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We often hear fables, myths and gossip about women who sleep with married men. Let’s be real, some of us even know these women personally. They’re our wayward friends, the person our cousin used to be back in the day. Some of us have been that woman ourselves.
But rarely do these women present themselves, boldly and proudly to the public.
Well, one such woman stepped forward yesterday on “The Wendy Williams Show” of all places. And as you might imagine, it didn’t go over too well.
During the “Ask Wendy” segment, this woman stood up and said,
“There’s a gentleman that I met a couple weeks ago at an event. He is so hot. And speaking with him for about two minutes or so, the attraction grew. So the problem is, he’s married. The problem is he’s married and I really don’t care.”
Perhaps homegirl didn’t realize that not only is Wendy married, she and her husband Kevin had their own challenges with infidelity in the past. So she was not trying to hear this at all.
And she checked this woman properly.
Check out Wendy’s response in the video below.
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In Hollywood, cheating rumors happen. But these celebrity women say they are 100% unbothered by such tales. They give their partner the benefit of the doubt.
Trust is an essential part of any relationship. Without it, it is pretty impossible to have a productive one. When certain things happen that cause a person to have a hard time believing in their partner, it is difficult for a relationship to continue on the right foot. The betrayed party may choose to start doing crazy things to ensure that their loved one is faithful again. Moreover, even when the former cheater is being faithful, the scorned partner may still behave erratically and check up on them out of paranoia.
The paranoid things people do to confirm the fidelity of their mate include popping up at their job unexpectedly, making surprise home visits, and watching them from afar without them knowing. But one big no-no people do when the trust is gone is snoop through their partner’s phone, check their text messages, search through pictures and look through contacts for unfamiliar names. Some people even take it a step further and check emails.
Prowling through your mate’s phone is one of the worst things you can do. It can open up so many doors of disappointment and strife that you may not be prepared to deal with mentally or emotionally. There’s an old saying that goes, “Seek, and you shall find,” and it is very true. If you go looking for trouble in your man’s phone, you just may find it. Before you decide to make that bold move, ask yourself if you can handle what you may find, what your next move will be, how you plan to confront your mate about what you saw if it was incriminating, and how you plan to explain to them why you were going through their phone in the first place.
Ever wonder what your reputation is like in the world of dating, or if you even have one? Well, believe it or not, everyone has a rep or dating resume that people often refer to if they are are admiring you from a distance and want to get to know you better. One thing you do not want to follow you from one relationship to another is being known as the crazy chick or paranoid dude who lurks through phones trying to find anything suspicious. This tag will automatically put potential mates on guard and have them giving you the side-eye before things can even get off the ground.
Trust, trust, and more trust is the foundation of any successful relationship. Searching through your mate’s phone shows that you do not believe in the person you are with and what you have is not what you thought it was. Anytime you are compelled to look through your partner’s phone without permission, it is a sign that things are headed south. If this is the case, it may be best for you to move on because not only have you lost a certain level of trust in your mate, but once they find out you’ve been looking in their phone, they may not be able to trust you either. Yeah, this thing works both ways.
Having confidence in your partner and what the two of you are building is a great thing, but once that trust is gone, it is definitely hard to get it back. While no one is perfect and people will make mistakes in life, everyone deserves the basic right to privacy. If you have an issue with your mate and you are wondering about their fidelity, ask them about it directly, rather than going around playing Inspector Gadget. No Gadget, No!
If you cannot love and trust the one you are with, then be with someone else you can trust because searching through their phone and their personal items will only bring heartache and pain to you. And while you are so busy looking through their phone, you may be missing out on someone better who’s looking for you.
Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For? and a speaker and advocate for single women. Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin.
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I recently wrote about how shocked I was when I heard women and men receiving shout-outs on the radio for being side pieces. While side-piece culture seems to be thriving nowadays, there’s also the issue of the “main chick.” To me, knowingly being the main chick for a cheating man is just as bad as being the other woman, and I can tell you why based on experience.
The main chick is a woman who has been in a relationship or marriage for a long time and has put up with a lot of crap from her man to be considered number one on his roster. If they’re not married, she’s the woman who has “wifey” status. The main chick is the one who through intuition, or proof, knows that her man steps out every once in a while; but she’ll justify it because he comes home to her at the end of the day.
This used to be my reality when I was younger, and for lack of a better word, dumb. I was with a guy for two years on and off. Throughout those two years, I caught him cheating more than once. Looking back on that time is extremely embarrassing for me because I still can’t believe I allowed myself to go through something so degrading and humiliating. The reasons I mentioned above are partly why I stayed with him, but honestly, I was friends with his mom and I felt pressured by her to stay.
When I found out he’d had a woman in my car when we switched vehicles for the day, I called his mom to vent. Her response was, “Well you get to go on the trips don’t you? You’re the one he comes home to.” These were supposed to be words of wisdom and encouragement, but after hearing such excuses one too many times, it felt crazy to me. As I held the phone to my ear, I listened to a woman trying to rationalize why I should stay with her philandering son. The main chick was supposed to be a consolation prize because I was living a “great life,” even if I was completely miserable.
Being the main chick simply didn’t work for me. Oftentimes I felt like I was living in the twilight zone because I had a man who repeatedly made promises to me that he simply could not or would not keep. It was painful and I didn’t feel like the designer clothes, jewelry, or trips were worth it any longer. Instead, I craved loyalty, honesty and most importantly, his heart. Sadly, I couldn’t get those things, so I knew I had to leave and put an end to this self-esteem crushing relationship for good.
Karrueche Tran recently ended her work as main chick after learning that Chris Brown fathered a child at one point in their relationship. Tran broke her silence on the news by tweeting, “Listen, one can only take so much. The best of luck to Chris and his family. No baby drama for me.”
After years of embracing her main chick status and dealing with public scrutiny for sticking by his side while he played her for Rihanna (and obviously others, including the mother of his daughter), Brown did what a lot of men who cheat do: he fathered a child outside of the relationship.
This is usually how it goes when you’re dealing with a guy who has you as his main chick, but won’t make you his one and only. He doesn’t do these things because he is a terrible person. Instead, he behaves this way in your relationship because you’ve shown him that you’ll put up with just about anything. A man can only get away with what you allow him to.
As for me, once I removed myself from my position in that tumultuous relationship, I didn’t look back. There is so much more to life than being a man’s doormat and that’s exactly what a main chick is. I do think about my ex from time to time and wonder what woman he is making miserable now, but I would never deal with a guy like that again. Zebras don’t change their stripes, you know?