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You have to be generous to have real love in your life. You need to be willing to change and compromise from time to time, but, it’s too easy (especially for women) to be the only one changing, compromising and giving for the relationship. It worse if you change so often and so much that you start to not realize it. And if you’re constantly in that type of relationship, you may have codependent tendencies. Here are some common signs of codependency:

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You never try to disagree
A major trait of a codependent person is a strong desire to avoid conflict, at all costs. You may think it’s no big deal when your partner says one little thing that you don’t agree with, but you swallow your words so as to avoid conflict. But, swallow your words enough and you’ve got a partner who thinks you agree with him on everything, and you’re not being yourself, all for the sake of being with somebody. It’s all right to have an opinion…and a backbone.

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It’s a tricky thing: integrity in love. Love is certainly not black and white. As we get older, we learn what we do and don’t want in a partner. Sometimes, we learn it while in the relationship. You can’t help who you fall in love with, and you can’t help when you meet that person.  Sometimes timing is just not right.

We all know stories of two people meeting, taking each other from their current relationships, getting married and living happily ever after. It happens. But, should it? If you’re considering leaving your current man for another, consider your reasons for doing so or you may just end up feeling massively guilty, and no happier than you were with the last guy…

Think on this before you do…

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