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We told you earlier in the week about NFL star and Ravens running back Ray Rice getting into a physical fight with his fiancée at a casino in Atlantic City. According to reports, surveillance cameras in the casino caught Rice and his lady, Janay Palmer, hitting one another. The couple (who have a 2-year-old daughter together) were arrested and both charged with simple assault and domestic violence. They were released after refusing medical attention.
Now, according to TMZ, after the fight happened and right before the couple was arrested, Ray tried to take Palmer out of the casino by means of the elevator. As video below shows, Palmer was out cold during all of this, as Rice pulled her out of the elevator and dropped her on the floor. At one point, he even kicks her leg to get it out of the elevator, to no avail. Security saw this scene in the hallway and approached Rice about what was going on, and Rice stopped trying to pull her out so that he could try and rouse her. Palmer finally does wake up, but struggles to get up as she blocks the elevator from closing. Rice walks away from her and the security guard takes to his walkie talkie to alert someone of what has happened. According to TMZ, from there, both parties were arrested and taken to the Atlantic City Police Department.
Rice’s lawyer has since responded to the posting of the video by TMZ Sports, telling them that what people see is not the whole story:
“Neither Ray nor myself will try this case in the media. However, the video that’s being posted by TMZ Sports is not the complete event, but is merely the end result of what transpired. We’ll assure the public that when this matter is fully tried and completed, you’ll have a better understanding of what happened and we ask the public to reserve making any judgment until all of the facts come out.”
It’s unclear from the video or through the lawyer whether or not Palmer could have possibly been unconscious because of intoxication, or if she was in the state she was in because of the assault that took place prior to this scene. Whatever the full story is, this video was quite troubling to watch.
Since the announcement of their engagement last December, Gabrielle Union and Dwyane Wade’s relationship has really been put to the test. Just days after their engagement, the public learned that Wade fathered a child outside of his relationship with the “Being Mary Jane” actress, which further opened the door for public scrutiny and questions regarding what’s really going on behind the closed doors of their relationship. Now explosive details from athlete’s ugly divorce from ex-wife, Siohvaughn Funches, are reemerging.
According court documents unearthed by RadarOnline, Funches painted Wade as a cheating and abusive husband who infected her with an STD. Interestingly, she says that his personality shift came just after they tied the knot in 2002.
“I had known that Dwyane Wade had a temper and could become violent at times,” she alleged in court documents. “But when we moved out of my mother’s home … into our own apartment with our infant son, the violence increased. This, however, was just the surface of the domestic violence Dwayne Wade would inflict upon me.”
The mom of two recalled one specific incident where she alleges that a fight with Wade got so out of hand, she wound up spending a week in the hospital.
“He picked up a garbage can made of marble stone and threw it at me. Dwyane Wade picked me up into the air above his head and slammed me down onto a large ottoman with such force that the ottoman broke into pieces when he slammed my body on it and banged my head against a marble bathroom floor.”
“Subsequently, I ended up having to be rushed to the emergency room of Christ Hospital and spent an entire week hospitalized.”
She adds that she noticed a correlation between her ex-husband’s success and the deterioration of their marriage.
“As Dwyane Wade’s income increased, his arrogance and pride increased as well,” Funches explained. “Dwyane Wade began to call me derogatory names more, throw things at me, hit me, take all my money from me, and even kicked me out of the house causing me not to have a place to live. … As a means of controlling me, and as part of Dwyane Wade’s domestic violence pattern, he would often hit me, lock me in rooms and not allow me out, threaten to take my sons from me and frighten me by telling me he knows judges and that they are on his pay roll and he can take the children from me at any time he wanted. The domestic violence and abuse continued on for several years in our family.”
Funches also accused her ex-husband of using money to control her when she tried to leave him.
“I tried to leave Dwyane Wade, but when I did, he made sure I did not have access to my own home and he cut off all my bankcards and denied me access to any money,” she continues. “This exerting of power and control has continued to this day.”
“The marriage has ended but Dwyane Wade’s abuse has not ceased, and through the court system he continues to use his money and influence to exert power and control over me …”
She insists that their marriage came to an end when she tested positive for an STD, something she says is proof that he cheated on her. Wade has denied her claims and is suing his ex-wife for defamation. One can only wonder with these old skeletons are being rehashed. But if we had to take a wild guess, we’d say that Wade’s upcoming wedding with Union probably has a lot to do with it.
