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Last week, we told you producer Terius “The-Dream” Nash had been accused of strangling, punching and kicking his son’s mother, Lydia Nam, during her pregnancy. In case you missed it, Nam alleges that the assault occurred back in April of 2013 at the Plaza Hotel in New York City—just three months before she was scheduled to give birth to their son.
In response to the allegations, the hip hop producer turned himself in to the New York City Police Department earlier today, the Los Angeles Times reports. He has officially been charged with felony assault and strangulation charges.
“Dream voluntarily surrendered to the Midtown North Precinct this morning in order to responsibly address the false allegations filed against him by Lydia Nam,” a representative for the “Shawty Is A 10″ singer said in an issued statement earlier today. “He is innocent of the charges filed against him today, and we are confident that when this case is concluded and all the evidence has been reviewed, it will be clear that he is innocent.”
In addition to the April 2013 incident, Nash and Nam were also previously involved in a domestic dispute in Newport Beach, CA. However, Nam refused to press charges, so the case was dropped.
We will continue to keep you posted as this story develops.
Columbus Short may be hoping to prove a point with evidence that he isn’t the only one who has anger issues in his marriage. Short recently lost his starring role on the hit drama “Scandal” after being arrested for assaulting his estranged wife, Tanee in front of their children. Tanee alleges that the 31 year-old actor held a knife to her throat, choked her and threatened to kill her. She filed a restraining order against him in early April.
Well now there’s evidence that he isn’t the only violent one in this troubled union. Short was arrested for a domestic violence incident that happened in his home on February 18th. After bailing out of jail the next day, he asked his friend, Tilly Key to come pick him up from his house. Tanee apparently went ballistic when she saw Key was at the house and attacked her.
Key approached TMZ with video of the attack to prove Tanee is violent and threatened her life. She also says she suffered from a cervical sprain, multiple bruises, as well as a lumber strain and sprain.
We think all this proves is that the couple is obviously toxic for each other and need to get their act together for the sake of their children. We don’t defend violence in anyway, but did Short really just call another woman to come to the home he shared with his wife to pick him up? Were he or Key really all that surprised when Tanee flipped out? You couldn’t call a male friend, dude? Check out the video courtesy of TMZ below. We warn you, it’s not pretty:
Over two months ago, we told you about an altercation that occurred between Ray Rice and then-fiancée, Janay Palmer. As you may recall, both Janay and Ray were arrested at the Revel Casino this past Valentine’s weekend, after the two reportedly attacked each other. Days later, footage from that night leaked to media outlets in which Ray could be seen dragging an unconcious Janay out of a hotel elevator.
After reviewing evidence, a grand jury indicted the Baltimore Ravens running back on aggravated assault causing serious bodily injury charges. He entered a not guilty plea earlier today, the New York Daily News reports.
The 27-year-old athlete appeared in a New Jersey courtroom accompanied by now-wife, Janay, and applied for New Jersey’s pretrial intervention program, which grants first-time offenders the opportunity to have charges dismissed after participating in and meeting certain requirements of the program. It’s up to the county prosecutor to determine whether or not the former Rutgers star will be admitted into the program. Either way, prosecutors are offering Ray a plea bargain that will spare him from having to serve any actual jail time. The deal would require him to attend anger management courses.
When confronted by reporters as he strolled into the courthouse hand-in-hand with Janay, Ray expressed that he is a “happy father and a happy husband.”
As you may recall, the newlyweds got married the day after Ray was indicted one month ago.
As Americans, we are raised in a society that condemns violence against women at the hands of men. We teach our sons to never strike little girls, and lecture our daughters about staying away from any man who even thinks to raise his hand to her face. Men who abuse women are frowned upon and deemed as weak and cowardly; and they’re the first—and most times only ones–jailed in cases of domestic disputes gone awry—no hesitation.
But what about women? You know the ones: women who find comfort in bullying men; they’re the ones who enjoy slapping around their partners, jumping in their faces and resorting to belligerent behavior as a way to resolve conflict. Are abusive females who pummel on their men just as spineless as men who use the face of their partner as punching bags?
Even if you aren’t the crazy combative type, sometimes we as women can allow anger to get the best of us and cause us to behave in inappropriate ways. Ladies, I’m sure there have been times where your man—or a man in general—has pissed you off to the point where you couldn’t help but slap his face. (I am guilty of this myself.) There are moments in our lives when we feel disrespected by our male companions and use their behavior/words to justify our decision to react with violence. Catch your man with another woman in bed? Society tells us it’s okay to attack. If he calls you out your name, there is no harm in letting him meet an open fist. (Or a closed one.) We see it all the time. But if we are justified in practicing violence in certain situations, why doesn’t the same go for our male counterparts?
