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I am a 34-year-old female and I’ve been working at a firm for 13 years and I’m not even making $30, 000 a year. I have two children and I can hardly pay for their tuition and my others bills every month. I have bad credit and I am drowning in debt. I feel that no matter how I try I can’t see my way out of all this debt. I live in a studio apartment that I rent from my parents (when I can afford to pay them) and neither of my kids have their own room or space. What hurts even more is that when my parents need my help financially I can barely help myself much less to help them.
I feel like such a disappointment to my kids, my parents and myself. I have been feeling so bad for the past five months that I am wondering if
I am falling into depression. I feel that I am not worthy of happiness or anything good. Do you know how it feels for your kids to want to do the simplest of things on the weekends and you can’t afford it? How can I get my life back? Where do I go from here? Honestly, if I continue on this pathway of life I really don’t know where I am going to end up emotionally.
Read Dr. Sherry’s response at Essence.com
“I Don’t Have To Be At Home With The Kids All Day”: Nia Long Speaks On Juggling Motherhood And Her Career
Nia Long is the mother to two beautiful young boys, the longtime girlfriend of NBA assistant coach Ime Udoka and the star of current box office hit The Best Man Holiday.
Hello Beautiful caught up with Nia Long at the press junket for the highly-anticipated sequel, and she shared the key to juggling her ever-demanding life. To our surprise, she admitted there’s no secret at all! “I’m so not balanced,” she gushed, laughing.
“I just do what is necessary in the moment,” the 43-year-old beauty said. “If it’s the kids the need attention. I take care of that…My brain is like split in half. Half is for myself and half is for the kids.”“And I think that is a mother’s journey to make sure that they come first but to never loose yourself in the process,” she added. “So when I go from being mom in my Uggs and my jeans and my t-shirt, and I have to come walk in these heels, I’m like, ‘Can somebody carry me because I forgot how to walking heels?’ And I think every mom feels that way.”
Read more at HelloBeautiful.com
Here at Madame Noire, we don’t condone figuring out a way to get close to a wealthy man and having a baby by him in order to financially set yourself up. We never would. But when you see what some of these women stand to gain, does the thought ever cross your mind?
According to the New York Post, Marc Anthony’s ex-wife Dayonarra Torres wants child support payments increased…tenfold. As it stands, Marc Anthony pays $13,00 per month for their two children, ages 10 and 12, and also pays Dayanara $3,000 in spousal support. According to Anthony’s attorney, Daniel Jaffe, he also pays for “all of the kids’ schooling, band lessons, camps, and all medical and dental costs. Virtually everything.”
Dayanara is looking to have the child support payments increased to $112,000 per month. She believes his business ventures generate way more money than his current child support payments reflect and she wants something a little more…accurate.
On paper, it looks like Marc Anthony is raking in dough hand over foot at this point in his career. Besides his album and tour money, Anthony is acting, has a clothing line and owns a little piece of the Miami Dolphins. So yes, he’s making a lot of money.
Jaffe says they will fight this petition in court and that comes as no surprise, especially when they say he’s doing so much more than just making payments.
The Post was unable to get any comment from from Dayanara Torres or her attorney.
Do you think that Marc should be on the hook for paying that much more in child support since he appears to be making monthly payments and paying for everything else in terms of his children?
I was raised by a Black family. I go to a Black church. I live in a Black neighborhood. I did my undergrad at a Black college—finishing my master’s degree at one, too. Teen Girl has been educated in schools where White students are welcome, but none ever enrolled. We are surrounded and cushioned by Blackness aplenty. I never saw anything wrong with it. I still don’t. We celebrate, enjoy and appreciate other races, cultures and communities but, when it’s time to come home, we revel in our own. The other day, however, she brought up an interesting point during an otherwise fruitless conversation about her plans for New Year’s Eve.
“Last year, I hung out with you and your friends like I was one of the ladies in Waiting to Exhale,” she snarked in her teenage drawl. “This year, I want to spend the night at Beth’s house. Like a cultural exchange.”
Beth is her one White friend, a girl she met at summer camp at a very ritzy and very privileged private school in a very monied section of the city. My child was there on a let’s-make-a-conscious-effort-to-be-more-diverse scholarship. That wasn’t the official name, of course, but it surely was the intention. Female. Check! African-American. Check! Single-parent household. Check! And, according to their old wealth and upper income bracket standards, we’re also considered po’ folks, so check for that too, thank you very much. The costs of camp are no joke, so if it wasn’t for that come-up, homegirl would’ve surely spent her days schlepping through the Janelle Harris You Gonna Be Anything But Lazy Internship Program. We were both thankful it didn’t come down to that.
Beth, on the contrary, was there on the strength that her parents could afford to send her on a whim simply because she decided at the last minute she wanted to go.
I don’t begrudge the girl her money or her privilege. She was unknowingly born into both. I do resent her effort to counter it by trying her darndest to pretend her way into Blackness based on what she absorbs on reality TV and World Star Hip-Hop. Between her fledgling Ebonics, her little colored, cornrow-wearing boyfriend and now a friendship with my daughter who, bonus! has dreads and lives in the ‘hood, she is a certified carrier of the storied Black pass. She’s all set.
Skylar thinks my apprehension about their new girlfriendom is the rearing of some sort of reverse discrimination. “You don’t like her just because she’s White,” she accused.
I sucked my teeth. “Oh, on the contrary,” I retorted. “I suspect she only likes you because you’re Black.”
That girl has my blessing to be friends with as many people who represent as many differences as the wide world offers. I just don’t want her to do it at the expense of being the token Negro friend for folks who just want to live the vicarious life for curiosity’s sake. Everybody wants to be Black until the cops come or the paychecks are cut. Then it stops being hip and trendy. It becomes an inconvenience.
Read more at Essence.com
Actress Regina Hall is certainly doing her thing. With another highly anticipated movie slated to hit theaters in less than a week and an über lucrative acting career, some would question what else the 42-year-old beauty could possibly ask for. During a recent interview with Rolling Out, The Best Man Holiday actress revealed that she desires to raise a family. She also opened up about her relationship with God and how that impacts her career. Check out her interview highlights below.
“In moments like this, you realize that fame is a blessing. But to be honest, I don’t think about it all that much. I don’t even know that I think of myself as famous. In the end, what does fame really mean? It’s a hard life not to necessarily know what’s next. It’s an amazing one, but I think it forces one to have a bigger reliance on faith … you have to get closer to God and to what spirituality means to you. In the end, it’s good to work, but I think that fame is the part that you have to throw away. It’s a by-product of all of this … all of this hard work that we put in.”
On what it would take to walk away from it all:
“When it doesn’t mean anything anymore. If my ego became so big that it became a detriment to who I am as a human being, then I would walk away from it all.”
On wanting a family:
“I want a family. I look forward to having kids one day, and having a great partnership.”
“I’d love to raise a son. I think I’d like to offer the world an amazing black man. But then again, I try my best not to think about it too much, because what can I do about it? It is something that’s important to me though, and something that I pray can be a part of my journey here.”
“The movie [The Best Man Holiday] made me think about relationships where I want the other person to know that there is nothing but love. But more than anything, it made me want to take more time with my family while we’re all here, and not take for granted my own health, and my own life.”
On her relationship with God:
“When you’re up close and personal with Hollywood, you realize that it’s hard for everyone, and that people are going through the same things that you are. At the end of the day, people are just people, and we will all return to dust one day. God is no respector of person, so while Hollywood is great, it just is what it is.”
“I mean, when you really think about it, we have control over so little … Hollywood stars included. People may think that we have control over everything, but then your eyes blink, and your blood circulates … the divine power that holds everything together — that makes the sun rise, the stars glisten, and the tides flow — when you think about all of that, then you just have to know that there is something bigger than you. The blessing in being able to have faith in that helps to make sense of life even when it doesn’t.”
“I am in complete surrender to God. I’m like, ‘yes God, you win. I am open to whatever you want to do with me.”
Jazmine Denise is an entertainment and celebrity news blogger. Follow her on Twitter @jazminedenise.
Sooner or later your child will be asking you for everything from toys to the latest and greatest they saw on television. Especially with the holiday season approaching, the “mother can I have” requests will quickly pile up. For this reason many parents consider giving their child an allowance.
Now this will be a personal choice as there is no true cookie cutter solution that works for every family. Some will decide that a weekly allowance will be sufficient while others may lean towards a monthly amount. Regardless of what you choose, if you are going to shell out some cash to your children there are some things you might want to consider. Here are the do’s and don’ts to giving your child an allowance.
In light of all the trouble the Philadelphia School System has faced in recent months, Kevin Hart has decided to help the children of the city who are undoubtedly suffering.
The comedian took $250,000 of his money to purchase 500 laptops for the the school system as well as the parks and recreation department. Two hundred computers were distributed to 27 recreation centers and the remaining three hundred were given to eight elementary school, according to Philly.com.
But Kevin Hart also showed up to four of the schools that received laptops and came with a message: learning is the key. As he told students at Hartranft John F School: “You now have the ability to take these computers and do what nobody else can do, which is learn right now. I want you guys to take advantage of this, man. This is something I’m very, very serious about.”
Philadelphia Mayor Michael Nutter said he and Hart first began talking about the city during Jay Z’s “Made In America” Festival in July. In late September, Kevin Hart contacted Mayor Nutted saying he wanted to donate computers and come speak to the kids.
Back in March, it was announced that 23 schools in Philadelphia would be closing at the end of the 2012-2013 school year and many others school had delayed 2013-2014 opens, all due to budget cuts.
Kevin Hart took to Twitter saying the reason he made an announcement on Instagram video about what he was doing was to hopefully get more people in his position to follow his lead.
