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Mixing Too Much Business With Pleasure: Workplace Infidelity… By the Numbers

February 20th, 2015 - By Kimberly Gedeon
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As you glance at your colleagues tapping furiously away at the computer, working — er — “diligently” at their tasks, you might be completely in the dark about the intense, passionate affairs they’re having — with one another.

Illicit internet liaisons really may not be any of your business, but when it comes to losing money — oh, it should be all of your concern. According to a 2013 Victoria Milan survey, online cheaters cost businesses a whopping $17 million a day.

Cheating spouses confessed to spending an average of 1.17 hours chatting up a side-floozy on company time. Nearly 40 percent admitted to spending 30 minutes getting a little cyberspace hanky-panky in while on the job — 25 percent admitted to wasting an hour. Eighteen percent spent more than two hours tapping their committed relationships away into depths of hell.

“Imagine if they only put that much effort into their existing relationship or work?” Business2Community wondered.

Victoria Milan calculated that businesses lose an average of $17,304,300 per day in lost productivity thanks to infidelity. That’s a stab at the heart and the money. Ouch!

But I wondered — how else does cheating affect our business responsibilities? It’s time for another “by the numbers” edition. Let’s take a look at cheating on the job, shall we?

What better way to cover up your extramarital affairs than by going on a — er — “business trip.” A discouraging 36 percent of men and 13 percent of women succumbed to temptation while trekking out of town, The Huffington Post wrote, quoting the book The Normal Bar.

That’s no surprise at all since the workplace is a breeding ground for seduction. According to GoodTherapy, 85 percent of salacious affairs begin at work.

“The close interaction, travel, and unavoidable closeness may lead to strong friendships and emotional attachments outside your marriage. The workplace provides opportunity and proximity to people outside your family,” GoodTherapy added.

Interestingly, there are certain professions that are more prone to have cheaters than others. Boston.com gives on the scoop on which careers have the most wandering eyes:

Entrepreneurs

These self-starters are most likely to have an affair; 17 percent and 13 percent of men and women, respectively, cheat in this field. Entrepreneurship draws in risk-taking, daredevil personalities, which makes ‘em more inclined to step out on their partners. Entrepreneurs also travel quite often — and we know how that goes. There is an upside, though: Employers needn’t worry about them wasting company time because, well, they’re their own bosses.

Finance

Like entrepreneurship, finance requires the ability to assess risk. So if temptation prevents the financier with an opportunity for a little gamble, and the risk seems minimal, they just might take the dangerous plunge. Sixteen percent of men and 18 percent of women in the finance field mix a little too much business with pleasure.

Medical

The medical field exposes workers to life-changing events every day — and you’re sharing these heart-gripping moments with your fellow employees, not your spouse. This degree of closeness leads to 15 percent and 16 percent of men and women, respectively, seeking comfort from outside their home.

Education

After a long year of taxing work with kids and grading, teachers get three months off for play — and may be having a little too much fun. “People in education have a summer of love opportunity unlike other professions that don’t have three months of downtime,” said Ashley Madison’s CEO Noel Biderman. Seven percent of male teachers cheat while nine percent of women do the same.

At the end of the day, these numbers leave us hanging with the age old question: “Why, oh why do we cheat?” Are we doing it to reaffirm our desirability? To boost our egos? To get something more out of an unsatisfying relationship? Cafe Mocha Radio, this weekend, will be discussing just that. Tune in to discover what Maxwell Billieon, author of Death of the Cheating Man, has to say.

Whatever it the answer is, it’s costing employers a painful amount of millions and breaking countless hearts.

Women Scorned: The Most Hair-Raising Cases Of Revenge On The Internet

February 9th, 2015 - By Meg Butler
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Have you ever gotten revenge on a cheating-ex? Cheating is always wrong but these cases of revenge dropped our jaws to the floor.

Could You Do It? Celebrity Women Who Made Peace With Their Man’s Mistresses

January 21st, 2015 - By Meg Butler
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Could you ever forgive the woman he cheated on you with? Read on to hear the stories of these celebrity women who forgave their husband’s mistresses dish on how and why they did it.

