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‘Communication Will Save You Half The Drama:’ Christina Milian Offers Post-Divorce Co-Parenting Advice

April 17th, 2014 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Since calling out ex-husband, The-Dream, as a deadbeat dad a few years ago, singer and actress Christina Milian appears to be in a much better place. So much so, that during a recent appearance on “Good Morning America,” the actress and singer offered advice for co-parenting post divorce.

“Take a second and breathe. You know, have the best intentions. Pray on it,” she explained. “I think that communication will save you half the drama. You know, it makes things so much easier. And I think I learned that. I went to therapy early on in my divorce.”

Because she’s in a much better place since overcoming the initial hurdles of co-parenting in the wake of an ugly divorce, Christina says she’s in a position to help others.

“I feel like I’m in a good place, then all the better to just put it out there and hope that it can help someone else. She added, “We all figure it out,” she said. “Sometimes, you just got to take it, take the lesson, and learn, and know that this happened for a reason.”

As for when she feels is an appropriate time to introduce your children to a new love interest, the engaged singer says definitely take your time.

“I think it’s very important to take your time when introducing a new person into your child’s life. You want to make sure this is going to work out so you’re not introducing them to a new person over and over again because you never know who is going to be the one.”

Despite the unique dynamic of their blended family, Christina says four-year-old Violet has a great understanding that she’s deeply loved by both her mother and father—even though they’re not together anymore.

“My motivation at the end of the day was making sure that my daughter had two parents that were in her life consistently, She’s a really smart girl and I think she has a healthy understanding of knowing that mommy and daddy are no longer together but we both love her.”

Check out Christina’s recent Momtastic blog on co-parenting here. Skip over to GMA to watch her interview. 

Carl Payne’s Wife Files For Divorce After 22 Years Of Marriage

April 11th, 2014 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Another celebrity couple is throwing in the towel…

According to TMZ, Melika Payne, wife of “Martin” actor Carl Payne Jr., filed for divorce with the L.A. County Superior Court last month. It’s unclear what ruined the couple’s 22-year marriage, but Melika cites “irreconcilable differences” in her filing.

Melika’s decision probably doesn’t come as a huge surprise to her famous husband, as the couple has been legally separated since 2012. She is requesting sole physical custody and joint legal custody of their son. Melika is also requesting spousal support from her actor husband.

The estranged couple tied to knot back in 1992. They have been legally married for twenty-two years, but legally separated for two of those years.

Alan Thicke Comments On Son’s Split From Paula Patton: ‘I Wouldn’t Bet On Them’

April 10th, 2014 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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For awhile it looked like Robin Thicke and estranged wife, Paula Patton, were definitely going to get back together. But now that nearly two months have passed since Paula announced the separation, chances for a reunion look a bit bleak. Of course, we’re on the outside looking in and who’s to say that the couple isn’t busy privately working things out. However, judging by a recent interview done by Robin’s famous father, Alan, it looks like the couple is still apart.

“They’re doing great [post split] and Robin is pouring himself into the musical artistry,” Alan told ET Canada. “There will be a fabulous album coming out within months… he’s almost finished it.”

When asked if he believes that there is a chance for reconciliation between Robin and Paula, Alan candidly answered that he wasn’t really sure.

“They’re grown ups. I wouldn’t bet on them one way or another.”

As you may recall, back in February Paula Patton issued a statement that the couple would be separating after nearly 10 years of marriage.

“We will always love each other and be best friends, however, we have mutually decided to separate at this time.”

I guess we’ll have to stay tuned to see whether or not the split is really a permanent one.

‘Mom Is A Bad Influence:’ Master P Releases Footage Of Children Saying They Weren’t Abducted

April 10th, 2014 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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This might be the saddest and most troubling development in the Master P divorce saga.

Yesterday we told you that the rapper’s estranged wife, Sonya Miller, filed for an emergency custody order, insisting that the “No Limit Records” founder abducted their children. In response to Sonya’s claims, P recorded a video of the couple’s four minor children stating that he did not abduct him and three of them stated that they actually want to live with him. The video was also accompanied by a note, which reads:

“Recently, Master P’s ex-wife pulled another publicity stunt but this time the kids speak out. They admit that they love their mother even though she is dealing with a long-time drug and alcohol addiction. After all the media bashing initiated by his ex-wife, Master P continues to take care of his kids, pay her bills and allow her to keep up with her lavish lifestyle of living in a guard-gated community in Calabasas and driving luxury vehicles.”

