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On this week’s episode of “Love and Hip Hop Hollywood,” Ray J and his longtime manager Morgan Hardman had a bit of an argument when Ray J believed that she was defending Teairra Mari in all of her foolishness.
And though they resolved it in the moment, it appears that their relationship went from bad to worse. The two have fallen out apparently and Morgan Hardman took to Instagram to explain what happened.
Tell the real reason I don’t f**k with you and why I don’t work for you because you put your hands on me in front of my child talking about you gonna have me killed wow all in front of my son you drunk ass ni**a go get some help cause I’m not the only one UR beating on hows that for some [tea] 10 years of book loyal to the wrong f**k boy.
And then she captioned it.
I hate ni**as that beat woman but you never see them putting they hands on no [other] ni**a Never push a loyal person to the point where they no longer give a f**k.
Morgan deleted the post shortly after.
There is a side of Ray J that seems sweet and considerate. But watching him get so belligerent over an argument about Morgan siding with Teairra, under the influence of alcohol it’s clear that he has a problem.
With the recent release of her courtroom deposition, people are really starting to question K Michelle’s story about being abused by former boyfriend Memphitz. There has been a least one major inconsistency with her story. At one point, she said he punched her. But then, when she was under oath, she said he hit her with a water bottle and dragged her across the floor, leaving carpet burns.
Whether he punched her or not, dragging someone across a carpet is still physical abuse and not something to be taken lightly. The courts will decide what to do with that situation. But in the meantime, Memphitz has alleged that the accusations K Michelle has lodged against him have negatively impacted his career and his family.
And instead of waiting on the judicial system, he posted a couple of messages on his Instagram account.
And then in the second, he takes it up a notch by threatening to release a secret tape, presumably a sex tape–because they’re all the rage these days–of K Michelle.
Shortly after the messages were posted Memphitz deleted them. Probably because they were incredibly stupid. Threatening to release a “secret tape” on someone you once dated, in some type of vindictive power play does look too good when you’re trying to prove you never exerted your physical power over her by dragging her across the living room. Not to mention, if Memphitz makes an appearance in said tape, how will Toya feel about that?
And since we’re at it, can we stop pretending that allegations of abuse from years ago are the reason Memphitz’s career is hurting? As sad of a commentary as this is, we all know and have seen in the past few months, that domestic violence, without undeniable proof, is very rarely taken seriously. It’s not like K Michelle has a whole lot of powerful friends in high places. Memphitz might want to do some reevaluation on the real reason why his career is floundering.
I don’t know if Memphitz hit K Michelle or not. But I highly doubt he’s the stand up guy people have made him out to be.
Last week, the transcript from the deposition stemming from the lawsuit filed by MempHitz against K. Michelle was published by our sister site, Bossip. During questioning, K expressed that she was never punched by the producer, which some found to be inconsistent with her previously shared accounts of the attack. Eventually, people began to express belief that the former “Love & Hip Hop Atlanta” star had lies about the entire incident. K recently took to Instagram to address the speculation saying:
“I’m a lot of things but a liar I’m not. For over five years I’ve been told to be quiet about my life of abuse. And I refused and still refuse to be silenced. I was not punched in the isolated assault and never claimed to be. But what I was, was drug across the room and smothered with a towel losing consciousness to the point of a black out. And having to fight my way out of the room screaming for help. I almost lost my life,” she wrote.
“No form of violence is acceptable,” she continued. “Especially if I wasn’t hitting or being the aggressor. I have NEVER lied about this. This is another attempt to silence me and another form of abuse. An attempt to gain media attention for the other party who is seeking money (because they have no income), and fame.”
She then went on to direct media attention to another outlet that published another part of the documents, which according to Karen Civil, includes MempHitz admitting to grabbing and physically restraining her.
“The truth is clearly stated in these documents. I will not give them what they want, which is time, energy and ATTENTION. No woman should ever go through this. The truth is in the papers. I won’t act as a victim, but as a survivor.”
As previously reported, K alleges that MepHitz threatened to kill her son and that she has the text messages to prove it. Both parties are due back in court on November 24.
“To Get To Be A Professional Athlete, It Takes Anger.” Terry Crews Talks Anger And It Effect On Athletes
Terry Crews offered a beautifully honest explanation of why it’s so easy for professional athletes to turn violent in their personal lives during a HuffPost Live interview Wednesday.
“To get to be a professional athlete, it takes anger. You have to be angry, because somebody counts you out, and they said, ‘You’ll never make it, you won’t do it,’ and that gets you up at four in the morning. You work out for three, four hours on anger. There’s power in anger. The problem is when you make it, you’re still angry,” he said.
