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“Save Some Of You For You” Monyetta Shaw On Learning From Her Relationship With Ne-Yo and Her Book Bigger Than Me
Many of us fell in love with Monyetta Shaw watching her on “Atlanta Exes.” And many of our hearts broke hearing the story about how her former fiancé, singer, songwriter Ne-Yo, called off their engagement two months before their wedding. Incidentally, this was after Shaw had her tubes burned, because this was what they both agreed upon. (Ne-Yo said it was going to get a vasectomy but that never happened.) But y’all know the story. And in case you forgot it, the New York Post, did a great job of providing a recap. Turns out, Shaw wasn’t exactly thrilled about that interview for several reasons. MadameNoire reached out to Monyetta to not only get her thoughts on the interview but to clear up any misconceptions. We asked her how she moved past the hurt and what readers can expect from her book Bigger Than Me. And of course what’s her relationship with Ne-Yo and Crystal like these days.
See what she had to say below.
You expressed that you were less than satisfied about the way the Post ultimately portrayed you in their story. Can you tell us why you were unhappy with it?
Basically, it was supposed to be a question and answer interview. And right off top, she was asking questions about the past and things I no longer feel anymore and it didn’t have anything to do with the book. It’s not in my book; therefore, I didn’t want to discuss them. So, in a nutshell she basically made up what she wanted the book to be about. She was a fan of the show and we talked about it, we laughed. And she took things from there and put it in the interview and then, to add insult to injury, acted as if I wrote it, in the form of first person. I’m like, ‘Yo, that’s insane.’ It blew my mind. She said key words that I did not want her to say, that she said she wouldn’t say…it was horrible.
So would you say that what she included was untrue or it was just something you didn’t want to discuss at the time?
Anyone who watched the show [“Atlanta Exes”] knew the facts so it wasn’t necessarily untrue; however, she’s bringing up stuff that’s not important to where I am in my life so it’s unfair. And it’s not the message that I’m trying to send out to the world now. My ex and I are in a good place, we’re co-parenting. And that’s what the book is about. It’s not about bringing up stuff that could possibly ruin what we have.
So tell us about the place that you are in right now?
I am in a really, really good place in my life right now. The kids are amazing. They’ve always been my first priority. We got into our first choice school, which was a huge thing. It was like a six-month process. Working on my businesses, the Evan Grace Group, children’s book. I’m dating. Not going to disclose names. I’m just really excited about what God has in store. Glad to be on the other side.
How did you get here?
Giiirrrl, a lot of prayer and having supportive friends and family. My dad is the key to that. When I would be going through certain situations, I would call him. He would come through and give me a good scripture and keep it 100 percent, no matter if it hurt me or not. Just give me the real. You need that. You might not want it but you need it. And basically, just writing my book and getting it out was my therapy, just like the show was my therapy at that time. I discussed things that I’ve never discussed before and I feel like this is it. I’m putting it out there in this book and that’s the close of the chapter.
We all know breakups can be very difficult, especially when they happen in the public eye. There really is no blueprint to follow on how to handle yourself with dignity and tact. And in this age of social media, tea-spilling blogs and ever-present cameras, it’s hard to keep all those emotions private and in check at all times.
We saw that today with Ciara.
We all know the story of former lovers, rapper Future and singer Ciara. They were red hot for one another; sadly, after the birth of their son, they crashed and burned. And while things are certainly looking up in Ciara’s love life, (Heeey Russell!) there still seems to be a little bit of resentment there.
Today, in announcing the nominees for the Billboard awards, Ciara refused to speak her ex fiancé and father to her child’s name.
Check it out.
Ciara is so petty…so..soooo petty pic.twitter.com/tQSCRdTMpu
— Aaron Busby (@MrBusby4o8) April 11, 2016
She hit Future with that Voldemort treatment. Thankfully, her good buddy Ludacris was there to pick up the slack.
Naturally, we want to know what you think about this. It’s great for the internet but a part of me is giving her an “ok, girl.” I mean, she named her son Future. Nicknames aside, I’m sure she’s used to saying the name. Plus, nothing says I’m truly not over my ex, like I can’t speak his name. And as someone who’s newly engaged and in what appears to be a fulfilling relationship, she might want to clear her head and her heart first.
