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Toni Braxton On Getting Along With Ex-Husband After Divorce: “We Are Very Caucasian, Very White About It”

February 19th, 2014 - By Brande Victorian
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I’m struggling to find the words to properly address the foolishness Toni Braxton said in front of a live studio audience, not to mention the world, during her latest “Bethenny” appearance so I’m just going to put it out there and let y’all have at it.

The recent divorcée appeared on the talk show to discuss her alleged retirement and her upcoming role in “Orange is the New Black,” and of course things got personal sooner rather than later. Apparently during a commercial break Toni talked to Bethenny about living in LA and co-parenting with her ex-husband Keri Lewis, and when the cameras began rolling again she said this on-air:

Bethenny: So on the break we were talking about you living in LA?

Toni: Yes, I am in LA and my ex-husband is there but we get along great. We are very caucasian, very white about it.

Bethenny: You are having a very white divorce?

Toni: We are really. We did.

Bethenny: Really. Then I have a very black divorce, no?

Toni: I got that means, I hate you Jodi, I hate you Jodi. That’s what it means to black people. (“Baby Boy” reference)

Bethenny: Got it, so a white divorce is your are bffs, you can live next door.

Toni: Black people we kind of look and say why is that? Why don’t they hate each other?

Sigh. I just…. Toni, please stop. I forgave you after that foolishness about playing in the snow and how white people’s skin feels different, but talking to a white woman on national TV about how you and your ex being cordial with each other is a white people thing is silly and irresponsible. Way to spread stereotypes — and false information. Ever heard of John and Lorena Bobbitt? Charlie Sheen and Denise Richards? Alec Baldwin and Kim Basinger? Shoot, I thought black folks weren’t getting married to begin with, suddenly we’re having ghetto divorces?

Toni, you’ve completed your damaging task for the day. Now please go somewhere, have a seat, and stop opening your mouth unless you’re singing.

Check out the interview snippet in the video below. Thoughts?

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“Money Is Not An Issue” Terrell Owens Speaks On His Divorce

February 11th, 2014 - By Veronica Wells
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This Terrell Owens/Rachel Snider story just gets juicer and juicer by the week. First they had a quickie wedding, two weeks later Snider is filing for a divorce because she claims Terrell only married her for her money. And now, Terrell, through a representative, is finally speaking out about the whole thing.

According to TMZ, Owens says Snider is lying and insists he is not broke. And he’s going to see her divorce and raise her one. He said he also plans to file papers against her when he gets back into town.

One of Owens’ reps told TMZ Sports, “Money is NOT and issue for Terrell.”  Instead, the rep said that Terrell is the primary person on the loan and he is adamant he never married Snider for her money.

“Come on, she’s a postal worker,” the rep said. “Do you really think she’s the primary on the loan?”

Hell, we don’t know what to think! We do know Terrell had to sell a couple of his homes, was cut from the NFL and has several children for which he is currently paying child support. So you never know.

I mean, the whole marriage thing sounded tres bizarre from jump. But all signs are pointing toward it being true.

The rep said Terrell was out of town working on a show that will premiere in March, (No further details on that.) But she did say that as soon as he returns to California, he plans on filing for divorce as well.

It’s always something with Terrell.

The Basics Of Divorce And Financial Planning

February 10th, 2014 - By Madame Noire
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No one likes to plan for divorce, especially married people. However, divorces, like marriages, are about transition, and all life transitions require smart, proactive financial planning. If your marriage is troubled, do your best to restore it. But if divorce is even a remote possibility, take these steps to protect your financial health.

Hire a lawyer and a financial adviser to work with you on your settlement, including addressing how the courts where you live will handle retirement accounts and other assets in a divorce. The right professionals will help you to set goals and objectives for your divorce that make sense, despite the emotional turmoil of the process for you and your family. Your current family attorney and financial adviser will likely not be able to fulfill this need if they are jointly obligated to both you and your spouse as clients, as it would present obvious conflicts of interest. Be prepared to identify and hire other professionals to represent your interests.

Budget for new living arrangements, as well as a plan for transition tailored to your next situation. Factors such as children, transportation to employment, moving costs, etc., must be considered and planned for. Face up to and budget for changes in your lifestyle, and prepare family members who will be impacted accordingly. For example, you may need to rent a smaller place than the home you now live in with your spouse, or your children might have to change schools. Anticipate these and other changes, and budget accordingly.