Oh That’s Trifling: 10 Songs We Didn’t Realize Were Messy Cheating Anthems When We Were Younger

January 13th, 2015 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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Cheating is wrong, but when you hear about shady affairs in song form? Not so much. Have you noticed that a bunch of songs we all used to jam to are about people proudly claiming they stole someone’s partner or that they are trying to keep an affair on the low? Again, so wrong, but it sounds so right! It took us a while to realize that these 10 songs were a little problematic and somewhat trifling. Sorry, we were too busy dancing. *Kanye shrug*

 

“He’s Mine” by Monkenstef

Definitely a groove-worthy song, but there’s nothing cute about proudly proclaiming that a cheating man is coming home to you at the end of the night. How did we miss lyrics like “Played you like a trick ‘Cuz you let him hit” and “You had him once but it’s me on his mind”?

You Thought We Wouldn’t See: More People Embarrassed By The Kiss Cam

January 5th, 2015 - By Meg Butler
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Have you seen this video of the Ohio State fan caught at the game with her side piece? She’s not the only sports fan that’s been caught by the cam. Check out these gifs of people embarrassed by the kiss cam for the whole world to see.

Woman Exposes Her Cheating Man Online, Gives Him Printouts Of His DM Chats With Other Women For Christmas

December 30th, 2014 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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The only thing that could have made this story even better would have been if we could see it all play out on video–and if former “To Catch A Predator” host Chris Hansen was there to help expose this cheater (“Why don’t you have a seat over there…”).

Uproxx shared the story of Cassy, a young woman who caught her boyfriend slipping by having inappropriate conversations with another woman through his direct messages on Twitter.  Cassy, who either had access to his Twitter password, or was crafty enough to somehow figure out the password and get to snooping, uncovered the messages and concocted a pretty interesting way to expose her sneaky boyfriend. Cassy took pictures of the messages and printed them out, multiple pages worth of conversations, and documented her plan via Twitter and Snapchat, saying “I don’t tolerate cheating.” From there, she wrapped the printouts in wrapping paper and gave them to her boyfriend as a Christmas gift.

Of course, he didn’t find it so clever.

Cassy (who says she’s “numb to the bs” now) posted all of her photos and shared a warning with any future lovers, because she clearly doesn’t play that:

Cassy

Fellas, you’ve been warned.

Check out the photos from Cassy’s surprise for this fella below.

Cassy 1

Cassy 2

Cassy 3

Cassy 4

In The Act: Celebrities Caught Cheating

November 18th, 2014 - By Meg Butler
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We didn’t want to believe the rumors, but these celebrities caught cheating were filmed, snapped and screenshot-ed in the act.

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Usher Raymond

Usher was outed during his divorce trial when his soon-to-be-ex Tameka Raymond revealed that she caught him in bed with her bridesmaid (who was the kids’ nanny), Maya Fox Davis.

Amateur Detectives: Your Guide To The Latest Gadgets For Catching Him Cheating

November 5th, 2014 - By Meg Butler
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How far would you go to catch your man cheating? Once upon a time, you had to follow him around. But today catching him in the act is as easy as downloading an app.

Gadgets For Catching Him Cheating

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Key-Logging Software

Upload these programs onto his computer and they’ll track every keystroke he makes: porn websites, deleted e-mails to his mistress and flirty Facebook messages he sent to his old high school crush.

“He Lied To Me The Entire Time” Model Carmen Ortega Says Jason Derulo Was Cheating On Jordin With Her

October 6th, 2014 - By Veronica Wells
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Carmen Ortega Says Jason Derulo Was Cheating On Jordin With Her feat

Jason Derulo swears that he didn’t cheat on Jordin Sparks. But model, Carmen Ortega, has a different story.

Ortega told STAR Magazine that she had a one-month fling with Derulo while he was still dating Sparks.

Surprise, surprise.

Ortega said she met Derulo last summer through mutual friends at a recording studio. She claims shortly after meeting, the two quickly began an intimate relationship.

“We dated for a month. We went out in public with friends a few times, so I assumed he didn’t have a girlfriend.”

Ortega said that when she finally realized that Derulo, at least publicly, was still very much involved with Jordin, she called things off.

