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Shacking up, living in sin, cohabiting, getting to know someone before you make it official–if you ever make it official, are all terms that could be applied to living with someone before you get married. While some are vehemently against the idea for personal or even spiritual reasons, others feel it’s a great way to see what you’re getting yourself into. We took to the streets of New York to see what a couple of pedestrians thought about the subject. See what they had to say.
What do you think, should couples live together first?
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Is moving in together before marriage a good idea?
The Centers for Disease Control just released a study that examines data from first marriages for men and women ages 15 to 44. The data was collected from 2006 to 2010 by the National Survey of Family Growth with 22,682 respondents. The Associated Press promptly released a story with the headline, “Move In Before Marriage No Longer Predicts Divorce.” But, that’s not exactly what the study shows.
Instead, the study underlined what previous studies have also shown. The study proved that moving in together before marriage might or it might not predict divorce. The differentiating factor is whether or not you moved in with an expectation of a long-term commitment similar to marriage.
For the full story, visit Yourtango.com.
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Children of married couples are more cognitively developed than children from single parent or co-habitation homes according to a study by the British Institute for Fiscal Studies.
But if you’re not married and you have a child, there’s no need to work yourself into a tizzy. The study found cognitive development has more to do with the parents’ education level than actual marital status.
Read the rest of the correlation between education, marriage and your child’s intelligence over at Your Tango.com.
Studies show that individuals who make the effort to maintain quality, long-term relationships enjoy greater levels of overall happiness. Proving, the grass is greener where you water it.
However, according to Cristen Conger’s Huffington Post article, married couples tend to report being happier than singles. Since married individuals also drink and smoke less, statistics show they are healthier and live longer than unmarried people. Very interesting data considering we live in a divorce-happy society.
An escalating divorce rate has deterred many from marriage with a growing number of long-term cohabitants, who feel their relationships are just as substantial as legally-binding unions. But research from Nancy Wartik’s article “The Perils of Playing House” published in Psychology Today suggests these “trial periods” double the likelihood of divorce in a subsequent marriage. Researchers suggest people with more positive views on relationships simply go ahead and tie the knot before moving in together and discover greater happiness. Those with more risk factors (i.e. baggage) are more hesitant to take the plunge and often find themselves less satisfied after marriage.
Marriage is more than a piece of paper. Emotionally, it’s a sigh of relief. Marriage means you can’t just wash your hands after a big fight. It means you are completely vulnerable. It means you have given up the “I’s” for “we.” Unmarried couples are two “I’s” standing side by side, unwilling to sacrifice the freedoms of single life. If one person is suddenly unfulfilled and wants to leave, they can. In a marriage you can’t just go whenever things get rough. It is a character-building journey that forces husbands and wives to mature. There is a much higher level of commitment. Plus, break-ups don’t come with alimony, insurance policies and child support.
Among stability, openness and potential monetary compensation, married couples also experience a higher level of sexual freedom in their ability to reproduce. Unplanned pregnancies within marriage are much different than those outside. Often viewed more as surprises than life sentences, the abortion rate amongst married women is drastically lower than that of legally single women. According to 2005 statistics, single, never married women account for two-thirds of abortions in America. African-American women lead the way at 37 percent. Additionally, less drama surrounding paternity makes for less stressful pregnancies and healthier babies.
If you’re over 25 and you have been with the same guy for over two years and he’s still playing the we-don’t-need-a-piece-of-paper-to-validate-our-commitment card, move on. Unless you want to turn 30 just in time for him to tell you he’s leaving or eventually have a baby out-of-wedlock only for him to consider marrying you after the child turns 18.
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