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A couple of weeks ago we learned of a violent new trend called the knockout game, during which teen boys approach unsuspecting victims and punch them as hard as they could in hope of well, knocking the person out. Word of this shocking new game caused quite a bit of hysteria in areas close to where incidents of the game have surfaced. Apparently 23-year-old Ashley DePew of St. Louis was aware of this. According to the St. Louis Post-Dispatch, DePew told police officers that she was punched in the face by a “black thug” participating in the knockout game. Her eye was swollen shut. The way DePew reportedly told officers the story two days after the actual occurrence, she was standing outside of St. Louis bar the Trophy Room when she was approached by a group of young black men and one of them punched her.
After the alleged incident occurred, DePew claims the young men fled the scene; however, when officers began questioning Trophy Room patrons who were present on Nov. 17, the night of the alleged incident, they all revealed that they were unaware of the assault. After doing a bit more digging, officers found that DePew made up the knockout game story to cover for her boyfriend, Justin Simms, who actually assaulted her. The couple eventually confessed to fabricating the story. As a result, investigators are pondering whether or not they’ll press charges against DePew for filing a false police report.
“We had to spend a significant amount of resources unraveling the lies they told. That’s resources that could have been spent on other crimes and it damaged the perception of the city. I hope these two individuals get help in their relationship,” said a St. Louis police spokesperson.
DePew’s attorney, Ethan Corlija is arguing that she should not be charged since she is a domestic violence victim.
“I don’t want this to detract from the fact that she’s still a victim,” he said. “She sustained pretty serious injuries. No matter how the circuit attorney chooses to view it, it still boils down to her being a victim and we can’t lose sight of that fact.”
It has not yet been announced whether or not DePew will be charged. Though it’s unfortunate that this young woman has found herself in an abusive relationship, her false report could’ve led to the arrest of an innocent black man. There should be some sort of repercussion for that.
Minnesota Vikings cornerback A.J. Jefferson has been charged with felony strangulation — after allegedly grabbing his GF by the neck and throwing her around a bedroom earlier this week … TMZ Sports has learned.
According to the Eden Prairie Police Department in MN … the accuser told cops she and A.J. got into an argument on November 25 after a night on the town. She says things got so bad, he went to a neighbor’s home and she went to sleep in the guest room of their home.
The GF claims A.J. returned to their home and confronted her about ignoring his text messages — and that’s when things got violent.
The GF told police A.J. “grabbed her neck and she could not breath.” He then “picked her up by the neck” and threw her off the bed and onto the floor.
She claims she didn’t fight back because she was having a hard time breathing and he’s a lot bigger than her.
Cops say the GF went to a police station after the incident with red marks on both sides of her neck — and that’s why officials decided to charge Jefferson with a crime.
Read more at TMZ.com
Last week we told you the tragic story of 22-year-old Colorado father, Merrick McKoy, who shot his 19-month-old daughter, Mia, in what appears to have been an attempt at hurting his estranged girlfriend, Kimphone ‘Kim’ Phanthavongsa.
“I told u I can’t live without u lol u thought I was joking now me n Mia out this b****. Don’t judge me. Had no choice,” McKoy wrote in a Facebook status moments before shooting Mia and then turning the gun on himself.
The child’s mother, who was not in the apartment at the time of the shooting, quickly phoned police for help from a neighbor’s apartment after heading a single gunshot come from her apartment. Unfortunately, responders didn’t arrive in time to save Mia. The toddler died later that day at St. Anthony North Hospital, while her father clung to life in critical condition. It was later revealed that the shooting occurred after Phanthavongsa fled the apartment following an altercation with McKoy. His medical condition was kept under wraps for nearly a week, but the Adam’s County Coroner’s Office confirmed yesterday that he, too, died, ABC7 Denver reports. What the coroner his not disclose; however, is the exact date McKoy passed away.
As a result of his death, Westminster Police spokeswoman Cheri Spotke says the investigation into the murder-suicide is now closed. Mia’s family members continue to mourn her death.
“She just learned how to walk. What an angel. Whenever she smiled it was bright,” a tearful Vannatda Sivixai told reporters the day of the shooting.
What an awful tragedy.
