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“He Lied To Me The Entire Time” Model Carmen Ortega Says Jason Derulo Was Cheating On Jordin With Her
Jason Derulo swears that he didn’t cheat on Jordin Sparks. But model, Carmen Ortega, has a different story.
Ortega told STAR Magazine that she had a one-month fling with Derulo while he was still dating Sparks.
Ortega said she met Derulo last summer through mutual friends at a recording studio. She claims shortly after meeting, the two quickly began an intimate relationship.
“We dated for a month. We went out in public with friends a few times, so I assumed he didn’t have a girlfriend.”
Ortega said that when she finally realized that Derulo, at least publicly, was still very much involved with Jordin, she called things off.
“I cut ties with him immediately. He tried telling me their relationship was strictly fueled by management teams. He lied to me the entire time.”
The story is a little different than the one she told last summer when the two were first photographed together, on two separate occasions going into IHop at 3 am in the morning.
I kept going back and forth asking him ‘Are you with Jordin or are you not with Jordin?’ One day he’s like “we’re back together” the next he’d say “we’re not together.” He acted like they were on and off. With Jason I asked him about an interview where he said he and Jordin were discussing marriage and he told me, ‘It’s not even like that, we’re not that serious. I was like ‘You’re going on interviews and saying certain things’ and he was saying, ‘It’s all fake it’s just press.’
She seems like a good person and a good girl and that’s why I want nothing to do with that situation anymore because I look at it like what a piece of isht of a guy to be doing that to her for so long. She is really in love with him – I feel bad about it.
If I was in a room with Jordin, I would tell her straight up your man is not a good man for you. You are too good for him. I just feel like she’s being played really bad. Men in Hollywood, he’s not the only one, there’s a lot of them.
For someone who claimed not to be dating him, she seemed really in her feelings about a co-worker, even back then. So it makes sense that now, the full story is coming out.
Who knows who to believe with these type of shenanigans. But Jason Derulo seems like the least trustworthy person in this story.
I think it’s time we had a more productive conversation about cheating than the one we’ve had many times over. Most times when we talk about cheating it’s always a conversation about why men cheat. By this point, we have come up with a long list of reasons men cheat but it always comes back to the same central point: because they can. To be clear, not every man is predisposed to cheat just because he can. There are still plenty of men in relationships who don’t cheat at all.
Anyway, last week Amber Rose filed for divorce from Wiz Khalifa. (I always feel awkward typing those names because they are the stagiest of stage names, but I digress.) Surprisingly, Wiz isn’t fighting for his marriage. He’s already filed his response and is ready to move on. That’s when I said to myself, “Something’s up with this story.” And as we waited all week for details to come to the surface, eventually they started to trickle out.
Now if the rumor is true, Wiz moved out of the house weeks ago, got his own place and pretty much decided he didn’t want to be married to Amber anymore. Amber one night shows up at his new place and finds him in bed with another woman. A few days later she files for divorce citing irreconcilable differences — not adultery — but tweets that her ex-husband is a cheater.
But wait. Did Wiz really cheat? Eh, in my opinion I don’t think that’s a fair representation of the situation.
This drama got me thinking that there’s this roaming definition of cheating. After discussing this with a few guys, I think we all agreed that the definition is really up to interpretation. Can a man cheat on a woman if they’re not in an official relationship of any kind? I understand that if you’re his girlfriend or wife then any activities outside of the relationship should be considered cheating. How about when you’re friends-with-benefits, taking a break or separated? Is it still cheating?
I have to say that my personal opinion is that there is no such thing as cheating outside of a relationship. I do think there are two other things that are just as bad, lying and deceit. I think the reason women find themselves accusing men of cheating when they’re not in a relationship is because they were under the impression that their situation was exclusive. In those cases, it’s really not the cheating that bothers you; it’s the fact that he lied.
That’s why I think it’s clear to focus in on the real issues of lying and not cheating. I’m going out on a short limb here but most of the times when someone is labeled as a cheater it’s a man. Men hate this label because to them it almost always indefensible. It exists in the background of his reputation and he can rarely shake it even if it was never true. That’s not a fair representation of who he is. It’s almost akin to screenshotting a section of a conversation and posting it on Instagram when someone is in a compromising position. Anything can be misconstrued and purported as something if both sides don’t have a chance to defend themselves.
I’m not saying that women need to stop calling men out for cheating, they don’t. There are still people out here cheating on the regular and they shouldn’t be getting away with it. I’m just saying that the definition of cheating needs to be more finite and not a roaming definition based on if someone “feels” cheated on. It’s either we move towards a definition that can be relied on or people will start thinking that people who claim “cheating” are just upset and hurt.
Is this the year of the side chick? Once upon a time, being a mistress was a shameful thing. But when Karreuche Tran found herself on a list of notorious mistresses, she publicly stood up for her mistress status.
And Karreuche isn’t the only one. In 2014, side chicks are fighting for their rightful place and sometimes they’re winning… Let’s hope this isn’t a trend that sticks.
Love in Hollywood is a tricky, tricky thing. As if the everyday pressures of being in a relationship weren’t hard enough, adding the craziness and drama of 24/7 tabloid coverage brings even healthy relationships to their breaking point. And let’s not forget the inevitable affair rumors. “Side chicks” and mistresses have become a staple of celebrity news. And while sometimes the rumblings are true, there are more than a few Hollywood hotties who have refuted the rumors — or refused to fess up. Here’s a look at notable celebrity women who denied being mistresses.
Not that cheating is ever justified, but when we see some of these men who cheated with someone less attractive we think, really, you were tempted by that?
Did curiosity kill the cat or the relationship?
