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In her very first interview, Nia Guzman, the mother of Chris Brown’s 2-year-old daughter, opened up to Latina regarding what it’s like to raise a child with the controversial singer and how their relationship came to be in the first place.
According to 32-year-old Guzman, she and Brown met through a mutual acquaintance and established a friendship. She told the publication that they were friendly for about five years and that their relationship only went south when they began to disagree regarding custody of the toddler. Interestingly, there was no mention of Karrueche Tran, Brown’s ex-girlfriend and an apparent acquaintance of Guzman.
“We had mutual acquaintances; that’s how we met, probably a good five or six years ago. And it was always just a friendship, and it was just nothing more, nothing less. It was just a friendship. And not until the custody issues were raised, that’s when we stopped talking, and negativity started,” she explained. “But at the beginning of all this, it was all love. We both went through breakups, we both dealt with them, we both checked on each other throughout everything going on. And then to be here now is just really… is just really crazy, and it’s really hurtful. I don’t know how to get back to the way we were, until time can heal that.”
She also explained that Brown knew about their daughter, Royalty, long before the world found out about her and said that raising a child alongside the R&B superstar has been a completely negative experience.
“Well, the world didn’t find out about her until a year ago. He always knew about her; he just wasn’t ready to deal with the situation,” she confessed. “But, it’s been quite the experience. I can’t say anything positive about it… at all. Nothing positive.”
As for the public’s perception of her, which is that she’s a gold-digger who hit the jackpot, Guzman insists that people have it all wrong. According to the single mom of two, she’s not interested in Brown’s money — she only wants to raise her child in a “balanced” and safe environment.
“Gold-digging. I think this whole money issue too has been out of control. This number that people are stuck on, this $15K, this $16K… that is something that is legally calculated, from dad’s income. So, it’s not even a set number. I just want to have Royalty in a safer home. I would want it to be not leave to dad, and not be in a mansion, and huge playrooms and backyards and TV rooms, and then she comes home with me, and you know, she’s in a small apartment. I just want to keep her balanced. He feels like she should have everything when she’s with him, and limited when she’s with me. And I don’t think that is ok, at all.”
On several occasions, Brown has also implied that his daughter’s mom is an unemployed gold-digger; however, the former model says that she has a solid plan for the future — and that plan does not include staying at home and living off of Chris’ money. Instead, she intends to enter into the medical field.
“Eventually, when everything calms down, I’m going to get my license out here for radiology, for the CT and the MRIs, nothing major,” she said. “And just go back to everyday life, or what I used to live in Houston. I’ve just got to wait for everything to calm down, and maybe get some help out here. I’m trying to get my mom to move out here, and then maybe I can go forth with my life.”
You check read Nia’s full interview here. Thoughts?
I don’t know what annoys me the most: Chris Brown or the folks who continuously enable him.
It’s probably the latter.
After all, what good comes from hating Chris Brown?
I mean, there are a lot of reasons to loathe the dude, but at the same time, it is obvious that he is a deeply troubled man. An abusive man, but a deeply troubled one. And for his sake (and for those who rely on and love him), I really do hope he gets help.
But my issue is with the people who keep empowering him to do what he does. And I am not just talking about the yes men and women around him who will not – in the least – deny him his social media access. I’m also talking about people co-signing that God-awful Instagram post featuring him shaming Nia Guzman over a picture of their two-year-old daughter, Royalty, in a tutu.
I’m not posting the picture because it’s not fair to the kid.
But for almost a week, I have witnessed people reposting Royalty’s picture, the child sitting in a tutu following dance class, with Chris Brown’s defaming comments pasted along the bottom. These same people ask their social media followers if he has a point. Or better yet, “Hmmm…thoughts?”
Here are a few thoughts: Chris Brown is totally wack for that.
It’s wack that the first person to sexualize Royalty’s picture was her own damn dad.
It’s wack that he not only sexualized his own child but that he also then invited others, via a public fight, to sexualize his own child with him.
It’s wack that he – as a very well-known public figure – initiated and decided to have what is a private conversation between two co-parents (and maybe their attorneys) out in public so that people could gaze. And he could make headlines.
It’s wack that a person who has made a lucrative living off of the denigration and disrespect of women suddenly has developed a conscience and demands his daughter be treated differently than he likely treated her mother.
