loyal person to the point where they no longer give a f**k.
Morgan deleted the post shortly after.
There is a side of Ray J that seems sweet and considerate. But watching him get so belligerent over an argument about Morgan siding with Teairra, under the influence of alcohol it’s clear that he has a problem.
With the recent release of her courtroom deposition, people are really starting to question K Michelle’s story about being abused by former boyfriend Memphitz. There has been a least one major inconsistency with her story. At one point, she said he punched her. But then, when she was under oath, she said he hit her with a water bottle and dragged her across the floor, leaving carpet burns.
Whether he punched her or not, dragging someone across a carpet is still physical abuse and not something to be taken lightly. The courts will decide what to do with that situation. But in the meantime, Memphitz has alleged that the accusations K Michelle has lodged against him have negatively impacted his career and his family.
And instead of waiting on the judicial system, he posted a couple of messages on his Instagram account.
And then in the second, he takes it up a notch by threatening to release a secret tape, presumably a sex tape–because they’re all the rage these days–of K Michelle.
Shortly after the messages were posted Memphitz deleted them. Probably because they were incredibly stupid. Threatening to release a “secret tape” on someone you once dated, in some type of vindictive power play does look too good when you’re trying to prove you never exerted your physical power over her by dragging her across the living room. Not to mention, if Memphitz makes an appearance in said tape, how will Toya feel about that?
And since we’re at it, can we stop pretending that allegations of abuse from years ago are the reason Memphitz’s career is hurting? As sad of a commentary as this is, we all know and have seen in the past few months, that domestic violence, without undeniable proof, is very rarely taken seriously. It’s not like K Michelle has a whole lot of powerful friends in high places. Memphitz might want to do some reevaluation on the real reason why his career is floundering.
I don’t know if Memphitz hit K Michelle or not. But I highly doubt he’s the stand up guy people have made him out to be.
Last week, the transcript from the deposition stemming from the lawsuit filed by MempHitz against K. Michelle was published by our sister site, Bossip. During questioning, K expressed that she was never punched by the producer, which some found to be inconsistent with her previously shared accounts of the attack. Eventually, people began to express belief that the former “Love & Hip Hop Atlanta” star had lies about the entire incident. K recently took to Instagram to address the speculation saying:
“I’m a lot of things but a liar I’m not. For over five years I’ve been told to be quiet about my life of abuse. And I refused and still refuse to be silenced. I was not punched in the isolated assault and never claimed to be. But what I was, was drug across the room and smothered with a towel losing consciousness to the point of a black out. And having to fight my way out of the room screaming for help. I almost lost my life,” she wrote.
“No form of violence is acceptable,” she continued. “Especially if I wasn’t hitting or being the aggressor. I have NEVER lied about this. This is another attempt to silence me and another form of abuse. An attempt to gain media attention for the other party who is seeking money (because they have no income), and fame.”
She then went on to direct media attention to another outlet that published another part of the documents, which according to Karen Civil, includes MempHitz admitting to grabbing and physically restraining her.
“The truth is clearly stated in these documents. I will not give them what they want, which is time, energy and ATTENTION. No woman should ever go through this. The truth is in the papers. I won’t act as a victim, but as a survivor.”
As previously reported, K alleges that MepHitz threatened to kill her son and that she has the text messages to prove it. Both parties are due back in court on November 24.
“To Get To Be A Professional Athlete, It Takes Anger.” Terry Crews Talks Anger And It Effect On Athletes
Terry Crews offered a beautifully honest explanation of why it’s so easy for professional athletes to turn violent in their personal lives during a HuffPost Live interview Wednesday.
“To get to be a professional athlete, it takes anger. You have to be angry, because somebody counts you out, and they said, ‘You’ll never make it, you won’t do it,’ and that gets you up at four in the morning. You work out for three, four hours on anger. There’s power in anger. The problem is when you make it, you’re still angry,” he said.
Dangerous aggression among NFL players has become a national conversation amid the Ray Rice and Adrian Peterson scandals, and Crews understands that aggression first hand based on his years as an NFL player.
