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Deciding to break up with someone is not always black and white. You’re caught wondering, “Am I weak if I stay? Am I a quitter if I go? Am I just not seeing things clearly? Are these feelings a phase?” And like with any big decision, it’s good to draw a “blue print” of sorts to show you what’s really happening in your relationship. These seven questions are designed to help you draw that blue print.

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Plenty of us have stayed in a relationship way longer than we should have. It’s one thing to discover after a few weeks that you and the guy you were seeing just don’t click – it happens. But it’s another thing altogether when your feelings have been invested for months – even years – in a guy who you KNOW isn’t right for you, but you can’t seem to let go. There’s a lesson to be learned in every relationship, whether good or bad, so the trick is learning from each dating experience so you don’t spin your wheels in a dead end relationship. Not sure if the relationship you’re in is a complete waste of time? All of these signs point to yes:

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Remember back in the day, the pick-up line question in the club was, “So…what’s your sign?” Maybe it’s not the best ice breaker today, but back then, it was a conversation starter…or ender, depending on the reply. If a dude told me he was a Virgo, it was a wrap…because according to my mother, all Virgos lie. Now, that could have something to do with the fact that my father is a Virgo, but I digress.

We all have ideas of specific traits each zodiac sign holds, whether we got these notions from a book on astrology or past relationship experiences. Sometimes we’re correct in our assumptions, and other times we’re way off base. I’m no astrologist, so I had to do a bit of research to see if we can decipher the love language of the zodiac signs. Let’s explore.

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From YourTango.com

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We’ve all heard it at some point on our search for love: “Love shows up when you least expect it.” So, this means we should stop looking for love in order to find it. What if we applied this advice to other goals we have in our lives and the world?

Your ideal job will show up when you least expect it. You’ll lose 20lbs when you least expect it. The dishwasher will repair itself when you least expect it. Our marital problems will resolve themselves when we least expect it. World peace will arrive when we least expect it. This philosophy begins to seem a little ridiculous, doesn’t it? Is It Possible To Overcome Betrayal? EXPERT

And yet, we’re all sold this ridiculous myth from a very young age that one day we’ll bump into the love of our life and magically we’ll know how to make it last. How’s that working for you?

To get you out of the rut and get moving towards the love you desire, visit YourTango.com.

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Dear Champ,

I am a woman who is dealing with a younger man who is sweet, funny, good looking and a great personality. I have been seeing him for about a month now and have recently become intimate with him. The first time was great, he pulled out all the stops and was very focused on pleasing me. From the very beginning we have had open communication about our likes, dislikes, what we would like to try, what our limits are, etc. He was very optimistic! Since then we have been intimate two more times and each time, there’s no “pre-game warm-up,” we just get right to it. I try to move his hands and body in the position I like, I try to talk to him while we’re in the zone-nothing. Next thing you know, I am turned around holding on for dear life.

Now please be advised, this man is 6’5 250 lbs I am 5’5 145…so you can only imagine how this plays out. Don’t get me wrong, I am a champ and can hold my own but the pleasure for me is lost because all I am focused on is whether or not I’ll be able to walk afterwards. I feel like he is rushing through it and kind of dirty for all the wrong reasons. I have dated a younger man before so age/ experience is not an issue. My thing is, if I have communicated what I like verbally and tried to express them physically and still haven’t gotten anywhere do I just move on or is there a man language that I am not fluent in that I need lessons on.

Please help!

Paralyzed from the waist down.

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