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“Catfish” has had two seasons of some of the most outrageous reality on TV and we can’t wait for the new episode to air tonight. Online dating can be dangerous and we’ve got 15 reasons why you should be sure you know who you’re talking to before things go any further, thanks to the lessons we’ve learned from these Catfish episodes.
Last week’s episode of Catfish had the internets going nuts. If you recall, Keyonnah thought she was in a relationship with rapper Bow Wow. After the episode aired on MTV, Bow Wow issued a very arrogant, unsympathetic response. In the midst of fawning over himself, he did manage to invite Keyonnah and Dee Pimpin, the woman who was pretending to be Bow Wow, to “106 & Park.”
They had that meeting yesterday on the show. And it was quite entertaining.
From the moment she hit the stage, Bow Wow presented her with flowers and a hug that Keyonnah let linger. After being embarrassed on national television, she was not shy.
“We flew you in, we did the hair up. We got your makeup right. That’s how a real fella is supposed to treat a lady.”
Keyonnah explained why she’s been such a Bow Wow fan since she was 9 years old. It was almost too hard to watch as she listed all the things that contribute to Bow Wow’s appeal. His eyes, his hair when he had. She said she likes that he is “out here and ’bout it.” And Bow soaked up every last bit of it.
“You really thought that was your boy?”
She said she was skeptical at first but then when Dee Pimpin started sending money, she assumed he was the one.
And then… Dee Pimpin’ came out boppin’ like she was accepting an award that day. After Bow Wow told her not to scam any women in New York, he asked Dee why she decided to imitate him.
Bow Wow: “It was so many celebrities that you could have been. It’s a lot of other guys in the game who have strong, female fan bases as well. You could have been Trey, you could have been Drizzy Drake, you could have been Chris Brown. But you picked Bow Weezy.
Dee: Bow Wizzle!
Bow Wow: What made you say that I’m gon’ be Bow Wow?
Dee: A lot of kids they called me you, when I was younger. Cuz I had the afro and I was doing music at a younger age. So I kinda fell into your path and tried to walk your steps.
Then they played this cute little trivia game where Dee Pimpin’ answered questions about Bow. Check out the videos on the next page and then the video of Dee and Keyonnah answered questions from Instagram followers.
If you’re a fan of MTV’s hit show, “Catfish,” then you know that last night’s episode was a doozy. The short of it is that a woman, Keyonnah, believed she was in an online relationship with rapper Bow Wow. Now, before we start wondering about homegirl’s intelligence level, there were a few signs that could lead a naive and desperate person to believe that Bow Wow really was talking to her. For instance, “Bow Wow” messaged her after she left a note on his Facebook fan page and throughout the course of their relationship sent her $10k. Perhaps if Keyonnah followed the news, she would have known that Bow Wow could barely afford to make his child support payments. So there was no way he should have been sending a random fan, a stranger $10k.
So by the end of the episode, Keyonnah meets the person who’s been masquerading as Bow Wow. And lo and behold it’s a woman, a lesbian, named “Dee Pimpin.” Crazy, right? (If you haven’t seen the episode, you MUST watch.) The craziest thing about the meeting was that Dee believed she and Keyonnah would still have a chance. I mean, sure she wasn’t a man and had lied to her but she had a really life-like, lambskin dildo that she was gon’ use to turn Keyonnah out. LOL you can not make this stuff up.
Needless to say, Keyonnah is devastated. Not only did Dee lie about the nature of their relationship, she had her male cousin, Larry speak to her on the phone so she could be listening to a male voice. She was embarrassed, betrayed and disgusted by the whole situation. And even though we, the viewing audience, all knew that Bow Wow was not going to be on the other side of the door, I still felt for her. I mean dude was her childhood crush, c’mon.
So after the episode airs, Bow Wow and BET, in a move to rightly capitalize off of the episode release a video reaction to the episode centered all around him. I’m including the video, but let me just pull out a few highlights.
“The new thing is this “Catfish” situation. Let’s talk about how somebody is actually impersonating me. Now, first of all that’s a hard thing to do. Just look at me, you can’t impersonate this. These eyes, these ain’t contacts. You can’t buy these and put these in your eyes to think that you’re Bow Wow. These tattoos on my body, these is permanent. You can’t draw these on. It’s only one. It can only be one, not two but one. And that’s me. So how do I feel about being “Catfished?” Well, I feel honored. It’s dope and it’s flattering when someone wants to be you. And not only do they want to be you. In their mind, they are you. That’s crazy. But I like it. It’s free promo for myself, for BET, for ’106 & Park’.”