But, you never know what’s going behind the scenes. Future might be making her life a living hell. And it’s highly probable considering these two are still in court fighting a slander and libel case. Legally, she might not be able to say his name, in which case, what can you do?
What do you think about Ciara’s decision not to speak Future’s name?
Update: While Columbus was sitting silent in the video Karrine posted, several hours later, he had a few things to say about what seems to be their breakup on Twitter.
See what he had to say.
Just want to say….that it's unfortunate that way things end up. I felt truly that a woman gave me a home and a place to get my mind right
— Columbus Short (@ColumbusShort1) March 29, 2016
And a place to maturate gifts that I wasn't able to foster, without stability. I love Karin and her brilliantly talented son. But toxicity
— Columbus Short (@ColumbusShort1) March 29, 2016
(Did this dude just spell her name incorrectly?)
Of any kind isn't healthy for anyone. I've been working hard to bring you guys quality movies, music and art. And that's exactly what will
— Columbus Short (@ColumbusShort1) March 29, 2016
Continue to happen. How could you not love a woman who took you in a broken place and allow you to heal. I'm thankful for the journey and
— Columbus Short (@ColumbusShort1) March 29, 2016
It ain't the first time I've been homeless. But will definitely be the last!! When it's all said and done stand strong stand tall and
— Columbus Short (@ColumbusShort1) March 29, 2016
Most of all UNBROKEN……If I'm still standing you have no excuse! #MoreThanConquerers
— Columbus Short (@ColumbusShort1) March 29, 2016
Man…when you’re homeless, you definitely shouldn’t bite the hand that feeds and shelters you. Smh… hopefully Columbus will learn one day.
Karrine Steffans and Columbus Short have certainly had a whirlwind romance. Before we even had a chance to get used to these two as a couple, they were announcing that they were married. That was mid January.
Now, in late March, it seems that there might be trouble in paradise.
Well, not exactly “seems,” Karrine made it crystal clear on her Twitter page early this morning.
@ColumbusShort1 Out here fucking everything moving, ain't got a penny to his name and no place to live. Nigga, bye. FOH.
— Mrs. Karrine Short (@karrineandco) March 29, 2016
And as y’all know, Columbus Short is no stranger to mess and mayhem. And for whatever reason, there’s always a camera around to capture it.
Last night/early this morning, Karrine was holding that camera as she told the world that Short had been unfaithful. She even took the liberty of making it a bit easier for the blogs to find these women that he allegedly cheated with, by @ mentioning them in her Instagram post.
A photo posted by Mrs. Karrine Short (@karrineandco) on
There was also a video. And the looks one or both of them didn’t take the news too kindly. Columbus’ belongings were strewn across the floor of what looked like some type of lobby. While Karrine spoke, Short sat silently in a chair.
A video posted by Mrs. Karrine Short (@karrineandco) on
If you’ve followed Karrine’s Instagram page since January, you know that literally every other post is about her fabulous marriage to Columbus and how she’s never loved anyone as deeply as she loves him.
So naturally, it’s quite interesting to see this 180 degree turn.
I really don’t know what to say about these two. So, we’ll let you draw your own conclusions. Though, with Short’s history of domestic violence, I certainly hope she protects herself.
We often talk about the dangers of sharing too much of our lives on the internet, especially in the context of a relationship. We all have those friends who give you a blow by blow description of every milestone in their relationship and then give you a minute by minute update of how they’re handling the breakup.
There are some who, not content with the status of the relationship, push it a step further. I remember in college a good friend of got dumped by boyfriend. Months later, after he realized that he’d let a good thing slip through his fingers, he wrote an entire essay extolling her virtues, explaining how he messed up and wanted her back. He even made sure to include a picture. So all of her friends, his friends and anyone who happened to stumble across his Facebook page would see it and read about their story.
At the time I couldn’t tell if my friend liked it all that much. I’m sure a part of her was flattered but also a bit mortified with the fact that so much of her business was all over the internet, being consumed by our peers.
Personally, I just remember thinking, how manipulative. It was clear the whole reason he wrote the note was so people could applaud him for being “in touch with his feelings,” “fighting for his woman” and all those other cliches. People would, of course, read the note and see how sweet he had been and begin encouraging my friend to take him back. When no one really knew the full story of why they broke up in the first place. Conveniently, that didn’t make it into the Facebook post. All of it is very selfish and self serving. Without her permission, it put all the pressure of reconciliation on her, absolved him of any responsibility for their breakup; and worst of all, invited several third parties to comment on what should have been a private discussion.