When we initially meet Somaya Reece on the first season of Love & Hip-Hop New York, she openly discussed her relationship woes. Those woes included both physical and emotional abuse. Since then, the South Central Salvadorian beauty has not only revamped her look but has a cute boyfriend who simply adores her. Despite the amazing turnaround for Reese, she humbly never forgets her past. This past weekend the hip-hop reality star turned model and author stated on her Instagram that she was actually once the victim of domestic abuse:
“I love and embrace my imperfections. No one is perfect. No one will ever be. The thought of living or portraying a perfect life is not REAL! My life is transparent for a reason. I embrace the pain I have suffered. The reason why I made it out alive many times over was because I was meant to live in order to tell my story. To tell my story in order to inspire and motivate others. The physical pain will never go away, but my heart is in a better place. I still have night terrors from when my first boyfriend beat my face into pulp. I lost my hearing for a bit. I can still distinctly hear his haunting laugh while he was doing it. He punched and broke the majority of my top right teeth. He crushed my right temple & crushed my upper cheek bones.”
Somaya continued on:
“When you’ve seen death dead in the face, you fears no longer exist. No man on earth can every hurt me or try to instill fear in me. No man (or woman) on earth can determine my fate. And no matter how much or many have tried to bring me down. They can’t. All those that have done me dirty I don’t have to pray for, they need to seek prayer for themselves. Many have tried their best to hurt me, but i’m still here. I’m still standing tall with my head held high. I was once broken but never shattered. I’m here to send a positive message. I don’t allow my past to make me bitter. I don’t use the excuse of my painful past as a reason to act up. I have a lot to live for. I have a lot of people to help. I have my family to work hard for. And I will continue to tell my story in order to inspire YOU.”
Because of her experiences, Reece has launched a domestic violence campaign called “Be You.” The campaign will help domestic violence survivors to rebuild their self-esteem and reclaim their identity.
What are your thoughts on her statement?
We first learned Crystal Mangum’s name in 2006 when she accused members of the Duke Lacrosse team of raping her while she worked as a stripper at a party. Many rallied behind her believing she had been the victim of a brutal crime. But all of that sympathy and compassionate dissipated when the country learned that she had completely lied about the accusations. And a North Carolina attorney dismissed all charges against the athletes.
And as of Friday of last week, Mangum’s name is back in the headlines as she was found guilty of the second-degree murder of her boyfriend Reginald Daye, who she stabbed with a kitchen knife in April of 2011. Daye died 10 days later from complications related to the stabbing. After arguments from the defense and prosecution a jury found Mangum guilty and Judge Paul Ridgeway immediately sentenced Mangum to a minimum of 14 years in prison.
Mangum and her attorney, Daniel Meier, argued that Daye posed a threat to Mangum and she feared for her life at the time of the murder. According to ABC 11, in his closing arguments Meier said, “He was bigger than her. He was on top of her. He was choking her. [She gave him a] single stab wound to the flank.”
But the prosecution said Mangum deliberately attacked Daye. They described her as a serial abuser with a history of physical violence towards her boyfriends. She was arrested on domestic violence charges involving another man in 2010.
On Wednesday, she testified on her own behalf saying Daye was angry with her because she had disrespected him by flirting with another man. She said he hit her and knocked her to the floor and threatened to throw hot water on her face so that other men wouldn’t want her. Mangum said Daye went to the kitchen and got a knife that he threw at her. She locked herself in the bathroom, Daye kicked down the door and grabbed her by the hair before pulling her into the bedroom.
Mangum said, “He straddled me, hit me and then he started choking me. I couldn’t breathe my head hurt real bad. I was just trying to survive and I felt like Reginald was trying to kill me.”
Mangum also faced theft charges for allegedly stealing Daye’s rent money. She was found not guilty on those charges.
Mangum’s supporters are convinced that her past with the Duke Lacrosse case unfairly influenced the jury’s decision in this case, believing that if it were another woman there would have been no trial in the first place. Others are certain that karma is finally catching up with Mangum for lying on those Duke students.
To me, the latter viewpoint is cruel. We weren’t there that night and weren’t in the courtroom to hear the evidence that either corroborated or refuted Mangum’s description of events. We’ll never know what really happened but it would be unfair and a complete miscarriage of justice if the only reason she was sentenced to 14 years was because she told an egregious lie seven years ago.
What do you make of Mangum’s case? Do you think she got a fair trial? Should she be serving 14 years right now?
You can watch footage from the courtroom, including the reading of the verdict and reactions from a Mangum supporter and Daye’s family in the video below.
