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Writer Seth Adam Smith has published one of the most controversial blog posts to hit the internet in months and he’s likely about to become really famous because of it.
Smith published “Marriage Isn’t For You” on his blog six days ago and in that time, the post has received over 24 million views. In his piece, Seth, who has been married for a year and a half, revealed that he’d come to the conclusion that marriage simply wasn’t for him.
Like many other engaged people, Smith started having some doubts about whether or not he was actually ready to take that next step in his relationship with his now wife, Kim. He sat with his father and his dad gave him some shocking advice:
With a knowing smile he said, “Seth, you’re being totally selfish. So I’m going to make this really simple: marriage isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.”
Smith says his wife showed true selflessness a few months ago when they were going through a rough patch. Those hard times made him react in a very selfish way where he ended up withdrawing from his wife and their relationship. But he said instead of Kim reacting to him in the same vain, she reacted in love and “soothed his soul.” He says Kim continues to show that he chose the right woman to be with and he will remember his dad’s advice that marriage is about the other person because he always wants to see her happy.
Since posting this, Seth Adam Smith’s story has appeared on almost every major news source around the country and on various websites. There’s a good chance that the advice is so compelling and controversial that it could easily be turned into a movie (you know the romantic comedy lovers would eat this right up).
So…what do you think about Seth Adam Smith’s advice?
One of the most interesting parts of the Paula Deen fallout has been the celebrity response. When Stacey Dash chose team Paula, no one was shocked. But who thought the Reverend Jesse Jackson would be on Paula’s side? We’ve got the best celebrity responses right here. Let us know which side you weigh in on.
“I Really Love Her As A Person”: The Chew’s Carla Hall Talks Paula Deen, First Date Meals, And Why Every Woman Should Know How To Cook
We had the chance to sit down with the lovely Carla Hall, co-host of ABC’s The Chew and former Top Chef favorite, to talk about food, first dates, and reasons why even the most stubborn woman should learn how to cook (she recommends knowing how to at least make a good soup), whether it’s for a future family, her partner, or just herself. Hall, who has been promoting the Country Crock Star Contest that you can participate and win a $50 gift card weekly in by picking your favorite casserole, also talked about her friend Paula Deen, and why she thinks people need to forgive her and get back to cooking! Here are the details from our chat:
So what should a woman prepare that’s quick and easy for a first date?
“The one thing you want to think about for a first date is that you don’t want to be locked in the kitchen. You can do some kind of risotto. Or you can do some type of casserole. But let’s say you put lobster in it or shrimp. It’s going to look fancier than it is. And I say that because you don’t want to be stuck to the stove. So often people want to wow somebody and all of a sudden you have company, and now you’re spending so much time in the kitchen that you’re afraid to leave it because your dish doesn’t lend itself to be cooked while you’re with your guest. Another thing that’s really good is tapioca fish, where you’re putting fish in a paper with some veggies. That’s really easy because that can be done ahead. You put your oil inside and some wine so when your guest gets there, 15 minutes out, you pop that in the oven. It’s really, really easy.”
Is it true that you just learned how to cook when you were modeling in Europe in your 20s?
“Just learning how to cook is an understatement. I did not know how to cook. I was in my early 20s, so when I was hanging out with these models, everybody would get together in the kitchen and I was listening to their stories and I was fascinated. Up to this point, I would go to dinner, have great food, Sunday suppers at my grandmother’s house, but I never stayed in the kitchen. I was fascinated so I started buying cookbooks.”
How important is it for women to know how to cook?
“I think it’s really important. I think we went through a phase. I was sort of at the beginning of that phase where I was very proud not to know how to cook. I was like, ‘I don’t cook. You think I’m a woman and that I should cook!? No I shouldn’t, and I don’t know how!’ And I think we were kind of proud of that. Then there was a phase where men were cooking. The script was flipped. And then men were cooking and they were finding themselves dating these women who didn’t know how to cook at all and they looked a little lacking in skills. I think now, it’s really important, not that you’re necessarily going to be doing it all the time. However, I do think it’s a shared chore.
