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There are plenty of unspoken rules in dating; but dating someone in a different age bracket comes with its very own set of rules—both with regards to how you treat the guy, and how you treat the rest of the world that is judging you. (Yes, they are.) Here are the unspoken rules of different age relationships.
Dating a younger man is a complex experience of trying to keep up with his generation, and trying to school him on your own. It can energize you at times, and exhaust you at others; it can boost your ego a bit, and make you insecure. Here are the pros and cons of dating a younger man.
They’re hot-bodied and have cheery dispositions, but there’s a lot more to a younger guy than meets the eye. More importantly, there’s a lot more he does for your life and your wellbeing that you may not have thought of.
My aunt, who is 45 years old, has never been married, never had children and is still out there on the dating scene. Recently, she and one of her friends from college, went out for a night on the town. My aunt, who’s always been a bit on the wild side ended up getting quite drunk. As she was ordering another round, she noticed that the bartender was fione. So, being the outgoing woman she is, she told him. “You are sooo cute!” And after she told him, she handed him her card. Never expecting him to call.
But he did.
He asked her out. They had a wonderful time. But during the course of the date,she realized that her bartender boo was 30 years old, 15 years younger than her.
When my aunt learned this little piece of information, she also noticed that he didn’t ask her her age. So she didn’t volunteer it. She’s definitely lying by omission for right now; but should the time come where he asks how old she is, she’ll gladly tell him that she’s fifteen years older than him. In the meantime, she’s considering whether or not she should even continue seeing this man. We all kind of like the idea of being a cougar; but when you’re out here on the prowl, what is the cut off age for dating someone younger. 10 years? 15 years? 20years?
Have you ever dated someone younger than you? What was your experience? How young is too young?
If you’re in your 50’s and he’s in his 70’s, no big deal. And lucky him by the way. You’ve both basically done all the personal growth you’re going to do. You’ve both gotten your wilder years out of the way, and you’ve both lived full lives with satisfying careers and plenty of travel (hopefully). But, when you’re younger, every year, even every half year, changes come, meaning different concerns, different priorities and overall different mentalities. You want someone whose knowledge and experience will complement—even supplement—your own. And it’s a very particular aged man who can do that. To be a cougar or try your hand with an older man? If you miss the mark, you’ll be dealing with these issues:
There is an adjustment period in every relationship. You are both learning what you can and cannot deal with, what you absolutely must have and what you can live without. There is nothing wrong with doing a little gentle nudging to get your guy to learn your needs. But, there are some men who just never learn, and so they never grow up. Here are some signs that might be your man:
Let’s keep it real on a Friday, when you’re making your checklist for a man, do you list a specific age?