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If you’re a woman who has tried to get your ex back, you’ve most likely taken the “desperate times call for desperate measures” approach, causing you to do all kinds of unfortunate things, including the walk of shame and the drunk dial. These unflattering behaviors render you his doormat, and ultimately push him away.
I know how excruciating it is when you still love him after your relationship ends. I’ve been the desperate woman who has tried unsuccessfully to get (a couple of) my exe(s) back. What I remember most is feeling insecure during the process and embarrassed about some of the things I did. My wake-up call in 2007 changed me for the better.
In 2007, I experienced some big setbacks, including a breakup with a man I loved dearly. I was devastated, and deep inside sensed our relationship wasn’t over. These setbacks helped me learn how to love myself. The more I loved myself, the less my desire to behave in desperate ways to get him back.
My approach wasn’t about initiating and worrying whether or not he would come back. It was about responding and having an inner-knowing that he would come back because he wanted to, while at the same time knowing that I would be fine if he didn’t. This empowering, six-step approach led him back to me and made me his wife.
1. Don’t disagree with why things ended. If he brings up the reasons why your relationship ended, don’t disagree with him. Find the truth in what he’s saying, acknowledge it and apologize for it. It’s better to be happy and loved than to be right. Wanting to be right is your ego stepping in and overshadowing your soul’s desire to be happy and loved.
Check out the other 5 tips on YourTango.com.
Sometimes in a relationship you’ll find that you are doing everything possible to make sure that things continue to go well. And while your intentions are nothing but good, sometimes becoming overbearing and overstepping in a relationship can do more harm than good. Though it may sound crazy, there are times when you may be doing too much. Here are 15 sign’s that you’re an overbearing girlfriend who is probably coming off as just a tad parched.
You’re in touch with him 24/7
Every morning there’s a text on his phone. During your lunch break you run to your car to call him. At night you make sure you call him to wish him good dreams. Staying in touch around the clock is a big no-no, and it shows that you’re becoming really needy and clingy. Guys tend to hate when a girl becomes clingy, so definitely cut back on the communication.
The viewers will have to be the judge of this claim and if we’re going on the current public opinion, Kenya Moore is crazy. But let’s give her a chance to explain herself, shall we?
Taking to her Bravo blog, Kenya, who arguably had the worst trip ever in Anguilla, discussed how ecstatic she was to return home to Atlanta and put a lot of things behind her — namely her beef with Porsha and her dreams of becoming Walter’s wife. Remarking that “pressure creates the finest diamonds,” she wrote:
Much has been made about me pressuring a man to marry me. Despite how it seems at times, I’m not crazy. I am, however, a hopeless romantic and appear anxious for marriage on the show to a man who clearly has his own agenda. On the one hand Walter says there are “3 days left and anything can happen… Anguilla would be a beautiful place to get married or elope.” I assure you my behavior is warranted. My mistake started when you rely on a man’s words and not his ACTIONS.
‘Tis a lesson many a woman has had to learn multiple times in her lifetime.
Pulling a move from “Love & Hip-Hop Atlanta’s” Mimi, Kenya then went on to claim that she’s experiencing the shock and disappointing revelations of her relationship at the same time everyone else is at home. She added:
Unfortunately, I put my trust into Walter and believed his intentions were genuine. His true feelings are being shown to me and everyone else whilst in Anguilla. My trust, respect, faith, and feelings are rapidly deteriorating when I see his duplicitous behavior at every turn. Of course the cameras don’t catch everything a couple discusses. With that being said, our relationship issues will come to light on the upcoming shows. It can’t come and go fast enough for me. If Anguilla was paradise, this is hell to relive…. To KNOW me is to love me. I have so much love to give and only want to share that with a man who is deserving of the woman I am when the cameras are on and off.
That last line may be a little hard to believe since Kenya has given us a heck of a person to not love on camera. It also seems she’s more interested in the title of wife more than the relationship it represents, but it is clear from some of the language she uses when talking about her issues with Porsha, that she is someone deeply in need of love and who feels as though she’s running out of time to receive it. Speaking on her beef with her co-star, she stated:
Insecure women are quick to point out perceived physical imperfections of other women. I have purposely refrained from attacking someone and their looks, since beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Despite the fact that I am an actual beauty queen, no one is perfect and I am not exempt. I suffer from acne when stressed and fight metabolism and gravity daily. But I work with what I have.
