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“Pretty women wonder where my secret lies. I’m not built to suit a fashion models size, but when I start to tell them they think I’m telling lies. I say, it’s in the reach of my arms, the span of my hips, the stride of my step, the curl of my lips. I’m a woman phenomenally. Phenomenal woman that’s me.”

-Maya Angelou

Have you ever wondered why so many men of other races are attracted to or drawn to the beauty that is the black woman? Has the question ever crossed your mind, why do men of a different color stare at black women in awe? Have you ever wondered why men of other races are so fascinated with black women? Well, I have and I found the answers to these and other questions. A while ago, a friend of mine and I were talking and laughing about a slight temper tantrum a co-worker of ours was having at work. We both had a look of slight confusion on our faces before we agreed that he needed to calm down, then all of a sudden, out of the blue my friend said, “He needs to date a black woman so he can calm down!”  As I listened to his words I was shocked and somewhat taken aback by this statement because my friend is a man of Hellenic decent, and I wondered why he would say that. So of course I asked him, “Why do you think he would be calmer if he dated black women?”  He then began to tell me about his experience with dating a black woman. He started telling me that dating a black woman was an uplifting experience for him. While she was strong in sprit and dominant, she was also nurturing with sex appeal. She knew how to de-stress him after a long days work, she healed his soul with good food and company while boosting his confidence. So then I asked my friend what initially attracted him to a black woman. He enthusiastically stated curves, curves, curves and more curves! He further stated that he loves the curves of a black woman’s lips, hips, eyes, waist, etc. He even loves a black woman’s curly hair! He was also attracted to her spirit ‘faith’ and the woman she was as a whole.

During the course of our conversation my friend expressed to me that his black queen made him feel like a MAN during their relationship. He said that she allowed him to be the man by simply allowing him to make plans, and by allowing him to be chivalrous. He also told me that she knew how to be a lady that a man could compliment while still being Hot. I then asked my friend did she intimidate him, and he said no. I also asked him did she ever ‘check’ him, or put him in his place, and how did it make him feel. He said she did put him in his place, and it felt good because it allowed him to refocus on what he should be doing, and get back to where he was supposed to be when he got off track. I asked him these questions because so often I hear that black women are intimidating to men, or we have too much attitude to deal with so on and so on, but from this Hellenic man’s perspective the stronger the woman she was the better. As our conversation started to end, I asked my friend what he would tell black men about black women. He said that he would tell them that black women are not just black women. We are African-American women, which means there is a lot of culture within who we are, and we are the ones who can and will continue the race with our strength, our pride and or heritage. Before our conversation came to an end, I asked my friend these final questions; what advice would you give to black women about men, and would you date a black woman again? The advice he would give to black women about men is to let a man be a man. And the final question, would he date another black woman? What do you think…? Black coffee, no sugar no cream, men of all cultures do indeed love black women.

Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For? Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin.

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With all the dramatic rumors flying around about Fantasia and her money, her man and her career in general, it’s nice to see the new mommy (who gave birth in December) all smiles and showing off her post-baby curve-a-licious body. Homegirl gave her own short locks a break and was seen at a recent event in North Carolina with long, flowing extensions with some really cute bangs. She also showed up in this multi-colored dress with slits in the arms and pink, strappy stilettos. She, like Bey, is embracing her added curves since giving birth, and it’s nice to see her looking in good spirits. For a minute there, we were getting worried about the direction of things in Fanny’s life (and we still are a little), what with Antwaun Cook allegedly wanting to go back to his ex and the singer having to sell her home for a lot less than she paid, but we’ll continue to hope for the best. Make that money, honey and hurry up and put out a new album! “I’m Doin’ Me” was the jam…

What do you think of her new look?

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Miss Nicki Minaj just loves to show off her curves these days doesn’t she? From booty popping in both the “Dance (A$$)” remix video and “Stupid Ho*,” to rocking bikinis in “Beez in the Trap” and for this new “Starships” video, she literally wants you to kiss her a**, whether you think it’s real or not.
The visuals for her hit song off of Pink Friday: Roman Reloaded debuted last night, and in the clip, Minaj struts around in an array of revealing outfits that show off her well-documented derriere, and swings some colorful wigs for folks in Hawaii. Minaj winds up there thanks to a spaceship, and once she lands, the party begins with some Hawaiian dancers, paint and some sand that homegirl keeps rolling around in. Love the colors in the video (the water looks amazing!), but that’s about it honestly. She looks great actually, but all those booty shots she kept giving the camera were a bit much. The song still isn’t my thing, but it’s clear that somebody out there is loving it to the nines. Check out the video below and let us know your thoughts:

PS, this is the explicit version, so excuse the language from time to time. Thanks!

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By Taylor Lea Thomas

Question:

Any suggestions for a wedding gown design for a bride with a large bust, large bottom, wide hips and thick waist?  The bride’s prone to suddenly losing or gaining weight depending on stress/peace of mind!

