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Every time my boyfriend and I discuss Chris Brown, I feel a bit ashamed. He can’t seem to understand why any woman would support him, his career or buy his music. And seeing as how, I’m always publicly and privately disapproved of and bashed his dysfunctional and misogynistic behavior but purchased “Drunk Texting” and “New Flame” for my personal collection, I can’t really talk.
It’s a strange relationship I have with Chris Brown. I really root for him, hoping and praying that he’ll do and be better one day. And there have certainly been signs that he’s working towards that…for a couple of weeks. Then something else will happen. His girlfriend will finally get tired of his shenanigans and he rolls up on her at the club, threatening her friend. Talk show hosts will comment on the personal life he’s all but invited us into and all of sudden he’s ready to talk about their looks and rumored sexual history on the internet.
For whatever reason, the victims of his antics are always women. You don’t have to be a student or a fan of Chris Brown to know that, despite his words, his actions clearly point to the undeniable fact that he has an issue with women.
So, how is it that women continue to support him?
I can’t speak for anyone else, but as I alluded to before, I keep hoping he’ll do better. I keep hoping that for not only Chris but the men in my own family. There’s a legacy of abuse in my family, so I know what it’s like to love the men who hurt the women closest to them. It’s an act of splitting, the grandfather, uncle, or cousin you love from the husband, boyfriend or father who can’t seem to control his temper or have an argument without ending it with his hands. And even though you’re trying desperately to separate these two men from themselves, you hope and pray for the day when that type of cognitive dissonance, those mental gymnastics will no longer be necessary.
It’s a little different for Chris Brown, seeing as how I don’t have a personal relationship with him. But still, appreciating his talent, I can see that he’s two people as well.
This morning, I came across the trailer for his upcoming documentary. Unlike the last one, where Chris was going to tell us about the love he had for two different women, this one features celebrities vouching for him, talking about his talent but also features a seemingly introspective Brown talking about his abuse of Rihanna in 2009.
You can watch the trailer below.
Most strikingly, he says: “I felt like a f*cking monster. I was thinking about suicide and everything else. I wasn’t sleeping, I wasn’t eating. I just was getting high.”
Then his mother, Joyce Hawkins said, “That was the worst day of my life and probably his life. I felt like I was going to lose my child.”
My first reaction to the trailer was intrigue. Kind of like how you feel when Disney or Marvel announces that they’re going to release some type of prequel that explains how the villain got to be the way they are now. You go in thinking and believing one thing and leave out with a totally different perspective.
It was my sister who helped me see it another way.
Many of you remember, just a couple of weeks ago, Chris Brown was very vocal about Kehlani and the rumors about her cheating on her ex boyfriend basketball player Kyrie Irving. In case you missed it, he wrote:
Girls be mad at a n*gga for f*cking around wit b*tches but her DMs got more names than the Declaration of Independence #YEAHIMTHROWINGSHADE
They look like they have stank sex
There is no attempting suicide. Stop flexing for the gram. Doing shit for sympathy so them comment under your pics don’t look so bad.
OK IM DONE. Guess she gon have to watch the games from a real “box” now. “THE TELEVISION” #OHB “OUTTA HERE BIH”
I don’t have to list Chris Brown’s history of infidelity. There’s an entire child walking around as living proof of that. But that’s what makes his thoughts about Kehlani so interesting. A woman is merely suspected of cheating, ruthlessly shamed on the internet to the point of contemplating/attempting suicide and Chris Brown takes that opportunity to publicly condemn her. How ironic. Chris Brown knows what it’s like to be associated with scandal and shame. According to him, he even knows what it’s like to have suicidal thoughts. And while it’s acceptable for him to release a documentary detailing his own struggle, Kehlani is “flexing for the gram.”
His logic, or lack thereof, and missing compassion is truly astounding.
This morning I was calling this hypocrisy. But my coworker is sure that it’s something more than that. We all have our moment of hypocrisy. This here, is some type of mental abnormality that Chris simply refuses to acknowledge and treat with any type of consistency or accountability to himself and now the daughter he’s raising.
In what world does someone attempt or successfully commit suicide to gain sympathy, particularly “for the ‘gram”?
In light of singer Kehlani’s recent suicide attempt (and Chris Brown’s insensitive comments regarding her actions) and the death of a popular Indian actress, two things are very clear: Some people wrongfully view suicide as blasé performance art, and we need to have more open and honest conversations regarding mental health. While no one’s turning to Chris Brown to be the arbiter of wisdom or bastion of truth and goodness, he does have influence. And his influence is wreaking havoc and adding fuel to the stigma fire.
The shame surrounding suicide and mental health, in general, is a bit much. Considering the prominence and importance of social media in our daily lives and this digital age, some may assume that attempting suicide, or in Kehlani’s specific case, posting a picture in the hospital and captioning it revealing her attempt to take her life, is a social media ploy for likes, retweets and new followers–or just compassion. While we don’t know every single detail that caused Kehlani to end up in the hospital and don’t need to dissect or analyze the reasons she chose to share the pic and caption it on social media, that reductive reasoning is a hindrance to breaking down suicide stigmas and getting people in similar situations the help they need. That logic also fails to recognize the effects of bullying that occurs on social media platforms, particularly to celebrities and people in the public spotlight, like Kehlani, who received countless insults from perfect strangers after being accused of cheating on NBA star Kyrie Irving.
Another thing suicide is not? It is not something to mock or make light of. Someone who committed suicide or attempted suicide is not “selfish” or guilty of a “cowardly act.” Nor should they be considered a “loser” as actor turned politician Hema Malini tweeted about 24-year-old Indian actress Pratyusha Banerjee, who was found hanging in her Mumbai home on April 1. Malini did not directly name Banerjee, but her rant, in which she refers to “senseless suicides” included the following: “One must learn to overcome all odds & emerge successful, not succumb under pressure & give up easily. The world admires a fighter not a loser.” Malini’s comments are harsh, insensitive and all wrong.
If someone is in a lowly, desolate place full of pain, despair and mental anguish, to them, suicide might seem like the only way out. The only way to permanently ensure that pain will no longer affect them or the people they love. And while outsiders may not be able to make sense of someone’s decision to take their own life, or the situations and circumstances leading up to that very serious decision, it’s not fair to place blame, judge, negatively criticize or shame them at any point.
Doing so, after all, only encourages the misconception that people who attempt suicide are automatically “crazy.” If that’s what a person is taught to believe, this could hinder them from speaking out and seeking help if they’re having suicidal thoughts. There’s also a misconception that people with mental health issues are weak, violent or unpredictable. Or there’s the belief that because nothing is physically wrong with a person who has a mental health illness or because you can’t see their problems with your own eyes, they must be making it up. Some people with mental health issues and psychological distress are fully functioning and seemingly thriving while suffering in silence, hiding the pain and saying everything’s okay because it’s what’s expected of them. And when they address their feelings, maybe they are accused of being dramatic or over-sensitive; of not being able to handle the ups and downs and pressures of life. But minimizing someone’s problems is the wrong approach, in the same way that guilting them into feeling better is the wrong approach.
Suicide can be caused by a host of factors. Depression – particularly depression that is undiagnosed, untreated or inaccurately treated – is the leading cause of suicide. And depression does not discriminate. It can happen to any and everyone at various stages of life, though a recent study shows the most common mental illness among African Americans is depression (and studies have shown that suicides reach a peak during the spring, particularly in April). So what can we do to battle this issue, to raise awareness and erase stigma?
People with mental health concerns need support and they need access to affordable care. While these are seemingly simple resolutions, they are not easy to attain and that’s why we need continued conversation and countrywide initiatives like New York’s Thrive NYC to affect positive, lasting change.