I once heard a saying that I one hundred percent agree with. ”Having children is the only way to experience heaven and hell at the same time.” I know that that sounds callous as a mother to say, but it’s true. I love my daughter, but it’s hard. Even though it’s hard, it’s also incredibly worth it and it seems that each day the struggle gets better.
We’re conditioned to believe that with every rose in our lives we have to endure the thorns that come along with it. Nothing is perfect, and not only are you going to experience valleys, you begin to expect them during your travels of life. That’s where I feel as though some people get confused and stuck in situations that are detrimental to our own wellbeing.
Let’s be realistic, nothing in life will ever be perfect, because we are all imperfect beings, interacting with other imperfect beings. But when negativity hits you, there should be a limit to how it does. That limit should include when the negativity becomes physical.
For those who have been in unhealthy relationships, including domestic violence, there is something called “The Cycle of Domestic Violence.” Like most cycles it’s something that repeats and it’s something that can keep a person in mental and emotional . The cycle doesn’t happen in all domestic abuse relationships, and it’s not restricted to romantic relationships. Domestic abuse can happen between parents and children, siblings, and extended family.
The cycle is comprised of “walking on eggshells.” The victim(s) are bound by fear of not wanting to make the abuser angry, so they, in a way, relinquish their power, and their own voice to keep the peace. However, the “explosion” will happen, which will be the abuse. This abuse can include physical, mental, verbal and/or emotional abuse. But after this volatile moment, then comes the very pathetic and patronizing moment of “apologies and promises.” This is when the person who does the hurting will either apologize and/or pretend like nothing ever happened, or tries to push the culpability back on the victim (“I’m sorry that I hurt you, but you shouldn’t have…” or “If you wouldn’t have…”).
Through all this, domestic abuse advocates believe that the “walking on eggshells” phase is the most dangerous one, because it enables the abuser, empowers them. This helps the abuser to feel superior of the person that they’re dominating, because they know that the victim is willing to cower and fold before they do.
I’m saying all of that to say this: it will never be acceptable for anyone to make you feel inferior, or for you to ever lose your agency to someone who is only dominating and exploiting you. You are a person who was granted a voice for a reason, and that voice deserves to be heard. No one should ever be allowed to make you stop expressing yourself or make you feel bad for doing so.
Now, we all know that you will never have a perfect relationship, or marriage. But the truth is, you shouldn’t have to sacrifice your own happiness to feel safe. NO relationship is ever worth it. Doing so is like being in hell, and you are too good for being and staying in a situation that keeps you there. Find your heaven by getting your freedom. Remember, just because someone wants to be in your life doesn’t mean that they deserve to be.
Yesterday, we reported that George Zimmerman was arrested and charged with domestic violence against his new girlfriend, Samantha Scheibe. Today, according to courtroom video obtained by TMZ , he received his sentencing from the judge.
The judge granted him a $9,000 bond, partially because of a strangulation between he and Scheibe that went unreported. He must also adhere to the following conditions:
1. Zimmerman must stay 1,500 feet away from Scheibe at all times and have no contact with her through any medium.
2. He must surrender possession of his firearms, including the shotgun he used to point at her.
3. He cannot leave the state of Florida and must surrender his passports.
4. He must wear a monitoring device to track his location.
Typically, defendants are required to purchase their own monitoring device but Zimmerman’s lawyer argued that he doesn’t have the funds to pay for it and the judge waived the cost.
The hearing also revealed that during the strangulation incident, Zimmerman threatened to commit suicide claiming he had nothing to lose.
I know many of you are tired of hearing about Zimmerman and his latest legal troubles, considering he’s still a free man when many of us feel he was unjustly acquitted for Trayvon Martin’s death. Yes, it’s frustrating. But reporting on his consistent run-ins with the law allow us to illuminate the true nature of his character. And while it’s certainly not enough given his past and recent actions, it serves as a record of of the grave injustice that was perpetuated by our justice system and will hopefully influence change in the future.
You can watch Zimmerman in court receiving his sentencing in the video below and then him leaving the courthouse after that.
According to ABC news, George Zimmerman has been charged with aggravated assault, battery domestic violence, and criminal mischief in relation to his domestic dispute today. The alleged victim, his girlfriend, has been identified by police as Samantha Scheibe. The assault took place at the home the two shared.
