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In The Meantime, Part 4: Best Friends and Semi-Cougar Behavior

April 1st, 2014 - By Erica RivaFlowz Buddington
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Note: This dating series will go in and out of parts. Some will address the ghosts of past relationships, others will talk about current situations, and most will give advice. Pay attention to the page breaks; they help you understand the transitions. It would help if you read the following parts:

Part 1

Part 2

Part 3

There’s always a shoulda-coulda-woulda in your life.

Jean plopped down into my sofa, with a ton of DVDs in his hand. I laughed, as he sorted through all of the selections.

“Why’d you get so many movies?”

“I wanted you to have options girl. A brother was trying to make movie night unforgettable, since you’re always forgetting me!”

I pinched him, “I do not! I just work a lot.”

He smiled and punched me softly in my arm, “You mean…you work way too much.”

Jean finally picked 500 Days of Summer and put it into the DVD player. I looked over at him, as he kicked off his sneakers and cozied up into a corner, with a blanket. Jean was my best friend. Five years ago, we’d tried dating and things didn’t work out. We were in the middle of making out and pulled away from one another simultaneously.

I asked him, “Is it just me or does it feel like I’m kissing a sibling?”

He admitted to feeling the same thing. We’ve been friends ever since. Well, except for that one drunken text message, this summer:

“Drunk late nights thinking of past loves, what should have been and could have been slightly remind me of you, but I stay cool, because sometimes nothing is better than what’s new.”

It came to me at almost at midnight and I was asleep. I answered it with a ton of question marks, the next morning, but he never wanted to talk about it. I shrugged it off.

Jean was a great guy. He was on the short side, about 5’8, and he kind of resembled the actor who plays the young grandfather, in Tia and Tamera’s “Seventeen Again.” Whenever there was something that needed to be done, around the house, he’d handle it. If I was ever lonely or I wanted a dinner companion, he’d come right over. He was the boyfriend that all girls wanted, just without the title and the complications.

I paused the movie, “Why’d you pick this movie?”

He sighed, “I’m going through some expectations versus reality bull with my ex.”

“Oh, Candy? What’s going on?”

“Yeah. Nothing really, she just wants to come to NYC to visit.”

“That’s not nothing. You guys haven’t seen each other, since the breakup. That’s a big deal. What are you expecting?”

“For her to see me again, through different eyes, now that I have my life straightened out.”

“Well…what’s the reality that you’re afraid of?”

“That none of that will happen. That she’s moved on and just needs a place to stay, because she’s cheap.”

I laughed, “No one is so cheap that they’ll stay with an ex they don’t like. There’s something there.”

He jumped up, “You think so?”

“Slow down cowboy. I said something, not everything. Just take it easy and see what’s up.”

He leaned back again, “I will.”

 

There was a feeling that started to churn inside of me. I tried to put my finger on it, but it seemed impossible. Was I jealous?

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Cougar Chronicles: Why I Stopped Dating Younger Men

November 12th, 2013 - By Madame Noire
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From Hello Beautiful 

Diggy Simmons posted a photo of himself after a workout and I had to clutch my pearls, drop them and immediately pray to God to deliver me from the lust rising up in my loins. Sheesh! What a hottie! But wait, I immediately remember watching him come of age on screen in “Run’s House.” But all of those images of Daniel Simmons as a child were washed clean from my memory’s museum and I was left with the above image of Diggy. And my mind is still wandering into the land of illegal fantasies. The same thing happened to me when Romeo all of a sudden grew up and became a sex symbol. But the only issue was and is…these sex symbols are getting younger and younger and I’m getting…le sigh older.

I was just having this conversation with a friend of mine. I turned 29 this year and while I know this isn’t old; I’ve been faced with the end of an era. I am in the last year of my 20s. le sigh That means the years of reckless abandon with minimal consequences is gone, a thing of the past. That also means I need to button it up and stop looking at this young tenderonis with lust in my eyes because I am too damn old!