I pray for peace for Banerjee and my condolences to her family. I wish Kehlani well and hope that she gets the help she needs. I have the same hope and wish for peace for those who consider or attempt suicide. There is help out there, and there is no shame in seeking it.
“Me And Kehlani Were Not Dating When The Picture Came Out” Kyrie Irving Finally Speaks On Cheating Allegations
Kyrie Irving, the Cleveland Cavaliers guard, who is at the center of the discussion surrounding artists Kehlani and PartyNextDoor, finally decided to issue a statement about the cheating allegations and the nature of his current relationship with the singer.
The tweets were later deleted but the screenshot is real. Cleveland Sports Talk, as well as several other media outlets, saved them beforehand.
BREAKING: Here are the complete set of tweets Kyrie just posted about the Kehlani situation pic.twitter.com/wQQyt9szwX
— Cleveland SportsTalk (@CLEsportsTalk) March 31, 2016
The timing of this statement is interesting. While I’m certainly happy that he finally spoke up, it would have been more useful when Kehlani’s name, character and reputation were being called into question by far too many people, who didn’t and don’t know her, on the internet. At the front of the pack was a very vocal and extremely hypocritical Chris Brown. Perhaps Kyrie has been avoiding the news lately and didn’t see that his former girlfriend attempted to commit suicide. Who knows?
Either way, now that the statement’s out, hopefully some people learned some valuable lessons, like:
- A picture often doesn’t tell the full story.
- Stop shaming women…and comparing all of them to Ayesha Curry.
- Don’t listen to Chris Brown
- Be careful what you say on the internet, it can severely hurt people.
What do you think of Kyrie’s statement?
Yesterday afternoon, some interesting pictures of Adrienne Bailon and a mystery man surfaced on Fameolous Ent.
Adrienne and this visibly older man were in Mexico, cuddled up in the pool. Not really wanting to believe what I was seeing, I assumed that the man, with a Santa Claus belly and a large bald spot, could have been her father. But it was my coworker who pointed out that no woman hugs up her father in the water, when they’re both half naked unless somebody’s drowning. It’s just inappropriate.
Plus, in the images it appears as if the two are wearing wedding rings.
Still, his identity was unknown so I went on about my night.
Then, earlier this morning, Fameolous confirmed that the man was none other than Grammy-award-winning gospel artist Israel Houghton. They matched tattoos, smiles and everything.
Receipt 2. I compared all the tattoos and Israel Houghton beard with the new photos. Isreal has not posted in 1 week which means by now he should have some hair on his face as you see in the picture. I noticed in the recent photo he had grey hair which matches his photo from 1 week ago. I also notice the tattoo on his arm that looks like a P due to the sun shining on it but I believe it’s a D that you also see in the new pic on the beach. The second tattoo also matches on inner arm. Check next receipt!
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And in case you haven’t heard of Fameolous and don’t trust their receipts, TMZ, reported on it this morning as well.
This is exceptionally interesting. Particularly when, just last month, Houghton took to his Facebook page to announce that because of his infidelity he and his wife of 20 years, Meleasa Houghton, were getting a divorce.
Naturally, many are wondering if Bailon played a part in the ending of that marriage.
While I hate to call Chris Brown up as a witness, you will remember that when the women of “The Real,” discussed his relationship with Karrueche, he posted a long Instagram post in which he said Bailon was sleeping with a married man.
Again, Chris Brown is not the most reliable source but it’s certainly interesting, considering this Mexican vacation is not the first time Adrienne and Israel’s paths might have crossed. In 2013, he produced the movie I’m in Love With a Church Girl, starring Bailon and Ja-Rule.
And ironically, Houghton was one of the first people to congratulate Lenny and Adrienne on their engagement.
You know what they say about your replacement always being close by.
Since Lenny and Adrienne called off their engagement, many of us were surprised to hear Adrienne making references to her sex life and new boyfriend on “The Real.” I guess now we know who that man is.
Naturally, people have been all up in Adrienne’s comments and mentions trying to figure out what’s going on.
