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When A Sistah Misses The Signs: Famous Women Who Married Down-Low Men And Didn’t Know It (And A Few Who Did)
These women and their partners started off like the perfect couples. Like many, they were happy, and felt like they had the whole world in front of them. But that was until the women found out their man was gay. Some did during their marriages, others did after the fact, one found out when her husband messed around with her stepfather. Ouch! Either way, it’s clear that some folks just aren’t who they say they are and when you’re in love, what might seem obvious to somebody else is hard for a sistah to see. Hey, you live and you learn. Here are nine women who have been involved with gay and bisexual men at one time or another.
Real Housewives of Atlanta star Porsha Stewart may assume the ditzy role and make some very questionable comments at times, but our girl has proven that she’s no fool. Just last month the Georgia peach expressed that her upcoming music project would be inspired by the love shared between she and Kordell Stewart. But in the wake of Kordell’s surprising divorce filing, the reality star seems to be singing a rather different tune (literally). She recently told ABC News Radio that she definitely plans to allow her current situation and the emotions that she is experiencing as a result of the divorce to lead her creatively in certain aspects of her album.
“What I’m going through I absolutely want to pour into some music. I’m living what a lot of people across the world have been through. And I’m going to use my voice, and my spirit, and my passion and pain and put it into this new song and release it,” she said of her upcoming project.
She also maintains that she still isn’t sure what caused the divorce.
“It was like an out of body experience. I didn’t think it was really happening so it was definitely not what I wanted to wake up to that morning. No wife wants a divorce and you definitely don’t want to live it out in public. I’m sure I’ll find that out [what caused the divorce] sooner or later.”
She went on to say that although she’s “single,” she still loves Kordell and is not interested in dating right now.
“I’m not really interested in that [dating] right now. Everything is so fresh. The love for my husband is there. The situation is disappointing. So, I’m not even thinking about that. It’s a long time before I consider any of these requests for dates.”
What do you think of Porsha’s plans to sing about her heartbreak?
Last night Real Housewives of Atlanta star Porsha Stewart made an appearance of Bravo TV‘s Watch What Happens Live following the conclusion of part three of RHOA’s reunion special. During the appearance, the Georgia peach chatted it up with Andy Cohen and actress Vivica Fox about the show and feeling betrayed by her husband’s divorce filing, which has played out very publicly over the past month. She even expressed that she learned that her marriage was over via Twitter, of all places. Check out some of what she had to say.
On not knowing that Kordell would file during the reunion show taping:
“I was totally blindsided. At the reunion I did feel some kind of way because I did want my husband there with me. But I was standing strong representing for my family. I was a wife. That’s my title. And that’s what I took ownership of. When I found out about the divorce it was absolutely a surprise.”
On learning of Kordell’s filing:
“I was laying in the bed and I woke up and I tweeted ‘Today is the first day of the rest of your life.’ I put the phone down and I took another nap like I always do sometimes and I looked back at my phone and my sister was calling me over and over. She said ‘Have you heard?’ and I’m like ‘Heard what?’ So I said let me go back to Twitter. The first thing I see is ‘Kordell divorcing Porsha.’ And I’m thinking this is just a crazy joke. Yeah, I found out from Twitter. I called my sister back and said ‘I’m going to ask him about it.’”
On confronting Kordell:
“I went in there and I asked him. He was there [in the other room]. And I asked my husband, I asked him had he filed. Just a long story short, I felt very disappointed and let down. When I got married I meant it for life. I always said I would never get a divorce unless he cheated on me or something like that. He didn’t [tell my why]. First of all, I had to find out from my attorney that it was true. We looked it up online, found out that it was true that he had actually filed. I was just heartbroken. I am still right now. I’m a brave woman and I know that I’m living this out in front of the world because of the way it was done. You know, on the Internet, I’m in the public eye and everybody knows about it.”
On how she copes with still living with Kordell:
“Yes [we're still living together]. I’m from Atlanta. I’m born and raised in Atlanta. I have friends and family so I spend time away, I spend time home. It’s a difficult situation right now. It’s something that I did not want at all. I had asked ‘Can we work this out?’, ‘Can we go to counseling?’ What you saw at the reunion was a wife trying her last try. When you are married you need to put 150% into your marriage, no matter what. And if it doesn’t work, you need to be able to walk away and say, ‘I tried.’ I feel at the end of the day that it was just a betrayal that I suffered from and that’s something I’m going to have to move on with. But at least I know I put in my best.”
