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In every circle of girlfriends, there’s the one who has it together, the one everyone looks up to. She reminds of you Shanté Smith, Vivica A. Fox’s character in Two Can Play That Game. Perhaps that is you. She keeps it together for everyone, doling out valuable advice, providing moral support.
Then you have that one friend, the one who is full of lofty ideas and crazy notions. She’s like Lynn Searcy on “Girlfriends,” always chasing the next big dream. One day she wants to be a teacher. The next day, she wants to become a PR maven and start her own public relations firm. Just as you think she’s found something she can settle into, she tells you she wants to be a chef. Soon, she’s off to something else. Being the loyal friend that you are, you listen to her talk about her grandiose visions. You see the sparkle in her eyes and you share in her excitement initially. You watch as she puts her all into the latest idea, only to watch her interest fizzle. But after she’s gone through a dozen great ideas, you begin to wonder, will she ever get it together? In the middle of one of your conversations, you just want to shake her and say “Get it together, girl!” You don’t know how much more of this you can take. What are you supposed to do?
It would be easy to ignore your friend and all her fickle ideas, but that’s the wrong thing to do. A supportive girlfriend is there for all the ups and downs, ebbs and flows in her friend’s life. She’s there to cheer her on, and to offer encouragement and guidance when needed. So despite all the changes, all of the frustration, as a real friend you have no choice: be there for her.
You don’t have to co-sign every idea, or listen to every idea that spins off on its own tangent. But you know your friend; you know what she’s capable of. You know what she’s good at. Certainly, during some conversation over coffee or at happy hour, she’s bounced a realistic idea off of you. Maybe it was something she mentioned briefly. As a supportive friend, you should steer her in that direction. Help her connect with people and resources that will give her the support she needs to follow through on this one true idea.
The next time your friend starts telling you about her latest outlandish venture, don’t just roll your eyes and nod your head. Stop her and give her a reality check. Don’t crush her. Just help her keep her dreams in perspective. Maybe that idea she has to start a cupcake business would make for a great side hustle eventually. But for now, help her focus on career opportunities that are stable and profitable.
If all else fails, then it’s time to set limits. Tell your friend that you will continue to be there for her, but that you can’t continue on her career roller coaster ride. As harsh as it might sound, setting limits on your friendship will help preserve it. Real friends are there for each other in crisis, so if your girlfriend finds herself in such a situation, you know you will be there for her.
It isn’t impossible to keep your friendship in tact and keep your sanity at the same time. It’s just a matter of setting limits and expectations. But at a time when your friend seems the most vulnerable and confused about her future (or his), I wouldn’t recommend bailing on them now. Remind them of their passions, the things they are truly good at to help them get off on the right foot, but when all else fails, an attentive ear and some understanding always helps.
Most of us want to get paid more for our work. Unfortunately for most of us, we don’t know how to do it. Companies are crying broke and strained finances and you probably feel as though you’re lucky to simply have a job. But if you’re tired of being taken for granted and working for someone else, perhaps it’s time for you to jump out on your own as a consultant or a freelancer. Forbes offers three tips to help you get there and to help you get paid more than you’ve been making on your regular 9-5. But be forewarned: these tips are not for everyone. These tips are for the woman ready to make a change in her life and ready to take the necessary, somewhat scary steps to see a turnaround in her career.
First things first, get downsized. Surprisingly enough, your steady paycheck may be what’s hindering you from earning more money. It becomes so easy to rely on that one regular stream of income that you may stop looking for ways to earn more and to be more. Steady paychecks stop you from finding what truly makes you happy because you fear losing it.
Turn down work. This tip goes hand in hand with having standards for the value of your time and abilities. As the article states, be shrewd. Don’t take jobs that don’t pay enough and don’t take jobs that won’t end in regular assignments. If a job will have you working with someone you extremely dislike, don’t take that job either. Again it will be difficult, but when you begin to focus on getting work that pays wells and provides you with regular income, you will better target what you want to do and get paid for it.
The third tip will be the hardest to perform for some: be an asshole. Be a jerk! As sad as it may sound, women must be tough to get what they want in this world. Being firm and unwavering on how much you expect to get paid is what will lead you to getting paid twice as much as you used to make. America is a capitalist society and you’re not in business to make friends or be nice, you’re in business to make money.
Before you decide to take on any of these tips, think carefully. The road to success will not be easy. A life without risks and challenges may feel comfortable, but it’s the risk takers that find true fulfillment in life.
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There is no better way to prepare for a big change in career than to do your research. Just make sure you’re getting your information from reputable sources. Check with the professional organization for that industry and any schools that train people going into that industry. These organizations will have credible information about breaking into that field and open the door to even more sources of information.
Find a Mentor.
At some point, you have to get off the Internet and go do something in person. Find someone in the industry who is interested in helping a newbie get started. Most people are happy to help someone with a genuine passion for their industry. Again, make sure it’s someone reputable in the field who you can trust to mold you.
Act Like You’re Already There.
Everyone’s heard that age old advice “Dress like you already have the job you want.” Well, if you’re trying to change careers, it should be more like “Live like you already have the job you want.” That doesn’t mean you should start spending money like you’re a lawyer or doctor already. It means that if there are networking opportunities for your new industry, start going to them now. Dress like you’re already entered your new career now when you’re networking or meeting with your mentor. If your new career requires a certain exercise regime or physical activity, start working on it now.