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A conversation was had earlier this morning in the office about the relationships people have with the fathers of their children, control issues, and what one parent needs to ask the permission of another parent for, before doing. Like a man giving his son a haircut without asking the child’s mother beforehand.
If you’ll recall, a video surfaced about two years ago of a man named Earl videotaping his ex-wife, Kim, as she stood behind his car, keeping him from leaving the parking lot of a police station while she held onto the hands of their twin boys. Kim, along with her mother, was filmed making quite the scene as she picked up the boys because Earl decided to get their hair cut without asking her permission. Most who saw the video, including my co-workers, agreed that she overreacted to the nines, especially since she kept Earl from moving his car so that she could scold him, remind him that he abandoned his family (he, in turn, recalled that he just left her), and then pretended that he put his hands on her in the parking lot so she could file charges against him. It was all bad.
And while we could all agree that her response to the situation was quite exaggerated, we were torn over whether or not it’s okay for a guy to cut the hair of his child without saying anything to the mother.
As I’ve stated before, I’m a big Teen Mom and Teen Mom 2 fan, and in an episode that came on last night of the latter, cast member Jenelle found herself frantic after her former fiancé, Nathan, took their son to another state during visitation time without telling her. He kept the boy for much longer than they had previously discussed. He also had the child around his current girlfriend, whom he started dating during his relationship with Jenelle. And that woman actually filed charges against Jenelle after the reality star threw a cup at her as she sat in Nathan’s car during a dropoff gone bad. I said all that to make it clear that there’s all kinds of bad blood brewing in this situation.
To make matters worse, when the one-year-old boy was finally returned to Jenelle, she realized that his hair had been cut. And because Nathan’s new girlfriend is a stylist, Jenelle came to the conclusion that the new boo did the cut. Not only was Jenelle upset that she wasn’t asked if it was okay for her son’s hair to be cut, but she was also angry that she wasn’t present for that moment, and that his hair was cut Nathan’s girlfriend–who Jenelle doesn’t even like around her son in the first place.
Angered by Nathan’s decision, she blew up his phone, told him she was going to change her number so he wouldn’t be able to contact her any further, and that if he wanted to see his son from that day forward, he would need to meet her in court. In Jenelle’s eyes, he had already overstepped boundaries by taking the child out of state. But he really crossed the line with the haircut. It was the straw that broke the camel’s back. Or, better yet, make that the strand.
When I shared that story with two of my co-workers, one said that it was unacceptable, particularly the part about the meddling new girlfriend being the one who did the haircut. But another said that she felt like a boy’s first haircut is a moment for the father. And since the baby is Nathan’s as well, he shouldn’t really have to ask permission to do anything for the boy when it doesn’t have to do with visitation.
I think that considering the role the new girlfriend played in the ugly end to Nathan and Jenelle’s relationship, and the fact that she has charges against Jenelle, she probably doesn’t need to have such a hands-on role with their son just yet. It’s just asking for more drama, and they already have plenty of that. But regarding Nathan’s choice to cut the child’s hair in general, why not?
Well, then again, some could take a man’s decision to cut a child’s hair without saying anything to the mother as that individual trying to make a statement. A “Damn! You need a haircut. What has your mama been doing?” statement that implies they disapprove of the way the mother has been handling things. Yes, even something as trivial as hair. So, again, it sounds like a lot of drama waiting to happen.
But what do you say? Do fathers who don’t have primary custody of their children need to ask for permission to cut their child’s hair or alter their appearance?
As the reported custody battle between Chris Brown and the mother of his child Nia Guman-Amey continues, the R&B singer spoke out on the drama that has ensued.
Notorious for venting on social media, Brown took his baby mama drama to Twitter, of course. While he didn’t mention Amey specifically, he did discuss women using their children as “meal tickets” and even leverage against fathers. This comes after Amey recently requested $15,000 a month for the child support of their daughter Royalty after the two agreed on $10,000 a month.
Some men my age run from their responsibility as fathers. I embrace mine. Just sucks that some females use children as meal tickets.
— Chris Brown (@chrisbrown) August 7, 2015
Using a child as leverage is never ok. The highest praise to the men who actually want their kids.
— Chris Brown (@chrisbrown) August 7, 2015
According to an exclusive source from Hollywood Life, Amey is disgusted with Brown’s poor parenting. “He will drop millions on cars, rims, tires, Jordan sneakers—all that fabulous crap–but won’t make sure Royalty’s living in the lap of luxury,” says the source.
Is Breezy in the wrong for taking his family drama to Twitter?
Unfortunately, over the years, we’ve had to watch quite a few custody battles play out in the public eye. For reasons ranging from funny money and poor behavior, we were shocked when news came out that these famous men were granted primary and sole custody of their children over the mothers of their kids. Here are a few examples that definitely had people talking.
The never ending court battle between Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubry just took an interesting turn.
According to TMZ, Halle Berry has proof that her ex-boyfriend bleached and damaged their daughter’s hair. A forensic consulting lab by the name of Mictrotrace found the evidence. The site claims,
The company analyzed the hair and concluded there was evidence it was chemically treated. The lab went on to say the repeated use of chemicals took their toll, writing there was “extensive damage … likely the cumulative effect of repeated exposure to numerous gentle bleaching treatments.”