If everybody is doing what they enjoy and without putting gender on those roles, you’ll be much happier.”
As someone who has been around Paula Deen, what do you think of the controversy surrounding her?
“Paula is really, really nice. And I really love her as a person. You may have seen my Tweet, ‘I love you and I support you.’ The one thing I’m going to say about that is, you know, forgiveness is power. I ask everybody, how powerful are you? And how do you treat somebody, especially somebody you don’t even know when thinking about forgiveness in that way?”
Very nice woman, and a very nice woman who makes a very mean cranberry soda recipe if I might add. What meal would you make for a first date?
We have had a long, tumultuous relationship with the n-word in the United States. And each time a celebrity lets their racism slip publicly, the debate pops up again. Here’s a review of some of the biggest n-bombs in history and what the fallout says about when it is and isn’t OK to use the word.
Update: Ballantine Books, an imprint at Random House, has dropped the book it had planned to release for Paula Deen in October. The publisher has dropped plans to sell Paula Deen’s New Testament: 250 Favorite Recipes, All Lightened Up, even though it’s been number one on the Amazon bestseller list.
It’s starting to get a little redundant, but Paula Deen has lost a few more business partnerships in the wake of this disastrous racism controversy. Now drugstore chain Walgreen’s, Sears, and Kmart (which is owned by Sears) have cut ties with the chef.
“Our members’ needs will be given first priority as we work to continue to provide quality cookware in our stores and online,” said Sears Holdings in a statement sent to The Huffington Post. The company will be “phasing out” the sale of her products.
Walgreen’s, which also owns the regional chain of retailers Duane Reade and Drugstore.com, said it would also be slowly doing away with her products.
This adds to a list of companies that have in some way, shape, or form cut ties with Deen. The list includes The Food Network, Smithfield Foods, Novo Nordisk, and Home Depot. On the positive side, her cookbook is doing well in pre-sales on Amazon and her Paula Deen-themed cruise is selling spots at a good clip.
And Deen now has a new defender. Former President Jimmy Carter told CNN that Deen should be forgive because she was honest.
“I think she has been punished, perhaps overly severely, for her honesty in admitting it and for the use of the word in the distant past. She’s apologized profusely,” he said. Moreover, he pointed out that Deen’s programs in Savannah, GA have helped “almost exclusively oppressed and poverty stricken black people.”
So Paula Deen is having a week, isn’t she! If anyone is going to indulge in a big piece of butter-dipped, deep-fried pie tonight, it’s probably her.
The fallout from her admission that she used racial slurs continues. Hour by hour, it seems, there’s a new development as Deen and everyone around her reorganizes to deal with the controversy.
Here’s a look at all that has happened, starting with the latest updates. Where do you think this will end up?
After weeks (one could say years) of bad press and controversy over comments made by company execs and an overall exclusionary attitude, it looks like Abercrombie & Fitch is getting its comeuppance. The company announced that sales had dropped 17 percent for the first quarter of this year. According to The Huffington Post, the numbers were falling before the controversies erupted, but sales certainly won’t be helped by the scandals. The CEO of the company, Mike Jeffries, says a lack of inventory was the problem.
“It took a little bit longer than anticipated to flow in some of our spring deliveries,” Reuters quotes Jeffries, who spoke during a conference call on Friday. The company has cut sales forecasts for he year as well.
Just last week, Abercrombie issued an apology after teens protested outside the company’s Ohio headquarters. They asked the company to start selling larger sizes (above a 10 and a Large), to cut down on its racy ads, and to focus on anti-bullying and diversity efforts. The company’s statement, after meeting with the students, read, “We look forward to continuing this dialogue and taking concrete steps to demonstrate our commitment to anti-bullying in addition to our ongoing support of diversity and inclusion. We want to reiterate that we sincerely regret and apologize for any offense caused by comments we have made in the past which are contrary to these values.”
The question is, will it help?
Clothing store Abercrombie & Fitch has been the subject of salacious news headlines in the past. Now the retailer is caught in a maelstrom of gossip again as one of its brand managers made it known that their clothes are not made to be worn by just anyone. “Abercrombie & Fitch doesn’t want to create the image that just anybody, poor people, can wear their clothing. Only people of a certain stature are able to purchase and wear the company name”, the manager stated.