Read Terry Crews’ insight on anger and athletes at BlackVoices.com
For almost two years now, K. Michelle has said time and time again that Memphitz, her ex boyfriend and Toya Wright’s current husband, put his hands on her. You may remember, in a meeting with Rasheeda she kept saying, over and over again, ‘He beat my ass.’ She screamed it, tears streaming down her face.
And in 2012, during an interview with The Breakfast Club, she detailed the incident.
I wasn’t just sitting there innocent, but I didn’t hit him first. I did not. I didn’t do anything. He blacked out. It wasn’t just a restraining. I was smothered with a towel. He hit me in the head with a water bottle. It wasn’t nothing small. I was bruised up and bleeding. What shocked me the most was the smothering. I was crawling and climbing to get away. Once I got away he was doing it again. He yanked me. I had carpet burns. I looked in his face and it did not look like him. I was screaming, “It’s me”. After that I left.
He was texting saying “I miss you, I’m sorry, I made a mistake. I really couldn’t forgive it because then he started saying “I made you”. When he started saying he made me then I started getting mad because I did not press charges because I loved him and I didn’t want him to get in trouble. I didn’t want him to lose his job. I still loved him. I just didn’t want to be with him. It got bad when R. Kelly came in.”
And that same year, in an interview with Rolling Out, she said:
“I also hope that they are mature within their situation to let me tell what happened to me. Because you’re at a point where you’ve got it together now. When I was there, you didn’t have it together. So, you know, I’m happy. I kind of feel like Build A Bear. You build a nigga up, you get punched by him and then the muhfucka go…and you build him up, he’s a better person.”
She said it flippantly but it does represent an inconsistency in her story.
Naturally, Memphitz didn’t like being accused of domestic violence and felt it was having a negative impact on his career. So he sued K. Michelle, Mona Scott-Young’s production company and Viacom. Memphitz is asking that K. Michelle pay his attorney’s fees and cost of litigation for his troubles.
In a recent deposition, obtained by Bossip, K. Michelle detailed the incident.
Ray Rice’s Elevator Gate may be one of the worst scandals to happen in a long time, but it’s also making women more aware of the domestic violence threats that could be lurking around them. Could the man you met in line at Starbucks be dangerous? Is a hot temper a bad sign? Luckily, there are ways to tell if a guy might have an anger problem — even over dinner. They’re not all signs that you should bail right now, but they are a good heads up that you should be keeping an eye out for signs of verbal or physical abuse — before it’s too late.
His Job Involves Violence
Did you know that forty percent of police officer’s families experience domestic violence?
That’s four times the rate of the rest of the population. It’s not a reason to ask for the check, but you should keep an eye out for any warning signs.
Could Constant Head Injuries Be The Reason Why So Many NFL Players Are In Trouble For Domestic Violence?
If you’ve been watching the news lately, I’m sure you’re probably wondering, what’s going on with so many NFL players that they are being accused of domestic violence one right after the other? And while NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell and the league are working to find the right ways to punish these players for their actions, the folks at “Real Sports with Bryant Gumbel” (great show by the way) are wondering if there is something behind these assaults that the NFL hasn’t yet looked into.
In the preview for an upcoming episode of the show, correspondent Jon Frankel talks with not only doctors, but the wife of late San Diego Chargers safety, Paul Oliver. The NFL player, 29, committed suicide on this very day last year, shooting himself in front of his wife and two sons in his home. His widow, Chelsea Young, says that before he took his own life, Oliver gradually became more violent with her. She says that she had known him since college and he was never abusive before, but when he started to be, she says that he told her “I don’t know what’s wrong with me.”
In the piece, Young sends Oliver’s brains to Boston University to have them examined and it’s discovered that he had advanced CTE (chronic traumatic encephalopathy). And while it’s not yet been proven that repeated concussions can cause CTE, the condition can be caused by exposure to a major blast or blow and the subsequent movement of the head afterwards. Symptoms of CTE, including depression, aggression and memory loss, can appear years or even decades after the injury.
It’s an interesting question to ask, whether or not the injuries NFL players sustain play a part in them acting out in such violent ways, and it looks like one Frankel will seek an answer to in his segment, which airs in full on October 21 on HBO. Check out the preview below and share your thoughts.