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People marry for an array of reasons and sometimes being in love isn’t one of them. Though she admits that she was “growing towards” love, “Single Ladies” actress LisaRaye McCoy recently confessed that she was never actually in love with her ex-husband, Michael Misick.
“I loved him,” McCoy told Sister 2 Sister. “But I wasn’t in love. We were growing towards that.”
The 46-year-old mom says she never got a chance to fall in love before things unraveled with the former Premier of Turks and Caicos.
“I just didn’t fall soon enough before all hell broke loose.”
When asked if the idea of being a first lady played a role in her decision to marry Misick, she confessed that it had.
“It was all of that,” she said.
Although their marriage ended on a fairly tumultuous note, the Chicago native says she wishes her ex-husband, who is in quite a bit of legal trouble, all the best.
“I spoke to him last year and we’re talking. I’m wishing him the best because I know what kind of fight he has ahead of him. But he’s in jail right now in Brazil.”
“I definitely pray for him. But I know that he didn’t want that to be a part of his legacy. He’s not that kind of man. He’s fighting for his life right now.”
As for whether or not she knew about his alleged, dirty political dealings, McCoy maintains her innocence.
“At the end of the day, he told me, ‘You can help me run this country. This is what we can accomplish together. Will you be able to help me?’ And I was like, ‘Absolutely I can.’ He sold the dream to me. Now was I part of the shenanigans? I can’t say that I knew any of that because there were different laws and rules. I was just there trying to get along and trying to find my way as this new American first lady of Turks and Caicos. So I’m kind of following his lead because I left my friends and family in the States,” said LisaRaye, adding that she’s thankful that she didn’t find herself in trouble with Misick.
Despite having two failed marriages, LisaRaye remains optimistic about marrying again.
“It’s going to be real and I’m going to be in love.”
Read her full interview in the Jan. 2014 issue of Sister 2 Sister. Thoughts?
There’s been a lot of talk on this site lately about married women who, after divorcing their spouse, deciding to keep their last names. Brooke Dean wrote an excellent piece discussing the predicament that some women face post marriage, and how their identities are held in a name they had for years. I’ve been soaking all of these articles and conversations in, while also trying to figure out: What about the babies and toddlers?
Now first, there should be some ground rules for discussing this scenario. When I’m talking about children, I’m not talking about kids who are in school, or who have an identity in their surnames. No one over the age of five. I’m talking about infants and toddlers. Those who might not even be cognizant of their last names. Let’s be honest, how often do you call a family member’s baby by their full name? That name doesn’t hold weight for them as it would if a child is in a daycare, preschool, school and any environment where they consistently hear their full name.
So here’s the scenario, you’ve had a contentious marriage that ended in divorce when your child was still going from infancy to being a toddler. You have been the sole provider for this child, and the father does as little as possible that makes him one notch above a sperm donor. He has no problem with you changing the baby’s name, so do you?
Or what about if he does have a problem with changing the baby’s name, would you consider something equally embracing as hyphenating said child’s last name?
I believe that if the situation ever arises, you should consider the intent behind it.
In my own situation, when I first got married, I kept my last name. It wasn’t an intentional, feminist move. It was due to putting it off. Once our daughter was born, she took the name of my husband. It wasn’t a problem, because I always assumed that we would always be married, but reality had a different plan for us.
I’ll be honest, I have often thought about changing my daughter’s last name to my own, or at least hyphenating it. Now hear me out before you jump to the comment section and berate me.
My intention of changing my daughter’s last name isn’t rooted in any type of malice, or attempt to diminish the role of her father. My idea came from past experiences of working in schools. I remember working with children who had multiple siblings, and they had different last names, especially from their mothers. I never thought anything less of these children, but some of the people I worked with would make snide remarks about them, and developed hypotheses about the environment the child was raised in.
I don’t want that for my child. I don’t want for her reputation with future teachers to be marred due to them making a judgment on a black child, and a single black mother. So, I thought about hyphenating her last name, to show that her parents are co-parenting. That way my ex-husband is still represented.
Now what about the women who have children with their boyfriends and give their children the boyfriends’ last names? If the relationship ends, would you feel comfortable with your child having his name if he’s not in the picture?
Now, let’s make this clear before I continue. This article isn’t to encourage women to remove any and all ties that a man might have from his child. I believe that no matter how the relationship ends, that if a man wants to be involved in the child’s life to encourage it. Just because the parents didn’t work out, doesn’t mean that the child should not have the presence of his/her father.
On top of that, I also believe that people should be careful with the information that they give about each parent to the child. Let the child make a decision of what they think about said parent for themselves. Otherwise, the child can grow to resent you. But, back to the topic:
My thought process about this evolved even more when talking to someone who used to be married, but was in an abusive marriage and had a child. After leaving the abuse of her husband, she tried to encourage him to be in their child’s life, but he’s barely there. He doesn’t call, visit, and her fear of him (and his threats) caused her to not even file for child support. Her child is still a toddler and isn’t in school yet, and she hates the fact that her child is carrying the name of a man who not only used to beat her, but doesn’t even care about their child to check up on him. The fear that the father will continue to be absent, but may attempt to claim ownership of him if he becomes a success, haunts her. The option to hyphenate is an insult to her, because there is no co-parenting, just her.
A name can carry a person’s identity, and is very important. So, when the child’s identity is still being formed, how would you handle it? Do you think that the child should always keep the father’s name before they become knowledgable about it, or should changing even be an option?
I leave you good people to discuss.
Last week Khloé Kardashian officially filed for divorce from her husband of four years, Lamar Odom. Though it was originally reported that the couple signed an ironclad prenuptial agreement and both would walk away with what they came to the marriage with, it look like their divorce may not be that simple.
According to Us Weekly, the estranged couple’s prenuptial agreement states that Khloé is entitled to $500,000 for each year that she stayed married to Lamar, which would tally up to $2 million. On top of that, reports suggest that the “Keeping Up with the Kardashians” star is allowed to keep all gifts given to her by Lamar, including her $1 million 12.5 carat diamond wedding ring and their $4 million Tarzana mansion. However, while Khloé is entitled to the house, sources claim she won’t be returning there.
“She has been discreetly searching for a new place to call home,” the source revealed. “Khloé was trying to buy a house down the road from Kris Jenner’s but it didn’t work out. Somebody else placed a higher bid.”
As for that $10 million life insurance policy that everyone’s been talking about, sources say she will only remain the beneficiary until their divorce is finalized. This is definitely not as bad as Lamar having to shell out $ 7 million in cash, but it’s still fairly steep. Khloe recently took to Twitter to address her divorce filing and slam rumors that she’s been creeping around with L.A. Dodgers player Matt Kemp.
After 10 years of marriage, Taye Diggs and his wife, actress Idina Menzel, are throwing in the towel. A representative for the couple has confirmed the split to People.
“Idina Menzel and Taye Diggs have jointly decided to separate at this time,” a spokesperson told People. Their primary focus and concern is for their son. We ask that you respect their privacy during this time.”
According to the HuffPost, the pair met in the mid 90s when they were co-starring in “Rent” on Broadway. They eventually married in Jan. 2003. They share one son, Walker Nathaniel Diggs, who just celebrated his fourth birthday this past September. With both Taye and Idina working in Hollywood, we can totally see how their hectic schedules could place a strain on their marriage. Earlier this year Idina told People that marriage is a challenge, but revealed that both she and her husband were working hard to keep it all together.
“We work at it. I’m not going to glamorize it or glorify it — we go through tough times like everybody else, but we love each other very much. We try not to be away from each other for more than two weeks at a time, and we try to find new ways to communicate,” Idina said.
It’s unfortunate that Taye and Idina were unable to work things out. Hopefully they find a way to keep things amicable for the sake of their son.
If you’re even a little bit caught up in the drama that was going on (and in some ways, continues) between Porsha Williams and her ex-husband, Kordell Stewart, you may have been asking yourself how the hell she’s been getting away with speaking so ill of him on The Real Housewives of Atlanta.
Well, the official reason is not, “Well, it must be true if he isn’t stopping her from saying it.” Well apparently, Kordell did try to make Porsha keep quiet about all of their issues, but she wasn’t having it. TMZ obtained some legal papers that Kordell filed right after he filed divorce in which he asked her to sign a confidentiality agreement. But Porsha was having none of that and as we can see, she never signed said papers.
Still, one would think that Kordell would have tried another move because Porsha has been taking him to task in almost every episode. Sure, it is giving her more face time on the show and off the show, but it isn’t doing anything for his reputation.
We’re only at the halfway point of The Real Housewives of Atlanta season and we’re pretty sure that Porsha has more to say since most of this season deals with her going through the divorce.
Do you think Porsha should have just done Kordell “a solid” and kept some of her thoughts as well as some of the things she said went on in their marriage quiet?
Porsha Stewart started 2013 a married woman, but she will close it out as a single lady. Yesterday we told you that the ugly divorce between the Real Housewives of Atlanta star and her retired NFL player ex-hubby, Kordell Stewart, was finalized after eight grueling months of divorce proceedings. Figures were not released; however, Kordell’s attorney, Shiel Edlin, did say that Porsha will be restoring her maiden name.
“[Porsha] previously stated she was keeping Kordell’s last name, which made Kordell very concerned about the damage it could cause. However, she reconsidered and decided to restore her maiden name, Williams. Kordell now believes he can restore the Stewart name and brand, for which it has been known through many generations, one of character, integrity, honesty and truthfulness,” said Edlin.
At the start of this year Toni Braxton dropped a rather shocking bomb on the music world when she revealed that she was considering retirement.
“I don’t know if I’m going to be doing anymore music, I’ve said that before in the past but I don’t know,” the Un-break My Heart singer said during a February interview with Tom Joyner.
“I just don’t know. Maybe I’m mad at music. I don’t know what it is. I can’t, my heart’s not in it right now,” she continued. “They’re [the record labels] actually calling and I’m like well ‘I don’t know if I want to do another record’ but that’s a blessing I guess but I gotta be in it, I gotta love it and maybe because everything that has happened to me I don’t know.”
Thankfully, it looks like her good friend Kenneth “Babyface” Edmonds helped to pull her out of the musical rut that she found herself in. Back in August we told you that the duo will be joining forces for a collaborative album titled, Love, Marriage, Divorce. Radio DJs can’t seem to get enough of their first single, “Hurt You,” so it looks like it’s safe to say that Toni is no longer considering retirement. She also confirmed this during a recent interview with The Grio.
“I was going to retire because I was thinking about my career. So he [Babyface] told me you can’t think about that, you have to go back to being an artist and performing and loving your artistry,” Toni told Chris Witherspoon.
“Retiring is off the table now. I don’t know what I was thinking. I will never retire… ever, ever,” she continued.
We’re glad she came to her senses!
Check out footage from her interview on the next page.
Kenny “Babyface” Edmonds recently sat down with media maven Oprah Winfrey for an episode of Oprah’s Next Chapter. During their chat, the music industry vet opened up about divorcing from his ex-wife, Tracey Edmonds, after thirteen years of marriage and what he thought about her relationship with Eddie Murphy. He also sang the praises of Tracey’s current boyfriend, Deion Sanders. Check out his interview highlights below.
On his “picture perfect” marriage to Tracey:
“I can’t imagine really being married to Tracey right now.”
“We wanted it to look like that. We felt responsible…the reality is that there was a connection that wasn’t really there. We loved each other but we weren’t really in love with each other. It was more the idea of it falling apart and me holding onto the image of what I thought we were. I don’t feel like we were supposed to be together forever…I’m okay with it because I think she’s okay.”
On his ex-wife dating Deion Sanders:
“Deion’s a good guy. Deion did one thing for me, which I thought was the classiest thing in the world. I’ve given her my opinion on certain things, I knew Deion seemed like a nice guy. When he called me and said he didn’t want to meet my children until he sat down with me, so he wanted to know me before he met my children, I was in. Tracey is family, so I wanna make sure she’s good.”
On Tracey dating Eddie Murphy:
“I didn’t think it was the best thing. I didn’t know Eddie so, I said to Tracey, ‘It’s your decision.’ It wasn’t for me to step in, but things happened the way they were supposed to happen.”
Watch a clip from Babyface’s Next Chapter interview on the next page.
Here at Madame Noire, we don’t condone figuring out a way to get close to a wealthy man and having a baby by him in order to financially set yourself up. We never would. But when you see what some of these women stand to gain, does the thought ever cross your mind?
According to the New York Post, Marc Anthony’s ex-wife Dayonarra Torres wants child support payments increased…tenfold. As it stands, Marc Anthony pays $13,00 per month for their two children, ages 10 and 12, and also pays Dayanara $3,000 in spousal support. According to Anthony’s attorney, Daniel Jaffe, he also pays for “all of the kids’ schooling, band lessons, camps, and all medical and dental costs. Virtually everything.”
Dayanara is looking to have the child support payments increased to $112,000 per month. She believes his business ventures generate way more money than his current child support payments reflect and she wants something a little more…accurate.
On paper, it looks like Marc Anthony is raking in dough hand over foot at this point in his career. Besides his album and tour money, Anthony is acting, has a clothing line and owns a little piece of the Miami Dolphins. So yes, he’s making a lot of money.
Jaffe says they will fight this petition in court and that comes as no surprise, especially when they say he’s doing so much more than just making payments.
The Post was unable to get any comment from from Dayanara Torres or her attorney.
Do you think that Marc should be on the hook for paying that much more in child support since he appears to be making monthly payments and paying for everything else in terms of his children?
Porsha Stewart is on a quest for fame honey. So it’s not surprising that she’s talking to any and everybody about the thing that makes her the most interesting thing about her right now the drama surrounding her divorce from Kordell. In a recent, very in depth interview with Vibe Vixen, the Real Housewives of Atlanta star talked about everything from why she’s decided to keep her name to opening up a teeth whitening line because she was so bullied in high school. She also opened up about the next man she dates, wanting children and the jealousy that’s ever present in Atlanta. Check out some of the highlights from the interview here.
Why she’s keeping her name
Life is a journey. I was born Porsha Williams, but I was given to a husband that didn’t work out, but at the end it still was a part of my life. I’ll give up that name when I meet my next husband, but until then it’s really not necessary. The name [Stewart] meant something to me, there’s sentimental value with my name it’s not like ‘oh I hate him so take his name back’ it’s my name too. It’s the name that everybody knows. At the end of the day, this is business. I’m on a platform and I’m building businesses and people know me as Porsha Stewart and when you build a brand you have to work with what you got.
So what has been the hardest part of dealing with the divorce?
You find yourself at different points in your life and you realize that you have to refocus. I need to secure my future. I’m not even concentrating on the divorce, I’m trying to move past that.
After that she listed what she’s looking for in her next man. She specifically mentioned spirituality and then the interviewer asked her if Kordell was spiritual.
Do you think Kordell is God-fearing?
He’s spiritual. But, you don’t know when somebody prays—you don’t know their relationship with God. They could be praying on the toilet, so I really can’t speak on his spirituality. I just know that I had moved too far from God towards the end of my marriage and I felt like once it ended I needed to get back to that place and once I got back to that place it came right back. I got my joy back and that’s one thing that nobody can take from me.
Her love-hate relationship with Atlanta
Atlanta is home so I’ll always have a home in Atlanta, but I wouldn’t mind having a condo somewhere else just so I can be able to get out. Sometimes when you’re in Atlanta for too long and you start moving and shaking and doing things in Atlanta people can get really jealous. Sometimes you have to mix it up and get out and come back, but I try to keep myself around people who are positive. I want to learn something from them, and hopefully they get something from me.
Tell us about the music project you have coming up.
I’m working on a song right now called “Perfectly Worthless”. I’m working with a producer named Pierre. I’ll be releasing that single within the next couple of months.
The song is all about passion and pain. I feel like this song is going to be a woman’s anthem for her to gather herself up and move on and realize who she is and what she’s worth. I went into the studio at a very emotional point in my life and I’m very proud of that. I also have a teeth whitening line. It’s not out yet, but it will be soon.
Wow! Why teeth whitening?
I was bullied in junior and high school—people talked about me having big teeth for years, and now that I’m an adult I’ve grown into my teeth. I became obsessed with teeth whitening, so I actually tried different products and I landed on one that I loved. It’s perfect!
How did you reach this point of self-awareness
Prayer. I was most aware of who I was and who I belonged to right before I got married when I was 25. I was very spiritual and very much into the church and for me I was just lost after the divorce. I hadn’t really been going to church that much.
Hmm… a whole lot going on here.