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As a new mother who recently returned back to work from maternity leave, I have found that I am now a new member of the “mommy club.” I’ve suddenly befriended women who I had nothing in common with before I had my son, and we trade stories of what it means to be a working mother. One mother I recently chatted with lamented about not being able to spend that much time with her boys since she works so much and they live with their father. However, her main complaint was not that their father was now the custodial parent, but that she was now paying him child support.
At first I was taken aback. It’s not every day that you hear of a woman paying child support to a man, unless her name is Brittany Spears and he’s Kevin Federline. But upon further questioning, she did admit that he was paying HER child support when SHE had custody of the boys. Now that he is raising his sons under his roof, he asked her to pay him…and I have to say I think I think it’s only fair.
In our conversation, she said she agreed that boys learn how to be men from their fathers – so when they made the mutual decision for the boys to go with him, there was no issue. Sure, she’d miss seeing them daily, but she made the most of her weekends with them. But she then said she was shocked to receive a child support order in the mail. When she asked her ex-husband why he was seeking child support, he simply said that the same expenses she had when she had custody are now the same ones he’d have to pay – and if he had to help her when she had custody, why shouldn’t she help him now that he had the boys? I was waiting for her rebuttal, but she really didn’t have one.
She makes a very healthy salary while her husband makes a somewhat modest one by comparison. Yet that didn’t stop a judge from ordering him to pay a sizable amount of his income in child support. She could have easily afforded to raise her sons on her own without any assistance from him – but according to her…and the law, fathers should support their children no matter how much money the mother makes. And I agree. Both parties should participate in financially supporting their children. But are the laws skewed to favor women, even if they’re in a very secure financial position to care for their children on their own?
According to the Federal Office of Child Support Enforcement, only 5% of mothers pay child support compared to 85% of fathers. And it’s been reported that in some cases, even if the father is the custodial parent, he may STILL be ordered to pay child support to the mother if he earns more money than she does – but not the reverse.
So why are we quick to label a man as a deadbeat dad if he doesn’t pay child support, but not the mother who shirks her financial responsibilities? One of the primary reasons I’ve heard is that the mother needs sympathy in the loss of her children and should not have the additional burden of paying child support. But if the mother is found to be unfit as a parent, does that automatically mean she isn’t responsible for supporting her child financially? What if the mother willingly gives up her custodial rights to her child so that the father can raise him, should she be absolved from paying child support as well?
In a perfect world, both parents would be able to work together – outside of the court system – to come to an agreement as it pertains to supporting the child emotionally, spiritually, mentally, physically…and yes, financially. Unfortunately, there seems to be a double standard where child support is concerned, and some men get the short end of the stick. But there are some women who say that it is a father’s job to take care of his children and that a mother shouldn’t have to pay HIM to take care of THEIR child. Personally, I feel court ordered child support should apply the same standards across the board, regardless of sex. If a woman demands it, I feel a man should be able to demand it as well under similar circumstances. After all, we women demand equality – especially when it comes to money – so women should be prepared to support their child(ren) financially no matter who has custody. And if she refuses…well, the term deadbeat would be fitting for her too.
Child support is one of those things most people know nothing about unless they need to, and often times it’s unclear just who or what resource can provide the answers you need. Luckily, we have a friend in “Paternity Court” Judge Lauren Lake who sat with us and provided answers to some of the most common paternity/child support questions around, like what’s the penalty for not paying child support and how can you be sure the money you’re paying is actually being used to take care of the child?
Judge Lake also spoke on what rights men have regarding paternity tests and joint/full custody and child support if/when they are proven as the father of a child and offered advice on what co-parenting adults should be doing before they get in these situations to avoid having to go through the courts to handle these matters.
See what Judge Lake had to say about all these things in the video above and check out part 1 of our interview with her here. What do you think?
For months we’ve been updating you on the impending child support lawsuit filed against Steven “Stevie J” Jordan by his ex, Carol Antoinette Bennett. According to Bennett, who mother’s two of Jordan’s children, the “Love & Hip Hop Atlanta” star hasn’t paid child support in 16 years and as a result, owes her over $1 million.