If men popped us every time we said or did something crazy, a lot of us would be permanently black and blue and he’d be the bad guy. So should we continue to get passes for what some see as simple slaps and light pushes? Some women walk around with the attitude that it’s okay to put their hands on men and expect no consequences. We can smack a brother up all day long, but he better not retaliate. Growing up—even to this day—I witnessed females slap, punch and kick men during the course of an argument and get away with it. It’s no big deal. We are women. We lack the strength of a man, therefore men who are hit by women should just suck it up and walk away. But this is NOT acceptable behavior. In most cases, people who are struck in any situation often wind up striking back, and because such situations can spiral out of control in violent ways very quickly, we all need to learn how to keep our hands to ourselves.
But what do you think? Have you ever found yourself losing control and striking your partner? Even in extreme circumstances, is it ever okay for a woman to lay hands on a man?
“She Is Willing To Do Anything To Try And Keep Herself Relevant”: Kordell Stewart On Porsha’s Claims Of Abuse
Unless you’ve been living under a rock this week, you probably heard that Porsha Williams has stated that during her marriage to Kordell Stewart, he physically abused her on more than one occasion. No more alluding to it as she did on the show, just a flat out “yes” to questions of both physical and emotional abuse. This is what she told Billy Bush at Access Hollywood Live on Monday:
Porsha Williams: “The video ["Flatline"] does touch on domestic violence and some abuse I encountered in my marriage. It’s not exact to what I went through, because, honestly, what I went through was a little bit worse in some instances.”
Billy Bush: “What happened in the marriage?”
Williams: “Abuse. Physical abuse.”
Bush: “Did he hit you?”
Williams: “Yeah. There were several different occasions that this happened. When you’re in an abusive situation, it kind of just builds, and it starts to get worse and worse. And people ask me, why didn’t you tell anybody or call the police or what have you? I just thought that I could make it better. I honestly thought after each situation that I would change this or I would change that, and therefore the outcome wouldn’t be the same. It doesn’t work like that. I’m still realizing now that a lot of what happened, it wasn’t my fault.”
In response to her claims, Stewart told AHL that he never put his hands on his ex-wife, saying “It’s not true. I’ve never abused her. Never put my hands on her. Never.”
But that’s not all that Stewart has to say about Williams’ statements. Stewart actually issued a statement that the Atlanta Journal Constitution has obtained. In it, he basically says she’s saying these things about him now to keep herself relevant, and he has no time for the “foolishness.”
I married my wife because she was a Godly woman who had accepted her calling as a minister. The bright lights made Porsha lose her way. I no longer know the person she has become. I hope and pray she can turn her life around soon. I loved my wife, supported her and invested in her success. As a reminder, I divorced her. At no time has there been any findings against me, during or before the divorce proceedings, to indicate anything less than a loving and supportive husband.
I’m focused on raising my son and being a single dad. That is a big enough job, without having to continue to respond to her false claims and foolishness. It seems she is willing to do anything to try and keep herself relevant. I have moved forward in my life and I hope she can move forward and stop bringing me back into her life. I was done over 14 months ago with our relationship and marriage.
He doesn’t deny anything in a point-blank-period type of way with this statement, which is interesting. But only Williams, Stewart and God know the truth, so I’ll keep my personal opinions on who is lying to myself.
But, of course, feel free to share yours below.
Earlier this month we told you that new mom Eva Marcille filed a restraining order against boyfriend, Kevin McCall. According to the filed report, Kevin went on a violent rampage, chasing Eva around their home, threatening to punch her and attempting to snatch their infant daughter, Marley, out of her arms. Eva alleged that Kevin stormed around the house “violently kicking down” four doors in their home.
Just days after the filing, Eva shared a photo of herself, Marley and Kevin, giving the impression that all was well and the trio were one big happy family again. But according to TMZ, this couldn’t be further from the truth. Apparently, Eva has recently acquired full custody of baby Marley and Kevin has also been denied visitation—temporarily.
The estranged couple is scheduled to appear in court next month to sort out visitation and custodial rights for the future.
“It is unfortunate that life has thrown a curve Into Eva’s life but as a responsible parent and adult she’s taking steps to ensure the safety and well-being of their child and herself,” said the model’s spokesperson.
Kevin has yet to comment on this recent development.
Well, it looks like another male celebrity is on the wrong side of the law after allegedly assaulting is significant other.
According to TMZ, Terius “The-Dream” Nash is wanted by the New York Police Department after then-rumored fiancée, Lydia Nam, accused him of attacking her while she was pregnant with their son. Investigators say that the alleged incident occurred April 2013 at the Plaza Hotel in New York City, about three months before she gave birth to their son.
Lydia accuses the producer of strangling, punching and kicking her. It’s unknown what triggered the alleged attack and whether or not Lydia sought medical attention. But for some reason, she waited until November to file a police report. The-Dream, however, says that Lydia is lying. In fact, sources close to the “Purple Kisses” singer believe that this is all part of Lydia’s ploy to extend her United States visa, as she’s Canadian.