Master P says, ‘This is embarrassing for me and my family, we’ve always lived a private life. I’ve been dealing with this problem with her for over 24 years and I’m not holding it in anymore. I’ve stayed by her side for many years, hoping that she would grow and change for the better especially for our kids’ sake but after two decades; I realize that I can’t change her, I can only change myself.

It’s not healthy for kids to grow up in a home where they can easily access drugs and alcohol. The reason I’ve moved on is to provide a peace of mind for myself and to provide a stable and healthy environment for my kids. She may be my ex-wife but I will always love and care for her well-being, she is the mother of my kids. I would never turn my kids against their mom, they love her, she just needs help. I’m going to put it in God’s hands and pray for her. When she’s ready, I’ll send her to rehab and hopefully, our kids will be more comfortable around her and if they choose to live with her, I’m good with that. For all the people that are buying into the negative gossip, I’m not perfect and I have nothing to prove. My kids are my priority, I will continue to take care of my kids and I don’t need a judge or a lawyer to tell me to. ‘”

In the video, 3 out of the couple’s four minor children make it clear that they’ve decided on their own to live with their father.

“I wanna stay with you,” 13-year-old Hercy says looking directly into the camera. “If I come back here, I know she’s a bad influence and when I’m with you, you teach me to do what’s right and all of that.”

“I wanna go with you because she’s not even going to take me to school in the morning,” added 9-year-old Mercy.

It really sucks that children have to be placed into the middle of such an uncomfortable situation.

Master P’s Estranged Wife Says He Abducted Their Kids

April 9th, 2014 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Master P's estranged wife says he abducted their kids in emergency custody order.

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Last fall we told you that rapper Percy “Master P” Miller and his wife, Sonya Miller, were throwing in the towel and heading to divorce court after 24 years of marriage. Well, let’s just say that all hell has broken loose since then. Last month Sonya came forward basically saying that P left her and their minor children broke and destitute, forcing her to apply for welfare. Just days later the No Limit Records founder publicly denied his estranged wife’s claims and insisted that she has a drug problem.

“All I ask is that she take a drug test in the next two weeks and pass it,” P wrote in a letter. “I will give her everything I have. The four minors she says she needs help with, three of them are with me, this makes no sense. I’m tired of sugarcoating and hiding the truth of ungrateful people that I’ve been taking care of for so many years.”

Now Sonya is claiming the P abducted three of their four minor children. According to TMZ, Sonya filed an emergency custody order stating that he return their children immediately. In her filing, she says that the rapper picked up their 13-year-old son, Hercy, from school back in February and never brought him home. Then, she says he turned around and did the very same thing with their 9-year-old son, Mercy, in March. As for their 17-year-old daughter, Tytyanna, well, she ran off to live with her dad a while ago and hasn’t looked back since. The couple’s 14-year-old daughter, Italy, is still currently living with her mom. Sonya is requesting that a judge award her with full custody of all of the children.

Good grief that’s a lot of drama!

Men’s Rights Activist Wants To Ban Couples In The Process Of Divorcing From Dating Or Rebound Sex

March 26th, 2014 - By Charing Ball
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So here is an interesting thought: Should dating while separated but still legally married be considered illegal?

It is a question that received national attention earlier this week. Reports surfaced that Republican state lawmakers in Massachusetts had introduced a bill, which would make it illegal for a divorcing spouse with children to date another person without court approval first. More specifically, the language reads:

Section 31 of chapter 208 of the General Laws, as appearing in the 2010 Official Edition, is hereby amended by adding the following paragraph:-In divorce, separation, or 209A proceedings involving children and a marital home, the party remaining in the home shall not conduct a dating or sexual relationship within the home until a divorce is final and all financial and custody issues are resolved, unless the express permission is granted by the courts.”