Dangerous aggression among NFL players has become a national conversation amid the Ray Rice and Adrian Peterson scandals, and Crews understands that aggression first hand based on his years as an NFL player.
Read Terry Crews’ insight on anger and athletes at BlackVoices.com
For almost two years now, K. Michelle has said time and time again that Memphitz, her ex boyfriend and Toya Wright’s current husband, put his hands on her. You may remember, in a meeting with Rasheeda she kept saying, over and over again, ‘He beat my ass.’ She screamed it, tears streaming down her face.
And in 2012, during an interview with The Breakfast Club, she detailed the incident.
I wasn’t just sitting there innocent, but I didn’t hit him first. I did not. I didn’t do anything. He blacked out. It wasn’t just a restraining. I was smothered with a towel. He hit me in the head with a water bottle. It wasn’t nothing small. I was bruised up and bleeding. What shocked me the most was the smothering. I was crawling and climbing to get away. Once I got away he was doing it again. He yanked me. I had carpet burns. I looked in his face and it did not look like him. I was screaming, “It’s me”. After that I left.
He was texting saying “I miss you, I’m sorry, I made a mistake. I really couldn’t forgive it because then he started saying “I made you”. When he started saying he made me then I started getting mad because I did not press charges because I loved him and I didn’t want him to get in trouble. I didn’t want him to lose his job. I still loved him. I just didn’t want to be with him. It got bad when R. Kelly came in.”
And that same year, in an interview with Rolling Out, she said:
“I also hope that they are mature within their situation to let me tell what happened to me. Because you’re at a point where you’ve got it together now. When I was there, you didn’t have it together. So, you know, I’m happy. I kind of feel like Build A Bear. You build a nigga up, you get punched by him and then the muhfucka go…and you build him up, he’s a better person.”
She said it flippantly but it does represent an inconsistency in her story.
Naturally, Memphitz didn’t like being accused of domestic violence and felt it was having a negative impact on his career. So he sued K. Michelle, Mona Scott-Young’s production company and Viacom. Memphitz is asking that K. Michelle pay his attorney’s fees and cost of litigation for his troubles.
In a recent deposition, obtained by Bossip, K. Michelle detailed the incident.
Ray Rice’s Elevator Gate may be one of the worst scandals to happen in a long time, but it’s also making women more aware of the domestic violence threats that could be lurking around them. Could the man you met in line at Starbucks be dangerous? Is a hot temper a bad sign? Luckily, there are ways to tell if a guy might have an anger problem — even over dinner. They’re not all signs that you should bail right now, but they are a good heads up that you should be keeping an eye out for signs of verbal or physical abuse — before it’s too late.
His Job Involves Violence
Did you know that forty percent of police officer’s families experience domestic violence?
That’s four times the rate of the rest of the population. It’s not a reason to ask for the check, but you should keep an eye out for any warning signs.
Could Constant Head Injuries Be The Reason Why So Many NFL Players Are In Trouble For Domestic Violence?
If you’ve been watching the news lately, I’m sure you’re probably wondering, what’s going on with so many NFL players that they are being accused of domestic violence one right after the other? And while NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell and the league are working to find the right ways to punish these players for their actions, the folks at “Real Sports with Bryant Gumbel” (great show by the way) are wondering if there is something behind these assaults that the NFL hasn’t yet looked into.
In the preview for an upcoming episode of the show, correspondent Jon Frankel talks with not only doctors, but the wife of late San Diego Chargers safety, Paul Oliver. The NFL player, 29, committed suicide on this very day last year, shooting himself in front of his wife and two sons in his home. His widow, Chelsea Young, says that before he took his own life, Oliver gradually became more violent with her. She says that she had known him since college and he was never abusive before, but when he started to be, she says that he told her “I don’t know what’s wrong with me.”
In the piece, Young sends Oliver’s brains to Boston University to have them examined and it’s discovered that he had advanced CTE (chronic traumatic encephalopathy). And while it’s not yet been proven that repeated concussions can cause CTE, the condition can be caused by exposure to a major blast or blow and the subsequent movement of the head afterwards. Symptoms of CTE, including depression, aggression and memory loss, can appear years or even decades after the injury.
It’s an interesting question to ask, whether or not the injuries NFL players sustain play a part in them acting out in such violent ways, and it looks like one Frankel will seek an answer to in his segment, which airs in full on October 21 on HBO. Check out the preview below and share your thoughts.