“We’re in the same house. I didn’t say we speak and I didn’t say I’m cooking. It ain’t no eggs and bacon and ham hocks no mo’.”
Turn the page to see footage of Porsha chatting it up with Andy and Vivica. Are you shocked that Kordell was in the very next room when Porsha learned he was divorcing her?
The 536-Day Divorce Battle To End A 72-Day Marriage Is Over! Kim Kardashian And Kris Humphries Are (Almost) Officially Divorced
TMZ is reporting that reality star Kim Kardashian and Brooklyn Nets power forward, Kris Humphries have finally reached a settlement, bringing an end to their seemingly never-ending divorce. A judge dissolved the pairs marriage today during a court hearing.
While the terms of the settlement have not been officially announced, sources tell TMZ that Kris dropped annulment demands, is no longer claiming that Kim committed fraud by marrying him and he will not receive the requested $7 million that he’d originally asked for. He actually won’t be receiving any money from Kim for that matter. The insider also says that both parties will take care of their own attorney’s fees.
Official papers still need to be signed by both Kris and Kim, but the judge reportedly told Kim, ”Congratulations on your dissolution.” Kris and Kim even appear to be playing nice with one another. Kris would’ve had to pay a court penalty fee for pulling a no-show at a scheduled hearing last week pertaining to the case, but Kim kindly asked the courts to drop the penalty and they obliged, letting Kris off the hook. The divorce will be official once both parties sign off on necessary legal docs.
Thank God! Now Kim can stop crying about having Kanye’s baby while she’s someone else’s wife.
“I’m scared with the divorce, I’m probably going to have this baby being married to someone else,” Kim said during the Keeping Up With The Kardashians‘ Season 8 supertrailer.
On a more serious note, we’re sure she’s happy to have that burden lifted.
About a week or so after retired Pittsburgh Steelers player Kordell Stewart filed for divorce against his reality TV star wife, Porsha Stewart, rumors began to surface that the estranged couple were looking to work things out and attempting to mend the broken fences of their marriage. Initially, I began to think that it was a good thing that they were trying to make it work and from the outside looking in, Porsha appeared to be very dedicated to her marriage. On the other hand, I began to think of the manner in which Porsha says she learned of Kordell’s divorce filing, which was through the media just like the rest of the general public. He called it quits. He threw in the towel, but he never informed her. A representative on behalf of Porsha even came forward saying that Kordell misled Porsha, allowing her to believe that he was committed to working it out, then turning around and filing divorce papers. His method in ending their marriage was pretty harsh.
We hear every day that marriage is something to be worked at. We hear that relationships aren’t easy and that it is ultimately a team effort. But what happens when one teammate just up and quits seemingly “out of the blue?” Does that negate the union? Does it cancel out the promises and responsibilities that the team has to one another? How do you give your heart back to a person who made it clear that they’ve given up on you and the relationship? What assurance do you have that they won’t quit on you again?
In an interesting Psychology Today article titled, “Contemplating Divorce: Would You Take Your Spouse Back?” licensed therapist Susan Pease Gadoua explores this very subject. Gadoua surveyed a group of people who were three months into their divorce proceedings about whether or not they would take their spouses back. A surprising 90 percent responded, “No.” Gadoua goes on to note that there is often an eye-opening epiphany experienced by the abandoned party in the relationships. At first, they desire for their former partner to return. Then, they begin to see faults and flaws about their ex that they hadn’t seen prior to their heart-wrenching splits.
“In my experience, when a person is the leavee, they often tell me initially they would take their spouse back if he or she wanted to come back to the marriage. This is true particularly when the spouse being left didn’t see it coming and didn’t think the problems in the marriage were ‘that bad.’ But then something interesting happens. As the divorce proceedings take place, the leavee witnesses all kinds of behavior that they’d either never seen before or they had denial around,” notes Gadoua.
She went on to imply that the trauma that comes with being abandoned often stirs up disdain and even sometimes disgust within the “leavee” for the “leaver.”
“One woman had a classic response when asked if she would let her husband back in if he were to ask her to reconcile. In a word, “EW!” Another client told me that after his wife had him served with divorce papers on Valentine’s Day, he wasn’t sure if he could even look her in the eye again, never mind let her back in his bed!”