Law enforcement sources are hoping to bring The-Dream in for questioning. Ironically, they say that The-Dream was already arrested in separate domestic violence incident involving Nam last June in Newport Beach, California. But Nam refused to press charges.
We will continue to keep you posted as this story develops.
When we learned of the news that Columbus Short had been fired from the hit series, “Scandal” no one was surprised. In fact, we had discussed it just the week before in our Did Y’all See episode, speculating that Shonda was tired of hearing about Short’s deplorable behavior on the weekends and didn’t want the stench of his personal life negatively impacting the great work they were doing on set.
I know there are some true, die hard Harrison fans out there, but honestly, I don’t think Short’s absence will hurt the show one way or another. But apparently comedian and radio host, D.L. Hughley rides for Harrison/Columbus Short like no other. And if you have any doubt about that, you need look no further than a recent radio show where he discussed the allegations Tuere (aka Tanee) McCall-Short, Columbus’ wife, made against him and how, in his opinion, it would be best for her to simply “shut the f*ck up.”
This segment was levels and layers of wrong but we should first begin with the fact that Hughley doesn’t believe McCall-Short’s claims. He believes that since the couple is going through a divorce proceeding, she’s out to sully his reputation.
“The star of one of the hottest dramas in the country, chokes the f*ck out of his wife? That doesn’t ever happen. I don’t think it happened first off. Like the time Warren Sapp was getting ready to do the Super Bowl and some broad said that he raped her. There are just as many examples of women lying on men in the middle of divorce proceedings to get what they want, as there are men who actually do anything. My point is if he did what she’s alleging he did, she could still get all that she’s going to have and not bring it up now, when it damages his market value that she’s going to be impacted by. If he loses that job nobody’s living in Calabasas anymore.”
Hughley goes on to say, “I guarantee you, three years from now she’s going to be thinking, “Damn, I should have shut the f*ck up. Cuz women always running out the mouth when they shouldn’t.”
And then for comedic effect, as his female co-host Jasmine Sanders is speaking, he tunes out almost chanting “dizzy ass broad,” “dizzy b*tch” in the background.
Sanders was trying to argue that McCall-Short didn’t run to the tabloids with news that her estranged husband beat her, she filed a police report and a restraining order and TMZ was the agency who learned of the news and broke the story.
Hughley dismissed her, saying that if it hadn’t gotten out she would have sold it to the media. When Sanders accused him of hating women, he said “I don’t hate women. I hate dumb b*tches. I hate women who act against their interests.”
Sanders then suggested that maybe, perhaps McCall-Short was more concerned for her life than her actual lifestyle. Hughley couldn’t seem to wrap his mind around that one. Instead, he continued to berate McCall-Short, even admitting that if Columbus has an anger or abuse problem, it was Tuere’s fault for picking him. Hughley even managed to throw a little dirt on his own name in the process.
“When you’re very young, you’re very volatile. I’ve been in situations where the police were called. I don’t believe that every time someone says something in the heat of anger, they actually mean it. Everybody want a thug dude, a passionate dude, until you gotta live with your mother in an undisclosed location. You know what kind of dude you picked. Stop it.”
Hughley’s comments are so disgusting, so vile that I had a hard time believing they came from his mouth. But I listened to the audio and that is indeed him. To hear it is far worse than reading it. There is true loathing behind his voice as if he knows McCall-Short personally. As if she alone represents the women who stand to threaten the little bit of wealth black entertainers have amassed–largely through the support of black women, I might add. I’m not here to psychoanalyze Hughley…professionally but by his own admission his mother wasn’t the most supportive woman in his life. On CNN, he detailed an incident where he won his mother an apple at the fair and she bit into it and said, “This apple is rotten just like you are.” Judging by his comments on the radio show, it seems that perhaps he hasn’t dealt with those issues and they’re showing up in his opinions and treatment of women.
I’m so tired of hearing men say dumb stuff like “I don’t hate women, I hate b*tches.” Though they would like you to believe otherwise, please believe at the end of the day, in a heated argument, the words are interchangeable. In Hughley’s mind, with no concrete proof, he’s determined that this woman is of low moral standing and she deserves to be called a bitch in a public forum for reporting her domestic abuse? If that’s not woman hating, silencing an allegedly abuse victim, a woman with a child, for the sake of a man’s career, I don’t know what is. Hughley believes that Columbus’ three measly seasons on “Scandal” are more important than McCall-Short’s life being threatened. If you listen to the tape, you’ll hear him argue with Sanders, when she suggests that Columbus could have killed her, “He wasn’t gon’ kill her.”
Negro, please! You sound crazy.