It’s wack that his conscience is not based on changing his behavior and beliefs about women, and asking through his platform that brothers do the same, but rather, in fake protectionism based solely on altering the behavior and movements of an innocent little girl who is really doing nothing wrong.
It’s wack that he now has an attitude because he thinks his daughter is becoming the very type of woman he is obviously attracted to.
And it’s just as wack for us to add to his abusive behavior by not only sharing the content but by also asking others to validate his foolishness and pettiness like he has a legitimate point.
And yes, I say abuse.
In this YourTango article entitled “21 Signs You’re In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship,” licensed marriage and family therapist Marni Feuerman stated that abuse is about more than physical and emotional damage being done.
Abuse is not always as obvious as being hit or shoved, called degrading names or cussed out. In fact, it can very well be underhanded or subtle. You may find yourself feeling confused about the relationship, off balance or like you are “walking on eggshells” all the time. This is the kind of abuse that often sneaks up on you as you become more entrenched in the relationship.
I’m talking here about psychological abuse — also known as mental or emotional abuse.
Psychological abuse occurs when a person in the relationship tries to control information available to another person with intent to manipulate that person’s sense of reality or their view of what is acceptable and not acceptable. Psychological abuse often contains strong emotionally manipulative content and threats designed to force the victim to comply with the abuser’s wishes.
All abuse takes a severe toll on self-esteem. The abused person starts feeling helpless and possibly even hopeless.
And messing with Guzman’s confidence as a mother might have very well been the intent. According to published reports, the two have been embroiled in a child custody case in which Guzman requested that a judge restrict Brown’s access to Royalty while giving her a substantial increase in support. And just today, a judge decided to deny Guzman’s request for sole custody and opted to let Brown continue his current visitation schedule of 12 days a month (no word on the child support angle). So this entire public incident could have been Brown’s way of manipulating sympathy and favor from the public, if not the judge.
Granted, people could reasonably make the argument that Guzman too might be exhibiting some abusive patterns. I can see that. But what’s most bothersome in this situation is that there is an innocent girl stuck in the middle – one who will get older and look back at the public condemnation of her dance picture and feel some kind of way about herself. And neither one of them – or anyone else for that matter – seems to be concerned about that in the least.
For some reason, a person who has habitually shown nothing but the greatest disdain and disrespect for so many women in his life – as well as in his path – still manages to pull at our heartstrings. Unfortunately, it is that unconditional love we have for the R&B singer, which is likely shielding him from doing the hard work of actually helping himself.
And again, I’m not saying we have to condemn the man, I’m just saying that we don’t have to be complicit in his abuse.
Every time my boyfriend and I discuss Chris Brown, I feel a bit ashamed. He can’t seem to understand why any woman would support him, his career or buy his music. And seeing as how, I’m always publicly and privately disapproved of and bashed his dysfunctional and misogynistic behavior but purchased “Drunk Texting” and “New Flame” for my personal collection, I can’t really talk.
It’s a strange relationship I have with Chris Brown. I really root for him, hoping and praying that he’ll do and be better one day. And there have certainly been signs that he’s working towards that…for a couple of weeks. Then something else will happen. His girlfriend will finally get tired of his shenanigans and he rolls up on her at the club, threatening her friend. Talk show hosts will comment on the personal life he’s all but invited us into and all of sudden he’s ready to talk about their looks and rumored sexual history on the internet.
For whatever reason, the victims of his antics are always women. You don’t have to be a student or a fan of Chris Brown to know that, despite his words, his actions clearly point to the undeniable fact that he has an issue with women.
So, how is it that women continue to support him?
I can’t speak for anyone else, but as I alluded to before, I keep hoping he’ll do better. I keep hoping that for not only Chris but the men in my own family. There’s a legacy of abuse in my family, so I know what it’s like to love the men who hurt the women closest to them. It’s an act of splitting, the grandfather, uncle, or cousin you love from the husband, boyfriend or father who can’t seem to control his temper or have an argument without ending it with his hands. And even though you’re trying desperately to separate these two men from themselves, you hope and pray for the day when that type of cognitive dissonance, those mental gymnastics will no longer be necessary.
It’s a little different for Chris Brown, seeing as how I don’t have a personal relationship with him. But still, appreciating his talent, I can see that he’s two people as well.
This morning, I came across the trailer for his upcoming documentary. Unlike the last one, where Chris was going to tell us about the love he had for two different women, this one features celebrities vouching for him, talking about his talent but also features a seemingly introspective Brown talking about his abuse of Rihanna in 2009.