Break-ups are rough, but being totally abandoned by the person you love and having your teammate switch sides, becoming your opponent, seems unfathomable. While a successful reunion in a situation such as this one seems like it would be ridiculously challenging, I suppose the outcome is really contingent upon the parties involved and their love left for one another.
Would you take your man back if he ever walked out on you or have you ever taken back your ex after left you? How did things turn out?
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Dear Dr. Sherry,
I am a 49-year-old woman who has been married for 28 years. I have devoted my life to my husband and my daughter. The moon rose and set on the two of them, and I had great faith in my husband and believed everything he told me as gospel until about five years ago. My husband had a 2-year relationship that almost tore our marriage apart. I asked him to leave and he move out. After three months, he said he had made a mistake and we reconciled. Fast forward to after the affair. I began to analyze myself. I had really neglected myself, to the point, I had gained weight, neglected to finish school and stop going out with my friends because as I was just too busy with my family. I gave up all my power as a woman to my husband. It was not his fault.
In 2011, I decided I needed a change. I had gastric bypass surgery and I’ve lost almost 70 pounds so far. I enrolled in college at my job and I’m almost finished and looking forward to my new career. I have also made new friends and go out at least once a week. I am having the time of my life! However, there are problems: My husband has been extremely resistant to my changes, I know he does not like it, and at this point his opinion no longer matters. Dr. Sherry, for the past three years my husband has been in the hospital because he refuses to take care of himself. He has a host of illnesses; diabetes, HTN, eye-problems, hearing problems etc., which all came about after the affair. Just recently, he lost his job, and then, for no apparent reason, stopped taking all of his meds. Last Thanksgiving he had a mild stroke, and my husband is only 52 years old. Also because of my husband’s last stint in the hospital and job loss, we are now behind in the mortgage payments and in foreclosure.
My husband is recovering from the stroke and has found a full-time job. We are now negotiating with the mortgage company. I’m tired and at the end of my rope. I’m tired of always having to run behind him and to put out the fires. My daughter is going off to college, and I no longer want to be married. I refuse to leave because he needs me, since he is still recovering from the stroke. Please help. What do I do? I love my husband, but I don’t think I’m in love with him anymore.
Don’t Know What to Do
See what Dr. Sherry Blake has to say about this on Essence.com.
It’s been a hot minute since we’ve seen D’Wayne Wiggins of the hit ’90s group Tony! Toni! Toné! and his wife is trying to make sure she’s dealt that same fate. According to TMZ, after 12 years of marriage she’s filing for divorce.
Michelle Lochin-Wiggins is reportedly citing irreconcilable differences as the reason for the divorce filing from her 50-year-old husband. She’s also seeking full legal and physical custody of the couple’s teenage boys who are 14 and 17. TMZ reports that she does at least plan to grant D’wayne visitation rights to the children.
So far there’s been no mention of pre-nups or speculation about how assets may be split between the couple, but D’wayne’s likely doing alright in the money department. Aside from the earnings of Tony! Toni! Toné!’s first go ’round, since 1998 D’Wayne’s continued to tour, performing the groups hits with the current lead singer Amar Khalil. And just before the group disbanded in 1996, he established Grass Roots Entertainment in his West Oakland recording studio, House of Music. In 1995, he developed and signed Destiny’s Child to the entertainment company, and we all know how they turned out. He’s also worked with Keyshia Cole and Alicia Keys, notably on her Billboard hit “Diary.”
Something tells me Michelle is going to want a bit of those earnings. Here’s hoping they can have an amicable split.
Since news that retired NFL player Kordell Stewart filed for divorce from his wife, Real Housewives of Atlanta star Porsha Stewart, it seems that every day the estranged pair is making headlines for divorce-related drama. Although the reality TV couple is headed for divorce, it looks like they’re still living under the same roof and according to TMZ, things are getting pretty ugly.
Court documents filed on behalf of Porsha claim that Kordell has been locking her out of the house at night. She also claims that he’s been bringing another woman into their home.
Kordell has also filed papers in response, claiming that he locks up their home at night for security reasons and that she’s ridiculously called the police to their home on multiple occasions, claiming that she’s locked out even though she has a key. He also said that Porsha stays away from their home for several days at a time, partying all night and sometimes comes in between 2:00 and 4:00 am, smelling of alcohol.