Let’s hope eventually there is a man who wants to really work with what she has.
It was bad enough when we thought Kenya was just a ridiculously desperate, ring-thirsty, woman code-breaking reality TV wanna be housewife, but now that we know the, apparent, actress’s getup is all for show, we have no choice but to crown her as the holder of MN’s worst week ever title.
The shade for Kenya was going to be real no matter what this week as we saw her act a plum flirtatious fool while bouncing it up on Peter in Anguilla and making several indecent proposals toward Apollo, but the RHOA newbie’s supposed man, Walter, outing their relationship as nothing but a romance for the cameras left us all dumbfounded. We weren’t shocked their relationship was fake because he actually seemed interested in her, we were floored that someone would pretend to be so crazy and man-hungry all for the sake of a check.
Things didn’t get any better when everyone pretty much dismissed Kenya’s statement that she’s embarrassed to have allowed such a deceitful and hateful man in her life and decided she’s even crazier than they first thought and they’d appreciate if she stop giving g normal single women a bad name. Let’s just say this chick is not only not making any friends, she’s also losing fans. Maybe next week will be better for her.
‘I’m Embarrassed I Allowed A Deceitful And Hateful Person In My Life’: Kenya Moore Speaks On Fake Relationship
While I am happy to see the Real Housewives of Atlanta‘s Kenya Moore is embarrassed about something — as she should be — I’m not totally sure I’m buying the story she’s telling, or more like selling. After he on-screen boyfriend Walter exposed their relationship as nothing more than a romance for the cameras Monday, Kenya was adamant about defending herself against his story, tweeting:
“Everyone is so quick to jump to conclusions when people lie. Look to someone’s motivations.”
After a follower told Kenya if Walter’s story isn’t true then she needed to speak on it, the reality TV newbie said that she would be releasing an official statement later in the day, and according to TooFab.com, they’ve received the official response from Ms. Moore, which says:
“The truth is and has always been that I want to be in a loving, honest, long-term relationship with someone who genuinely loves me for me — Walter’s recent statements are completely false. I am embarrassed that I allowed a deceitful and hateful person in my life. He says he ‘did it for fame.'”
“I’ve been humiliated enough by appearing desperate for a man to marry me who now admits he had his own agenda. I urge viewers to stay tuned because the truth will come to light. I am moving on from this situation and hope he can as well with respect and dignity going forward. I have heard the fans and my friends loud and clear … I can do better than Walter, and I will.”
Were it not for that, “I urge viewers to stay tuned” line, I’d be more inclined to believe this statement is genuine, but if all was revealed during taping of the show, why is Kenya devastated and embarrassed now? Didn’t she know this was coming? Perhaps at the end of the season, Kenya decided to finally move on from Walter, who never really seemed to have been on her to begin with, but if I have to choose one person who I think is actually telling the truth in this situation, I’m going to say Walter.
Oh, and interestingly, Wendy Williams will also have an exclusive statement from Kenya about this situation later today. Sounds like an even bigger ratings plug to me.
What do you think about Kenya’s response to Walter saying their relationship is fake? Who do you believe?
Companionship is something we were built for; it’s a part of human nature. The longing to lock arms and exchange sweet smiles is not to be ignored. Finding love is important and we should keep ourselves open to possibilities.
However, we should not be so inviting that we appear desperate. Standards and politesse need always apply. No man wants a woman who is desperate. It is most attractive to seem desirable and confident. So, assume the correct position when hunting for men. When and with whom it is meant to be will happen. The key is remaining open and opportunistic. Here are a few tips for looking open to love without coming off as desperate:
He’s there again–sitting at the same spot at your favorite neighborhood bar. Just look at him. Sitting there all fine and handsome, with NO wedding ring. He’s looked in your direction, maybe even stared at one point but nothing’s a-go. At a certain point every woman has had to ask herself: should I approach or not?