A judge ruled that neither Halle nor Gabriel could touch Nahla’s hair. However this evidence may be the missing piece Berry needs to reduce her child support payments to Gabriel. Berry reportedly pays $16,000 a month to Gabriel.
Shanesha Taylor, whose story went viral after she left two of her children alone in a car to attend a job interview, was all smiles when she left the Maricopa County courtroom. Nearly five months after losing custody of her children over the incident, a judge determined the mother of three fit to once again care for her children full time.
Her attorney, Benjamin Taylor, told The Arizona Republic that his client couldn’t have asked for anything more, “We had an excellent hearing,” He says. He continues, “The judge will return the children to Ms. Taylor.”
Taylor’s March arrest pulled on the heartstrings of many people in the general public, including absolute strangers. She was jailed after leaving her children, ages 2 and 6 months, in her Dodge Durango for about 30 minutes before police arrived after being called by a passerby. When Taylor, 35, arrived to her truck about 45 minutes after leaving, she was greeted by police and detained on two counts felony child abuse.
Police were even torn about having to arrest the mom, who—at the time—was both homeless and jobless. “She was upset. This is a sad situation all around,” Scottsdale Police Sergeant Mark Clay told KPHO following Taylor’s arrest. He continued, “She said she was homeless. She needed the job…it’s just a sad situation.”
Public response to Taylor’s case was of overwhelming support. So much so that one person launched an online campaign to raise funds to assist the mother with legal fees and other expenses—nearly $115,000 was raised on her behalf.
Now, as the mother of three readjusts to life with her children, she says it’s her unwavering cooperation and hard work, which led to her being granted custody of her children.
“I think my progress is what helped me get them back,” Taylor told the Arizona Republic. She continued, “I did everything that was required of me in this particular case and even asked if there was anything additional that I could do.”
Following her arrest, the 35 year old was unable to see her children, who were placed with family. Shortly thereafter, she was granted supervised weekend visits—quality time during which her children expressed their anxiousness of returning home with their mother, “My two-year-olds favorite line is ‘Mommy can we go home? Mommy can we go home,’” she exclaimed. She continued, “So I can tell him today, ‘Let’s go home.’ So that is wonderful.”
Though she hadn’t made concrete plans following her reunion with her children, Taylor was positive of one thing, “I’m sure there will be ice cream involved,” she told The Arizona Republic.
As part of her punishment, Taylor must attend 26 court-ordered parenting classes, after which prosecutors have agreed to dismiss abuse charges against the United States Air Force veteran. She has already completed five.
Taylor is still in search of a job, but remains optimistic and hopes she lands one in the service industry, “I like working with people and helping them get what they need.”
According to TMZ, Master P just lost custody of the four children under 18 that he has with Sonya Miller. It wasn’t because he was an unfit father, or deemed unstable–it’s because the rapper decided not to show up to court at all…
Sonya was given sole physical and legal custody of 9-year-old Mercy, 13-year-old Hercy, 14-year-old Italy, and 17-year-old Tytyana. Because he didn’t show up to court (and it’s unclear why), he will have to pay sanctions for being a no-show, and cover Sonya’s hefty legal costs, which are $75,000.
Despite the millions Master P is worth, Sonya claimed early on in their divorce/custody battle that she was on food stamps because he had left her with a whole lot of nothing. But both Master P and their oldest son, Romeo, tried to claim that she needed to get her life together and is on drugs.
Master P recently issued a statement that said this about Sonya’s past allegations:
I haven’t been with this person in over 7 years. She has had several boyfriends since then. I take great care of all of my kids, all of their needs are being met in an abundance. I come from the ghetto, I changed my life but she didn’t want to grow with me so we’re not together. If Sonya supposedly helped me start any of my companies including No Limit, wouldn’t she be capable of creating some type of income in the last seven years besides turning to welfare?”
Educated business people don’t think like that even in hard times. Stevie Wonder could see through this publicity stunt. This is hilarious. All I ask is that she take a drug test in the next two weeks and pass it. I will give her everything I have. The four minors she says she needs help with, three of them are with me, this makes no sense. I’m tired of sugarcoating and hiding the truth of ungrateful people that I’ve been taking care of for so many years. If she’s that great of a businesswoman like she claims, she should be able to do it again for herself.
And Romeo said this about his mother to TMZ:
“Honestly, I love my mom to death, but I mean — we gotta just work out some things. She gotta be a better parent, you know. If she was a better parent should could have everything. She gets everything regardless.”
But despite all these claims, and even having his kids get on video and say why they would prefer to live with him instead of Sonya, Master P still didn’t do what he needed to. If she’s as bad as they all say, why not show up and fight for custody? No comment from him about the ruling as of yet, but we’ll keep you posted.