You can watch the trailer below.
Most strikingly, he says: “I felt like a f*cking monster. I was thinking about suicide and everything else. I wasn’t sleeping, I wasn’t eating. I just was getting high.”
Then his mother, Joyce Hawkins said, “That was the worst day of my life and probably his life. I felt like I was going to lose my child.”
My first reaction to the trailer was intrigue. Kind of like how you feel when Disney or Marvel announces that they’re going to release some type of prequel that explains how the villain got to be the way they are now. You go in thinking and believing one thing and leave out with a totally different perspective.
It was my sister who helped me see it another way.
Many of you remember, just a couple of weeks ago, Chris Brown was very vocal about Kehlani and the rumors about her cheating on her ex boyfriend basketball player Kyrie Irving. In case you missed it, he wrote:
Girls be mad at a n*gga for f*cking around wit b*tches but her DMs got more names than the Declaration of Independence #YEAHIMTHROWINGSHADE
They look like they have stank sex
There is no attempting suicide. Stop flexing for the gram. Doing shit for sympathy so them comment under your pics don’t look so bad.
OK IM DONE. Guess she gon have to watch the games from a real “box” now. “THE TELEVISION” #OHB “OUTTA HERE BIH”
I don’t have to list Chris Brown’s history of infidelity. There’s an entire child walking around as living proof of that. But that’s what makes his thoughts about Kehlani so interesting. A woman is merely suspected of cheating, ruthlessly shamed on the internet to the point of contemplating/attempting suicide and Chris Brown takes that opportunity to publicly condemn her. How ironic. Chris Brown knows what it’s like to be associated with scandal and shame. According to him, he even knows what it’s like to have suicidal thoughts. And while it’s acceptable for him to release a documentary detailing his own struggle, Kehlani is “flexing for the gram.”
His logic, or lack thereof, and missing compassion is truly astounding.
This morning I was calling this hypocrisy. But my coworker is sure that it’s something more than that. We all have our moment of hypocrisy. This here, is some type of mental abnormality that Chris simply refuses to acknowledge and treat with any type of consistency or accountability to himself and now the daughter he’s raising.
In what world does someone attempt or successfully commit suicide to gain sympathy, particularly “for the ‘gram”?
In light of singer Kehlani’s recent suicide attempt (and Chris Brown’s insensitive comments regarding her actions) and the death of a popular Indian actress, two things are very clear: Some people wrongfully view suicide as blasé performance art, and we need to have more open and honest conversations regarding mental health. While no one’s turning to Chris Brown to be the arbiter of wisdom or bastion of truth and goodness, he does have influence. And his influence is wreaking havoc and adding fuel to the stigma fire.
The shame surrounding suicide and mental health, in general, is a bit much. Considering the prominence and importance of social media in our daily lives and this digital age, some may assume that attempting suicide, or in Kehlani’s specific case, posting a picture in the hospital and captioning it revealing her attempt to take her life, is a social media ploy for likes, retweets and new followers–or just compassion. While we don’t know every single detail that caused Kehlani to end up in the hospital and don’t need to dissect or analyze the reasons she chose to share the pic and caption it on social media, that reductive reasoning is a hindrance to breaking down suicide stigmas and getting people in similar situations the help they need. That logic also fails to recognize the effects of bullying that occurs on social media platforms, particularly to celebrities and people in the public spotlight, like Kehlani, who received countless insults from perfect strangers after being accused of cheating on NBA star Kyrie Irving.
Another thing suicide is not? It is not something to mock or make light of. Someone who committed suicide or attempted suicide is not “selfish” or guilty of a “cowardly act.” Nor should they be considered a “loser” as actor turned politician Hema Malini tweeted about 24-year-old Indian actress Pratyusha Banerjee, who was found hanging in her Mumbai home on April 1. Malini did not directly name Banerjee, but her rant, in which she refers to “senseless suicides” included the following: “One must learn to overcome all odds & emerge successful, not succumb under pressure & give up easily. The world admires a fighter not a loser.” Malini’s comments are harsh, insensitive and all wrong.
If someone is in a lowly, desolate place full of pain, despair and mental anguish, to them, suicide might seem like the only way out. The only way to permanently ensure that pain will no longer affect them or the people they love. And while outsiders may not be able to make sense of someone’s decision to take their own life, or the situations and circumstances leading up to that very serious decision, it’s not fair to place blame, judge, negatively criticize or shame them at any point.