We haven’t been hearing much from the Ying Yang Twins these days, so it’s unfortunate that they’re making headlines for something negative. However, one half of the musical duo, “Deongelo “D-Roc” Holmes, has been arrested following a domestic dispute in Georgia.
According to TMZ, D-Roc’s wife, Porsha Holmes, accused him of punching her in the head during an argument back in November. It is being reported that he struck her so hard, she was left with a large bump above her left eye. D-Roc has since been charged with “family violence” and two counts of simple battery. Following his arrest, the “Whisper” rapper was released on bond after agreeing to a few restrictions—including staying away from Porsha.
This, unfortunately, would not be D-Roc’s first run-in with the law. According to Access Atlanta, the 35-year-old rapper was also arrested back in Jun. 2012 for several offenses—including driving under the influence. Reps on behalf of the D-Roc have yet to comment on the allegations.
A couple of weeks ago we learned of a violent new trend called the knockout game, during which teen boys approach unsuspecting victims and punch them as hard as they could in hope of well, knocking the person out. Word of this shocking new game caused quite a bit of hysteria in areas close to where incidents of the game have surfaced. Apparently 23-year-old Ashley DePew of St. Louis was aware of this. According to the St. Louis Post-Dispatch, DePew told police officers that she was punched in the face by a “black thug” participating in the knockout game. Her eye was swollen shut. The way DePew reportedly told officers the story two days after the actual occurrence, she was standing outside of St. Louis bar the Trophy Room when she was approached by a group of young black men and one of them punched her.
After the alleged incident occurred, DePew claims the young men fled the scene; however, when officers began questioning Trophy Room patrons who were present on Nov. 17, the night of the alleged incident, they all revealed that they were unaware of the assault. After doing a bit more digging, officers found that DePew made up the knockout game story to cover for her boyfriend, Justin Simms, who actually assaulted her. The couple eventually confessed to fabricating the story. As a result, investigators are pondering whether or not they’ll press charges against DePew for filing a false police report.
“We had to spend a significant amount of resources unraveling the lies they told. That’s resources that could have been spent on other crimes and it damaged the perception of the city. I hope these two individuals get help in their relationship,” said a St. Louis police spokesperson.
DePew’s attorney, Ethan Corlija is arguing that she should not be charged since she is a domestic violence victim.
“I don’t want this to detract from the fact that she’s still a victim,” he said. “She sustained pretty serious injuries. No matter how the circuit attorney chooses to view it, it still boils down to her being a victim and we can’t lose sight of that fact.”
It has not yet been announced whether or not DePew will be charged. Though it’s unfortunate that this young woman has found herself in an abusive relationship, her false report could’ve led to the arrest of an innocent black man. There should be some sort of repercussion for that.
Minnesota Vikings cornerback A.J. Jefferson has been charged with felony strangulation — after allegedly grabbing his GF by the neck and throwing her around a bedroom earlier this week … TMZ Sports has learned.
According to the Eden Prairie Police Department in MN … the accuser told cops she and A.J. got into an argument on November 25 after a night on the town. She says things got so bad, he went to a neighbor’s home and she went to sleep in the guest room of their home.
The GF claims A.J. returned to their home and confronted her about ignoring his text messages — and that’s when things got violent.
The GF told police A.J. “grabbed her neck and she could not breath.” He then “picked her up by the neck” and threw her off the bed and onto the floor.
She claims she didn’t fight back because she was having a hard time breathing and he’s a lot bigger than her.
Cops say the GF went to a police station after the incident with red marks on both sides of her neck — and that’s why officials decided to charge Jefferson with a crime.
Read more at TMZ.com
Last week we told you the tragic story of 22-year-old Colorado father, Merrick McKoy, who shot his 19-month-old daughter, Mia, in what appears to have been an attempt at hurting his estranged girlfriend, Kimphone ‘Kim’ Phanthavongsa.
“I told u I can’t live without u lol u thought I was joking now me n Mia out this b****. Don’t judge me. Had no choice,” McKoy wrote in a Facebook status moments before shooting Mia and then turning the gun on himself.
The child’s mother, who was not in the apartment at the time of the shooting, quickly phoned police for help from a neighbor’s apartment after heading a single gunshot come from her apartment. Unfortunately, responders didn’t arrive in time to save Mia. The toddler died later that day at St. Anthony North Hospital, while her father clung to life in critical condition. It was later revealed that the shooting occurred after Phanthavongsa fled the apartment following an altercation with McKoy. His medical condition was kept under wraps for nearly a week, but the Adam’s County Coroner’s Office confirmed yesterday that he, too, died, ABC7 Denver reports. What the coroner his not disclose; however, is the exact date McKoy passed away.