Things are apparently heating up with the upcoming case because according to Radar Online, representatives for Bennett at Project Child Support served quite a few of Jordan’s business associcates—including his wife, Joseline Hernandez, with subpoenas surrounding the case. Individuals and businesses served with the March-issued subpoenas include:
Bad Boy Records/Entertainment, Inc.
Sony Music Group
Warner Music Group
Universal Music Group
Raymond ‘Benzino’ Scott
The Kompany (President, Stevie Jordan)
Mona Scott/Monami Entertainment
“Currently, Stevie J owes more than $1 million in court ordered child support and has not made any attempt to enter into a payment plan to bring the child support current and has failed to appear in court,” said Bennett’s rep, Sibrena Stowe Fernandez. “All of the companies that are responsible for most of Stevie J’s current income have been served.”
Fernandez was also sure to indicate that the subpoenas in no way “represent any wrongdoing by any of the organizations not managed by or under the control of Mr. Jordan.”
In recent developments with rapper Ludacris’s struggles with child support payments, the rapper has decided he’s going to turn the tables on his child’s mother, Tamika, and petition for full custody of his daughter.
TMZ reports in legal documents, Ludacris states he is a “fit and capable” parent and has always been an “active father” to his other daughter from a previous relationship.
In addition, Ludacris is also asking Tamika to now pay him child support. Tamika was awarded $7K a month after requesting $15K which Ludacris said he was unable to pay due to lost income from the “Fast and Furious 7” movie which was hindered due to actor Paul Walker’s death.
It’s hard to feel sorry for some of these men for the predictable situations they place themselves in. We won’t take anything from Ludacris being a good father, but we will say between creating babies on breaks and blaming unforeseen circumstances for his financial troubles, this whole situation is not a good look. We admire these rappers trying to take responsibility, but maybe they should think twice before placing themselves in situations where they pro-create with women they don’t have any intentions on being with. There ARE children growing up in the middle of all of this.
Child support laws are tricky, but we don’t understand the legality behind making a come-up off your pregnancy. Both parties are responsible for the situations that can occur from having sex with someone, but we don’t understand how a woman can go from living an average lifestyle to balling based off of having someone’s baby. There are many women who are able to provide a healthy lifestyle for their children on way less than $15K a month. We hope that everyone involved can come to an understanding so that these children don’t have to be subjected to all this conflict over cash and custody.
Do you think Luda is legit or has a point to prove?
At the close of 2013, some interesting news began seeping out about R&B crooner Robert “R. Kelly” Kelly owing his ex-wife, “Hollywood Exes” star Andrea Kelly, more than $100,000 in child support. The news was first leaked by the Custodial Support Foundation, who claimed that they were hired by Andrea to go after Robert. The owed amount was quietly paid off and the brewing scandal was swept under the rug—but apparently there’s more to this story.
According to Page Six, Robert and Andrea are still supposed to be heading back and forth to court to iron out details regarding the custody of their children, but Robert has been failing to show up to their scheduled court appearances—including one that was set to take place this past November. As a result, sources say his attorney James Quigley is fearful that the singer may be thrown in jail—especially if he fails to appear in court for the latest court date, which is scheduled for March 27. To make matters worse, not only is Robert still being accused of failing to pay his $20, 833 monthly child support payments, sources say that he can’t even be reached by his attorney.
“The judge was clear in November that he wasn’t happy R. Kelly didn’t show up,” said a source. “His lawyer [James Quigley] is worried the judge could lock Kelly up if he doesn’t show this time, but he can’t reach his client.”
Apparently child support isn’t the only financial responsibility that Robert is failing to uphold. The source adds that he also owes thousands of dollars to his attorney’s firm, as well as the team that worked with him in putting together his “Black Panties” album.
“There’s a line of people Kelly owes money to who worked really hard on his last album,” added the source.
This wouldn’t be the first time Robert’s finances were in shambles. In the past he has racked up millions of dollars in unpaid taxes and even had one of his homes auctioned off.
Matthew Knowles just can’t seem to catch a break. Reports allege that he is so far behind on child support payments that the mother of his child, actress Alexsandra Wright is living off the system to survive.
Wright is said to be living on public assistance receiving $300 a month and using a state-issued EBT card to pay for groceries.
TMZ reported in December that Knowles already owed $24K in child support payments. The website now reports that the amount has risen to $32,135.90. He blames his failure to pay on clerical errors and not his reputation as a deadbeat.
Knowles may indeed be facing some tough times financially. In 2009, his wife Tina Knowles filed for divorce after reports surfaced he was having an affair with Wright. Wright soon gave birth to son, Nixon, and after reports revealed Knowles was a positive paternity match, he was ordered to pay child support.
Knowles recent projects include Music World Kids, the label behind acts such as Baby Jamz and Kid’s Rap Radio. In 2011, his biggest client, daughter Beyoncé dropped him as her manager. She later revealed in an interview with Oprah sometime later that although their personal relationship was full of love, they began butting heads about her career when she turned 20.
‘It took a while for me and my dad to have an understanding.’
‘When I turned 18 and started handling my business more, he went into shock. And we had our issues. I’d say “No” to something, and he’d book it anyway.’
Knowles is set to appear in a Los Angeles court for the matter next Friday. This behavior isn’t a first for Knowles but something tells us Alexsandra may want to save that acting thing for the weekends and work on getting some full-time employment so she can feed her family.
Unfortunately, it looks like Ludacris’ child support proceedings won’t be nearly as quiet as his new baby mama, Tamika Fuller‘s secret birth last month. Over the weekend we told you that things were already getting pretty ugly between Luda and Tamika on the child support tip because while Luda claims that he only makes $26,000 per month, which would only entitle Tamika to nearly $1,800 in child support, the new mom is calling BS, insisting that the “Splash Waterfalls” rapper makes wayyyy more than that.
In court documents recently recovered by TMZ, Luda is actually accusing Tamika of extortion, claiming that she threatened to go public with news of their new baby if he didn’t purchase a new car for her. In addition to the car, he says Tamika also requested $7,500 for her lawyer’s retainer fee. As a result, in September Luda requested that a judge issue a gag order on Tamika to keep her from talking because he’s “a major celebrity of great notoriety.” Lawyers on behalf of the Atlanta rapper argued that throughout the United States, judges often allow public figures to keep their sexual indiscretions private. This judge, however, wasn’t buying it and denied the gag order request. In other words, Tamika is free to sing like a canary if she so pleases.
The baby isn’t even a month old yet and things are already über messy! Something tells me that this isn’t the last that we will be hearing about Luda’s child support saga. So as always, we will keep you posted as this story develops.
When we first reported that the father of Evelyn Lozada’s unborn child just had 5-month old baby with his longtime girlfriend, most of you suspected that there was some messiness involved. Some speculated that the former “Basketball Wives” star had been creeping with Carl while he was still with his ex, Amy Freeman, who mothers both Carl’s 5-month-old daughter and his 9-year-old son. The actual timeline of Carl and Evelyn’s relationship in comparison to his relationship with Amy has yet to be fully illustrated; however, it does appear that the two relationships may have overlapped at some point. You know, with Ev being six months and saying that they were in a relationship for nearly a year and Carl’s baby being 5 months old. Anyway, you ladies were right in thinking that Carl was in the middle of some mess.
Apparently things have gotten pretty ugly between Carl and Amy because the L.A. Dodgers player is taking her to court, TMZ reports. According to court documents, in October Amy and the kids moved from Arizona—where she has lived for the past 12 years—to California. While Amy reportedly claims that she made the move so that the children can be closer to their father, Carl insists that she put the family home up for sale and took the 9-year-old out of school just so that she could take advantage of California’s more favorable child support laws. As a result, Carl is requesting that a judge block Amy from relocating.
This entire scenario seems extra messy. It’s funny, you usually hear about men petitioning to keep their baby mamas from moving their children further away from them; but this guy is complaining that his kids are moving closer. Go figure. Neither party has yet to comment on the case, but it will be pretty interesting to see how this is all plays out. We’ll keep you posted as this story develops.
Monica has logged a ton of miles on her journey to becoming one of R&B’s elite solo acts.
