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There is one major similarity between real life, non-cyber interactions and online dating: there are no coincidences regarding who you attract, who you repel, and who you keep in. What you’re getting back has to do with what you’re putting out there. But because there are infinitely more suitors online, and things seem to move so fast, it can be a little less obvious when and why it’s time to change how we’re presenting ourselves. But here are the signs.

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Online dating has become the way of the world when it comes to finding love in a non-conventional way and with the increase of dating websites, it’s no surprise that so many people participate in this new romance trend nowadays. Though online dating has become the new norm, it really isn’t for everyone. Here are 14 signs that the online route just isn’t quite right for you.

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From YourTango

The Wall Street Journal‘s article, “Hacking the Hyperlinked Heart,” tells one woman’s unusual online dating success story. After a series of terrible dates, Amy Web, 30, decided to get serious about her approach to dating online. She realized her profile was missing something to attract quality men. So, she put her data analysis background to work and figured out how to improve her results and ultimately find a husband.

The first thing Amy needed to know is what single men are looking for in a woman in order to adjust her profile and reflect these qualities. Posting a profile as a man for a month, she examined how the “popular” women on JDate described themselves. She discovered that the most active women’s profiles used language that shared their aspirations such as “I want to travel” or “A big ambition of mine is … ”

Amy found their descriptions were short (under 500 words) and “easygoing, youthful and spontaneous.” She also discovered that the popular women online reached out to men, sending friendly, informal messages that were short and mentioned something that caught their attention.

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From YourTango

As part of my job as dating expert, I periodically get online and read online dating profiles, both men’s and women’s. I rarely come across a profile that impresses me. Sure, I’m a tough crowd. That’s my job. But while some online dating profiles suck and need to be deleted immediately, most are actually quite decent, except for one common problem: they’re generic.If you’re online and not getting many emails from men or the emails you do receive are from men who don’t interest you at all, it’s likely because your profile is too generic and doesn’t give men a sense of who you really are. As I discuss in How To Find Mr. Right Online, if you don’t convey your unique self in your profile, it’s much harder for Mr. Right to find you.

What does it mean to be “generic?”

Generic means you have no clear “brand,” that you’re just the everyday girl in brown plain wrapping. Sure, you won’t annoy or turn men off with a generic brand, but you won’t get them clamoring to meet you either. Generic is boring and you’re not boring. You’re unique and interesting and the right guy is looking for your brand of woman.

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From YourTango

Recently I was coaching a woman on how to write her online profile. Before we wrote the profile, I asked her to send me her four best pictures. I asked her to do this because men are as visual as Scooby Doo on steroids.

The first thing they do when they see your profile online is NOT read about your trip to Italy last summer . . . they want to see how hot you are. Keep in mind that every man has different taste in women, so what is “hot” to one man will be totally different than what is “hot” to another.

So I explained this to my client, and I asked her to send me her four best photos — pictures that represent who she is in her life. What she sent me is mistake #1 of the biggest mistakes women (including you nurses!) make online.

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