Original reports had erroneously attributed the bill to Republican State Sen. Richard Ross, whose name is listed on the filing of the bill as “by request.” But according to Boston Magazine, the bill was actually submitted under the Massachusetts Right to Petition law by Robert LeClair, an 83-year-old men’s rights activist who has been filing this same bill for years and always fails to get needed sponsors who could get it to the floor. The article also states that Massachusetts lawmakers routinely, as a matter of principle, file whatever citizen bill comes before them. Senator Ross posted a message stating this on his Facebook page, more specifically stating the following:

For that reason, when a constituent requested that I file a free petition on his behalf, I did so. While the proposal is not one that I support, I do support his right to participate in state government. This petition is now in the hands of my colleagues in the Senate and the House of Representatives, and the democratic process will allow for it to be considered and voted on by the Legislature.”

First, let me say thank goodness that Republicans are not so stupid as to support such a bad idea, all around. However, you can’t necessarily blame folks for assuming that the Republicans would be behind such measures, considering that this is the same party, which tried to regulate reproductive rights for women and ban all sorts of gay rights. And part of me suspects that LeClair might still be bitter about some rebound sex one of his exes might have had many moons ago.

But with that said, can’t a broken clock be right at least once a day?

While I don’t philosophically have an issue with divorcing couples moving on intimately to new relationships, I also feel like the involvement of another person, while a couple is divorcing, is the number one reason why divorces – or breakups in general – do not go as smoothly as they should. I understand that folks have been hunkered down in long-term relationships for a while and are anxious to test the single waters, but there is something irresponsible and short-sighted about beginning a new relationship when you have yet to resolve all aspects of the old.

The idea of some sort of measure aimed at mediating potentially explosive behaviors is enchanting – particularly since the idea seems to also take into consideration the welfare of the children. But then again, how would you regulate that? And what should be the consequence of ignoring such laws? Contempt of court? This seems like a fiscal and regulatory nightmare if you ask me. I am not a psychic, but I foresee the courts being jam-packed with all sorts of infidelity-while-divorcing allegations. My crystal ball also tells me that black people would lead all statistics for arrests of said crime, just because that is how the system has always worked for us…

On a side note: As a single person on the market, men in the process of divorce have always been nothing but unnecessary drama to take on. Not only is she – the ex– not over it, but truthfully, he’s really not either. So there your simple behind is, stuck in the middle. My opinion is that a man should be officially divorced before pursuing anything romantically. Of course, that is my rule. However, you can’t necessarily regulate what the heart – and in some cases, the raging loins – wants.

So what do folks think? Bad legislation or give this man some sponsors?

Robin Thicke Says He And Paula Patton Are “Much Happier” Right Now

March 26th, 2014 - By Lauren R.D. Fox
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Last month, most of us were shocked at the news of Paula Patton and Robin Thicke’s separation, and we weren’t alone. Several times at his concerts, Robin, himself, opened up to fans about his feelings towards his estranged wife and her announcement of their separation; he even performed an emotional tribute for her. In his first interview since his separation, Thicke told PEOPLE:

“My music is very honest about what I’m going through and my songs are about my life. And my relationship with her was 21 years of my life, so I just thought it was important to me to let people know how much she means to me.”

Despite Patton not publicly responding to Thicke’s Romeo-esque actions, Thicke told PEOPLE she was touched by them.

“She loved it. She thought it was the sweetest thing and very romantic, and I’ve always been a romantic guy that way.”

Although that comment raises questions about whether Paula still intends to go through with divorce proceedings, remain mum on the topic of reconciliation, simply stating:

“We’re both doing well. We’re both very happy right now – much happier. Everything about this moment in my life – this amazing year I just had and what I’m going through personally – has actually ignited some of the best writing I’ve done in a long time.What ever everybody’s wondering about, they’re going to hear it all in the album.”

He also included, he plans to be: “a great father  and hopefully write some great music, put on some great shows and be a great friend to Paula.” Does that mean we’ll have to wait for his next album to learn his and Paula’s fate? We’re leaning more and more on the side of this breakup being a stunt as the days go by. What do you think?