In response to the controversy, company CEO Greg Karber released a statement, available on Clutch:
“I sincerely regret that my choice of words was interpreted in a manner that has caused offence. A&F is an aspirational brand that, like most specialty apparel brands, targets its marketing at a particular segment of customers. However, we care about the broader communities in which we operate and are strongly committed to diversity and inclusion. We hire good people who share these values. We are completely opposed to any discrimination, bullying, derogatory characterisations or other anti-social behaviour based on race, gender, body type or other individual characteristics.”
For some, the statement isn’t enough. Writer Greg Karber created a campaign called @FitchThe Homeles that declares “Let’s rebrand A&F together.” If you have any unwanted clothes from Abercrombie & Fitch, you can donate to this cause, which will then provide the clothes to the homeless.
Given this most recent dust up, comments Jeffries made in a 2006 interview for an article on Salon seem prescient. At the time he said, “A lot of people don’t belong [in our clothes], and they can’t belong. Are we exclusionary? Absolutely. Those companies that are in trouble are trying to target everybody: young, old, fat, skinny. But then you become totally vanilla. You don’t alienate anybody, but you don’t excite anybody, either.”
Do you shop at A&F?
I’m Not Going To Desert Him Because Of A Mistake: John Legend Explains Why He Kept Rick Ross On His New Single
John Legend is gearing up for the release of his new album, “Love in the Future,” next month, and if you haven’t heard the leading single “Who Do We Think We Are,” you are definitely missing out. The soulful slow jam brings all types of sexay — much like the sensual video that accompanies it — and thankfully for the Springfield, OH, singer it didn’t bring controversy despite the feature rapper on the track, Rick Ross.
Madame Noire got a chance to chat with John Legend today and we asked him whether he considered removing Rozay from his new track in light of his rape lyric controversy on U.O.E.N.O and he told us plainly, “no.”
“The track was already out when that controversy happened,” John told us. “It was already done, released to radio, and we had already shot the video. Plus I felt like I wasn’t going to completely drop somebody I had been working with for years because they made a mistake. We’ve done a lot of great work together and he did make a mistake — he effed up — and he rightfully got criticized for it, but I’m not going to desert him completely because of that.”
John and Ross do have a rather long history together. John Legend appeared on Ricky’s track “Magnificent” off of his “Deeper Than Rap” album in 2009, and he was also featured on “Rich Forever” on Ross’s mixtape of the same name. Apparently the two might strike magic again this time around, if people are still tolerating Ross after his slip-up.
In other John Legend news, the singer told us he and fiancée Chrissy Teigan have set a date for their big day and they will be jumping the broom this year! John told us of the upcoming wedding ceremony:
“It will be this year. We’re not really discussing a date or location any further, but we do know when and where and it will be this year.”
Although we know the pair likes to keep the details of their relationship under wraps, we did ask the Grammy-nominated artist if he and his wife-to-be would ever consider doing a reality TV show. Thankfully, that answer was a “no” as well.
“We get presented with that all the time, but I just feel like that’s not for us,” he said.” Some people do fine with it, but it’s hard enough to be in a relationship in general. There are always challenge, but to live out those challenges on television every day I think is unnecessary and we’re going to stay out of that.
Smart move on their part.
Check out the video for John’s new single “Who Do We Think We Are” below, if you haven’t seen it yet. What do you think?
Where in the world are the Grandmaster Flashes of today? You know the rappers who told a story that many folk could relate to. Nowadays hip has hopped its way into the bowels of shame. No, I’m not talking the Talib Kweli’s of the world either, I’m talking mainstream rappers whose controversial rhymes are landing them in hot waters, mainly because of heavily misogynistic-laced lyrics. Some have offered apologies to the public, while others would rather snub their nose at us than muster up an “I’m sorry.” It truly is a jungle out there for some of these rappers, and it makes one wonder if they’ll keep from going under. Ah-huh-huh, huh, huh.