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My Ex Just Wants Custody Out of Spite
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Expert Shela Dean
If you’ve been through a custody battle, you know how hard it can be on the kids … and it isn’t easy on the grown-ups either. But what do you do when you know that your ex doesn’t really want custody, he’s only fighting for it to spite you? Fortunately. Shela Dean is here to help.
In this video, author, relationship coach and YourTango Expert Shela Dean explains how to handle an ex-husband who’s taking his aggression out on you in the courtroom.
“It’s possible that the custody challenge is about money,” says Shela, “but it’s more likely that your husband hasn’t accepted the inevitability of your divorce.” So, when will he stop putting his own pettiness ahead of the best interest of the kids? Shela says, “Your husband is more likely to come to his senses, be reasonable about the kids, and put their welfare first — as he should — once he’s resolved his feelings about you and the divorce.”
Want to learn more? Check out the video at YourTango.com.
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Did You Know They Were The Daddy? Surprising Celebrity Parents
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Sometimes, celebrities hook up with each other and your eyebrow just has to raise because you can’t see how they’d even get together. In the cases of the celebs on the following pages, they actually had kids together! A couple of them might surprise you…
Tameka Raymond Wants to Take Usher’s Kids From Him
Co-parenting isn’t working out so well for Usher and his ex-wife. TMZ got its hands on paperwork Tameka Raymond filed in Georgia asking a judge to grant her sole physical custody of their two children, claiming that Usher isn’t holding up to the legal obligations of their parenting agreement—and he closed her Saks 5th Avenue credit card.
The court documents contain a number of complaints against Usher, claiming he has failed to:
- Obtain her permission to travel outside the state with the kids. (He’s legally obligated to do so.)
- Get approval from her before hiring nannies.
- Give her the first opportunity to watch the kids when he’s away for more than 8 hours.
- Allow her to take the kids for 2 weeks in the summer of 2011.
- Let her have custody of the kids during Christmas break 2010.
Tameka also claims that Usher promised to pay her $5,000 per month to hire her own nanny but he hasn’t paid in months and now owes her $34,000 in payments. Usher isn’t refusing to pay because he’s strapped for cash either. Tameka says there has been a “substantial change in [Usher's] income” since their divorce and a result she should be entitled to more child support. And back to that Saks 5th card, Tameka says Usher specifically said he wouldn’t close the account and now that he has, she no longer reaps the “special benefits” the card offers.
Sounds to me like Tameka may still be a little bitter about the divorce. Yes, Usher is slacking a bit when it comes to following protocol, but not so much that he should be stripped of joint custody. I bet if he drops a few stacks and reinstates her Saks 5th card, Tameka suddenly won’t care so much about those missed vacations.
What do you think about Tameka’s claims? Should she be granted full custody of the boys because Usher isn’t following the rules of their joint-custody agreement?
Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.
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For the Kids: The Innocent Victims of Your Bad Romance
Earlier this week in an after-school program I run for teenage girls, we discussed the topics of healthy breakups. We brainstormed things that make a break-up easier and things that make a break-up more difficult than it has to be. Out of shared household and finances and seeing your former mate move on, they all agreed that one thing definitely makes a break up more complicated: children.
I’ve witnessed my share of relationships in which partners thought it was better to stay together in an unhealthy living situation with the intention of preserving the idea of family for their children. After watching the latest edition of Madame on the Street: Should You Stay Together For the Kids? and reading many of your comments, it made me begin to question: Does it necessarily mean you can’t be good parents, even if you aren’t good partners?
QOTD: Is Your Husband the Better Parent?
Picture this scenario: A husband and wife have been together for many years. They have two school-aged children. The marriage collapses under the strain of a temporary job assignment that leaves one parent in another country alone for six months. The abroad parent returns and purchases a home on the same block as the other parent who has primary custody. The children see both parents everyday. Parent teacher conferences, baseball games and school plays are never missed. Sounds like an amicable split, right? Co-parenting that works.
What if we told you that the parent with primary physical custody is the dad? Would that change your opinion of anything? Would you wonder what kind of “horrible mother” could live without having primary custody of her kids?
That is the story of Rahna Reiko Rizzuto. She shared her story with Salon.com. Rizutto said she had to come to terms with the fact that she never really wanted kids, her husband did. She said she loves her children of course, but motherhood was never a goal she had in mind and the current arraignment seems to work best for everyone involved. She has plenty of quality time with the kids and time to herself.
When a couple splits, unless there are some extenuating circumstances (drug problems, abuse, etc), typically the kids go with the mom. But, what if the dad is just the better parent? Would you think less of a woman who gave the dad primary custody? Do you think kids are generally better off with the mom?
10 Great Tips For Happy Co-Parenting
Co-parenting after a separation or breakup can be achieved with a simple plan in mind – compromise. As much as past betrayals or guilt attributed to your breakup, parenting duties never cease. Shared decisions with your ex are a perfect solution to a happy and fruitful relationship with your children and raising them in a positive environment. Despite the conflicts that may arise, striving for stability and functionality encourages team work.
Here are tips on how to manage co-parenting:
Co-Parenting: How Well Do You Raise Your Child With Your Ex?
Halle Berry is headed to South Africa to film a new movie for a few months. She packed her passport, personal items, her daughter Nahla, …and Nahla’s dad, Halle’s ex Gabriel Aubry.
C’mon Son! Is Your Man Jealous of The Kids?
Moms, it’s nerve-wrecking enough to have to think about balancing all the dynamics of a family. Are the kids happy? Is my husband satisfied? When is the perfect time to introduce my kids to the man I’m seriously dating? So once you’ve got those things figured out, or so you think, you find out that your man — your grown man — is jealous of the children.