There is no better private investigator than a woman with Internet access and a curiosity. I can let you know if your boyfriend is cheating, find the girl he dated in college, and figure out every picture your love interest has liked on Facebook in the past fortnight. Serious q: is the CIA hiring?
I do all sorts of online stalking. My typical daily activities as a single woman include:
1. Lurking my crush’s Facebook
2. Creeping his Instagram
3. Memorizing his Twitter feed
4. Creating a relationship with him in my head
What I’m trying to say is I consider online stalking to be my full time day job, and sometimes I may accidentally, unintentionally, woopsie-daisily bring these behaviors into my relationships.
It paid off though, when dating my ex-boyfriend, who for the sake of this article I will call Demetrius (because why not?).
Did curiosity or carelessness wreck this relationship? Read more on YourTango.
This is more of a general question, not anything I’m asking because of personal experience, just something I’ve observed. While there countless examples of women taking men back and forgiving them after they’ve cheated, why does it appear to be so hard for men to do the same? You may have heard the story of the 99 year old man who divorced his wife of 77 years after he found out about an affair she had 60 years ago or even more recently T.I. scolding his wife on Instagram for posing in a bikini or taking a picture with Floyd Mayweather when his own commitment to their relationship is…questionable. I understand men and women are different creatures but why is it so hard for men to forgive these type of offenses? Do you think they men do forgive more often than we know of and they just don’t talk about it like women do?
I have three somewhat connected but completely separate answers to this question. For clarity’s sake, I’m going to list them numerically.
1. I can’t speak for all men. But I can say with confidence that if you were to poll the men of America, asking them to name the number one relationship dealbreaker, physical infidelity would be at the top of the list. I realize (most) women don’t exactly love it when men cheat as well, but men (generally) are much more non-negotiable when it comes to that.
Why is this true? Well, some people will argue biology, that it’s an inherent quality we (men) possess. Some argue that we’ve been socialized to be less forgiving. But regardless of the base reasons, the emotional reaction is what matters, and when a woman cheats on a man, it makes him feel like his manhood has been taken from him. Basically, she cheated because the other guy was able to provide something physically that he wasn’t. Obviously, there are dozens of reasons — some that have nothing to do with bedroom prowess — that can contribute to a woman’s infidelity, but for (most) men, that “loss of manhood” is the immediate thought. And, for many men, there’s no getting over that.
2. That said…there are many men who welcome back cheating mates. They definitely exist. We just don’t hear as much about them because, well, lemme put it this way: (Generally speaking) Men tend to be less vocal about cheating mates than women are. Again, I’m speaking in general terms, but when a man cheats on a woman and she finds out about it, she’s going to tell everyone from her aunt to her hairdresser. If a woman cheats on a man, he’s going to tell….nobody. Because, right or wrong, he knows it’ll reflect badly on him. But yeah, there are a lot of men who know about their woman’s cheating, but take them back and keep things discreet.
3. This subject is often brought up from a “Why can’t men be more forgiving?” angle. Which is the wrong way to look at things. It’s not that men should be as forgiving with cheating as some women are. No, women should actually be less forgiving.
This — the idea of “cheating zero tolerance” — is one of the few instances where I think it would help women to be more like men. Basically, instead of expecting T.I. to be more forgiving of Tiny, we need to ask why Tiny is so forgiving of T.I.
“All My Trust Has Come Back”: Tina Campbell Says Despite His Cheating, She Loves Teddy, “More Than I Ever Did”
You read that title right.
In a new interview with the ladies over at Sister 2 Sister for their June/July issue, Tina Campbell opened up about the long process she went through to forgive her husband, Teddy, after he cheated on her with multiple women, including a family friend. In this most recent season of Mary Mary, we saw Campbell dealing with the pain of Teddy’s admissions, which he didn’t reveal all at once, but gave her more heartbreaking details over a short period of time. At one point she even said that she tried to stab him when speaking to EBONY about her pain:
“Once I became aware [of the affair], I initially wanted to kill my husband. I was considering adjusting the will, the living trust and all that kind of stuff. I did physically try to stab him. Several times…I never got to the point of physical harm, not really, but my words…My words hurt.”
But she tells Sister 2 Sister that she decided to move forward with the help of her faith and that she fully trusts him again. No snooping for her!
“You want to know the truth? [laughs] All of my trust has come back. I love my husband more than I ever did. I am deeply in love with him. I was just talking to my brother-in-law last night because a lot of my family is even amazed with it. I don’t check on my husband. I don’t check his e-mails. First of all, I’m not that chick. I think too much of myself to be a detective behind some man. And if I’m going to trust you and give you a chance, I’m going to give you a real chance and a real chance is not holding your hand and micromanaging.
Everything I ask my husband, everything I’ve required of my husband through this process, every single thing, he did it. Whatever I asked him, whatever I wanted, whatever I needed… I know every explicit detail of every single thing with every single affair. Every woman can’t handle that, but for me and the stage that I’m gonna be at in my life, I needed to know.
I was tortured. I was tortured dealing with that information, but guess what? I forgave every bit of it, and I love my husband immensely. I love him with all the passion that I have, and I trust him. I believe everything that he told me and I believe in him, and only God can do that.”
When I read this, I could only say “wow,” because the amount of sadness and hurt Tina displayed during this past season of the reality show, I just wouldn’t have expected her to open up and say that she loves him more now than she had before. But kudos to her for not letting her anger eat her up and doing the work with Teddy to salvage their relationship. It isn’t easy…
Check out her full interview with Sister 2 Sister in the new issue, which is on stands now.
It’s all fun and games until somebody gets caught…and put on blast.
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