It seems that everywhere you look, someone is going natural, getting in touch with her roots (literally) and discovering the joys of having beautiful, thick bouncy curls that spring to life in a simple twist out.

Oh…wait, that wasn’t your natural hair story? Are you still trying to figure out what you’re doing wrong that’s keeping you from looking like the girl pictured above? Unfortunately there are a lot of women going through that experience, buying up every other product that promises shiny, buoyant curls and wondering what’s wrong with the state of their natural hair. Nothing is wrong with it; you just have to learn to accept the state of your natural hair texture.

The one thing to remember when it comes to hair is that every hair strand is not created equal. Even the hair on your head differs from one patch to the next. Your hair may be shorter in the center, curlier in the back and kinkier on the right side of your head. Even further, every person has a different DNA, chemical composition and therefore hair makeup, leading to a multitude of hair textures. Some may be coarser than others, while others may have tighter curls or looser waves.  There are ways to care, maintain and grow any hair texture. It all comes to understanding and accepting your texture first and using that to set realistic expectations of your hair.

While perusing Instagram, Tumblr and the almighty YouTube for hair tutorials and inspiration, it is important to not over idolize other peoples hair, causing you to lose pride in your own texture. You should use the inspiration to learn how to keep your hair healthy and stylish. Texture is just one small piece of your hair’s composition and while your hair may not be as outwardly curly or thick as other images you have seen, regardless of texture, your hair can be manipulated into its own unique styles.

It’s imperative that you learn to appreciate your own hair texture just as much as your admire your hair crush. Even if you believe your hair is beyond any hair type chart, there is something unique about every head of hair. All it takes is taking a step back, taking a deep breath, exhaling and learning how to cater to your hairs’ actual needs. While you may want super curly hair, your natural hair texture may never grow of your scalp as such. But you can set your hair into beautiful curls and even create a look that you love more than the original inspiration.

You have to start somewhere. Start by accepting your texture. Be proud. Have more questions? You can ask the experts at Carol’s Daughter at www.TransitioningMovment.com

Jouelzy offers tutorials on all aspects of Black hair care via her YouTube channel. You can also find her daily hair tips and inspirations on Facebook.