“They Always Try To Use My Babies Against Me”: Kevin McCall Speaks On Custody Drama With Eva Marcille
We told you last week that because of the huge argument Eva Marcille and Kevin McCall engaged in at the end of March (which allegedly included doors violently being kicked down), McCall was denied visitation temporarily of baby Marley. Marcille’s people put out a statement about how the model and actress was dealing with the situation, saying, “It is unfortunate that life has thrown a curve Into Eva’s life but as a responsible parent and adult she’s taking steps to ensure the safety and well-being of their child and herself.” The father of two little girls, McCall seems to have a close-knit bond with both of his children, showing them off on Instagram and displaying photos of their time spent together. He recently took to Instagram to vent about not being able to see his youngest daughter.
McCall took down the picture of Marley, and his statement on the very messy situation, soon after putting it up.
Initially, when Eva Marcille filed a restraining order against McCall after the incident happened, days later, she posted a picture on Instagram of them together with their child, and she made it seem like all was well. As we now know, things are far from that.
But what do you think about what he had to say about people using “my babies against me”?
The plot thickens. Last week, Tamika Fuller, the mother of the child Ludacris had while he was “on a break” from his relationship with girlfriend Eudoxie, demanded a whole bunch of child support Luda said he couldn’t pay. Now, Ludacris is saying to hell with the nonsense, give me full custody of my child, reports TMZ.
Since she was born in December, baby Cai has spent most of her time with mom Fuller. But according to recent court documents, Ludacris is fighting for full physical custody of his youngest child, arguing he’s an “active daughter” to his 12-year-old daughter.
TMZ has the nerve to insinuate that Ludacris wanting custody is a special case among rapper (read: black people):
Rapper Ludacris wants to do something so shocking, it will send shock waves through the rap community — he’s fighting for CUSTODY of his kid.
The gossip site is also insinuating the custody fight is just about Luda getting out of paying child support. Both those accusations are nasty, rude and racist. You never know what happens between a couple; Ludacris really could have a good reason for thinking his youngest child would be better off with him. I’ve seen him gush about how much he loves his little girl and how hands-on a parent he is, so I don’t doubt he actually will do what’s best for baby Cai.
From the beginning, the situation has been nasty. Ludacris’ baby mama allegedly threatened to extort him while she was still pregnant. She then demanded $15,000 a month in child support, which the rapper said he couldn’t pay that because he wasn’t paid for the “Fast and Furious” movie that was put on hold with Paul Walker’s death. Last week, the judge ordered Ludacris to fork over $7,000 every month while the court reviewed his finances.
Move over Usher and Tameka Raymond, Tyrese’s ex-wife seems like she might be able to give that pair a run for their money in terms of bitter celebrity custody battles.
According to TMZ, Tyrese and his ex, Norma Gibson, are in the middle of a child custody dispute, and as part of her ammunition Norma has filed court documents flat out calling Tyrese a bad dad. Referring to Tyrese’s trip to L.A. to visit the crash site of Paul Walker’s death, Norma says her ex-husband should’ve stuck around to spend time with their 6-year-old daughter while he was in town, especially since “Fast & Furious 7” was put on hold. Instead, she claims, 35-year-old Tyrese chose to go “”gallivanting throughout Dubai … staying in expensive hotels … partying on yachts, sky-diving with other movie stars, driving expensive cars, and making special appearances in night clubs,” rather than spend time with his child.
Tyrese, of course, is denying all of this, alleging that his ex is using Paul Walker’s death to shame him. Sources close to him also back up his claim, saying Tyrese went to Dubai on business — business that included four gigs he ironically needed in order to earn money to pay child support.
According to TMZ, things may just be heating up between these two as they will be heading to court later this month to try and convince a court-appointed child evaluator each of them is the better parent. We’ll definitely keep you posted on how that goes.
What do you think about all this?
Usher and his ex-wife Tameka Raymond have made headlines in the last weeks after their 5-year-old son Usher V was rushed to the hospital following a pool accident. In a revealing “Good Morning America” interview, Tameka wanted to share her side of the story, saying she’s being portrayed unfairly, due to her diagnosis. For the first time, Tameka said Usher’s legal team ordered both her and Usher to undergo a psych evaluation, which is now sealed. What they found was that Tameka displayed narcissistic personality traits, a “moderately severe mental disorder”. But it doesn’t seem like she really agrees with the evaluation. She described the test as:
“‘When you’re walking down the street, do you feel like people are looking?’ My answer is yes, but I was doing it based off of when I’m walking down the street, people do point and say, ‘Oh, that’s Usher’s ex-wife.’ I think we all have a little narcissistic personality disorder, especially those of us in the limelight. But I don’t think it’s something that affects your parenting.”
Still, the court have given Usher primary custody of their two sons, despite Tameka calling an emergency custody hearing right after the accident. In the same GMA segment, Tameka also addressed the fact that people have said the drawn-out custody is about money. As it stands, Usher is paying Tameka $8,000 a month but wants to reduce those payments. We hope Tameka isn’t being blase about something that’s actually pretty serious. Narcissistic personality disorder usually means a person has no empathy for others and “intense, unstable emotions and a distorted self-image”, according to WebMD. So, if that’s really what’s going on here, then maybe she shouldn’t get custody. Watch the interview and tell us what you think. video platformvideo managementvideo solutionsvideo player Photo: Google Images