We now have details on what exactly caused George Zimmerman to be taken into custody today. According to TMZ, the 30-year-old who was acquitted of the murder of Trayvon Martin earlier this year pulled a shotgun on his girlfriend in the middle of an argument.
The girlfriend, who has yet to be identified, reportedly asked Zimmerman to leave her home after they became engaged in a verbal dispute and as a result he began to break things in the house. Zimmerman also began to pack his things — which included a shotgun and an assault rifle — and as the argument escalated, Zimmerman grew more upset … and took the shotgun out of its case.
When Zimmerman’s girlfriend threatened to call police, he reportedly leveled the double barrel piece at her and asked if she really wanted to do that, and then allegedly smashed a glass coffee table with the butt of the gun. Oddly enough, Zimmerman called 911 himself and said his pregnant girlfriend was “going crazy.” Sounds familiar, right? According to the girlfriend’s account, he shoved her outside of the home and barricaded the door behind her. When police arrived on the scene, they forced themselves inside and placed Zimmerman under arrest. The Seminole County Sheriff says Zimmerman’s girlfriend is actually not pregnant.
Yes, it’s déjà vu all over again. George Zimmerman is reportedly back in custody, and though details are slim it appears this latest arrest is the result of some sort of domestic disturbance.
According to the Orlando Sentinel, George Zimmerman has been arrested and is en route to the Seminole County Jail. Around 1:30 pm, Sheriff Don Eslinger confirmed to the news outlet that Zimmerman had been arrested today and that more information would be available shortly. WFTV, though, is reporting that the arrest is the result of a disturbance that took place on Topfield Court in unincorporated Apopka, but details of what the disturbance involves have not yet been released.
As you likely recall, just two months ago Zimmerman was brought in for questioning after his wife, Shellie, called the cops on him in a different domestic dispute. At the time, Shellie claimed Zimmerman pulled a knife on her after she discovered a firearm in the home they share. After a verbal altercation, she claims he then proceeded to pulled a gun on her and her father. Shellie never pressed charges against her estranged husband, whom she’ll filed for divorce from just a few days earlier, but given this latest news it would appear she should have.
WESH-2 is reporting that this latest domestic disturbance involves Zimmerman’s “girlfriend” so we’re especially interested in learning this woman’s identity, as well as who in their right man would get involved with a man like George Zimmerman. We’ll keep you up on the details as they unfold.
Over the summer, we told you that actor Marcus T. Paulk—best known for his role as Miles on 90′s sitcom Moesha—was arrested after he allegedly beat up his girlfriend.
In case you missed it, the 26-year-old actor’s girlfriend, singer Andi Roxx, said that the incident occurred in Beverly Hills at the Confidential nightclub. Apparently she and Marcus got into a heated exchange because he wasn’t paying her enough attention. Once the couple got home, Andi says the argument became physical. She accused the former child star of punching her in the chin and kicking her in the stomach. She admitted that she hit Marcus as well. The aspiring singer went to the hospital the following morning, where she was treated for internal injuries. Law enforcement officers also came to the hospital and questioned her about the incident. Not long after, Marcus turned himself in to authorities.
Three months later, Marcus has officially been charged with domestic violence and battery, TMZ reports. If convicted, the Red Tails actor could face up to four years in prison. It’s not really clear what took the District Attorney so long to officially charge him, but we’re sure that will come out as more details emerge. We will continue to keep you posted as this story develops.
What are your thoughts regarding this case?
This past summer we reported, 50 Cent’s ex-girlfriend, Daphne Joy, accused him of domestic violence and destroying her property during a fight. Luckily for him, he struck a plea deal that will allow him to avoid a future behind bars.
According to TMZ, 50 was charged with one count of misdemeanor domestic violence and four counts of misdemeanor vandalism. Allegedly he caused $7,100 in damages. During his trail, 50 pleaded not guilty and the judge ordered him to turn in his guns and stay away from his ex-girlfriend who is also the mother of his second child. 50 cent’s attorney told TMZ, 50 was able to create a deal with the prosecutor to get the charges dropped by pleading no contest to the one count of misdemeanor vandalism.
50’s sentencing includes three years of probation and 30 days of community service. He has also agreed to receive counseling and pay Daphne back for the alleged damages he caused.
Do you think 50 Cent should have received a stronger sentencing?