All Articles Tagged "date"
First dates can be exciting, anxiety-filled, and awkward all at once. One of the biggest issues that can turn a first date sour is conversation, more so the lack of conversation. Without quality conversation on the first date, there’s bound to be awkward silences, weird topics, and one-sided talking that can make the whole date a wash. Before going on a date, be prepared to talk! Here are 14 proven conversation starters to get things going.
Though this may be hard to hear, there are some habits us women have that can easily, yet unknowingly, draw men away from us. If you’ve been trying to figure out why you’ve been single for so long, this list may help you narrow down some possibilities. Here are 14 reasons men don’t want to date you, and when you do date a man, things don’t last long nor do they go very far.
Women and men alike can fall into all sorts of dating traps. With everyone coming into relationships with different dating experiences, it’s not uncommon for someone to fall into a bad dating pattern and continue on with it out of habit. But that’s not what you want to so. So, here are 11 of the most common dating traps that people seem to fall into as well as four ways to avoid falling into them altogether.
If you have ever tried your hand at online dating, chances are, you’ve undoubtedly encountered at least one of these six guys. But have you ever thought about what’s behind the common profile type, and whether or not he’d make a good boyfriend? With these men, you should read the red warning signs.
The Clueless Guy
He posts pictures of himself surrounded by beautiful women who are wearing very little clothing, as if he’s looking for the next member of his harem. Or he posts a picture of himself wearing an “FBI: Female Body Inspector” T-shirt, and thinks it’s cool.
Why you shouldn’t date him: This guy is probably not looking for anything remotely serious. And if he is, he’ll likely lack any intuition about how his actions will make you feel.
Mr. New Beginnings
On his profile, he talks about how he never thought he’d be dating again or how he’s new to the dating arena. It is clear from his narrative that he’s just come out of a serious relationship, one he had hoped would last.
Why you shouldn’t date him: He’s not emotionally ready to move on if he’s still dwelling on where he’s just been.
He makes a specific list of traits to which you’ll have to measure up. You must love to cook, be of a certain height, be very sensual, speak three languages, and have traveled to at least five countries.
Why you shouldn’t date him: With the perfectionist, everything will likely be calculated and you’ll always have to adhere to some predetermined set of standards. He won’t be able to adapt to change or just relax.
Read more at YourTango.com
Too many women confuse feeling empowered with acting like a “ball-buster.” Empowered dating is all about embracing and exposing your most uncomfortable, vulnerable and tender feelings. Empowered dating is about being brave enough to sit in the anxious, yucky, totally-out-of-your-comfort-zone feelings associated with letting down your guard.
So how do you do that? The key is to allow yourself to feel and share your “emotional nakedness” with men while having a sense of ownership of your emotions. Owning your feelings will let you feel more comfortable sharing your true self and will help him feel safer in acknowledging those feelings.
1. Be vulnerable, but never susceptible. The difference between being a soft, sensitive woman a man would want to snatch up and love forever and being a needy, over-emotional, dramatic woman who makes men run away, has everything to do with susceptibility. Are you susceptible to losing yourself in a man? Are you susceptible to feeling overwhlemed with neediness and other insecurities? Do you allow your feelings for a man to make you so weak for him that you compromise your self-respect and dignity just to connect with him?
Read more on YourTango.com.
If I had a nickel for every time I heard a woman say “he has to pay to play,” I would own a professional football team by now. That mindset of entitlement totally baffles me. Shucks, it sounds more like a professional arrangement (wink, wink!) than a woman looking for love.
While I’m still al little old school about certain things, deciding who pays for the date is just not one of them. Frankly, I’m shocked at how many women still hold on to outdated dating traditions while demanding new school relationship status.
Hold on. I can already see you giving me a little side eye right about now, so let me explain. I’m not saying a woman should start paying right out of the gate (unless, of course, you ask him out), but once a man has made his level of interest clear, and has been consistent with his intentions, then it’s time for you to step up. Here are seven reasons why:
1. Because it’s considerate: At least offering to pay shows a guy that you are not “on the take.” If you are thoughtful about his financial situation now, then you will be even more considerate as the relationship progresses. Many men won’t accept the offer, especially not in the beginning, but it’s an honorable gesture. Men like to feel valuable, desired, important, respected and loved.
Check the other six reasons on Essence.com.
The wait is over ladies. We promised you an eligible, attractive bachelor and here he is: Eyan Edwards, a New Yorker by way of St. Croix. We don’t want to speak for Eyan so we suggest you play the video above and let the juiciness speak for itself. And if you’re interested in getting to know this man a little more, drop him a line at email@example.com. Enjoy!
MORE MAN OF THE MOMENT
‘I Wouldn’t Care If You Were A Prostitute, And You Hit Every Man That You Ever Knew…’ Celebs Who Don’t Care About Their Woman’s Past
Women like to shade other ladies with questionable or busy pasts, but it’s clear a lot of men don’t feel the same way. These 15 celebrities didn’t care where their boo-thangs had been before they dated, slept with, or married them — and they don’t care what we have to say about it either.
We couldn’t start this list without acknowledging the man who inspired the headline. When you come out with a song titled, “Prostitute Flange” and announce, “I Wouldn’t Care If You Were a Prostitute and You Hit Every Man That You Ever Knew. See It Wouldn’t Make A Difference If That Was Way Before Me And You Girl,” you can only assume he’s living what he’s rapping about. We can’t say if he was literally speaking on the past of ex-girlfriend Trina, who joined him on that track, but every now and again Weezy’s face pops up in an Instagram pic with a random groupie, and that special relationship he has with Superhead is oh so suspect.
You just got your hair did, you’ve put on your cute little dress, and your wearing those hot heels that give you legs for days. Yup, you’re going on a first date. You can just picture it now, some fine gentleman takes you out for the night, sweeps you off your feet and leaves you breathless by the end. So…what happens when things don’t go quite as planned? Do you hold on in the hopes that your fantasy will come true by the end of the night? Or do you exit stage left just as quickly as you came in? Here are some signs that your date is going downhill fast and it’s time to abandon ship!
He Takes You To A Bad Venue
There’s nothing worse than arriving at an unappealing location for your first date. Not only are you about to spend a few hours with a stranger, but you have to do it at one of the most boring/uncomfortable places possible. Or even worse, one of the loudest most seedy joints around (the kind that look like a fight could break out at any minute). This may also be a sign that you and your date do not share similar interests. Either suggest a different location quickly or get ready for a very long night.
Want to look good for your next date, but not looking to splurge for your look? Looking the part for a date should be effortlessly chic, but not rob your pockets. Looking good for your next date night doesn’t have to come with a hefty price tag. Do your research, prepare ahead of time and save some money to look just as good on a budget!
Here is how you can do it!