While you might think this type of behavior would be reserved for the naive, non-celebrity types, we saw it recently when Robin Thicke went on a bit of a crusade to get his wife Paula Patton back. You know how that one turned out.
The most recent couple to go through this type of drama is Jordin Sparks and rapper Sage the Gemini.
For reasons unknown to us, the two are no longer together. And according to his Instagram page, Sage is not taking it too well.
He wrote this lengthy post, which has since been deleted, about missing his boo thang, in the hopes that she would read it and give him a call.
Can’t sit here and act industry like this shit don’t hurt me. You the only girl I can call at 3 in the morning and you’ll answer no problem. You the only girl that can wake up out of a dead sleep and get me some water because I was coughing in my sleep the only girl that loves me the way you were supposed to. I miss you to much to watch you look so amazing at the Clyde Davis party and not be able to call you and express how much I appreciated the look because you won’t answer nor text back the feeling is horrible. You see this picture?…… That’s the picture of me lookin at niggas lookin at you and givin them the eye like “wassup nigga” and you like it’s ok babe and you makin me smile and feel just Alittle more secure about it. Lol it kinda reminds me of the picture of the little lady standing in front of the hulk and being the only one that can calm him down that’s you ya know? But yea this shit is crazy i just wanna tell you I’m still being a good boy just incase you come to your senses. Valentine’s Day was supposed to be a special day I wanted that to be our anniversary because it’s your grandparents and maybe we could’ve double dated remember? Please call me back I just want like a hug and a kiss or something. Sincerely Dominic Wynn Woods
I know some of you all will read this and think it’s cute. Parts of it are. But mostly it just makes me roll my eyes. Don’t send strangers on social media to do what you couldn’t manage to do in the relationship, convince me that I needed to stay.
What do you think about an ex making a case for getting back together through social media? Would that work for you?
So in case you haven’t heard, Diddy and Cassie are no more. You never know with these two. By the time I finish this post, they might be back together again. But according to their social media activity, over the past few days, and a couple of sources, they’re finished.
First, Cassie quickly posted and deleted this meme.
According to Love B Scott, Cassie broke up with Diddy because of his involvement with another woman. Reportedly he even brought this woman to his Revolt Music festival in October. Even before this woman, people have been speculating about a rocky relationship saying that Cassie was largely absent from Diddy’s birthday celebrations.
I don’t know whether this source is accurate or not. But considering the fact that Diddy openly admitted that he’s still out here, on national radio, is enough to support those claims. In case, you missed it, he told “The Breakfast Club” about his love contract.
“I don’t want to promise on nothing I can’t deliver. What I can deliver, out of a pie, is I can promise you that, if I’m in a relationship with you, that 25% of your time, you’re going to just feel like ‘I hate being here. I hate this guy. He cheated on me, he lied on me.” But then there’s 75% I’m going to make you the happiest woman in the whole wide world. I’m going to be there to support your dreams, I’ma be there to hold you, listen to you. I’ma be there to be your best friend. And I promise you’ll smile the most. You know who I am, you know what it is.”
Yes, he said that…publicly.
Then, shortly after Cassie posted the meme, Diddy and the mother of his children, Kim Porter, were seen leaving the same sex toy/lingerie shop in LA.
Y’all know what’s up. Kim is always ready and willing. So there’s that.
But I’m wondering, now that Cassie has realized that she no longer wants to tolerate Diddy’s philandering, where does she go from here?
First, before we get to her, can we talk about the fact that Diddy let the whole world know that his relationship with Cassie wasn’t monogamous in the first place?
Let’s be real. No one thought Diddy was faithful. I’m sure Cassie even knew the deal. But there is a difference between you and your loved one knowing and understanding the agreement you’ve made. But it’s another thing when the whole world knows you’re actively and consistently cheating on your significant other. It’s tacky. And it would have been nice if Diddy could at least present a symbol of cohesiveness and loyalty toward Cassie by keeping his private love contract out of the public eye. It was almost like he was marketing himself to new women. “Come one, come all! I can offer you a piece of this fourth I’m not giving my main chick.”
But back to Cassie.
For those who aren’t too familiar with her story, she left producer and artist Ryan Leslie to be with Diddy. It was a bit of a grimy situation. But homegirl, for whatever reason, saw an opportunity and she took it.
We all saw the lavish life she lived while on the Bad Boy’s arm. She went on trips, all the parties, slept in his house and there was that one birthday where he blessed her with a stack of money. And during that time, Cassie might have released a couple of singles, modeled for Ciroc and Carol’s Daughter, but, from all appearances, she was mostly employed as his arm candy.
So now that the two have allegedly parted ways, after she has become accustomed to living a certain type of lifestyle, where does she go from here? Does she go back to dating regular dudes, with regular cash flow? I would imagine that it would be intimidating and difficult for another man in the music industry to step to her knowing how influential Diddy can be… and how much he likes to fight.
Furthermore, does she go back to work…whatever that might be? Before she didn’t really have to work with any type of consistency. What happens now?
We were discussing this in the office and said a woman like Cassie had to know that Diddy had no intentions of marrying her. I don’t know if Cassie wanted that for her life. But even if she didn’t, surely she knew this relationship likely wouldn’t last forever.
Did she save enough of that money to be good without him?
Since Diddy knew he was “out here” during a quarter of their relationship–if not more– is there any incentive on his part to take care of her once they are no longer together? Just as a good will gesture for knowingly putting up with his foolishness. Probably not, though the mothers of his children are well taken care of.
Obviously, I have no answers. I was raised not to depend on a man financially. And even if I just so happen to unite my finances with a man, in marriage, I should still have my own on the side just in case. So I’m asking out of sincere curiosity. What does Cassie and kept women like her do in this situation? Either way, she’s still pretty young. She’s got time.
Have you ever had a sugar daddy? If the relationship ended, was it a struggle to adjust to regular life again.
For some reason, I thought Lark Voorhies and her ex husband Jimmy Green were going to handle their divorce privately and quietly. But that doesn’t seem to be the case. Things have taken an ugly turn. And yesterday, when Green posted a picture on Instagram, completely unrelated to his relationship with Lark, she responded with a comment about his smaller than average penis.
Fameolous caught the exchange on Instagram before Jimmy deleted Lark’s comment.
But apparently Lark wasn’t done.
Earlier today, she issued a full statement regarding her six month marriage to Jimmy and why she doesn’t have time for the “bugaboos.”
See what she had to say in one of the most coherent statements we’ve heard from Voorhies in a long time.
Well, well, well.
Tell it all Lark!
Hours after this overshare, Voorhies posted another picture on Instagram saying that her account had been compromised.
Interestingly enough, she didn’t delete the original, offending post.
In the past, listening to Lark Voorhies speak has been an interesting endeavor. It seemed she just plucked words out of the sky and strung them together in confusing sentences. But this letter seemed to be written pretty coherently. Perhaps, now that she’s away from Jimmy, she’s in the care of her mother and she’s getting the help she needs.
It was very clear from the start that Green was attempting to take advantage of Voorhies. And now with him referencing sex tapes, it’s clear that that was indeed the case. Maybe they’re both battling something.
Either way, I hope I don’t see Green do anything to further abuse or take advantage of Voorhies. And if he does, I hope she’s ready for him.
It’s not every day that Erykah Badu sits down for an interview. So we were happy to learn that she recently spoke with “The Breakfast Club” crew. And we all know celebrities often end up keeping it very real with those three. Plus, Badu is not really known for being fraudulent. Anyway, during her sit down she spoke about everything from her son Seven to her clash with Azealia Banks. But what I found most interesting was that she cleared the record and told her side of the story when it came to her breakup with rapper Common. Check out a few highlights from the interview below and watch the full video on the next page.
Clash with Azealia Banks
I think sometimes, if we’re not careful, we can let people instigate us into some kind of weird situation. It’s the people around who are repeating it, retweeting and retweeting. I didn’t even know she was going to read it…That’s the way it is. I was just saying some sh*t really. Now I got some hardcore a$$ b*tch after me. I’m peeping around corners everywhere I go.
On her son Seven
Yeah, he turned 18 on November 18th.
Yee: How protective are you because he worked on your album and he worked with Gwen Stefani but are you really protective of him as your son in this industry?
Not really, no. He’s not really into that kind of thing. He’s a nerd. He’s into studies and computers and things. He’s talented by default and he has exquisite taste.
Envy: But look who his mommy and daddy is. He had to be talented.
He’s an improvement on a design though. He’s next level.
Envy: Was that a true, ‘I’m just going to try this one night, we taping’ or was it a studio…
In rehearsal, a lot of times, we just play around and do stuff. But I didn’t know it was going to turn into “Tyrone.” So the background vocals were prepared because they kind of know the joke. But it just kind of turned into a song. It was totally freestyle.
Yee: You ruined everybody named Tyrone after that.
Erykah: *Chuckles* I know.
Breakup with Common
Yee: He said you called him and said, ‘I don’t want to be with you anymore.’
That’s not true. You know I never got a chance to say anything. I tried to breakup with him so many times. That was the last time.
Envy: It’s hard to break up with a light skinned person, man.
It’s hard. They don’t get it. They don’t understand. They keep coming.
Yee: That is true. You try to break up with some guys and they act like it never happened.
That’s right. He didn’t believe it.
Charlemagne: How many times did you try to break up with him?
Ok, I’m exaggerating a little bit. It was just kind of like, we were growing apart. We hadn’t seen each other in a little while. I told him that I needed space.
Yee: So you tried to do the fade out?
I tried to do the fade out. But I ended up putting myself in a trick bag. But you know, me and Common are still very close too. He’s really sweet. He’s the most compassionate human being I’ve ever met, I think. Very kind…hearted. But it’s all about chemistry, you gotta have chemistry.
Charlemagne: How do you know when it’s up, when the chemistry’s done?
If the chemistry was never there, it was just never there. But you know there’s a process that you take to get to know people. You know, you date people. There’s certain things that are awesome and certain things that really don’t mesh with you. In Common’s case, he’s just awesome all the way around, just the chemistry’s a little different.
Charlemagne: Did he ever be like, ‘What am I supposed to do with all these clothes I bought?’
After two years and one beautiful son together, Halle Berry and Olivier Martinez have decided to end their marriage.
The couple released a joint statement to People earlier today.
“It is with a heavy heart that we have come to the decision to divorce. We move forward with love and respect for one another and the shared focus of what is best for our son. We wish each other nothing but happiness in life and we hope that you respect our and, most importantly, our children’s privacy as we go through this difficult period.”
A source told People that the relationship had simply “run its course” and added that Halle and Oliver are “keeping it amicable now. She is okay.”
The couple met in 2010, on the set of Dark Tide. They married three years later when Halle was pregnant with their son Maceo-Robert.
In addition to undergoing the divorce proceedings for this marriage, Berry is still fighting with ex boyfriend and father to her seven-year-old daughter Nahla.
Good luck to Halle and Olivier both.
“Sometimes People Don’t Live Up To Their Potential” Did Erica Mena Explain Why She Broke Up With Bow Wow?
Call me psychic or whatever but I never thought the relationship between Bow Wow and Erica Mena was going to result in a marriage. Honestly, I initially thought the whole thing was a publicity stunt. But at this point, with the deletion of him from her page, it seems that all signs point to a breakup. Still, it doesn’t really matter.
While I didn’t think they would last, nothing could have prepared me for the way Bow Wow ultimately dogged his fiancée out in the public eye, saying she used her miscarriage to get attention. This is particularly interesting when Bow Wow has repeatedly been found guilty of sticking his nose in places it didn’t belong for shine. It is not only hypocritical, it’s just cruel. I thought dude was corny and self centered, I didn’t realize he was so mean spirited.
But apparently, Erica Mena saw something in him that led her to believe he could be and do better.
Yesterday, she seemed to offer an explanation of the ending of their relationship with a meme and a caption.
As problematic as the images Erica Mena has put forth over the years, this is some mature reasoning. And we’ve all been there. Potential doesn’t mean ambitious or has good work ethic or even a sense of decency.
It’s good that Erica Mena learned this before she walked down the aisle; but it’s really unfortunate that she let Bow Wow’s potential take her away from her reality show, her biggest source of revenue, and move her across the country to L.A. Erica Mena knows how to keep people talking, so I suspect that she’ll bounce back but once again, lesson learned.
I read somewhere, I think on VerySmartBrothas.com, a long time ago that the one thing a woman fears most in a relationship is being made to look like a fool. I don’t know if that’s true for everyone else, but those words struck a chord with me. Probably because I’m an intensely prideful person. Complexes and insecurities aside though, there is something so soul crushing about giving your time, companionship, love and devotion to someone who doesn’t respect, appreciate and return it.
Truth be told, most of us have been there.
At the end of the day though, I believe that most of the good things any of us do in the name of love should not be held against us. Love requires vulnerability.
The difference between us, non-famous folks and celebrities is that if they choose to be open about their relationship, the potential blunders and bad decisions are on display for the world to see. And so now, not only do you, your family and friends know you made a mistake or invested in the wrong person, the world–or as many people who care about your celebrity in the world- do too. We’ve seen it time and time again.
It’s happened so much now that you can almost see it coming. I noticed it with Ciara and Future, with Jordin Sparks and Jason Derulo (when he had her in that “Marry Me” video without a single proposal) and most recently with Sevyn Streeter and B.O.B.
Like most celebrity couples, I thought they were adorable initially. I liked that she was determined to just live her life and share her love with the world.
But things took a left turn when she started talking about their sex life.
It was during an interview with “The Breakfast Club” that Sevyn Streeter proudly proclaimed that she believes that whenever your man wants sex, it’s your duty to give it to him. And the same rules apply to men.
Specifically, she said:
“I think that when you commit to somebody and you take them off the market, right? I think that it is your job as a woman or as a man to– I don’t think you should ever say no. Anal sex I’m not into, but I mean, if you’re tried–‘Oh, I’m tired, I don’t feel like it.’ No. Because at the end of the day, you took that person off the market. They can’t go and be with somebody else because they’re with you. So, don’t you ever say no.”
And as soon as the words sprang from her mouth, I started singing lines from UGK’s “Int’l Players Anthem (I Choose You.)”
“Too soon, don’t do it. Reconsider. Read some literature on the subject.”
I said as much in the original piece I wrote, specifically mentioning the fact that this was quite a privilege to bestow on a boyfriend you’d only been dating for a few months. If you’re always ready and willing, to put it crassly,” to bust it open,” what does he get as the level of commitment grows?
We learned over the weekend that Sevyn and B.O.B. are no more, not because they released a statement or a source spilled the tea; but because B.O.B., channeling his inner Petty Wap, jumped on Instagram to alert the world to his new single status.
A class act.
But it didn’t stop there. When people inquired about the reason for the break up, speculating that it was infidelity on his part, he took to Twitter to defend himself.
I don’t know their situation or the agreements they made. But if Sevyn was breaking him off every time he asked and said that he had the right to cheat if she wasn’t able to have sex with him, why would she be cool with him sleeping with other women? She was already giving so much, arguably too much.
But that’s not even the biggest issue here. When we go through breakups, we assume that the person is going to move on to someone else eventually. We just hope and maybe even assume that perhaps they’ll do it with some tact as to not hurt our feelings any further. Bobby Ray is just not doing that. And that’s disappointing.
As much as Sevyn admitted doing for him, publicly, he couldn’t even spare her feelings by keeping his elation at being single and his recent sexual conquests off of the internet.
I don’t know if homeboy was wearing a mask, but this is the type of man who never deserved those privileges in the first place. And it hurts me to know that Sevyn Streeter, who seems like a lovely and compassionate woman, got involved with such a troll.
I’m not writing this to tell women what they should and shouldn’t do with their bodies. At the end of the day, it’s not really about the sex. It’s about bending over backwards, doing too much for people who aren’t worthy. I’ve done that time and time again and sex wasn’t even on the table. The outcome is the same, you end up feeling used and foolish.
There are far too many men who are so quick to present women with a list of demands. They want a woman who cooks, who gives good head, who will support his dreams, who doesn’t nag, who enjoys sports, but won’t talk during the game etc etc. But these same men are often the ones who have a hard time telling you what they have to offer in return, aside from a little bit of money, if they have even that.
Again, I’m not giving any woman any advice because life and love don’t follow any particular rules; but these celebrity relationships teach quite a few lessons about privileges, character and public proclamations. All the ladies in the place (with style and grace) should be paying close attention.