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That Was Quick: Terrell Owens’ Wife Wants A Divorce 2 Weeks After Their Marriage

February 7th, 2014 - By Veronica Wells
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Two weeks ago, we told you about Terrell Owens marrying former postal worker, Rachel Snider from Texas. It seemed like their nuptials came out of no where. And as soon as it came, it’s leaving just as fast.

TMZ Sports learned that Snider is already demanding a divorce…again, after just two weeks. Rachel has already moved out and plans on filing as soon as possible.

If you’re thinking this story is fraudulent, Snider herself told TMZ that she believes Terrell only married her for money and used her so he could get a loan to finance a $2 million dollar home in Sherman Oaks, CA.

Snider said, ” I felt in love…and now I feel betrayed and heartbroken.”

TMZ was unable to reach Terrell for comment…

Is anyone else wondering if these two ever dated, let along got married?

The Way Your Parents’ Divorce Is Affecting Your Relationships Today

January 20th, 2014 - By Julia Austin
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Even if you went through hundreds of hours of therapy for it, if your parents divorced when you were young, it could be hard to determine just how that would affect your own relationships later. You could be the most confident and happy person outside of love, but if you’re a child of divorce, you might still be struggling in your relationships these ways.

 

 

 

 

‘She’s Never Been Married Before, She Doesn’t Know What She’s Talking About:’ Porsha Williams Responds To Kenya’s Divorce Shade

January 17th, 2014 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Kenya Moore shocked many “Real Housewives of Atlanta” fans last spring when she reached out to arched nemesis, Porsha Williams, after learning of her then-impending divorce.

“It’s unfortunate. You never really want to see couples breakup,” Kenya said back in March. “I’m a fool for love and I wish they could make it. It seems like they just need to maybe iron some things out in their relationship. Maybe they can still make it work.”

Screen-shot-2013-03-27-at-8.43.04-AMWe thought that was mighty big of her. However, since episode one of the new season, it’s been apparent that Kenya’s sympathy well for her younger co-star’s plight has quickly dried up. And this week’s episode only confirmed when she questioned why Porsha was still crying over her divorce.

“Maybe it is a bit insensitive of me to be tired of hearing about it,” Kenya later wrote in her Bravo blog. “However, from the beginning, when I hear one call their ex all kinds of gay queens, wanting to keep their ex’s last name after they’ve slandered them, wanting a big divorce settlement after 2 years of marriage with no property and no children together, having employment of your own, or stating they will come back if the money is right and if he deals with his demons.”

Porsha recently responded to Kenya’s get-over-it attitude regarding her divorce during an appearance on “The Bethenny Show.”

“That’s a woman speaking from an advantage point where she’s never been married before,” Porsha told Bethenny. “Breaking up with a boyfriend is totally different from going through a divorce. So she just doesn’t know what she’s talking about.”

As for their little bonding moment a few episodes ago, Porsha says it definitely doesn’t mean they’re friends.

“Even though it’s a show, I enjoy genuine friendships, genuine relationships. If I can’t build that with you, then it’s just like a waste of time. I really don’t have time for fake friends.”

Watch a clip from Porsha’s interview on the next page. Thoughts?

‘Can We Say Attention Wh*re?’ NeNe Leakes Calls Out Kenya Moore For Attention-Starved Antics

January 13th, 2014 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Kenya Moore’s behavior on “Real Housewives of Atlanta” last night was downright sickening. Her reaction to Porsha’s emotional  breakdown over her divorce at Cynthia’s party was totally over the top and left many wondering why Porsha’s emotional state bothered her so much. During last night’s episode of “Watch What Happens Live,” NeNe offered a possible explanation: Kenya Moore is a complete attention whore who is jealous of all of the attention that Porsha is getting. Now we don’t know if we’d necessarily resort to the name-calling; however, it is looking that way.

The conversation was actually initiated by a fan that called into the show, questioning Kenya’s motives for blowing up over Porsha’s emotional breakdown. When asked if she thought jealousy was the motive behind Kenya’s blow-up, NeNe theatrically replied:

“That would be yes, honey. Yes, yes, yes, yes and yes! Did you see her tonight storm out of the party and twirl in the middle of the street? Attention whore! Can we say ‘attention whore’ together?”