As a result of his death, Westminster Police spokeswoman Cheri Spotke says the investigation into the murder-suicide is now closed. Mia’s family members continue to mourn her death.
“She just learned how to walk. What an angel. Whenever she smiled it was bright,” a tearful Vannatda Sivixai told reporters the day of the shooting.
What an awful tragedy.
When we initially meet Somaya Reece on the first season of Love & Hip-Hop New York, she openly discussed her relationship woes. Those woes included both physical and emotional abuse. Since then, the South Central Salvadorian beauty has not only revamped her look but has a cute boyfriend who simply adores her. Despite the amazing turnaround for Reese, she humbly never forgets her past. This past weekend the hip-hop reality star turned model and author stated on her Instagram that she was actually once the victim of domestic abuse:
“I love and embrace my imperfections. No one is perfect. No one will ever be. The thought of living or portraying a perfect life is not REAL! My life is transparent for a reason. I embrace the pain I have suffered. The reason why I made it out alive many times over was because I was meant to live in order to tell my story. To tell my story in order to inspire and motivate others. The physical pain will never go away, but my heart is in a better place. I still have night terrors from when my first boyfriend beat my face into pulp. I lost my hearing for a bit. I can still distinctly hear his haunting laugh while he was doing it. He punched and broke the majority of my top right teeth. He crushed my right temple & crushed my upper cheek bones.”
Somaya continued on:
“When you’ve seen death dead in the face, you fears no longer exist. No man on earth can every hurt me or try to instill fear in me. No man (or woman) on earth can determine my fate. And no matter how much or many have tried to bring me down. They can’t. All those that have done me dirty I don’t have to pray for, they need to seek prayer for themselves. Many have tried their best to hurt me, but i’m still here. I’m still standing tall with my head held high. I was once broken but never shattered. I’m here to send a positive message. I don’t allow my past to make me bitter. I don’t use the excuse of my painful past as a reason to act up. I have a lot to live for. I have a lot of people to help. I have my family to work hard for. And I will continue to tell my story in order to inspire YOU.”
Because of her experiences, Reece has launched a domestic violence campaign called “Be You.” The campaign will help domestic violence survivors to rebuild their self-esteem and reclaim their identity.
What are your thoughts on her statement?
We first learned Crystal Mangum’s name in 2006 when she accused members of the Duke Lacrosse team of raping her while she worked as a stripper at a party. Many rallied behind her believing she had been the victim of a brutal crime. But all of that sympathy and compassionate dissipated when the country learned that she had completely lied about the accusations. And a North Carolina attorney dismissed all charges against the athletes.
And as of Friday of last week, Mangum’s name is back in the headlines as she was found guilty of the second-degree murder of her boyfriend Reginald Daye, who she stabbed with a kitchen knife in April of 2011. Daye died 10 days later from complications related to the stabbing. After arguments from the defense and prosecution a jury found Mangum guilty and Judge Paul Ridgeway immediately sentenced Mangum to a minimum of 14 years in prison.
Mangum and her attorney, Daniel Meier, argued that Daye posed a threat to Mangum and she feared for her life at the time of the murder. According to ABC 11, in his closing arguments Meier said, “He was bigger than her. He was on top of her. He was choking her. [She gave him a] single stab wound to the flank.”
But the prosecution said Mangum deliberately attacked Daye. They described her as a serial abuser with a history of physical violence towards her boyfriends. She was arrested on domestic violence charges involving another man in 2010.
On Wednesday, she testified on her own behalf saying Daye was angry with her because she had disrespected him by flirting with another man. She said he hit her and knocked her to the floor and threatened to throw hot water on her face so that other men wouldn’t want her. Mangum said Daye went to the kitchen and got a knife that he threw at her. She locked herself in the bathroom, Daye kicked down the door and grabbed her by the hair before pulling her into the bedroom.
Mangum said, “He straddled me, hit me and then he started choking me. I couldn’t breathe my head hurt real bad. I was just trying to survive and I felt like Reginald was trying to kill me.”
Mangum also faced theft charges for allegedly stealing Daye’s rent money. She was found not guilty on those charges.
Mangum’s supporters are convinced that her past with the Duke Lacrosse case unfairly influenced the jury’s decision in this case, believing that if it were another woman there would have been no trial in the first place. Others are certain that karma is finally catching up with Mangum for lying on those Duke students.