Doing so, after all, only encourages the misconception that people who attempt suicide are automatically “crazy.” If that’s what a person is taught to believe, this could hinder them from speaking out and seeking help if they’re having suicidal thoughts. There’s also a misconception that people with mental health issues are weak, violent or unpredictable. Or there’s the belief that because nothing is physically wrong with a person who has a mental health illness or because you can’t see their problems with your own eyes, they must be making it up. Some people with mental health issues and psychological distress are fully functioning and seemingly thriving while suffering in silence, hiding the pain and saying everything’s okay because it’s what’s expected of them. And when they address their feelings, maybe they are accused of being dramatic or over-sensitive; of not being able to handle the ups and downs and pressures of life. But minimizing someone’s problems is the wrong approach, in the same way that guilting them into feeling better is the wrong approach.
Suicide can be caused by a host of factors. Depression – particularly depression that is undiagnosed, untreated or inaccurately treated – is the leading cause of suicide. And depression does not discriminate. It can happen to any and everyone at various stages of life, though a recent study shows the most common mental illness among African Americans is depression (and studies have shown that suicides reach a peak during the spring, particularly in April). So what can we do to battle this issue, to raise awareness and erase stigma?
People with mental health concerns need support and they need access to affordable care. While these are seemingly simple resolutions, they are not easy to attain and that’s why we need continued conversation and countrywide initiatives like New York’s Thrive NYC to affect positive, lasting change.
I pray for peace for Banerjee and my condolences to her family. I wish Kehlani well and hope that she gets the help she needs. I have the same hope and wish for peace for those who consider or attempt suicide. There is help out there, and there is no shame in seeking it.
“Me And Kehlani Were Not Dating When The Picture Came Out” Kyrie Irving Finally Speaks On Cheating Allegations
Kyrie Irving, the Cleveland Cavaliers guard, who is at the center of the discussion surrounding artists Kehlani and PartyNextDoor, finally decided to issue a statement about the cheating allegations and the nature of his current relationship with the singer.
The tweets were later deleted but the screenshot is real. Cleveland Sports Talk, as well as several other media outlets, saved them beforehand.
BREAKING: Here are the complete set of tweets Kyrie just posted about the Kehlani situation pic.twitter.com/wQQyt9szwX
— Cleveland SportsTalk (@CLEsportsTalk) March 31, 2016
The timing of this statement is interesting. While I’m certainly happy that he finally spoke up, it would have been more useful when Kehlani’s name, character and reputation were being called into question by far too many people, who didn’t and don’t know her, on the internet. At the front of the pack was a very vocal and extremely hypocritical Chris Brown. Perhaps Kyrie has been avoiding the news lately and didn’t see that his former girlfriend attempted to commit suicide. Who knows?
Either way, now that the statement’s out, hopefully some people learned some valuable lessons, like:
- A picture often doesn’t tell the full story.
- Stop shaming women…and comparing all of them to Ayesha Curry.
- Don’t listen to Chris Brown
- Be careful what you say on the internet, it can severely hurt people.
What do you think of Kyrie’s statement?
Yesterday afternoon, some interesting pictures of Adrienne Bailon and a mystery man surfaced on Fameolous Ent.
Adrienne and this visibly older man were in Mexico, cuddled up in the pool. Not really wanting to believe what I was seeing, I assumed that the man, with a Santa Claus belly and a large bald spot, could have been her father. But it was my coworker who pointed out that no woman hugs up her father in the water, when they’re both half naked unless somebody’s drowning. It’s just inappropriate.
Plus, in the images it appears as if the two are wearing wedding rings.
Still, his identity was unknown so I went on about my night.
Then, earlier this morning, Fameolous confirmed that the man was none other than Grammy-award-winning gospel artist Israel Houghton. They matched tattoos, smiles and everything.
Receipt 2. I compared all the tattoos and Israel Houghton beard with the new photos. Isreal has not posted in 1 week which means by now he should have some hair on his face as you see in the picture. I noticed in the recent photo he had grey hair which matches his photo from 1 week ago. I also notice the tattoo on his arm that looks like a P due to the sun shining on it but I believe it’s a D that you also see in the new pic on the beach. The second tattoo also matches on inner arm. Check next receipt!
