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Have you ever been on a first or second date with someone and felt like you know their entire life story, good, bad, and indifferent? On the flip side of things, have you ever found out something about a person after the fourth or fifth date and felt slighted that they hadn’t told you sooner? First dates can be somewhat of an awkward experience. You are spending time with a person for the first time, usually in an intimate setting. This is a really perfect time to get to know your new prospective love interest, as well as the time to allow them to get to know you. You want this person to get to know you for who you are, yet you don’t wanna give up too much, too soon. But where is the first date rule book? Who’s to say how much too much is? Here are some things you may or may not want to disclose during the first dates (or second if you’re feeling extra scary), but probably should.
From late 2008 through 2009, I went on a string of dating single moms.
The run wasn’t intentional…Shyte just kinda landed that way. But it was all very insightful for a poonhound in his late 20s with no kids and who knew with no qualifier that he was not ready to have any either. Hell, I’m 30, happily living in sin and still not ready to have any munchkins of my own.
I’ve always respected the plight of the single mom (if not always the reason she’s a single mom), and I do so now more than ever. I learned that no single mom I know is a fan of banging out mad hours at work only to come home to “Yo Gabba Gabba” episodes on repeat seven days a week; they’re all looking for a little bit of adult-rated excitement, if not the man that will complete her fractured family.
But, despite what society projects, it’s not all about the single mom and what SHE wants. We are the ones who have to date these women. Many young dudes stay away from single moms, but I was never afraid to settle down with one. Had I done so at 25, however, I might have gotten caught up in a manner that I wouldn’t allow today.
Here’s a list of non-negotiables that I’d need in place should I ever go down that road again: