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We’d all like to think that our game is tight when it comes to sex, but if you had to really think about it, are there any areas that could use improvement?
For example, my phone sex skills might be a little rusty. Okay, forget rusty…try non-existent. I’ve had men tell me that I have a nice, even sensual, voice, but I’m no Girl 6. I feel like the man has to really bring it out of me in order for me to go there. I usually feel silly if a sex call is initiated by someone else and if you catch me off guard, I might even start giggling. I’m just not an sensual chatterbox. I used to think phone sex was limited to those who were in long distance relationships or who were celibate and needed a release. But it shouldn’t be limited to those extreme circumstances; phone sex should be spontaneous and fun, not a daunting task or obligation.
If the thought of having phone sex has you a bit freaked out but you still want to give it a go, there are some things you can try to make it more enjoyable. Since I’m no expert, I decided to take some initiative and research ways I could improve my dirty talk skills if the occasion for me to use them ever…uh…”arises.” Here we go.
Whips, chains, clips, cuffs, harnesses, leather, lace, guests, plugs, Adult Videos, positions, role play, ropes, rings, toys, tapes, dirty talk, domination, field trips and the endless possibilities of an imaginative mind speaks to the hidden sexual fantasies that you and your partner might share. Women and men alike find adventure tantalizing–especially in the bedroom. The aftermath of 50 Shades of Grey, and the adventuresome tales from your friends and your significant other’s friends’ sex lives have raised questions of risqué risks you and the lover might want to take in bed.
When introducing the idea of new forms of adventurous sex and 4play to your partner, there are several approaches: to be straight-forward, to ask questions, provide suggestive statements and give commands. To be straight forward, simply express your desire to spice things up. Put emphasis on why you would like to try these things with him: indicating that you trust him, that you think that you both might enjoy it, or that you think that he has the stamina for it. For those who are slightly more apprehensive about taking that initial step, try proposing questions. “Would you ever try…?” “Would you like to…?” “Have you ever tried…?” “How would it feel if I…?” and “You know what I’ve always wanted to try?” This way, you gain understanding about his willingness to participate in certain things without being left to feel too vulnerable. Suggestive statements are good because desires are exposed, and much like questions, you usually get a clear response, and often your desires are met. “It turns me on when you…” “It’s s*xy when you…” or “I’ve always had this fantasy about you and me…”
Lastly, with commands, it depends greatly on your personality and whether or not you want to be bossy, but this method usually yields immediate response. Try demands like, “Come here!” “Faster/Slower.” Simply be instructive, like you’re the teacher leading test prep…except sexier.
If he’s making suggestions about new things that the two of you might try, be open-minded. It isn’t easy to share certain fantasies, so try not to make him regret it. If you feel comfortable doing said act, then indulge him; and if you don’t –just explain to him why. If there isn’t an agreement on an activity or the idea makes one of you uncomfortable, then don’t do it. A short conversation should be enough to soften either of you to the idea, and if it doesn’t, then don’t force it–simply put that topic away to be addressed in the future. You and your partner should respect the decision that the other has made.
Above all else, consent and comfort is key. Know that both you and your partner are enthusiastic and interested in whatever act will be performed, and take safety into account as well–making sure that skin and instruments are clean as a precaution before committing to any adventurous deed. There are free workshops (i.e. Babeland), countless sites, and a gaggle of books geared toward the newly sexually adventurous couple–check them out.
Men can be vocal about what they want from their significant others, sometimes expecting them to anticipate their needs or indulge their desires. Yet, they don’t always express what they would like to do with their partners. So, here’s a list of things that your man might like to do with you, in regards to entertainment, sex, and hobbies, that you might not have thought of.
When love seems eternal, some men like to signify that by having the both of you mark one another with a token of affection, like an image or name written on the other person’s body. The latter idea is kind of a terrible idea, so even if your man doesn’t want you to tattoo his lips on your hips, or put his initials on your body, a lot of men simply enjoy getting tattoos with their significant other and hitting up the tattoo parlor together for a quick thrill.
Not too long ago, we posted an article on the most common mistakes men make in bed. Well guess what, ladies It’s YOUR turn. You didn’t think you were getting off free and clear did you? Sure, Madamenoire.com is geared towards women but that doesn’t mean we can’t check ourselves every once in a while – especially when it comes to sex. While I’m sure a lot of my sistas are holding in down in the bedroom, there could be a few things we probably need to address. Men often say that it is hard (no pun intended) to have bad sex but ladies, please don’t pat your collective selves on the back. We have work to do! Let’s explore these common female frisky faux pas.
When it comes to sex, it goes without saying that men and women have very different expectations as well as likes and dislikes. None of us are exactly the same when it comes to what turns us on or off, but there are some things that most women agree on when it comes to determining if we allow him back in our bed or not.
Guys, if you’ve managed to have sex with her once, but you now find that she’s MIA after your encounter, chances are you did or said something wrong in the sack and she’s not eager for a repeat. If you get your cues from adult videos or your boys, you might’ve been led astray…and here are 9 things that you might be doing that SOME women hate in bed.