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Let’s just get right into it, shall we? Relationship adviser Tionna Smalls recently made another appearance on the talk show “Bethenny,” and during a heated battle of the sexes debate on whether men can be monogamous, she dropped this gem:
“Men are going to cheat. If you put it in your mind that a man is not going to cheat you’re fooling yourself — especially a man with money. I’m not saying you have to accept it, but you have to respect it. That’s number one. Number two, you better hope your man is just humping another chick and not falling in love mentally with another chick.”
I can already guestimate one of the first questions you have, which is who is this chick, so let me go ahead and lay out her resume. Tionna was the relationship coach tasked with helping TLC member Chilli find love on the VH1 reality show, “What Chilli Wants.” She also starred on MTV’s “Girl, Get Your Mind Right!” and is currently the host of a new online radio show titled, “Tionna Talks.”
Now why should you care? That I can’t answer for you, other than to ask whether you believe Tionna’s conviction? Men and cheating tend to go hand-in-hand in a lot of women’s minds, and you can tell by the passion with which Tionna states her case in the video below that she clearly is a strong believer in the doctrine of the male philanderer. But while all men have the capacity to cheat — and likely have at least once or twice in the past — I’m not completely certain a woman is fooling herself is she believes the man who made a commitment to her won’t cheat on her. But if that is the case, Tionna is right that us ladies don’t have to accept it, but we also don’t have to respect it either. There’s a simple thing all men who are incapable of being monogamous can do to make everyone’s lives easier and that is stay single. That’s about the only choice that’s respectable when it comes to this topic. But that’s just my personal belief.
Check out Tionna in the video clip below and tell us what you think. Are all men going to cheat eventually?
It’s hard to think about and even fathom that a guy you like, who you have been spending time would, could, and is juggling several different women at once. No one wants to believe that they’re the other woman or one of many women, but sometimes we fall into a player’s trap. Here are 14 signs that you’re not the only woman, and if this is truly the case, don’t think twice about walking away from this man.
“She/He is still here, aren’t they? If they really wanted to leave, they could have BEEN left me.
“I cheated on my first girlfriend in college. It was a Shytety thing to do,” says Scott, 27, “but when I was that young I didn’t really care about anyone else’s feelings but my own. I’m not saying what I did was okay … when you’re that young you just Fawk up a lot and learn as you go. It sucked to see how badly I was hurting her, and since we were in the same friends circle the wound never really healed for either of us. She said that she’d forgiven me, but since we were always together, it was impossible to forget.” “I’ve been cheated on twice,” Cody, 28, says. “I’m like the posterboy for cheaters! It’s a terrible feeling but at the same time, it’s really liberating: You see clearly that, ‘Okay, I do not want to be with this person who is so selfish they can’t even break up with me before they disrespect me.’ So you move on. I try to be the bigger person, most times, and forgive them. Then I cancel them from every social site I know of and swear to never see them again. I think it’s harder for guys because we’re supposed to be these big, strong men who don’t break down and don’t get upset, but, uh, when to two different girls you love do that to you, guess what? You cry. I’m not still crying over it though,” he adds with a laugh, “but the best thing for you is to make your peace with it and then move on.” Who Does It More?
“Gonna break a lot of hearts with this one,” says Steve, 25, “but girls cheat more than guys. I have a ton of girl friends and they are always talking about seeing other dudes on the side. It’s kinda surprising for me because you’d think that guys do it more — and maybe they do and they’re just better about hiding it — but from the people I spend time with, you’d be shocked to hear how many girls are okay with cheating on their guy.” “Girls,” says Dylan, a 21-year-old college student says, “are the worst in relationships. You’d never think that, right? Well, it’s true. I think they’ve changed the game up on guys because I’ve never had so many friends be played by their girlfriends. I think that girls are cheating more because they’re tired of being the soft ones in the relationship.” “I’d say guys are still cheating more than girls, though I know of a lot more girls who’ve ran out on their men in recent years,” says Joey, 31. “Men are still playing their women.” Read more at YourTango.com
So remember how at the end of “The Best Man” everyone watched Morris Chestnut’s character Lance marry Mia (Monica Calhoun) after finding out she slept with Harper and we were all like, in what world would that happen? Sure, Lance had been dipping out on Mia for forever, but we doubted many men could get over that hurt so quickly.
When we got the opportunity to chat with Morris and Monica at the press junket for “The Best Man Holiday,” we decided to ask the on-screen couple whether they could be as forgiving of a cheating lover in real life. Morris told us he probably couldn’t get over it, but Monica shocked us all when she said she’d forgive her man but there’d have to be a “make-up period.” At first we weren’t sure what she meant by that, but then it quickly became clear Monica was saying she’d have to get a retaliation cheat in — so basically she’d do exactly what Mia did in the movie.
Check out her explanation in the video below and Morris’s shock at her answer. What do you think about what she said?
If your friend has been cheated on, she needs you now more than ever. But sometimes what you don’t say is just as important as what you do.
Keyshia Cole and hubby Daniel “Boobie” Gibson just cannot seem to figure out what do with their marriage. With rumors of Boobie’s infidelity always sky high, it looks like it’s the wife’s turn: Is Keyshia Cole cheating too?
On Friday night, Drake threw an after party to celebrate his big concert in the city. Keyshia was there and she looked pretty comfortable with Atlanta party promoter, Mr. Rugs. Of course, it could be “nothing,” but then again, married people don’t just allow people of the opposite sex that far into their space, do they? She even seems to be hiding her ring finger (which she does quite often lately in party photos).
If you’ve heard anything about the Gibson marriage lately, you’re well aware that they take their anger out on each other via social media. Boobie has taken to posting pictures that express how angry he’s been over whatever is going on in his life. Keyshia, on the other hand, has been ignoring most things – including the talk about these latest pictures.
So, is it really over for the Gibsons? Is Keyshia Cole cheating or are they separated at this point? Who knows but at the very least, hopefully they can figure out some peaceful ground so they can co-parent and raise their son. Only time will tell.
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