The veteran songtress has also gained plenty of wisdom along the way, which she uses to keep peace in her personal life.
Strength, courage, and wisdom make up the formula to Monica’s success and longevity in the business. These qualities also provide solace to the Grammy award winner, despite her ex-fiancé’s refusal to pay child support for his two young boys. Unlike many single moms, Monica has the means to give her children the world, and then some. But that doesn’t excuse the father of her children, Rocko, from not stepping up to plate, she says.
Nevertheless, the Atlanta native has managed to blend the family she started in her previous relationship, with her new husband, NBA veteran Shannon Brown. And news recently broke that the happy couple is expecting their first child this fall.
“People always ask me, ‘How do you make a blended family work?’ It is what you make it. The first order of business as parents is we gotta respect one another,” Monica told Jermaine Dupri on the latest episode of his reality webseries. “I don’t believe in the court system. I’m not steppin’ in no court house, I’m not callin’ them people.”
She continued, “Let me explain. This is my thing. I’m sure every situation may require something different, but for me, I feel like a real man will be man enough to assess the needs of his child, and make sure that it happens. I don’t need to call you and I don’t need to call them people for you,” Monica reasoned.
For more insight on Monica’s blended family, read on at EurWeb.com
I must admit that one of my guilty pleasures on a rare day off from work is watching The Maury Povich Show. On any – okay, mostly every – given day, the topic of his show revolves around paternity tests. For some reason it just never gets old and sadly enough, most viewers are hanging on the edge of their seat waiting for those five words to be uttered: “You are NOT the father!”
I’m not sure why, but it seems to me (and I could be wrong) that the audience doesn’t want the man to be the father. I guess it just makes for more dramatic television to watch a woman running to the back room ‘shamed and shocked that the no-good, triflin’ deadbeat man she’s painted the poor dude out to be actually isn’t the father. The man is “high-fiving” the men in the audience while doing back flips and we feel happy for him that he isn’t stuck taking care of someone else’s kid.
That being said, you’d think with all the family court cases and hundreds of Maury episodes dedicated to this topic that paternity testing would be mandatory at birth. Clearly men and women cheat, so it would make sense that many of these episodes of Maury would be avoided if they simply did paternity testing as soon as Junior pops out. If you’re unmarried, some argue that paternity testing at birth should just be a given. This way, if things go sour in the relationship, the father can’t run from his responsibilities as a father. On the flip side, if the woman was the one having unprotected sex with more than one man at a time, then she can’t wrongfully pin child support on the wrong guy.
It’s unfortunate, but men have very little reproductive rights in this country. They can’t make a woman have a baby if she doesn’t want one. It’s her body, I get it. But when it comes to a child actually being born, there should be some measures in place that would keep dishonest mothers from committing paternity fraud. After all, if a man learns that a child isn’t his after he’s been paying child support for 18 years, he doesn’t get his money back and there is no penalty paid by the deceptive mother. She is absolved of all wrongdoing and the most a man can hope for is that she’s a bit remorseful.
Now, I know that some women might be offended that they’d even be required to subject their child to such testing. Others may feel the test forces them to admit to their man at the beginning of a pregnancy that there’s a chance the baby might not be his resulting in the man refusing to be there for her during her pregnancy until the baby is born. This one test could cause a rift in an otherwise “happy” home.
But shouldn’t these conversations be happening anyway? Shouldn’t a woman put her big girl panties on and be mature and selfless enough to tell a man – or men – that she’s keeping the baby, but she’s not quite sure who the father is? Doesn’t the man have the right to know? More importantly, doesn’t the child have the right to know his biological father?
If you’re an honest woman, mandatory paternity testing at birth shouldn’t faze you. As I approach my 9th month of pregnancy, I wouldn’t have any problem agreeing to this test if my husband requested it. I wouldn’t even be offended, because I have nothing to hide.
At the end of the day, women know the child is theirs because it came out of her body – it doesn’t matter who the kid looks like. But for a man, it’s not always so cut and dry and you know what they say, “Mama’s baby, daddy’s maybe.” That just doesn’t seem right or fair to me.
What do you think – should paternity testing be made mandatory?