No matter the reason, his donation means so much to so many and I’m sure those laptops are appreciated.
Babysitters, nannies, wet Nurses, teachers, educators and au pairs have made a career out of dealing with other people’s children. They understand the nuances of a child’s speech and expressions. They know when treats, verbal rewards and stickers should be given, as well as harsh tones, time-outs and verbal warnings. They know how to manage children, regulating a child’s time so that they achieve the optimum amount of fun, education and discipline. But for the rest of us who aren’t in that field, or even some of us who are, dealing with other people’s children is not a well-timed production– it’s a damn nightmare. Some of us struggle with wanting to curse a child out or lay hands on him/her, especially when that child is mouthy or even a little too touchy-feely themselves.
Some people have BAD kids, and they know this before they leave their children with you. They give you a brief, false perception about how their child will behave, perhaps saying that said child “gets a little energetic around lunchtime” and then hurry to leave. And as soon as the door shuts, the child comes alive like a Chucky incarnate, hell-bent on destroying the house and wrecking your nerves.
In my life I’ve had to deal with hundreds of children: nieces, nephews, cousins, neighbors, and children I’ve worked with at camps, after-school programs and during tutoring. With all that said, I can still honestly say that I don’t completely know how to deal with some kids. Not even mentioning the countless children I’ve met with undiagnosed ADHD, Asperger’s, Dyslexia, OCD and other challenges, I’ve dealt with children who are so unbelievably difficult that it took me a great deal of time to understand what their issue was, let alone how to solve it. I once dealt with a child who would scream for an hour straight before I realized that he was an easily frustrated child who sometimes needed time away from others so he could write and process his feelings. I have also dealt with a child who would suddenly go limp and act helpless, for no apparent reason, doing this because he was seeking the attention that he wasn’t receiving at home.
Most children simply want people to listen to them, because they often feel that most adults only demand things and set rules in place. One good trick when dealing with some children is to give them options. If a child does not want to participate in an activity, simply give them a choice between doing said activity or sitting by themselves –or doing something less favorable. Also, try to have real conversations with them. Children respond well to being asked questions about their interests and opinions. And, it never hurts to find out things about what they are interested in so that you can talk those things over with them. You don’t know how many cool points I’ve received for knowing the names of all of the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles. Also, if you’re punishing or reprimanding a child, explain to them why, restating their name throughout, so that you know that they are listening. Remind them of any rules set in place, why it’s important that they follow rules and listen, and ask them why they broke the rules.
Often, I speak to children about respect and responsibility. I explain that respect is about listening, and that if I respect them, then they need to respect me. That means that I expect them to listen to me, and if they don’t, then I won’t listen to them when they’re in need; for some children, that’s enough. Responsibility is explained by telling children that they have control over things that they say and do, and they can be responsible by practicing self-control. Also, I tell them that they show responsibility by keeping up with their things, and making sure never to bother other people’s things that don’t belong to them. The spiel about respect and responsibility is repeated so much that some of the students I work with know it by heart, and others groan in anticipation of it.
Essentially, knowing how to deal with some children is as simple as treating them like an employee (who can’t be fired). Give them instructions, assignments and tasks, but try not to be too upset when they make mistakes. If they behave well then they should be rewarded, and if they behave poorly then they should be reprimanded. Allow the child an opportunity to be creative whenever possible, and praise them when they’ve done something well. I find that when it comes to dealing with other people’s kids, treating them like more than just a child, or a bad child at that, goes a long way.
Former USC basketball star Brynn Cameron has an eye for athletic sp*erm. You may recall she had a baby with NFL QB Matt Leinart. Well guess whose baby she just had … that would be Clippers superstar Blake Griffin!
TMZ has learned … Brynn and Blake are now the proud parents of Ford Wilson Cameron-Griffin, who was born August 1st. The birth certificate lists Brynn as the mother and Blake Austin Griffin as the daddy.
Read more at TMZ.com
The clip may be short, but what we saw of the new season of The Real Housewives of Atlanta is enough to let us know that we’re in for another roller coaster.
In a mere 30 seconds, we see Kandi and Todd discussing his relationship with her mother, Phaedra giving birth to her second son, Peter and Cynthia discussing their marriage woes (again) and Nene and Kenya getting into an argument because Kenya likely doesn’t know her place – whatever that means to Nene. Of course, Nene is saying that people must not know who the eff she is. Thanks, Nene.
But what will likely be the focal point of the season is the dissolution of the marriage been Porsha and Kordell Stewart. In the clip, Porsha is seen saying, “Kordell didn’t necessarily want me physically and that made me wonder, ‘What does he want?’” That has been the question for many years.
A “supertrailer” is likely on the way as is the case with most reality shows these days, but for now, watch this one. The season premiere of The Real Housewives of Atlanta kicks off on Bravo on November 3rd.
Will you be watching?