‘I Didn’t Ask For Anything:’ Porsha Williams Explains Why She Received Nothing From Her Divorce

March 24th, 2014 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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RHOA star Porsha Williams explains why she recieved nothing from her divorce settlement.

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A few weeks ago news broke that Porsha Williams walked away from her divorce from retired NFL star Kordell Stewart without alimony, a cash settlement, real estate or health insurance. This of course was a bit odd, since word on the street was that the couple didn’t even sign a prenuptial agreement prior to saying “I do.” The 30-something “Real Housewives of Atlanta” star spoke out about the settlement during a recent appearance on “Bethenny” and according to Porsha, she walked away with nothing by choice.

“I didn’t ask for anything,” the “Flat Line” singer simply stated. “Right now in the press it’s, ‘Porsha didn’t get anything, poor Porsha,’ and people are feeling bad for me and feeling sorry for me because I didn’t get anything and they think that we went to trial and I lost.”

She adds that a widespread misconception about the divorce is that her and Kordell went to trail when in fact, they did not.

“I didn’t go to trial, I chose not to go to court. So there was no judgment.”

It turns out that the entire process was emotionally draining, which is why she opted not to go to trial.

“It just tore me apart to go through this divorce,” Porsha explained. “It was so traumatic! And it ruled over my life. Every single day. And I wanted the freedom – I wanted to be done with it.”

“Before we had court the next week, I woke up, I called my attorney… ‘I said listen: I’m done with this. Get the divorce decree I’m coming to sign it.”

One thing she did request, however, was for Kordell to cover her medical bills.

“I said the only thing I want him to do is pay for my hospital bills,” she said before confessing that Kordell didn’t have health insurance on her or his son. “I didn’t have insurance. He didn’t have insurance on me or his son.”

Kordell agreed to pay Porsha’s medical bills and she says all is well.

“So I’m good! I’m completely independent.”

And there you have it.

What do you think of Porsha’s decision not to go to trial?

Lamar Odom Still Fighting To Save Marriage: ‘I Want To Make It Work With Khloe’

March 19th, 2014 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Khloe Kardashian ended 2013 by filing for divorce from her husband of four years, Lamar Odom, after countless rumors of substance abuse and cheating. Lamar, however, is still keeping hope alive for a reunion with his estranged wife.

“I want to make it work with Khloe,” the former Clippers player told InTouch Weekly.

It appears that he has already taken steps to make this happen. According to Lamar, he has plans to see the “Keeping Up with the Kardashians” star very soon.

“I’m going to see Khloe,” he added. “I’m going to see her soon.”

But before their big reunion can take place, Lamar has to recover from an injury that he suffered while playing overseas in Spain.

“I’m focusing on getting better,” he finally concluded.

Interestingly, it appears that his attempts to get his wife back may actually be working. Sources close to the family claim that Khloe is willing to give her marriage another shot—despite being advised not to by worried friends and family members.

“He confessed his feelings and cried his heart out to her on the phone,” insider said of a mid-March phone conversation. “She’d been avoiding his texts and calls for weeks, but when she heard him pleading with her to take him back, she melted.”

I suppose only time will tell if his attempts to get Khloe back are actually working.

Would you like to see Khloe and Lamar back together?

Byron Scott Divorces College Sweetheart After 27 Years Of Marriage

March 19th, 2014 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Byron Scott Divorces College Sweetheart After 27 Years Of Marriage


Speaking of divorce, it looks like retired NBA star Byron Scott wants out of his 27-year marriage to college sweetheart, Anita Scott.

According to TMZ, the former Lakers played filed his divorce petition on Mar. 13. Bryon’s reason for wanting to end the marriage is still unclear. The now-estranged couple met at a Los Angeles nightclub during Byron’s days as an Arizona State student.

“As soon as we started dating, [Byron] was the knight in shining armor,” Anita once told, adding that he frequently sent flowers and wrote poetry for her. “He was the perfect sweetheart. It was a whirlwind.”

They later married in 1986. The former Cleveland Cavaliers head coach shares three adult children with Anita. It’s unfortunate that their once-fairytale romance is coming to an end. But just maybe their season together has come and gone. Representatives for the couple have yet to publicly comment on the split.

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