I understand that women do lie but no more than men. I would love to compare the number of times women have been caught or admitted to lying about being raped or abused vs. the number of times men have raped and beaten women. I’m willing to bet good money that the latter far outweighs the former. I’m not naive enough to believe women don’t lie. And I find those women deplorable and counterproductive to those who have actually endured these tragedies, but the lie exists because rape and domestic abuse are so prevalent, it’s believable.
I don’t know one hundred percent whether McCall-Short is lying or not. Personally, I never doubted the validity of her claims. In fact, knowing that McCall-Short had attempted to file for divorce from Columbus late last year let me know that she had been trying to end this relationship for some time now. Then there was the incident of Columbus fighting someone in a bar because the troll suggested that he had some type of personal relationship with his wife. If we’re going to go along with Hughley’s argument, Columbus who is the “star” of a hit tv show, wouldn’t be knocking random dudes in the bar unconscious, he has too much to lose. But that’s not the case. We’ve seen firsthand that when he’s angry, he resorts to violence. Furthermore, the bar fight happened because the man suggested he was involved with McCall-Short which is right in line with the police report she filed in which she described Short putting a knife to her throat and asking her to name all of the men she’d slept with. There’s a pattern. Does that mean I know without a shadow of a doubt that he did abuse her? No, but I can’t understand what leads Hughley to suggest that she is out for the money and simultaneously trying to destroy his reputation in the process.
My hope is that the community takes Hughley to task for his comments, that, if he doesn’t apologize to McCall-Short, that he really reflects on his poisonous mindset, seeing that he has two daughters and a wife and, in the best case scenario, sits on someone’s couch and work these things out.
I doubt this will happen as his despicable ways and misogyny have been the norm for so long and have made him quite a bit of money. But one can only hope.
What do you think about Hughley’s comments about Tuere McCall-Short?
You can listen to a majority of the radio show in the video below but be forewarned it’s hard to stomach.
The Game, Kevin McCall, Columbus Short…now Keyshawn Johnson?
According to TMZ, the retired athlete is the latest celebrity to be accused of attacking (or threatening to attack) his significant other. Apparently Johnson and his ex-girlfriend engaged in a heated argument about marriage, which allegedly led to a physical altercation. Sources close to the situation claim that Johnson smashed the woman’s phone, leaving a gash on her hand.
Sources add that Johnson’s relationship with the woman has been unstable for quite some time now. It’s unclear how long they’ve been together. Johnson was arrested in Calabasas, California earlier today.
“When deputies arrived, it was determined that the resident and his ex-girlfriend were involved in a domestic dispute,” the Los Angeles Sheriff’s Department told CBS Los Angeles.
He was charged with misdemeanor spousal battery. Bail was set at $20,000. He has since been released.
We’re not sure what’s going on in Hollywood, but Johnson is the fourth celebrity male to make headlines in connection to domestic violence allegations this month.
At the start of “Love & Hip Hop Atlanta,” Lil’ Scrappy led viewers to believe that his ex-girlfriend, Diamond, abandoned him during a time that he needed her the most. However, according to Diamond, the reality star had been physically abusive to her during her relationship, which is what pushed her to leave.
“He was mentally abusive, physically abusive,” the former Crime Mob rapper recently told The Breakfast Club. “We fought, like you ain’t beatin’ my a**. Yeah, he got some issues. Some demons, he needs some help.”
“He has bad spending problems,” she continued. “I think you, you know, people go through phases. I think we’re better off as friends. I don’t want to try to continue to be in a relationship and we end up not liking each other; hating each other. I just want people to know we’re not together.”
Unsurprisingly, Diamond admits that she bumped heads with the two women who probably play the biggest roles in Scrappy’s life: his mother and his daughter’s mother, Erica. While there are rumors that Erica and Diamond got into a physical altercation at one point, Diamond says they never actually hit one another.
“Nah, we got into it before but we never fought.”
As for Momma Dee, the “Sisterhood of Hip Hop” star blames her for ruining her credit.
“I got his mother an apartment—that she trashed and messed up my credit at one point in time, terrorized. I co-signed for her a condo.”
Considering all that she has been through with Scrappy, Erica and Momma Dee, her addition to the “Love & Hip Hop Atlanta” cast would’ve made for extremely interesting TV. However, Diamond says she could tell from the beginning that appearing on the show wouldn’t be a good look.
“They was using our names for ratings. I had a meeting. I wanted to see what it was about, you know as a businesswoman. It wasn’t really going with the whole plan of my music career. I don’t think it was a good look for me. I wanted to focus on what I had going on in my life currently, they wanted to focus on what happened in the past.”
Contrary to popular belief, Diamond also revealed that she and Soulja Boy are no longer together.
“I’m single. We been broke up. Y’all need to catch up. Kimora Lee Simmons and Russell hang out together all the time. We do business together.”
Watch her full interview on the next page. Do you think you’ll be checking out “Sisterhood of Hip Hop”?