“I cut ties with him immediately. He tried telling me their relationship was strictly fueled by management teams. He lied to me the entire time.” 

The story is a little different than the one she told last summer when the two were first photographed together, on two separate occasions going into IHop at 3 am in the morning.

I kept going back and forth asking him ‘Are you with Jordin or are you not with Jordin?’ One day he’s like “we’re back together” the next he’d say “we’re not together.” He acted like they were on and off. With Jason I asked him about an interview where he said he and Jordin were discussing marriage and he told me, ‘It’s not even like that, we’re not that serious. I was like ‘You’re going on interviews and saying certain things’ and he was saying, ‘It’s all fake it’s just press.’

And then:

She seems like a good person and a good girl and that’s why I want nothing to do with that situation anymore because I look at it like what a piece of isht of a guy to be doing that to her for so long. She is really in love with him – I feel bad about it.

If I was in a room with Jordin, I would tell her straight up your man is not a good man for you. You are too good for him. I just feel like she’s being played really bad. Men in Hollywood, he’s not the only one, there’s a lot of them.

For someone who claimed not to be dating him, she seemed really in her feelings about a co-worker, even back then. So it makes sense that now, the full story is coming out.

Who knows who to believe with these type of shenanigans. But Jason Derulo seems like the least trustworthy person in this story.

Straight From His Mouth: The Difference Between Being Cheated On And Being Lied To

September 29th, 2014 - By Dr. J
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The Difference Between Being Cheated On And Being Lied To

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I think it’s time we had a more productive conversation about cheating than the one we’ve had many times over. Most times when we talk about cheating it’s always a conversation about why men cheat. By this point, we have come up with a long list of reasons men cheat but it always comes back to the same central point: because they can. To be clear, not every man is predisposed to cheat just because he can. There are still plenty of men in relationships who don’t cheat at all.

Anyway, last week Amber Rose filed for divorce from Wiz Khalifa. (I always feel awkward typing those names because they are the stagiest of stage names, but I digress.) Surprisingly, Wiz isn’t fighting for his marriage. He’s already filed his response and is ready to move on. That’s when I said to myself, “Something’s up with this story.” And as we waited all week for details to come to the surface, eventually they started to trickle out.

Now if the rumor is true, Wiz moved out of the house weeks ago, got his own place and pretty much decided he didn’t want to be married to Amber anymore. Amber one night shows up at his new place and finds him in bed with another woman. A few days later she files for divorce citing irreconcilable differences — not adultery — but tweets that her ex-husband is a cheater.

But wait. Did Wiz really cheat? Eh, in my opinion I don’t think that’s a fair representation of the situation.

This drama got me thinking that there’s this roaming definition of cheating. After discussing this with a few guys, I think we all agreed that the definition is really up to interpretation. Can a man cheat on a woman if they’re not in an official relationship of any kind? I understand that if you’re his girlfriend or wife then any activities outside of the relationship should be considered cheating. How about when you’re friends-with-benefits, taking a break or separated? Is it still cheating?

I have to say that my personal opinion is that there is no such thing as cheating outside of a relationship. I do think there are two other things that are just as bad, lying and deceit. I think the reason women find themselves accusing men of cheating when they’re not in a relationship is because they were under the impression that their situation was exclusive. In those cases, it’s really not the cheating that bothers you; it’s the fact that he lied.

That’s why I think it’s clear to focus in on the real issues of lying and not cheating. I’m going out on a short limb here but most of the times when someone is labeled as a cheater it’s a man. Men hate this label because to them it almost always indefensible. It exists in the background of his reputation and he can rarely shake it even if it was never true. That’s not a fair representation of who he is. It’s almost akin to screenshotting a section of a conversation and posting it on Instagram when someone is in a compromising position. Anything can be misconstrued and purported as something if both sides don’t have a chance to defend themselves.

I’m not saying that women need to stop calling men out for cheating, they don’t. There are still people out here cheating on the regular and they shouldn’t be getting away with it. I’m just saying that the definition of cheating needs to be more finite and not a roaming definition based on if someone “feels” cheated on. It’s either we move towards a definition that can be relied on or people will start thinking that people who claim “cheating” are just upset and hurt.