I was 24 when I met Will. He was 19. As soon as I found out his age, I knew that we would only be a summer fling. I met him in Cinco de Mayo, on the way home from drinking more tequila than I thought humanly possible. He sat across from me on the train and I watched his eyeballs dance up and down my body, lingering on my exposed toes; so I crossed and uncrossed my legs, trying to divert his gaze, but those sparkling brown eyes were locked on my toes, until he looked up and locked eyes with me. “You caught me,” he laughed.

“Yeah, were you really looking at my feet, though?” Surprisingly, I was smiling too. Between my lowered inhibitions and curiosity, Will had my attention. Tipsy or not, I knew he couldn’t have been a day over 21, but because I knew he had a freaky interest in me, I decided to share my number with him. I’m all about exploring my freaky side. Sue me.

During our first chat, Will admitted that he has a foot and couldn’t get enough of staring at my larger-than-most-women’s feet and wanted to “pamper my toes.” I was all the way intrigued. Will then admitted something I wasn’t quite ready for–”I’m 19,” he answered when I asked him his age, praying that he’d be at least 21.

As a 24-year-old, I knew that I was approaching my mid twenties and flings with guys younger than me was pretty much out of the question. The first time this realization reared it’s ugly head was when I invited Will over for dinner and asked him to bring something for us to drink and he came bearing the gift of…Pepsi. I looked at the cola and said, “I meant for you to bring wine. We’re having pasta.”

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Cougar Etiquette 101: What Not To Do When Dating A Younger Man

July 31st, 2013 - By Julia Austin
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Cougars are all the rage for men in their twenties through forties (although the latter are kidding themselves—they’re no young cubs). But just what is it about women in the 40 plus group that is such a turn on? You’ll thrive in the game of dating younger men if you can pin that down, and if you can avoid the bad behavior of your fellow 40-plus felines.

Love’s Got Everything To Do With It: Tina Turner Engaged To Longtime Love Erwin Bach

April 1st, 2013 - By Veronica Wells
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Rumor has it that after her divorce from Ike Turner, Tina claimed she would never marry again. But a good love and a good love must have persuaded her otherwise. Because a Swiss tabloid newspaper, Blick, is reporting that the 73 year old Tina and her longtime partner, 57 year old Erwin Bach, are getting married.

The couple, who have been together for nearly 27 years, met in Germany where Bach was a record executive at the label Tina was signed to at the time.

Though they’re supposed to be making it official now, this is not the first time Bach has tried to make Tina his wife. In an interview with Mike Wallace, both Bach and Turner explained that it was probably a good thing that Tina declined his original proposal.

They explained how that went down, in an interview with Mike Wallace.

Mike Wallace: You proposed to her and she turned you down, why?

Erwin: Well I proposed to her before her 50th birthday because I thought it is just the way I feel- or felt at this moment. And I wanted to give her my commitment. And I think we both were lucky that she said no afterwards.

Tina: Erwin and I don’t feel that we need a marriage. We are as married now as if it was legal.

Well, you know love changes things. If the rumors are true, we wish these two the absolute best.

Featured Image courtesy of Vogue Germany.

Serious Question: When You’re Cougaring, How Young Is Too Young?

February 15th, 2013 - By Renay Alize
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My aunt, who is 45 years old, has never been married, never had children and is still out there on the dating scene. Recently, she and one of her friends from college, went out for a night on the town. My aunt, who’s always been a bit on the wild side ended up getting quite drunk. As she was ordering another round, she noticed that the bartender was fione. So, being the outgoing woman she is, she told him. “You are sooo cute!” And after she told him, she handed him her card. Never expecting him to call.

But he did.

He asked her out. They had a wonderful time. But during the course of the date,she realized that her bartender boo was 30 years old, 15 years younger than her.

When my aunt learned this little piece of information, she also noticed that he didn’t ask her her age. So she didn’t volunteer it. She’s definitely lying by omission for right now; but should the time come where he asks how old she is, she’ll gladly tell him that she’s fifteen years older than him. In the meantime, she’s considering whether or not she should even continue seeing this man. We all kind of like the idea of being a cougar; but when you’re out here on the prowl, what is the cut off age for dating someone younger. 10 years? 15 years? 20years?

Have you ever dated someone younger than you? What was your experience? How young is too young?

Come Sit on Mama Lap! Signs You Might Be a Sugar Mama

February 3rd, 2013 - By Brooke Dean
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Often times, when we hear the term “sugar mama,” we think of a well-to-do woman in her 40’s, successful in her own right, and probably a “cougar.” While typically women of means who are lonely and looking for companionship have no problem acquiring a boy toy that they can pay to come and go as she pleases, there are situations where a man could be using a woman for her money and she’s none the wiser. Not all sugar mamas are cougars who copped a few stacks in a divorce settlement or widows who were left a ton of cash. Some sugar mamas are average women who feel they need to pay for a man’s love and affection. Not sure he’s using you as his meal ticket? Look out for these signs…and keep your money in the bank!

J Lo Buys Bentley for New Boy Toy

December 14th, 2011 - By MN Editor
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J Lo’s new boo thang must be laying some major pipe! What else could explain why the pop singer felt the need to purchase a Bentley for her new 24 year old boyfriend, Casper Smart.

Excuse me, that’s a tad rude. Maybe Casper is really making J Lo happy… emotionally and she just had to show her love for him this way… even though he’s run into some legal trouble for drag racing and driving without a license. Hmmm…

Anyway, get the rest of the story and check out pics of the new ride, here.

Milk in Your Coffee: Are Ashton and Demi Done?

September 29th, 2011 - By madamenoire
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UPDATE: Ashton Kutcher tweets ‘Don’t Believe the Hype

Rumors are swirling around Hollywood’s ultimate cougar couple. News outlets are reporting that the couple’s marriage is on the rocks and it’s been like this for some time now. Star Magazine reported that the couple have been separated for months due to Ashton’s habitual infidelity.

Do you think relationships between older women and younger men can be successful?

May/December Dating: Are You Dating in the Wrong Age Bracket?

July 17th, 2011 - By Toya Sharee
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Did you ever wonder why in 3rd grade while you were writing love sonnets about how incredible your crush was, the boy whose name you were drawing in hearts was pulling on your ponytail, teasing and tagging you (the old-fashioned way, not the Facebook way).  It’s no secret that males and females express their emotions in different ways, no matter their age, but there are times when age plays a significant factor in how you and your partner relate to one another.  More important than age, however, is maturity level.  For example, a 20 year-old whose primary concern is working hard and partying harder will not have much in common with a thirty-something who is counting down the days when they can settle down and start a family.  It all comes down to priorities and in serious relationships if you can’t picture a future of common goals and expectations, then you’ll definitely have a hard time building anything in the present together.

You may have heard that females mature faster than males, and I happen to believe that that’s true.  I’ve always had a rule that I don’t date anyone younger than my age.  Since I was a teenager I’ve always dated guys who were 1-3 years older than me because I’ve always felt that older guys were usually on the same maturity level.  In my experiences, I have found that my least successful relationships have been with men who were the same age as me.  Maybe the age was circumstantial, but it also may have had to do with the fact that although we were born in the same year, the things that were important to them no longer interested or concerned me.

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Vivica Fox Reveals What She Sees in her [Young] Fiancé Slimm

May 16th, 2011 - By madamenoire
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Vivica Fox recently sat down to explain exactly what it is that attracted her to her 27 year old fiancé Omar “Slimm” White. Slimm is a club promoter in Atlanta.

Vivica, who is 20 years older than “Slimm”,  told “Access Hollywood” that when she met him, it was something like love at first sight.

She talked about his character and that fact that he did a good thing when it came to that engagement ring.

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