Then he invites Keyonnah and Dee Pimpin to come to “106 & Park” and meet him and discuss the whole thing.
“But we gon’ do it on my time though, on our network though and on our show. I mean ya’ll did take all our pictures from our show and used them. You want to holla at Bow Weezy, come to 106. “Catfish,” it is what it is.”
I’m sorry, was I the only one expecting a little compassion from Bow Wow instead of him taking this comical, yet sad situation to further promote himself? Did he not realize that he was not the one being catfished? Where was the message to the girl who actually believed she was meeting him, who had been a fan of his since childhood? Did he have any sympathy for her? Did he feel sorry that someone would use his image and images of his daughter to take advantage of another person? I guess not. Instead, he spent far too many seconds talking about his eyes and tattoos.
I’m not gonna lie, I’ve seen Bow Wow up close and homeboy, though severely short (like 5’2), is very easy on the eyes. But listening to this video nearly turns my stomach. He sounds like he never matured past the days when girls were throwing their training bras on stage during those Scream tours. And I get it, you got a lot of play back in the day; and maybe still to this day, but where is the humility? You need it.
And on another note, can we talk about this grown man’s lack of knowledge about the company he actually works for? He seems to have taken issue with the fact that MTV used images from “106 & Park.” That’s right, they did. But Bow, I need you to do some research. Both MTV and BET are owned by Viacom. They didn’t steal anything. They just moved those images over from one server to the next. Stop it.
Bow Wow’s only saving grace is that perhaps he didn’t see the full episode and therefore couldn’t comprehend the devastation and embarrassment Keyonnah felt when she realized her online love was not the man she envisioned, she wasn’t even a man. Perhaps after he’s seen the episode, if he hasn’t seen it, he’ll have something more to actually say to her and not continue talking about himself.
Check out the video on the next page.
It was heartbreak and cruelty on the latest episode of “Catfish: The TV Show” when 18-year-old Aaliyah finally met her online love of the past 10 months. For nearly a year, she’d been in a relationship with Alicia, who only lived 70 blocks away. But the two had never met.
Over the course of their relationship, Aaliyah had sent Alicia a total of $600, plus an iPhone. She also paid for the phone’s service, despite the fact that Aaliyah was struggling financially herself. So Nev Schulman and Max Joseph did what they do and discovered that at least Alicia was who she said she was. She just wasn’t in love with Aaliyah. She wasn’t even a lesbian.
“All I have to say, girl, is if I wanted to meet you, we stay in the same city! I would’ve made that happen,” Alicia told Aaliyah. She admitted that it had all been a con to get money out of Aaliyah. When Aaliyah was struggling to understand what she was hearing, Alicia started laughing in her face. “Oh my God,” she said. “It was a lie. What?”
“Do you know you ruined my life?” Aaliyah asked, but Alicia only laughed harder. After that, Aaliyah broke down in tears while Alicia continued to laugh.
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The thirst is real out here. And just when you though Manti T’eo was the only famous face tricked by Internet trolls, it seems that even Hollywood actors can easily get caught up. Just ask Criminal Minds star, Thomas Gibson.
You’ve probably also seen Gibson’s face as Greg on the sitcom Dharma & Greg, but he’s known these days for playing quiet-spoken but damn-good-at-his-job FBI detective Aaron Hotchner on the CBS hit Criminal Minds. According to TMZ, the actor, married and 51, was contacted by a young woman online two years ago. Using the picture of a half-dressed to pretend it was her, instead of just saying “Thanks!” and going about his business, Gibson started communicating regularly with the woman.
As time passed she sent more explicit pictures (of the same nameless adult video star) and videos to him, and in turn, he sent her pictures and the above video too. In it, Gibson can be seen in a hot tub talking about a whole lot of nothing and doing so quietly, probably because his wife was somewhere nearby wondering what the hell he was doing…(and yes he has clothes on by the way). By the end of the video you’re just shaking your head in embarrassment at the guy for getting played and playing himself so much.
Anywho, according to TMZ, the woman, who still didn’t want to be named or send out a real photo of herself to TMZ, grew feelings for Gibson. But he somehow figured out that she wasn’t who she claimed to be and that her photos were not truly of herself. Gibson ended up having his lawyer send a letter to the woman a few months ago telling her to stop contacting him, and well, she sent this video to TMZ as payback. When a woman is scorned, she’ll embarrass your life, but then again, he probably should have kept his camera, and his steamy hot tub scenes to himself. Dude…you’re married.
Check out the video above for yourself and let us know what you think of the actor getting caught getting “Catfished.”
I was walking home from work one day last summer when I noticed a pretty nice Audi in a flashy tangerine color pull up behind me before a guy rolled down the window and said, “I bet you don’t even remember who I am.” Only I did; it was *Ahmad, a guy I had dated in the eighth grade, and from the looks of it, he was doing pretty well for himself. I don’t even know if it’s fair to say we dated since back then dating consisted of walks home from school and sneaking him out of the back door before my father got off work. It was the definition of puppy love which, lasted a good month or so before I was on to the next heartbreak.
After a few minutes of catching up and him burning a hole through my clothes with his eyes, he handed me a mixtape that had him on the cover posing on a Mercedes in a gold chain with something like Streets, Love and Life scribbled across the top. We exchanged numbers. Although I was getting to know another guy, I didn’t mind catching up with him, although he probably wanted to take more than a walk down memory lane with me. But then he did something that I think is a first degree felony of dating: He text me.
Maybe I’m old-school but I really, really can’t stand meeting a guy and giving him my number only for him to hit me up a few hours later like, “What you up to today?” via text message. For teens this might be acceptable, but for anyone over the age of 21, this is a no-no. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with text-a-thons with a guy who knows me well enough to know that “Hmmm” doesn’t translate into, “You’re trifling and I’m going to two piece your dome the next time I see you,” but it’s just simply something I write because I don’t know what else to say. Sending a text as your first means ever of communication gets placed right next to poking me on Facebook, or DM’ing me on Twitter on some, “Damn you look good baby.” For lack of better words, it’s nutty, and I can’t respect a grown man who thinks he is doing the damn thing by trying to pursue me via touchscreen.
Dating should never begin via texting or social networking. It leaves too many opportunities for mixed messages when people who barely know each other attempt to read in between the lines of communication. We spend so much time hiding behind our smartphones and then wonder why the Terrence Howard look-a-like we met online resembles T-Pain in real life. In our effort to make communication easier and more convenient, I think we’ve actually made it harder. A text message can’t convey that slight inflection that happens when you know someone is blushing on the other end. When you’re texting I can’t hear those five kids you forgot to tell me about in the background or your girlfriend yelling at you to not forget to take her Yorkie-Poo for a walk when you get off work. Text messages leave women waiting for hours at a time thinking they said the wrong thing when the guy really just forgot to say he’s about to head to the gym and can’t talk.
I feel like we’re moving backwards. I was so happy when I reached grown-woman status and had the confidence to approach a man without having to hide behind a “Do you like me? Check Yes or No” note. I also know the fellas may feel like they can’t win; if we’re not telling them that groping us and saying, “Damn shawty, you bad as hell,” isn’t an effective pick up approach, we’re telling them it’s lame to get their virtual mack on. The thing is, we’re making the pick-up process far more complicated than it has to be. I’ve definitely said some things that were better left in my head due to the accessibility of a “overshare” button. Getting to know someone new is hard enough; we don’t need Autocorrect making dating more embarrassing than it has to be. We’re wasting so much time catfishing and thirst-trapping and putting a million emojis where a simple, “Hey, so tell me about yourself” will suffice.
Texting has some benefits. In the past I’ve appreciated the thought I had to put into something before I texted that otherwise would have spilled from my mouth and hurt someone unintentionally. And some of the hardest conversations to have actually end up going a lot more smoothly through text because people feel better texting things that are difficult to say in person. But an SMS message can never take the place of a good, old in the flesh, heart-to-heart. Most problems in relationships begin with miscommunication or the lack of it, but by setting the tone initially by relying on a cell phone signal to say how we feel, it’s only a matter pf time before anything not followed by a LOL :-) is taken the wrong way.
*Name changed for privacy
Toya Sharee is a community health educator and parenting education coordinator who has a passion for helping young women build their self-esteem and make well-informed choices about their sexual health. She also advocates for women’s reproductive rights and blogs about everything from beauty to love and relationships. Follow her on Twitter @TheTrueTSharee or visit her blog, Bullets and Blessings. -
It used to be that you made friends in school or job settings, through mutual contacts, and even at parties. But thanks to the digital revolution—which did make our lives easier, more open, and, frankly, weirder—almost everyone is now glued to their computers and smart phones.