As for the other woman that Porsha says her estranged husband has been bringing home, Kordell claims the woman is a nanny whom he was forced to hire because Porsha has been ”neglecting her responsibilities to her stepson.” It is also being reported that Kordell is urging the court to deny Porsha’s request for temporary spousal support, claiming that she’s a celebrity with enough income to take care of herself.
One can only imagine how hostile the environment must be in that household right now.
Does Porsha have an obligation to her stepson?
With Kordell Out Of The Picture, Porsha Is Reportedly Returning To ‘Real Housewives Of Atlanta’ Next Season
For weeks rumors have been circulating the Real Housewives of Atlanta freshman, Porsha Stewart would not be returning for the show’s next season. But with her impending divorce being the talk of the town, sources now say that Porsha is “officially” a part of next season’s cast, reports The YBF.
The way the story is being told, prior to Kodell filing for divorce, Porsha had already informed Bravo that she didn’t wish to return next season. RHOA development sources suggest that Porsha’s attempted departure came as a result of Kordell turning up the heat on her to leave the show. It seems that he wasn’t crazy about the way that he was portrayed on the show and Porsha, being a devoted wife, was willing to sacrifice her newfound fame to make her retired NFL husband happy.
There’s word that Bravo had already began to plan out casting calls for Porsha’s replacement, but now that Porsha says she wants in for next season, they’ve done away with those plans.
The Georgia peach made her first official public appearance since news of the divorce leaked, earlier this week at the Bravo’s Upfronts event in New York City and she looked amazing (pictured above). US Weekly briefly chatted with the lovely soon-to-be single lady. She expressed that going through a divorce was difficult, but that she has the support of her inner circle and that’s what has been helping her though.
“This is a very difficult time for myself and my family. I’m just trying to remain strong. That’s all I can do and stay prayerful and lean on my friends and family. When you have strong arms and strong family around you, they cover you – that’s what they’re there for. So that’s who I’m leaning on. And it’s really a blessing to see people, supporters and fans are standing up and just really showing me the love,” Porsha revealed.
While the public will never fully know all that went wrong in Porsha and Kordell’s marriage (nor should they), from the outside looking in, it really seems like he tried to block her shine in many ways and as Porsha’s co-star Kandi stated last week, maybe this is all for the best.
Would you be happy to see Porsha return to RHOA next season?
If you thought your man was asking you to do some kinky stuff in the bedroom, think again. According to the African Seer Zimbabwean couple are getting a divorce because, according to the wife, her husband insisted and possibly even forced her to have sex with a snake. And when I say snake I’m not referring to her husband. I mean snake as in the reptile.
The wife, Venenciah Chatima, brought up the snake sex in court after her husband, Mutsvodi Makwini, sought a protection order against her. She had this to say:
“The reason why he is divorcing me is not that I am abusing him as he claims in this court. The real issue here is that I refused to sleep with a snake. What happened was that he came home with a brand new television set and he told me that if I wanted him to bring more things at home I was supposed to have sex with a snake.
“Even though I refused to sleep with the snake, I have noticed that every morning I will be feeling as if I had slept with someone. As you can see I no longer have my front teeth. I lost them the day he assaulted me because I had entered our bedroom and caught my husband sleeping with his 25-year-old girlfriend on our matrimonial bed,” she narrated.
Mutsvodi says that he needs a protection order against his wife because she has been assaulting him and his property.
“I want the court to separate me from this woman because we have failed to live as husband and wife. One of the main reasons why I want her out of my house is because she is in the habit of deliberately urinating on my church uniform and I no longer have a uniform to wear when going to church. She is also a violent person and I also want her to be stopped from pulling my private parts,” he claimed.
The story just gets better and better doesn’t it?! Peeing on his church uniform? That’s pretty low down.
So, by now you’re probably wondering whether or not Mutsvodi had anything to say about the snake sex. He did and his answer is to die for:
“I have never forced her to sleep with a snake. I only talked about it to her in passing and not that I was forcing her,” he said.
I don’t know about you but when I read that line I fell on the floor–howling. Asking your wife to have sex with a snake is not something you just mention in passing my friend. That is a serious, perhaps hours long, conversation.
Anyway the magistrate presiding over the case granted the order of protection Mutsvodi requested though his wife won’t be evicted from his house as he would have liked. Don’t know if her living in the same house will stop the urination or the pulling of the private parts he complained about. We’re just hoping these two don’t end up seriously hurting one another.
What do you make of this outrageous story? What’s the weirdest thing someone ever asked you to do in bed?