To me, the latter viewpoint is cruel. We weren’t there that night and weren’t in the courtroom to hear the evidence that either corroborated or refuted Mangum’s description of events. We’ll never know what really happened but it would be unfair and a complete miscarriage of justice if the only reason she was sentenced to 14 years was because she told an egregious lie seven years ago.
What do you make of Mangum’s case? Do you think she got a fair trial? Should she be serving 14 years right now?
You can watch footage from the courtroom, including the reading of the verdict and reactions from a Mangum supporter and Daye’s family in the video below.
I once heard a saying that I one hundred percent agree with. ”Having children is the only way to experience heaven and hell at the same time.” I know that that sounds callous as a mother to say, but it’s true. I love my daughter, but it’s hard. Even though it’s hard, it’s also incredibly worth it and it seems that each day the struggle gets better.
We’re conditioned to believe that with every rose in our lives we have to endure the thorns that come along with it. Nothing is perfect, and not only are you going to experience valleys, you begin to expect them during your travels of life. That’s where I feel as though some people get confused and stuck in situations that are detrimental to our own wellbeing.
Let’s be realistic, nothing in life will ever be perfect, because we are all imperfect beings, interacting with other imperfect beings. But when negativity hits you, there should be a limit to how it does. That limit should include when the negativity becomes physical.
For those who have been in unhealthy relationships, including domestic violence, there is something called “The Cycle of Domestic Violence.” Like most cycles it’s something that repeats and it’s something that can keep a person in mental and emotional . The cycle doesn’t happen in all domestic abuse relationships, and it’s not restricted to romantic relationships. Domestic abuse can happen between parents and children, siblings, and extended family.
The cycle is comprised of “walking on eggshells.” The victim(s) are bound by fear of not wanting to make the abuser angry, so they, in a way, relinquish their power, and their own voice to keep the peace. However, the “explosion” will happen, which will be the abuse. This abuse can include physical, mental, verbal and/or emotional abuse. But after this volatile moment, then comes the very pathetic and patronizing moment of “apologies and promises.” This is when the person who does the hurting will either apologize and/or pretend like nothing ever happened, or tries to push the culpability back on the victim (“I’m sorry that I hurt you, but you shouldn’t have…” or “If you wouldn’t have…”).
Through all this, domestic abuse advocates believe that the “walking on eggshells” phase is the most dangerous one, because it enables the abuser, empowers them. This helps the abuser to feel superior of the person that they’re dominating, because they know that the victim is willing to cower and fold before they do.
I’m saying all of that to say this: it will never be acceptable for anyone to make you feel inferior, or for you to ever lose your agency to someone who is only dominating and exploiting you. You are a person who was granted a voice for a reason, and that voice deserves to be heard. No one should ever be allowed to make you stop expressing yourself or make you feel bad for doing so.
Now, we all know that you will never have a perfect relationship, or marriage. But the truth is, you shouldn’t have to sacrifice your own happiness to feel safe. NO relationship is ever worth it. Doing so is like being in hell, and you are too good for being and staying in a situation that keeps you there. Find your heaven by getting your freedom. Remember, just because someone wants to be in your life doesn’t mean that they deserve to be.
Yesterday, we reported that George Zimmerman was arrested and charged with domestic violence against his new girlfriend, Samantha Scheibe. Today, according to courtroom video obtained by TMZ , he received his sentencing from the judge.
The judge granted him a $9,000 bond, partially because of a strangulation between he and Scheibe that went unreported. He must also adhere to the following conditions:
1. Zimmerman must stay 1,500 feet away from Scheibe at all times and have no contact with her through any medium.
2. He must surrender possession of his firearms, including the shotgun he used to point at her.
3. He cannot leave the state of Florida and must surrender his passports.
4. He must wear a monitoring device to track his location.
Typically, defendants are required to purchase their own monitoring device but Zimmerman’s lawyer argued that he doesn’t have the funds to pay for it and the judge waived the cost.
The hearing also revealed that during the strangulation incident, Zimmerman threatened to commit suicide claiming he had nothing to lose.
I know many of you are tired of hearing about Zimmerman and his latest legal troubles, considering he’s still a free man when many of us feel he was unjustly acquitted for Trayvon Martin’s death. Yes, it’s frustrating. But reporting on his consistent run-ins with the law allow us to illuminate the true nature of his character. And while it’s certainly not enough given his past and recent actions, it serves as a record of of the grave injustice that was perpetuated by our justice system and will hopefully influence change in the future.
You can watch Zimmerman in court receiving his sentencing in the video below and then him leaving the courthouse after that.