On September 13, Jessica Arrendale, 33, went to dinner with her boyfriend Antoine Davis, 30. During the evening, Davis became drunk and abusive, as per usual. His abuse, reports Arrendale’s mother Teresa Ionniello, became the norm in their relationship and that night, Davis, a former Marine who served in Iraq, chased Arrendale up the stairs of her three-story townhouse located in the Oakdale Bluffs section of Atlanta, Georgia, and murdered her.
In an exclusive interview with Ionniello, WSB Radio reports Arrendale defended herself with a baseball bat but Davis took the bat out of her hand and began to strike her with the it several times. While Arrendale was struck by the baseball bat, she held her and Davis’ six-month daughter Cobie in her arms. Arrendale was able to escape Davis’ beating by locking herself into the bathroom. But Davis got his rifle, broke into the bathroom and shot Arrendale in the head while she continued to hold Cobie. Arrendale fell over the toilet and Cobie dropped into it. After shooting Arrendale, Davis entered Cobie’s room and shot himself.
The police were hesitant to rush to the scene of the crime because they believed their presence would spark a violent outbreak by Davis. Instead they sent in a robot to investigate the scene but the machine couldn’t navigate the stairs of the townhouse. Unbeknownst to them, Davis and Arrendale were already deceased. So for 13 hours Cobie remained in the toilet bowl covered by her mother’s body. Finally police entered the house and rescued her. Currently, Cobie is in the care of Children’s Health Care Of Atlanta at Scottish Rite Hospital where she is recovering from injuries sustained during her mother’s beating. Her grandmother, Ionniello, plans to adopt her as she is already the guardian of Arrendale’s oldest daughter. Police believe if Arrendale hadn’t saved her daughter Davis would have killed her as well.
Friends of Arrendale have set up a Go Fund Me page to help pay for her funeral expenses and support her two daughters’ future educational paths. Currently, the fund has earned $34,598. You can donate here.
From Black Voices
As discussions surrounding Ray Rice’s indefinite suspension from the NFL due to a domestic dispute with his wife continue to bring more awareness to domestic violence, more public figures, including Queen Latifah, are also voicing their opinions on the issue.
During an upcoming episode of “The Queen Latifah Show,” the 44-year-old media maven opened up how domestic abuse has affected her family and inspired therecording to her 1993 hit single, “U.N.I.T.Y.”
“It’s sad to me that this problem is headline news because some football players are involved, because this is something that’s always around,” Latifah said during the segment. “It’s a problem in every part of society. It doesn’t matter if you’re rich, or whether you’re poor. It doesn’t matter what your race is. Where you come from, what language you speak. This is a problem for all of us. And it is not a new problem.”
Read more about Queen Latifah’s response at BlackVoices.com
According to ESPN, Ray Rice’s legal team hopes to go after his indefinite suspension by pointing out that the NFL extended his suspension based on an edited videotape.
NFL Insider and analyst Adam Schefter said he was informed by legal sources close to Rice’s appeal that his team will scrutinize the videotape that made national, if not international news (I got wind of the whole story while in Greece) because it was an edited, “cleaned-up, whittled down and condensed version” of the actual events in that elevator in Atlantic City back in February.
Former director of the FBI, Robert Mueller, was brought on by the NFL to investigate how the league as a whole and the Baltimore Ravens handled Rice’s case, as well as who saw the elevator video and when they originally saw it. TMZ has since responded to the news that their video will be criticized as part of his appeal:
Ray Rice will reportedly argue that TMZ Sports edited the “inside the elevator” video … thereby altering what really happened that night.
He’s right. We did edit the video … and we made that point crystal clear in our original post — the same post where we also INCLUDED the raw unedited version showing Rice KOing Janay Palmer.
As we initially reported, the original raw video was jerky — in that it would move forward and then in reverse every couple of frames … so we removed the reverse frames.
Again, TMZ Sports included the raw video in our original post.
It seems that Rice and his team are going to great lengths to get his indefinite suspension overturned, including citing double jeopardy in the league’s decision to harshly punish him after they had already suspended him for two games, and after Rice claimed (and sources back up) that he told the Ravens up-front that he punched then-fiancée Janay Palmer. Through the unedited version, Rice hopes to show that his story lined up exactly with what he told the Ravens so that the league will be held accountable for trying to flip-flop on suspensions.
But at the end of the day, indefinite suspension taken off or not, it doesn’t change the fact that he knocked his then-fiancée out cold and treated her body like that of a rag doll…