And in the comment section of her Instagram page, she issued this response.
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Someone, in the comment section said, “Girl, don’t you know we can multitask?”
I have to agree. If my character were called into question in such a way, I would be very clear about my lack of involvement with a married man. Something to the tune of “I am not sleeping with a married man; I wasn’t messing with him when he was married; This is not my boyfriend, or This is my husband.” Anything else is just not enough in the face of all these receipts.
I’m sure the true story will come to light, one way or another.
As open and honest as Adrienne has been about her love life, I’d be surprised if she didn’t address this on “The Real.”
In the meantime, this whole story got us like
Major h/t to Fameolous Ent.
Royalty is the Chris Brown album named for his one-year-old daughter, so it’s only right that the sweet little girls is featured in the visuals for his latest single, “Little More.”
The video begins really dark and sorted, like so dark that we had to check if we were watching the right clip. As Breezy lays his head down to sleep, ghosts from the past (with visuals from his previous videos) haunt his dreams. But thank goodness he wakes up to the sight of his daughter Royalty, and the playful, bright and adorable scene is set.
It’s gushy and heartwarming to see Chris and his mini-me playing peek-a-boo, blowing bubbles, sipping tea and just running around the house.
“Girl you got this heartlock on me, I don’t think that I can control it.”
We love this cute father-daughter video, check out the delicious reel for “Little More” below.
“MJ Didn’t Score 50 Every Night”: Chris Brown Explains Why His White Hot Holidays Performance Was White Hot Mess
I don’t know what it is about the holidays that just tears up the voices of popular singers. Last year Mariah Carey caught a lot of hell for a less than stellar performance of “All I Want For Christmas is You,” and now Chris Brown has found himself having to explain why he sounded hoarse while singing “This Christmas” recently.
The singer appeared on Fox’s holiday special, Taraji and Terrence’s White Hot Holidays, which aired last night, hosted by the Empire stars. He came out to do a medley of his songs “Back to Sleep” and his popular rendition of Donny Hathaway’s “This Christmas,” and we all know the original is a staple in the homes of Black folks during the holidays. Dressed in a brown suit, Brown did his best, but struggled to hit quite a few of the notes. Instead of trying to scale back to sing in a register that would work for his ailing voice, Brown kept trying to hit those high notes, finding himself yelling at different parts throughout the song. Eventually, singer Tank came through to do a duet of the classic song while Brown focused on busting a move or two.
The performance was such a rollercoaster that the singer had to take to Twitter to explain that he’d been sick lately, and that’s why his voice was off.
He also said that even the greats, like his idol Michael Jackson, didn’t always deliver every night. Of course, I’ve never seen a shaky performance from the King of Pop in my life, but if you have footage of that somewhere, I’d like to see it…
MJ didn’t score 50 every night. I’m just glad I was given the opportunity. #HappyHolidays ❤️
— Chris Brown (@chrisbrown) December 10, 2015
I guess people had so much to say that even co-host Taraji P. Henson had to jump in and defend him.
— Taraji P. Henson (@TherealTaraji) December 10, 2015
True, true. That is all that really matters.
Brown has been out here performing pretty consistently to promote his new album, Royalty, which comes out on December 18. So it makes sense that his voice and body are tired. But what do you think? Was the performance even that bad? Check it out below and share your thoughts.
I haven’t thought about Omarion in years. But his reemergence on the show “Love and Hip Hop Hollywood,” seemed to show that he was a really nice person, witty and unfazed by all the drama his castmates seemed to thrive on. He was fun to watch.
Then he had the hit song “Post To Be” featuring Chris Brown and Jhene Aiko. It was all over the radio, super catchy and then there was that memorable line, “You gotta eat the booty like groceries.”
The song was real cute for the summer and in the clubs and stuff. But no one thought it was going to be anybody’s classic.
Well, not no one.