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And in case you haven’t heard of Fameolous and don’t trust their receipts, TMZ, reported on it this morning as well.
This is exceptionally interesting. Particularly when, just last month, Houghton took to his Facebook page to announce that because of his infidelity he and his wife of 20 years, Meleasa Houghton, were getting a divorce.
Naturally, many are wondering if Bailon played a part in the ending of that marriage.
While I hate to call Chris Brown up as a witness, you will remember that when the women of “The Real,” discussed his relationship with Karrueche, he posted a long Instagram post in which he said Bailon was sleeping with a married man.
Again, Chris Brown is not the most reliable source but it’s certainly interesting, considering this Mexican vacation is not the first time Adrienne and Israel’s paths might have crossed. In 2013, he produced the movie I’m in Love With a Church Girl, starring Bailon and Ja-Rule.
And ironically, Houghton was one of the first people to congratulate Lenny and Adrienne on their engagement.
You know what they say about your replacement always being close by.
Since Lenny and Adrienne called off their engagement, many of us were surprised to hear Adrienne making references to her sex life and new boyfriend on “The Real.” I guess now we know who that man is.
Naturally, people have been all up in Adrienne’s comments and mentions trying to figure out what’s going on.
And in the comment section of her Instagram page, she issued this response.
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Someone, in the comment section said, “Girl, don’t you know we can multitask?”
I have to agree. If my character were called into question in such a way, I would be very clear about my lack of involvement with a married man. Something to the tune of “I am not sleeping with a married man; I wasn’t messing with him when he was married; This is not my boyfriend, or This is my husband.” Anything else is just not enough in the face of all these receipts.
I’m sure the true story will come to light, one way or another.
As open and honest as Adrienne has been about her love life, I’d be surprised if she didn’t address this on “The Real.”
In the meantime, this whole story got us like
Major h/t to Fameolous Ent.
Royalty is the Chris Brown album named for his one-year-old daughter, so it’s only right that the sweet little girls is featured in the visuals for his latest single, “Little More.”
The video begins really dark and sorted, like so dark that we had to check if we were watching the right clip. As Breezy lays his head down to sleep, ghosts from the past (with visuals from his previous videos) haunt his dreams. But thank goodness he wakes up to the sight of his daughter Royalty, and the playful, bright and adorable scene is set.
It’s gushy and heartwarming to see Chris and his mini-me playing peek-a-boo, blowing bubbles, sipping tea and just running around the house.
“Girl you got this heartlock on me, I don’t think that I can control it.”
We love this cute father-daughter video, check out the delicious reel for “Little More” below.
“MJ Didn’t Score 50 Every Night”: Chris Brown Explains Why His White Hot Holidays Performance Was White Hot Mess
I don’t know what it is about the holidays that just tears up the voices of popular singers. Last year Mariah Carey caught a lot of hell for a less than stellar performance of “All I Want For Christmas is You,” and now Chris Brown has found himself having to explain why he sounded hoarse while singing “This Christmas” recently.
The singer appeared on Fox’s holiday special, Taraji and Terrence’s White Hot Holidays, which aired last night, hosted by the Empire stars. He came out to do a medley of his songs “Back to Sleep” and his popular rendition of Donny Hathaway’s “This Christmas,” and we all know the original is a staple in the homes of Black folks during the holidays. Dressed in a brown suit, Brown did his best, but struggled to hit quite a few of the notes. Instead of trying to scale back to sing in a register that would work for his ailing voice, Brown kept trying to hit those high notes, finding himself yelling at different parts throughout the song. Eventually, singer Tank came through to do a duet of the classic song while Brown focused on busting a move or two.
The performance was such a rollercoaster that the singer had to take to Twitter to explain that he’d been sick lately, and that’s why his voice was off.
He also said that even the greats, like his idol Michael Jackson, didn’t always deliver every night. Of course, I’ve never seen a shaky performance from the King of Pop in my life, but if you have footage of that somewhere, I’d like to see it…
MJ didn’t score 50 every night. I’m just glad I was given the opportunity. #HappyHolidays ❤️
— Chris Brown (@chrisbrown) December 10, 2015
I guess people had so much to say that even co-host Taraji P. Henson had to jump in and defend him.
— Taraji P. Henson (@TherealTaraji) December 10, 2015
True, true. That is all that really matters.