Taylor’s Answer:

Dear Miss Va-Va-Voom,

My first concern is your statement, “The Bride’s prone to suddenly losing or gaining weight depending on stress/peace of mind!” Planning a wedding can become quite stressful due to the enormous amount of decisions to be made, dealing with the varying personalities of your bridesmaids and other members of your wedding party, and the dreaded guest list, among other things. When buying a wedding gown, it’s typically bought six months or more in advance. Your fluctuating weight will only serve to further add to that stress. Here are a few tips to make the wedding dress shopping experience a little less stressful and my wedding dress style recommendation for your curvaceous body type:

Avoid costly gown alterations due to yo-yo dieting: Get your weight under control sooner than later as you plan your wedding. I assure you, the stress will come and as your wedding day approaches, you’ll begin to feel that anxiety even more. Keep in mind that altering a gown can be costly, and if your weight keeps fluctuating throughout the planning process, you will constantly have to make changes to your gown during your various fittings so that it looks right on your body at whatever weight you happen to be at the time.

Like most African-American women, I am equipped with curves. Because of my frame, it’s difficult sometimes to decide how I want to look. I can’t throw on something all willy-nilly without wondering if I’m going to be showing off too much of my curves–even if I’m really not trying to. Music videos and songs would have you believe that girls with a “body” just want to drop it like it’s hot,  shake it real fast and show it off. On the contrary, most of us are just trying to find an outfit that doesn’t have men gawking and reaching in their pocket to throw singles. The media has glorified backsides all the way back to Sir Mix-A-Lot’s hit “Baby Got Back.” Trying to find a rap song that doesn’t describe a woman with a large caboose (even if it’s done nicely), is a struggle these days. Google ”black woman with curves” and now all you get are infamous “booty” shots and video models.

With a curvier frame, clothes automatically look different on your body, no matter what you do. A dress may look one way on a mannequin and once you put it on, it magically becomes shorter and it hugs you like you needed some love. It’s inevitable. And there are probably times where you may not even mean to wear something body hugging, but it just happens that way. Knowing this, do you buy clothes a larger size so you have more room, or do you wear your size and flaunt the goods?

I am a strong believer in the idea that the venue always depicts how you should dress. If you are going to run errands, it helps to probably look and feel as laid back as possible, and for work purposes, you know to keep it loose and professional. Now, if you are going out with your girls to a club or happy hour, it may be a more appropriate venue to wear more body hugging clothes.  However, when you do, many times you are faced with glaring stares and men ruthlessly breaking their necks to look at what is behind you, and while some women love the attention, others don’t want it. Unfortunately, when most men see a woman with a larger behind they automatically think of sex, and images from BET Uncut flash in their mind. They tend to look at women with larger behinds and curves as sexual beings. This is partly because a lot of media portrays the curvy woman as the one dancing and working poles.

When I am with my male friends it is so obvious. The way they approach women is COMPLETELY different depending on their body shape.  Even the way they describe a woman is different: for example, if there is a girl who is petite, has a pretty face and dressed reasonably, they approach her with some respect and decency. They spark up regular conversation about the weather and gas prices and drop a compliment here and there. But if they see a female with a small waist, a large behind, and nice legs, it is a whole new game. They approach her with sex in their eyes (and on the brain), some very close and in your face. They might even make a lewd comment or two. There also is a sense of urgency because the faster they talk to you the faster they think they can get between the sheets.  I have seen men literally chase a woman down from what they could see on her from behind. It sounds crazy, but it happens. When he is talking to her, he doesn’t even bother to look at her face for a majority of the time; a lot of the time he is scanning up and down taking mental inventory.  Don’t even get me started on the unnecessary touching.  Conversation just comes off as unnecessary these days; they just ask for your information, and hit you with the “What you doing later?” No nice talk, just lets get down to it.

Every curvy woman has been through this time and time again, and it’s pretty sad. Nobody wants to be approached or looked at in an over-sexualized way. Your value as a woman shouldn’t be affected because you have what is considered a “curvier” frame. It ends up being the woman’s responsibility to try and make sure that she portrays herself in a way that commands respect. Maybe rock that pencil skirt instead of a mini skirt. Maybe wear a higher neck shirt instead of that low-cut top. We have all seen that girl that has it ALL hanging out. What kind of message is she sending? Or should she even care? It all comes down to who you are as a person and what you want to say. There are other ways to attract attention of the opposite sex with things like your smile and confidence, but a lot of men see booty first. There will always be a difference between a curvier woman and a woman with less of a curvy shape. It’s like the difference between Jennifer Lopez and Zoe Saldana. What might look elegant on Zoe will look Hot on JLo. As women, we just need to be in control of who we are and our Hot. Seriously, with all the drama that comes with being curvaceous, I can’t even imagine why some women would want to get butt injections.