When the Grammy nominations were released recently, one fan said he was surprised to see Omarion’s R&B collabo didn’t make the list.
— Ben Anderson (@IAmBenAnderson) December 7, 2015
Not only did Omarion agree, this tweet (and perhaps a few cosigns) caused him to launch into a Twitter rant that has the internet reeling.
Here’s what he said:
Then Omarion asked fans to name another R&B collaboration that was better than “Post To Be” that featured no rappers. He also referenced the fact that “Post To Be” had over 300 million views on YouTube.
And then, as if he hadn’t done enough damage, he put the nail in his own coffin with this last one.
@Baepernick they laughed at Jesus.
— OMARION (@1Omarion) December 7, 2015
Yet another artist comparing himself to the Messiah. What does seducing a woman to leave her man have to do with the good works? But I’m sure, he wasn’t thinking that deeply. And that’s the problem with all these tweets. Omarion is so in his feelings, he can’t seem to see that he’s doing too much right now.
Listen, I get believing in yourself, even when others don’t. It’s an important life skill. But equally important is the ability to be both humble and honest. If Omarion were either of these qualities, we wouldn’t be talking about him right now. A humble person knows the value in letting others recognize them. Since Omarion wanted to reference Jesus, it was Him who said that when you’re invited to dinner, sit at the least important place at the table instead of taking the place of honor. Because there might be someone more deserving than you and when they show up, the host will have to ask you to get up, you’ll be humiliated.
That’s exactly what happened here.
If you look at the people nominated for the R&B awards: Jazmine Sullivan, Lalah Hathaway, Tyrese etc, you would see that “Post To Be” just doesn’t make the cut. When you position it next to that type of R&B music, you might realize it’s more pop than anything else. And it’s not just the Grammy nominating committee who’s not here for it. I doubt any of us will be listening to the song after 2015. I know I personally haven’t heard the song itself since the summer.
What I have heard is the “eat the booty like groceries” line. It was a cultural moment. Thankfully, it was featured in Omarion’s comeback single but…he isn’t the one who said it. The standout moment of the song came from his featured artist Jhene Aiko. It stands to reason that without that line, the song might not have made it as far as it did. For the longest, I only knew it as the “Eat The Booty Like Groceries Song.”
Omarion then goes on to say the odds have always been against him.
Do y’all know how many talented vocalists there are, in Black churches around America–who can sing circles around Omarion–and have never had a chance to work with the industry’s leading artists, sell millions of records and tour the world. Then when B2K fell off, Omarion kept the attention of fans with singles like “Touch” and “Icebox.” And when he fell off, even after that, he was invited to participate in “Love and Hip Hop,” where he reminded audiences that he was still around and making music.
If you ask me, it sounds like the odds were ever in his favor. #HungerGames
But all of that might change if homeboy keeps caping for this unworthy song.
And I would be remiss if I didn’t mention that Omarion was indeed recognized for this song. He won a Soul Train Award for it, in fact. But when they called his name for him to accept the award, he wasn’t in the spot.
So, he only wants a certain type of recognition, one that comes from White people. He likely would have been there for that presentation.
But y’all didn’t click in here to read an essay about the quest for White validation. That’s a little to heavy and you’d be here for another 10 minutes
The point is, “sometimes you have to encourage yourself.” #DonaldLawrence
Perhaps that’s what Omarion was doing when he started prophesying over his career. He said they should have his Grammys ready.
Well, alright boo.
Never say never.
With all that braggadocio he displayed on today, he’ll really have to show and prove.
Better luck next time, O.
Daily Show Staff Upset Over Chris Brown Appearance Due To Abusive Past, But Should They Be 6 Years Later?
In case you haven’t heard, Chris Brown is set to be a guest on The Daily Show tonight–whether certain staff members like it or not.
According to The Daily Beast, his booking was something staff was split over due to Brown’s violent past. Several Daily Show staff members actually reached out to The Daily Beast to say that they were concerned about giving Brown a platform as an abuser. But they were told by the host, Trevor Noah, whose own mother was a victim of domestic abuse and was even shot in the face by her ex-husband, that a part of the interview would be used to bring light to domestic violence issues. And that’s the part of the article where I rolled my eyes.
I don’t want to hear Chris Brown apologize for his 2009 assault on Rihanna again. My ears can’t take it.
Not only because we’ve heard it time and time again; not only because it still won’t be enough to please people; not only because it will be weird to have such a serious discussion on a news satire comedy show; but because he’s the only famous person out here still apologizing for his past.
(And before you R. Kelly fans try to come at my head asking, “What makes Chris Brown different from R. Kelly?” know that Brown actually has taken responsibility for his actions. He dealt with the punishment for his decisions, both in the courtroom and in the public eye. We saw the evidence, and he admitted to his abuse. We saw the evidence for R. Kelly–the sex tape and the marriage to Aaliyah when she was 15, and he was 28 alone–and he still has nothing to say.)
I’m honestly a little disappointed to know that not only will his episode focus on those past decisions he’s atoned for, but that many of the staff reportedly were opposed to allowing him to sit across from Noah for what, 10 minutes?
Don’t get me wrong. I do know that these are some of the consequences that come with doing terrible things in the public eye. Particularly in the digital age when images of a battered Rihanna were passed around, as well as the stomach-turning police report. I do know that for years, Brown continued to behave poorly, getting in scuffles and Twitter beef with every Tom, Dick and Frank Ocean. And I do know that if you’ve ever been a victim of domestic abuse, or had loved ones who have been, seeing Brown get to continue with his success knowing the pain he inflicted is probably disgusting.
But I do wonder what it is that will make people happy when it comes to Brown.
It can’t be an apology. He’s apologized more than once. In articles, in interviews and more. And each time his apologies have been picked apart and dubbed as insincere.
It can’t be for him to struggle in his career, because for a time there, he did. There were radio stations that refused to play his music at one point, and when he released his album Graffiti in 2009, stores like Walmart weren’t even stocking it.
And it can’t be for him to be genuinely remorseful for his actions, because who is to say that he hasn’t been? And how remorseful is just the right amount of remorse? Do you need to pull a Robin Thicke and make an apologetic album that no one will buy? Do you need to get on stage and make a public decree? Do you need to be seen in public in tears for weeks on end? Well, that doesn’t work either, because when Brown did break down in an ugly cry at the BET Awards while performing “Man in the Mirror” a year after the assault, people claimed he was just putting on a show.
So I have questions. I guess I’m just trying to figure out the endgame here. Is it that we want to see this young man fall under the weight of his past mistakes to the point where he can no longer sing or dance in public? Do we want him to become a hermit? Do we want him not to grow as a person and father and just be a constant pariah? Are we going to keep forcing Rihanna to talk about that man and that situation until she meets and marries someone else? I’m genuinely interested in figuring out what it is people want to see happen to Brown, a man diagnosed with Bipolar II, over a mistake made when he was 19.
Are we all expected to pay for the mistakes we made for the rest of our lives? And not to get too preachy on you, but as long as Brown has repented to the people who matter in this situation, Rihanna, and God, do the rest of us really matter? Do our gripes with him really matter? Does our decision to look at him as the abuser who hurt us, or our friends or our loved ones really matter?
It’s not something he can run from. And here’s to hoping that one day he will be mature enough to say calmly, “Yeah, it’s something I truly regret. However, it’s something I learned and grew from, and as the father of a daughter, I hope to work to help prevent such abuse from happening to other women.” But to say all that on The Daily Show? On Comedy Central? Please. That’s not the place for it. Especially not when the host of the show whose staff is riled up about your appearance deemed your domestic episode comical enough to joke about years ago on Twitter (“I woke up and my face was puffy and swollen- I looked like I was in the car with chris brown.”). Not when that same show allowed Charlie Sheen to be a guest in 2003, despite him already having about three domestic violence incidents under his belt at that time, including shooting former fiancée Kelly Preston. And especially not on a comedy show with a group of people who don’t stand up for abused women, let alone abused Black women, any other time.
It took me a while, but I recently stopped listening to R. Kelly.
It wasn’t easy at all. As I’ve stated numerous times, I’m from the South Suburbs of Chicago and R. Kelly’s music was always a mainstay on the radio, in our home, and even at school. The man literally lived 10 minutes away from my family in Olympia Fields for years.
And then his music was just that good. There really is an R. Kelly song for every mood. Feeling jubilant? Step to “Happy People.” Relationship on the decline? Rant to “When a Woman’s Fed Up.” Need some inspiration? Of course, there’s always “I Believe I Can Fly.” Feeling freaky? Take your pick.
And that’s where things get uncomfortable.
I gave up on the classic jams of R. Kelly, because after years of turning a blind eye to allegations, I was forwarded the news stories and police reports from the Village Voice feature a while back. I looked over everything, things that spanned the ’90s and early ’00s, and could barely hold down my lunch. I knew people who went to his alma mater, Kenwood Academy in Chicago, and said he would lurk around talking to the young girls, and I’d also had friends who said they saw him at local malls and he was flirtatious. I thought nothing of it during that time.
But after reading those reports, I couldn’t ignore what I had been hearing and seeing over the years, and I could no longer feel comfortable supporting or even just listening to his music due to the allegations.
Allegations R. Kelly addressed directly in an interview with New York Magazine recently.
While promoting his new album, Buffet, the singer was asked whether or not he has a sexual attraction to underage girls:
“That’s a rumor that comes from the Earth, like all rumors,” he says, sounding almost bored.
So it’s not true?
“No. It’s not true. I love women, period. If I wasn’t a celebrity, people wouldn’t be saying these things about me.”
How do you explain people close to you saying that you have a problem?
“I don’t know those people you’re talking about.”
I clarify: his brother, his ex-publicist, his former friend and longtime personal assistant.
“All those people have been fired by me. If you’re going to ask me these questions, you have to make sense out of it. It wasn’t until after they got fired that they said these things. Go figure. I got one life, and I don’t want to spend it talking about negativity. I’ve moved on. Maybe you haven’t.”
And when asked if there were any sexual compulsions he could admit to struggling with, Kelly claimed young girls were not his issue.
“I only have a problem with haters.”
This Q&A was interesting. But what stood out to me most were the words of a commenter who said that Kelly is no different from any other entertainer.
“meh. if you stopped supporting every entertainer or celebrity who rapes, abuses, or commits crimes. you wouldn’t really have very many entertainers or celebrities left.
i mean… where’s this article on Woody Allen? any number of pro athletes? hell… even harvy weinstein has a reputation for f-cking young starlets as a gatekeeper to celebrity.
I don’t really know R Kelly’s music. but. pretty sure you can just look the other way if you’re into. just like people do for white entertainers.”
And for a minute there, I started to feel confused. Conflicted is a better word.
That commenter had a point. There are plenty of athletes, entertainers and celebrities in general who’ve done horrid things, and yet many of us continue to be entertained by them in one way or another, and we don’t turn the TV off or the radio down when they appear. For example, despite being flabbergasted at photos of a beaten and bruised Rihanna after she was battered by Chris Brown post a pre-Grammy celebration in 2009, six years later, I still listen to Brown’s music. I still continue to root for him to get his life together because I see the talent.
I stood by Michael Jackson against rumors until the day he died and still jam out to all his albums like they just came out. Off The Wall is a personal favorite.
I watch old and new Woody Allen movies from time to time, and even some Roman Polanski films. And as I can recall sitting back during an 8-hour plane ride to Greece, I thought nothing of Allen’s marriage to his adopted daughter while watching Blue Jasmine.
A lot of the athletes I see on television are being accused of something or currently battling a case in between games.
And don’t get me started on Bill Cosby…
I don’t go out of my way to support anyone with a shoddy past, but it’s true that at times, what they’ve done in their personal life sometimes takes a backseat when I’m focused on their work.
But what makes R. Kelly different from all these people is the fact that it’s his work that makes me think of his personal life automatically. He’s overtly sexual, and when you’re being accused of having sex with minors, that makes things incredibly uncomfortable. His last album was titled Black Panties for God’s sake! How can I listen to “The Greatest Sex,” “Bump N’Grind,” “Every Position,” “R&B Thug,” “Freak Dat Body,” and some sh*t like “I Like The Crotch On You” and not immediately feel disgusting? Especially when he said in “She’s Got That Vibe,” “Little, cute Aaliyah’s got it”?
And yet, I won’t judge those who can do so. Because as I previously stated, there are some people I find myself grooving to and whose projects I view despite knowing their shady past, and sometimes, present.
But R. Kelly has to go from my discography. Not because he’s not a musical genius. But rather, because by continuing to be a hypersexual being when it comes to the music he shares with the world while remaining mum about that sex tape, that marriage to Aaliyah, and those vivid claims of statutory rape, he’s profiting off of someone else’s pain and laughing in our faces. It’s sick.
Elaine B. Goodman, of Dover, Delaware, is facing several charges after she statutorily raped a 13-year-old boy in the backseat of her car last spring.
According to Delaware Online, the young boy snuck out his house to meet Goodman, then 44, at 1 a.m. The two drove around before parking and sitting in the backseat. That’s when the sexual abuse began. They were there until 4:30 in the morning when Goodman dropped him off so she could get ready for work.
During an interview with the Children’s Advocacy Center, the boy said after kissing and undressing him, Goodman “took his you-know-what and put it in her you-know-what.”
From there, the Smyrna Police Department started investigating the incident. They collected DNA evidence from the car, clothing worn that night and text messages from cell phones.
Reportedly, the 13-year-old boy is her daughter’s boyfriend.
Goodman had been texting the boy as well as her friend that implicated her in the rape.
According to documents, she texted her friend saying, “He is so cute with a nice ass body. I asked him what in the world are u doing with a body like that at 13…”
Goodman was charged with fourth degree rape, three counts of third-degree rape, two counts of second-degree unlawful sexual conduct and sexual solicitation of a child. She was arrested on Wednesday and sent straight to the Baylor Women’s Correctional Institution in lieu of $225,000 bond.
This story is chalk full of disturbing and dysfunctional details. This is pedophilia plain and simple. Goodman raped that young man. Still, the story is largely being reported with words like “had sex with,” “had intimate relations” or “engaged in a sexual relationship.” She clearly took advantage of this young boy, who couldn’t even say the words penis and vagina. It’s really time we start taking the rape and molestation of little boys as seriously as it is. There’s nothing cool or advanced about a 44-year-old woman raping a 13-year-old boy. And it’s time we teach young boys to see this type of abuse as just that.
It is these type of attitudes that lead men like Ja Rule and Chris Brown to say they “lost their virginities” at 11 and 8-years-old respectively. As painful as it might be to admit or acknowledge that, they were raped and preyed upon by older women who were mentally unwell.
Then there’s the issue of Goodman using her daughter’s boyfriend as her victim. There is something absolutely diabolical about that betrayal. And it’s two fold. Not only did Goodman sleep with the young girl’s boyfriend, betraying her trust and ensuring that she will be ridiculed for her mother’s behavior, she also left her daughter without a mother as she is sure to serve plenty of time in jail.
Lastly, a part of me wonders how her friend received that text message she sent to her. Did she send it before she raped this little boy or was it a way for her to brag about it afterward? Furthermore, what was her friend’s response? Did she tell her to leave the little boy alone, call the authorities, dismiss it or, in the worst case scenario, did she participate or condone that type of behavior?
All in all, this is a tragic situation, with no winners.