Brown has been out here performing pretty consistently to promote his new album, Royalty, which comes out on December 18. So it makes sense that his voice and body are tired. But what do you think? Was the performance even that bad? Check it out below and share your thoughts.
I haven’t thought about Omarion in years. But his reemergence on the show “Love and Hip Hop Hollywood,” seemed to show that he was a really nice person, witty and unfazed by all the drama his castmates seemed to thrive on. He was fun to watch.
Then he had the hit song “Post To Be” featuring Chris Brown and Jhene Aiko. It was all over the radio, super catchy and then there was that memorable line, “You gotta eat the booty like groceries.”
The song was real cute for the summer and in the clubs and stuff. But no one thought it was going to be anybody’s classic.
Well, not no one.
When the Grammy nominations were released recently, one fan said he was surprised to see Omarion’s R&B collabo didn’t make the list.
— Ben Anderson (@IAmBenAnderson) December 7, 2015
Not only did Omarion agree, this tweet (and perhaps a few cosigns) caused him to launch into a Twitter rant that has the internet reeling.
Here’s what he said:
Then Omarion asked fans to name another R&B collaboration that was better than “Post To Be” that featured no rappers. He also referenced the fact that “Post To Be” had over 300 million views on YouTube.
And then, as if he hadn’t done enough damage, he put the nail in his own coffin with this last one.
@Baepernick they laughed at Jesus.
— OMARION (@1Omarion) December 7, 2015
Yet another artist comparing himself to the Messiah. What does seducing a woman to leave her man have to do with the good works? But I’m sure, he wasn’t thinking that deeply. And that’s the problem with all these tweets. Omarion is so in his feelings, he can’t seem to see that he’s doing too much right now.
Listen, I get believing in yourself, even when others don’t. It’s an important life skill. But equally important is the ability to be both humble and honest. If Omarion were either of these qualities, we wouldn’t be talking about him right now. A humble person knows the value in letting others recognize them. Since Omarion wanted to reference Jesus, it was Him who said that when you’re invited to dinner, sit at the least important place at the table instead of taking the place of honor. Because there might be someone more deserving than you and when they show up, the host will have to ask you to get up, you’ll be humiliated.
That’s exactly what happened here.
If you look at the people nominated for the R&B awards: Jazmine Sullivan, Lalah Hathaway, Tyrese etc, you would see that “Post To Be” just doesn’t make the cut. When you position it next to that type of R&B music, you might realize it’s more pop than anything else. And it’s not just the Grammy nominating committee who’s not here for it. I doubt any of us will be listening to the song after 2015. I know I personally haven’t heard the song itself since the summer.
What I have heard is the “eat the booty like groceries” line. It was a cultural moment. Thankfully, it was featured in Omarion’s comeback single but…he isn’t the one who said it. The standout moment of the song came from his featured artist Jhene Aiko. It stands to reason that without that line, the song might not have made it as far as it did. For the longest, I only knew it as the “Eat The Booty Like Groceries Song.”
Omarion then goes on to say the odds have always been against him.
Do y’all know how many talented vocalists there are, in Black churches around America–who can sing circles around Omarion–and have never had a chance to work with the industry’s leading artists, sell millions of records and tour the world. Then when B2K fell off, Omarion kept the attention of fans with singles like “Touch” and “Icebox.” And when he fell off, even after that, he was invited to participate in “Love and Hip Hop,” where he reminded audiences that he was still around and making music.
If you ask me, it sounds like the odds were ever in his favor. #HungerGames
But all of that might change if homeboy keeps caping for this unworthy song.
And I would be remiss if I didn’t mention that Omarion was indeed recognized for this song. He won a Soul Train Award for it, in fact. But when they called his name for him to accept the award, he wasn’t in the spot.
So, he only wants a certain type of recognition, one that comes from White people. He likely would have been there for that presentation.
But y’all didn’t click in here to read an essay about the quest for White validation. That’s a little to heavy and you’d be here for another 10 minutes
The point is, “sometimes you have to encourage yourself.” #DonaldLawrence
Perhaps that’s what Omarion was doing when he started prophesying over his career. He said they should have his Grammys ready.
Well, alright boo.
Never say never.
With all that braggadocio he displayed on today, he’ll really have to show and prove.
Better luck next time, O.
Daily Show Staff Upset Over Chris Brown Appearance Due To Abusive Past, But Should They Be 6 Years Later?
In case you haven’t heard, Chris Brown is set to be a guest on The Daily Show tonight–whether certain staff members like it or not.
According to The Daily Beast, his booking was something staff was split over due to Brown’s violent past. Several Daily Show staff members actually reached out to The Daily Beast to say that they were concerned about giving Brown a platform as an abuser. But they were told by the host, Trevor Noah, whose own mother was a victim of domestic abuse and was even shot in the face by her ex-husband, that a part of the interview would be used to bring light to domestic violence issues. And that’s the part of the article where I rolled my eyes.
I don’t want to hear Chris Brown apologize for his 2009 assault on Rihanna again. My ears can’t take it.
Not only because we’ve heard it time and time again; not only because it still won’t be enough to please people; not only because it will be weird to have such a serious discussion on a news satire comedy show; but because he’s the only famous person out here still apologizing for his past.
(And before you R. Kelly fans try to come at my head asking, “What makes Chris Brown different from R. Kelly?” know that Brown actually has taken responsibility for his actions. He dealt with the punishment for his decisions, both in the courtroom and in the public eye. We saw the evidence, and he admitted to his abuse. We saw the evidence for R. Kelly–the sex tape and the marriage to Aaliyah when she was 15, and he was 28 alone–and he still has nothing to say.)
I’m honestly a little disappointed to know that not only will his episode focus on those past decisions he’s atoned for, but that many of the staff reportedly were opposed to allowing him to sit across from Noah for what, 10 minutes?
Don’t get me wrong. I do know that these are some of the consequences that come with doing terrible things in the public eye. Particularly in the digital age when images of a battered Rihanna were passed around, as well as the stomach-turning police report. I do know that for years, Brown continued to behave poorly, getting in scuffles and Twitter beef with every Tom, Dick and Frank Ocean. And I do know that if you’ve ever been a victim of domestic abuse, or had loved ones who have been, seeing Brown get to continue with his success knowing the pain he inflicted is probably disgusting.
But I do wonder what it is that will make people happy when it comes to Brown.
It can’t be an apology. He’s apologized more than once. In articles, in interviews and more. And each time his apologies have been picked apart and dubbed as insincere.
It can’t be for him to struggle in his career, because for a time there, he did. There were radio stations that refused to play his music at one point, and when he released his album Graffiti in 2009, stores like Walmart weren’t even stocking it.
And it can’t be for him to be genuinely remorseful for his actions, because who is to say that he hasn’t been? And how remorseful is just the right amount of remorse? Do you need to pull a Robin Thicke and make an apologetic album that no one will buy? Do you need to get on stage and make a public decree? Do you need to be seen in public in tears for weeks on end? Well, that doesn’t work either, because when Brown did break down in an ugly cry at the BET Awards while performing “Man in the Mirror” a year after the assault, people claimed he was just putting on a show.
So I have questions. I guess I’m just trying to figure out the endgame here. Is it that we want to see this young man fall under the weight of his past mistakes to the point where he can no longer sing or dance in public? Do we want him to become a hermit? Do we want him not to grow as a person and father and just be a constant pariah? Are we going to keep forcing Rihanna to talk about that man and that situation until she meets and marries someone else? I’m genuinely interested in figuring out what it is people want to see happen to Brown, a man diagnosed with Bipolar II, over a mistake made when he was 19.
Are we all expected to pay for the mistakes we made for the rest of our lives? And not to get too preachy on you, but as long as Brown has repented to the people who matter in this situation, Rihanna, and God, do the rest of us really matter? Do our gripes with him really matter? Does our decision to look at him as the abuser who hurt us, or our friends or our loved ones really matter?
It’s not something he can run from. And here’s to hoping that one day he will be mature enough to say calmly, “Yeah, it’s something I truly regret. However, it’s something I learned and grew from, and as the father of a daughter, I hope to work to help prevent such abuse from happening to other women.” But to say all that on The Daily Show? On Comedy Central? Please. That’s not the place for it. Especially not when the host of the show whose staff is riled up about your appearance deemed your domestic episode comical enough to joke about years ago on Twitter (“I woke up and my face was puffy and swollen- I looked like I was in the car with chris brown.”). Not when that same show allowed Charlie Sheen to be a guest in 2003, despite him already having about three domestic violence incidents under his belt at that time, including shooting former fiancée Kelly Preston. And especially not on a comedy show with a group of people who don’t stand up for abused women, let alone abused Black women, any other time.