Speaking of Porsha’s emotional breakdown, Kenya also had a bit more to say about it in her Bravo blog post, expressing that she doesn’t understand why Porsha is mourning a divorce from a man who she accused of being gay.

“We all handle situations differently,” Kenya wrote. “Maybe it is a bit insensitive of me to be tired of hearing about it. However, from the beginning, when I hear one call their ex all kinds of gay queens, wanting to keep their ex’s last name after they’ve slandered them, wanting a big divorce settlement after 2 years of marriage with no property and no children together, having employment of your own, or stating they will come back if the money is right and if he deals with his demons.”

“These blaring oxymoronic statements and feelings have strained my tolerance for this constant display of unsubstantiated emotional fragility. Therefore, I don’t have a lot of sympathy towards the situation. I do however think both Kandi and Phaedra attempted to give sound financial advice. There’s only so much you can do.”

Catch Kenya’s interview on the next page. What do you think of Kenya’s explanation?

Maybe She Doesn’t Want To Work It Out: Trina Braxton Says She’s Ready To Date

January 10th, 2014 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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It appears that the never-ending saga known as Trina Braxton and Gabe Solis continues. Since we were first introduced to Trina during season one of “Braxton Family Values,” she’s been doing the “should I stay or should I go” dance with her sometimes estranged husband. Though the reality TV star filed for divorce from Gabe over the summer, by the time winter rolled around, she expressed doubts about following through with the divorce—even hinting that she may consider sticking around and trying to salvage what’s left of her marriage.

“You know life is difficult,” Trina expressed. “You know and when you are expressing personal decisions in front of America and in front of everyone, you open yourself up to a lot of opinions. And sometimes that kind of clouds your decision making. “So, I need some time to step back and let God and move myself out of the way. So, it’s been a difficult transition,” she continued.

“It’s more than just myself, it’s more than just me and Gabe. It’s me and it’s Gabe and it’s our family. We have two children who we both love. So, right now we’re concentrating on being good parents. My oldest son is in college and my youngest is in 10th grade so, it’s a long haul.”

Just two months later, Trina seems to be singing a rather different tune—again. This time, it looks like she is in fact done with her marriage, as she recently said that she’s ready to jump back into the dating game.

“I’m taking applications,” Trina said during an interview on “The Couch.” “When you go through a divorce, no one wins, especially the children,”she continued.

Of course, any guy that she decides to become serious with will have to pass the Braxton’s test.

“Whenever a guy comes into our lives, he had to realize that he’s marrying the whole family,” Trina added.

The constant back and forth has us a bit confused. But at this point, it seems safe to assume that she’s going to follow through with the divorce.

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LisaRaye Admits She Was Never ‘In Love’ With Her Ex-Husband

December 31st, 2013 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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People marry for an array of reasons and sometimes being in love isn’t one of them. Though she admits that she was “growing towards” love, “Single Ladies” actress LisaRaye McCoy recently confessed that she was never actually in love with her ex-husband, Michael Misick.

“I loved him,” McCoy told Sister 2 Sister. “But I wasn’t in love. We were growing towards that.”

The 46-year-old mom says she never got a chance to fall in love before things unraveled with the former Premier of Turks and Caicos.

“I just didn’t fall soon enough before all hell broke loose.”

When asked if the idea of being a first lady played a role in her decision to marry Misick, she confessed that it had.

“It was all of that,” she said.

Although their marriage ended on a fairly tumultuous note, the Chicago native says she wishes her ex-husband, who is in quite a bit of legal trouble, all the best.

“I spoke to him last year and we’re talking. I’m wishing him the best because I know what kind of fight he has ahead of him. But he’s in jail right now in Brazil.”

“I definitely pray for him. But I know that he didn’t want that to be a part of his legacy. He’s not that kind of man. He’s fighting for his life right now.”

As for whether or not she knew about his alleged, dirty political dealings, McCoy maintains her innocence.

“At the end of the day, he told me, ‘You can help me run this country. This is what we can accomplish together. Will you be able to help me?’ And I was like, ‘Absolutely I can.’ He sold the dream to me. Now was I part of the shenanigans? I can’t say that I knew any of that because there were different laws and rules. I was just there trying to get along and trying to find my way as this new American first lady of Turks and Caicos. So I’m kind of following his lead because I left my friends and family in the States,” said LisaRaye, adding that she’s thankful that she didn’t find herself in trouble with Misick.

Despite having two failed marriages, LisaRaye remains optimistic about marrying again.

“It’s going to be real and I’m going to be in love.”

Read her full interview in the Jan. 2014 issue of Sister 2 Sister. Thoughts?

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Is It Okay To Change Your Baby’s Last Name After A Divorce?

December 31st, 2013 - By Kendra Koger
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There’s been a lot of talk on this site lately about married women who, after divorcing their spouse, deciding to keep their last names.  Brooke Dean wrote an excellent piece discussing the predicament that some women face post marriage, and how their identities are held in a name they had for years.   I’ve been soaking all of these articles and conversations in, while also trying to figure out:  What about the babies and toddlers?

Now first, there should be some ground rules for discussing this scenario.  When I’m talking about children, I’m not talking about kids who are in school, or who have an identity in their surnames.  No one over the age of five.  I’m talking about infants and toddlers.  Those who might not even be cognizant of their last names.  Let’s be honest, how often do you call a family member’s baby by their full name?  That name doesn’t hold weight for them as it would if a child is in a daycare, preschool, school and any environment where they consistently hear their full name.

So here’s the scenario, you’ve had a contentious marriage that ended in divorce when your child was still going from infancy to being a toddler.  You have been the sole provider for this child, and the father does as little as possible that makes him one notch above a sperm donor.  He has no problem with you changing the baby’s name, so do you?

Or what about if he does have a problem with changing the baby’s name, would you consider something equally embracing as hyphenating said child’s last name?

I believe that if the situation ever arises, you should consider the intent behind it.

In my own situation, when I first got married, I kept my last name.  It wasn’t an intentional, feminist move.  It was due to putting it off.  Once our daughter was born, she took the name of my husband.  It wasn’t a problem, because I always assumed that we would always be married, but reality had a different plan for us.

I’ll be honest, I have often thought about changing my daughter’s last name to my own, or at least hyphenating it.  Now hear me out before you jump to the comment section and berate me.

My intention of changing my daughter’s last name isn’t rooted in any type of malice, or attempt to diminish the role of her father.  My idea came from past experiences of working in schools.  I remember working with children who had multiple siblings, and they had different last names, especially from their mothers.  I never thought anything less of these children, but some of the people I worked with would make snide remarks about them, and developed hypotheses about the environment the child was raised in.

I don’t want that for my child.  I don’t want for her reputation with future teachers to be marred due to them making a judgment on a black child, and  a single black mother.   So, I thought about hyphenating her last name, to show that her parents are co-parenting.  That way my ex-husband is still represented.

Now what about the women who have children with their boyfriends and give their children the boyfriends’ last names?  If the relationship ends, would you feel comfortable with your child having his name if he’s not in the picture?

Now, let’s make this clear before I continue.  This article isn’t to encourage women to remove any and all ties that a man might have from his child.  I believe that no matter how the relationship ends, that if a man wants to be involved in the child’s life to encourage it.  Just because the parents didn’t work out, doesn’t mean that the child should not have the presence of his/her father.

On top of that, I also believe that people should be careful with the information that they give about each parent to the child.  Let the child make a decision of what they think about said parent for themselves.  Otherwise, the child can grow to resent you.  But, back to the topic:

My thought process about this evolved even more when talking to someone who used to be married, but was in an abusive marriage and had a child.  After leaving the abuse of her husband, she tried to encourage him to be in their child’s life, but he’s barely there.  He doesn’t call, visit, and her fear of him (and his threats) caused her to not even file for child support.  Her child is still a toddler and isn’t in school yet, and she hates the fact that her child is carrying the name of a man who not only used to beat her, but doesn’t even care about their child to check up on him.  The fear that the father will continue to be absent, but may attempt to claim ownership of him if he becomes a success, haunts her.  The option to hyphenate is an insult to her, because there is no co-parenting, just her.

A name can carry a person’s identity, and is very important.  So, when the child’s identity is still being formed, how would you handle it?  Do you think that the child should always keep the father’s name before they become knowledgable about it, or should changing even be an option?

I leave you good people to discuss.

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