It’s become more common to form friendships with anonymous faces and to rekindle old relationships (platonic and otherwise) online. Whether you actively sought out to expand your social circle that way or it just happened, I wonder: Where does the line get drawn between real friends and online friends?
I’m often amazed that people have hundreds of Facebook friends or Twitter/Instagram followers and question whether or not they actually know all those people, much less consider them real friends. There’s no way to know, however, since these days the line between friend and acquaintance is blurrier than ever. The definition of friend is subjective, but I think everyone would say someone you talk to or see fairly regularly.
Catfish craziness aside, a lot of people have never actually met some folks they are “friends” with, but developed enough of a camaraderie online that they are now buddies. I recall a time when I spent a lot of free time in chat rooms while away in college. This was the mid-’90s and I’d just become acquainted with the concept of email and communicating with faceless strangers in themed virtual discussion areas. There were a few regulars I “bonded” with and a few years later, actually met in person. To this day, I am still cool with one of them and, yes, consider him an actual friend. But can I say that about the 100+ people listed as my friends on Facebook? Nope. That’s not taking anything away from the connection I have with them; the majority of them I really do know and have interacted in person with at some point in my life—it’s just that I wouldn’t call all of them up now to shoot the breeze.
That said, there’s a phenomenon going around lately where people are throwing get-togethers and inviting their entire Facebook friend list, which I just don’t understand. It used to be that receiving a party invitation was special; it felt good to know that someone thought enough of you as a person to want you at their event, along with other carefully selected people. But lately I’m just one of a few hundred “specially invited” guests on the list, and that doesn’t feel good. Call me old-fashioned, but I like to be in the company of people I actually know and have communicated with sometime in the past year.
So to the savvy people of the social media world, I ask who really are your friends?
Online dating has become the way of the world when it comes to finding love in a non-conventional way and with the increase of dating websites, it’s no surprise that so many people participate in this new romance trend nowadays. Though online dating has become the new norm, it really isn’t for everyone. Here are 14 signs that the online route just isn’t quite right for you.
If You Put It Down Maybe You Can Fall In Love: How Your Cell Phone & Computer Ruin Your Relationships
It’s 2:00 in the afternoon and since I woke up this morning I’ve managed to text two people, e-mail six, read over thirty tweets and Facebook statuses, visit four blogs but actually interact with not a single living, breathing being but my Pitbull Boxer mix.
If you’re like me your iPhone may as well be an extension of one of your limbs. (Well actually I’m still Team Blackberry, but you get my drift.) There’s very little many of us do without consulting our cell phone first. They keep us company and from looking like a complete social outcast when we are in an unfamiliar situation; you can only be so awkward when you are too busy being updated by @Uberfacts, right? (I don’t know about you but I feel a little bit cooler since learning that you are more likely to be killed by a vending machine than you are to hit the Mega Millions jackpot.) Because of cell phones instead of actually doing paperwork at my job, I can first text my bestie and repeatedly tell her how much I am not looking forward to all of the paperwork I have to do. And let’s not forget the greatest gift that Apple technology has offered mankind: I can share every thought that goes through my head with millions of strangers as well as post pictures of the incredibly “savory” meal I am about to eat while thinking it, only to realize the next day what I thought sounded so profound was actually kind of dumb and I actually meant nauseating when I take a look at the savory meal I posted.
I’m being sarcastic obviously, but the truth is technology has “conveniently” given us more time and opportunities to ruin perfectly good relationships, as if we weren’t doing a great enough job before the world was blessed with Apple products. We’re far past butt dials and accidentally texting the person you’re talking smack about. People are single handedly ruining their relationships (and careers) thanks to screen grabs, sub-tweeting and “leaked” pics. I confess there are times when I can’t imagine what I did before the people closest to me were a mere ten digits away at any given time. What did people do when they caught flat tires in the middle of the interstate late at night before cell phone towers? And beyond safety, I appreciate that social networking sites give me the perfect amount of connection I want to have to people in high school that weren’t in my circle, but I still care enough about to congratulate them on their first born. But I’d be lying if I didn’t say social in-the-flesh interaction hasn’t taken a severe hit from the digital world. At their worst, cell phones have made the otherwise shy into complete hermits who confuse stalking with flirting.
If any of the following apply to you, your cell phone could be ruining your relationship, one text at a time: