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“What Are You Going To Do About Your Hair?” My Boss Is Policing My Blackness

July 22nd, 2016 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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It’s Friday! And I for one am happy to see the weekend. Between annoying co-workers, faulty equipment and a micromanaging boss, the workweek can start to look like a never-ending reel from Office Space. But imagine dealing with the usual disappointments of a 9-to-5 job while working in an environment where not only your wardrobe, but your very blackness is being policed.

Like most professional women, you become acutely aware of the environment in which you work in and tailor your wardrobe accordingly. For some, its corporate chic. For others? Business casual. Mine, or at least my interpretation of it, falls somewhere in between. You see, I work in the design field and naturally, I work in a space constantly filled with a lot of eclectic colors and patterns, and varying aesthetics. My clients do vary from gaudy to “Chanel” chic, and I do my best to maintain a healthy balance between trying to appear approachable to the two. With that being said, you could probably understand my disgust with my employer, who on a pretty consistent basis insists that she gets to dictate what I wear and how. And while I understand that as my employer, she has the right to instruct employees on how to dress appropriately, there’s a difference between being reprimanded for dressing garish and from head to toe, being considered “too much.”

To give you some context, when I was being interviewed for the job, I had on a chambray shirt, a statement skirt and heels. My hair is natural and at the time of the interview, the top of it was dyed blond. At no point did this seem to be an issue, seeing as I was hired shortly thereafter. There was never an established or written down company policy on dress code and the like. And as the weeks went by, I never really changed my “work uniform” and was even told I could relax a bit and dress in jeans if I wanted to.

Fast forward a few weeks into fall 2015, and I recall wearing a teal sweater with jeans and flats, the most basic combination of them all. I was told that maybe I “would want to tone down the colors” in my outfit. I pressed further, curious as to what exactly the issue was, and I was basically told that if my work attire were all black, it would be best for the office. I let it go, despite the fact that none of this was stated to me upon initial hire.

As the months went by, my hair and the color in it began to grow out. One would say that my afro was flourishing. I have a tapered afro, and keep it pretty well maintained. One day, while mid-conversation with my employer, I was asked, “What are you going to do about your hair?” Perplexed, I asked what she meant by that. To which she responded, with inflated hand gestures on both sides of her head, “It’s growing out. Are you going to do anything about it?” I wasn’t sure what I was more insulted by — the audacity to say that to another person, or the privilege that comes with such ignorance.

On another separate instance I mentioned that I wanted to get my hair braided. I was told that braids were too “out there” for the environment we work in and that she was “just getting used” to my hair in its current state. And she’s also made comments about my body from time to time. Including one instance where I told her about going to the gym with a former boyfriend and how I was doing strength training. I am a curvy woman with some hips, thighs, butt and breasts, so her response was that I should be careful not to get “any bigger” than I am now.

As I’ve worked at this job, I’ve become very aware of the fact that not only is my appearance but my very blackness being critiqued all of the time. From the microaggressions about what colors “best suit my complexion,” the shape of my body, the color and length of my nails, the absence of color in my hair, and the very way my hair grows, it has become a toxic work environment. In a perfect world for my boss, I would look like “Morticia Addams” every weekday and all would be well. But I can’t. I’m a dark-skinned, shapely Black woman with an afro and she just can’t take it. In the America we live in, a country filled with people hell-bent on policing what it means to be Black, especially a Black woman, my workweek is just another emotional battlefield I have to wade through.

Have any of you experienced any of this in the workplace? How do you address it to be able to make it through the week?

Fake It ‘Til You Make It: Ways You Can Appear Smarter Without Having To Open A Book

June 17th, 2016 - By Meg Butler
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If you look at yourself in the mirror right now, on a scale of one to 10, just how intelligent do you appear? Everyone wants to put their best foot forward at business meetings and in interviews, and the smarter you appear, the better off you will be in those situations. With that in mind, we did the research to find out how to you can make that happen. As it turns out, it’s about more than reading the thickest novels and wearing the most interesting pair of glasses. These unexpectedly easy habits you can integrate into your daily routine go a long way to help you impress other people with your wisdom.

Are Blogging Courses “Predatory”?

April 15th, 2016 - By Lauren McEwen
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Brittany Melton of Dear Minerva Web Design

Brittany Melton of Dear Minerva Web Design

If you follow any growing or aspiring bloggers on Twitter, you’ve probably seen tweets about blogging webinars, online courses or blog planners some time in the past year. It’s all part of one of the fastest growing trends in the blogosphere in which established bloggers offer educational products, leveraging their expertise to help others and increase their own profits in the process.

This can be a win-win, allowing new bloggers to get precious information about the trickier aspects of blogging, while providing established bloggers with new opportunities to pull in revenue. However, new bloggers must also be careful to make sure that any course they pay for is both appropriate for someone at their skill-level and being offered by a blogger who is actually trying to provide a quality service, instead of just looking for a quick payday.

Those are two of the major points of web designer/blogger Brittany Melton’s recent Twitter thread about blogging courses and online coaching.

“If you have no audience/niche/content, stop worrying about design/lead magnets/conversions/monetization. Stop. You’re wasting valuable time,” Melton tweeted, going on to write that worrying about an “invisi-audience” was “shooting yourself in the foot” and that beginners need to be wary of taking courses that are inappropriate for their skill-level.

“It’s our responsibility as seasoned bloggers to share this information. Unfortunately too many of us are turning to predatory practices,” Melton wrote, explaining that she was tired of the “hustle,” from for-pay courses on Mailchimp and “make $1000+ in a day” offers. (The entire thread is worth a read.)

In a recent interview, Melton explained that two things made her realize that certain bloggers were becoming predators. The first was a Google Hangout webinar on Pinterest she signed up for one weekend.

“I joined the newsletter and watched the webinar and it was great. Well, a month later I got a newsletter from the same blogger that said, ‘Hey, join my webinar to learn how I made x amount of money in this weekend’…and it was the exact same webinar,” says Melton.

The following month, she received another differently worded email offering a link to the exact same webinar.

“I was like, ‘Wait a minute. Are you really using my information to constantly get me to pay for the program at the end of your webinar? You’re not giving me new information. You don’t even know that I exist. At this point, I’m literally just a number. Is that all you’re using my information for?’”

She thought it might have been a “fluke,” but then she saw more and more people coming out with courses and webinars this year. Although they all seem okay on the surface, Melton noticed a few tweets that made her start to question a few people’s motives.

“There have been multiple instances where I’ve been on Twitter, thinking about registering for X, Y and Z’s webinar and they’re talking about how they’re going to be getting coin with the webinar or how they need to do such and such to get more people on the list because it’s all about those coins,” says Melton.

Brooke Erin Duffy. (credit: Michael J. Duffy)

Brooke Erin Duffy. (credit: Michael J. Duffy)

A week before her self-described rant, she saw a prominent blogger tweet that they didn’t like the look of their brand, but it was what people paid them forand they were going to do whatever it took to get the money.

“That crushed me. At that point, I was angry, I was upset, and I was like, ‘OK, well, I can’t let this happen,’” says Melton, explaining that she thought about beginners trying to decide between taking a $97 blogging course versus paying their light bill, for example.

“There’s no way I’m going to let them ‘take a risk and invest in themselves’ for someone that’s a predatorfor someone that, at this point in the game, no longer cares about the original purpose for their blog. All they care about is the money,” she says.

After her rant, Melton noticed some bloggers changing the wording of their course advertisements in order to make it seem like a beginner course, even though it was the exact same product.

“At the end of the day, these bloggers are marketers now. They know that you need to get people in their funnel and once they’re in the funnel, you need to romance them for a specific amount of time and then you’re going to ask for entry-level amount of money. And then, once they’ve sent that money, you’re going to ask for another amount of money. And then, eventually, they’ll pay you $1500 to mentor them. That’s a marketing funnel,” she says.

“It breaks my heart at this point because it’s gotten to the point where it’s so many really big bloggers that I used to admire that have started being predators, and if some of us don’t step up and say, ‘Hey, you’re doing this wrong and it’s unfair and this isn’t why you started your blog a few years ago,’ then it’s not going to change.” 

Being vocal has already helped some of Melton’s followers. After her Twitter rant, she got direct messages from people saying things like, “I was about to register for this class and now I need to sit and think about it.”

“That’s why I use the words that I use,” Melton says. “Something has to change and there’s a lot of bloggers who have the expertise but we’re not really sharing it from a beginner’s standpoint when we should be.”

Melton started offering her own course, #Flourish30, in late February, hoping to offer resources that can help both beginners and bloggers who are switching niches. The month-long program consists of five daily assignments to help encourage consistency, plus one additional assignment to help each user develop their expertise.

Rather than worrying about design or monetization, Melton suggests that beginners pick a clean blogging template and focus on doing three things every day: writing, networking and self-promotion.

“Those are the three building blocks that can make or break how quickly you can monetize and how quickly you can build a large audience and a newsletter and things like that. If you can master those things, then everything comes relatively quickly, thanks to social media.”

When just starting out, Melton advises going on a 30-day “information fast,” rather than join any trendy webinars or master classes. “Focus on creating content without being swayed over what type of content you should be creating.” Instead, she advises using that time to figure out exactly what you want to write about and what works best with your schedule.

“For aspiring bloggers, there seems to be a huge market for professionalization opportunities from conferences to webinars to online resources,” writes Brooke Erin Duffy, Assistant Professor in the Department of Advertising at Temple University in an email.

Duffy took a few of these programs while doing research for her upcoming book, “Aspirational Labor: Women and Creative Work in an Age of Social Media.”

“…while they can be tremendously beneficial, they also require a considerable investment in bloggers’ time, energy, and money. This leaves the playing field for these aspiring blogging professionals highly uneven,” Duffy writes.

Many aspiring bloggers turn to blogger-led programs because the information isn’t readily available at four-year institutions which can’t keep up with the pace of innovation because changes in curriculum have to first go through an approval process.

“Blogger-taught programs seem to address this gap by bringing in those with expert professional skills. Unfortunately, this means that young people are forced to shoulder the burden of additional educational expenses (in addition to college tuition) by enrolling in these programs,” writes Duffy.

So, what should you look for before committing to taking a paid course? How do you determine what kinds of skills you need to learn at this stage of your blogging career, and how to do you make sure that you’re giving your money to someone who is committed to offering a good course not just the money?

Mattie James’ blog, Mattieologie, started as a personal style blog, but in the past 12 months, she’s been producing a steady stream of content about the business of blogging, including regular Periscope broadcasts, podcast episodes and blog posts. She launched her own program, The Consistency Course, in August.

She says she’s always been transparent with her followers and was willing to answer business-related questions left in the comments under her Instagram photos or blog posts. Once Periscope launched, she began consistently giving blog tips and noticed that people seemed to be “starving” for this content.

“I liked talking about it because I am passionate about it, so I said, ‘Let me make my first course.’ I did that and it was successful and I’ve just been doing that ever since with the balance of working with the brands and creating content as an influencer,” says James.

James’s Consistency Course is designed to teach content creators to “post, profit and promote consistently” because “that’s pretty much what the issue is.”

Mattie James. (credit: Kaye McCoy for Mattieologie)

Mattie James. (credit: Kaye McCoy for Mattieologie)

“The Consistency Course teaches you the processes you need to be consistent which are: automate, delegate and operate. If you do not do those three things, you cannot be consistent. It’s impossible,” says James.

She says new bloggers should focus first one what they want to talk about and “share with the world.” “We usually consume content that either entertains us or educates us and if it can do both, that’s awesome,” she says.

When choosing a course, she advises starting with someone’s free content first. “I would not pay for something from anybodyan online course, e-book, whateverif that person has not blown you away on a consistent basis,” she says.

She also thinks that people need to pay attention to what someone is teaching you to do versus what they are doing themselves. “What a lot of people also tend to do is take information that they’ve learned and try to regurgitate that into their own content, but you can’t teach me what you haven’t already done. That’s not how this works here,” says James.

Melton advises that beginners pay attention to the way a course advertisement is worded as well. “In most cases, anything that involves mailing lists isn’t for a beginner. Anything involving making money in one weekend, that’s not for a beginner either. You have to have an audience first,” she says.

She also suggests asking for casual reviews from people who have taken their courses before.

“Generally, if people call something ‘good information,’ they’re not using it. It was really nicely worded and they appreciate it, but they can’t use it,” says Melton.

James agrees with Melton’s point that seasoned bloggers should provide beginners with information when asked.

“I think especially if it’s in your audience and this is someone who generally supports you and is trying to grow their blog as well. I think it’s worth being transparent and giving them the truth,” says James.

Outside of obeying confidentiality agreements or being discreet with people’s personal information, James says she’s “never really understood why people are secretive about their opportunities.”

“I think people are coming from a place of lack and think that sharing information about opportunities is going to take that opportunity from them and I feel like that couldn’t be further from the truth. It just creates more opportunities for all of us,” says James.

“I always say that free content is the what and the why. Paid content is the how.”

Women Help Companies Save Millions By Booking Travel Plans In Advance

April 14th, 2016 - By Lauren R.D. Fox
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In a recent study, Harvard Business Review (HBR) found men and women exhibit different travel habits that have a huge influence on how much money travel companies save. By reviewing 6.4 million flight bookings from 2014, HBR studied the behavior women and men exhibit when purchasing flights and the differences were pretty major.

Based on their observations, HBR noted that women travelers help travel companies save (on average) $1 million by booking trips two days before men. And according to HBR, “those two days add up.”

“We calculated the average per-ticket price difference attributable to gender. The uncontrolled result — just looking at the overall average difference in ticket costs — was more than $113 per ticket. However, that number doesn’t take into account the differences between men and women in the routes they commonly take, differences in class usage or disparities in when travel happened.”

When the researchers controlled for those factors, they found that women save about $17 per trip, or about 2% of the average ticket price. “For a multi-national company with 21,000 travelers, those two extra booking days can yield $1 million in savings,” HBR reported.

We’re not sure you really care about saving a company money but this is just another example of how women and our planning skills are pretty awesome.

Are you surprised by these results?

Women-Only Hotel Floors? Luxury Travel Destinations Are Catering To Women With Money More Than Ever Before

March 29th, 2016 - By Lauren R.D. Fox
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For those who are late to the party, wealthy women, those with a net worth of assets of $30 million and more, are increasing faster than men and travel agencies and wellness centers are now targeting these hard-working women who are seeking luxury R&R or a destination for business trips.

Roselyn Lekdee who works as an economist at WealthInsight told NBC News the percentage of wealthy women in the world rose to 5.3 percent between 2010 and 2014, with these individuals mostly residing in Eastern Europe, Asia-Pacific and North America, and as a result, “As wealthy females have greater control over their careers and finances, they are becoming more selective about holidays, demanding personal and more sophisticated services.” Because of this trend, wellness tourism is shifting its focus to catering to female travelers with spa, yoga, detox, fitness and stress relief activities.

Asian countries like Thailand, Malaysia, and Indonesia which specialize in high-end wellness treatments are a typical hot spot for wealthy business women. One such local is the Ananda Spa in the Himalayas which provides white-water rafting, safaris and trek trips alongside the usual wellness treatments. Luxury hotels in the Middle East are focusing on providing women-only hotel floors. Some of the rooms on the floors are staffed with only female employees as well as cosmetic refrigerators. The rooms are also stocked with yoga mats, gyms, separate check-in desks and lobbies. For those interested in traveling to Europe, some hotels in London provide extra security for their female guests whose rooms also have the luxury of doorbells, spy-holes and chain locks.

With these options mentioned, women are shifting how the travel industry creates new opportunities for  female travelers to feel at home no matter the purpose of their trip, especially those with money.

Where would you travel for a luxury vacation?

Your Time is Now! 19 Ways To Answer Your Calling This Year

January 19th, 2016 - By MommyNoire Editor
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Abiola Abrams photo by Ken Jones

by Abiola Abrams

Self-love Lesson: How to launch yourself and make an impact.

Do you have a message or mission that you have been yearning to give birth to? Many of us do. Get clear about your purpose, and once you have this clarity, get clear about who you serve. According to the Center for Women’s Business Research, African American and Latina women are the fastest growing entrepreneurial segment and more likely to start a business than the rest of the population. Yes! This really is our time.

As your self-worth midwife, I call this passion you want to give birth to “your calling.” Your calling may be teaching healthy eating like cookbook author Rhonda Peters, helping women tune into their sensuality like Carmen Victorino of Le Femme Suite pole fitness, empowering single mothers like Tinzley Bradford, or guiding writers to find a voice like Cherise Davis Fisher of Scribe’s Window.

At a recent party, I was talking to a woman (let’s call her Miss Jackie) who kept going on about how open-minded she is. Most people who say that turn out to be the most judgmental folks! Miss Jackie, a retired elementary school teacher, told me that her 10-year-old granddaughter wanted to be a writer. To her, this was a calamity. She told her granddaughter, “No! Get a real profession and then you can be a writer on the side like your mom.”

I happen to know Miss Jackie’s daughter, the child’s mom; let’s call her Becky. Becky is a lawyer and pretty much miserable. She has spent the majority of her legal career secretly plotting her exit but never has the courage to make a leap. It may look like she makes a big income but she has a scarcity mindset so she is often complaining about money and lives like she doesn’t have two nickels to rub together. Writing the book Miss Jackie was referring to had been the greatest bright spot in Becky’s life, but she was still stuck. Most likely Miss Jackie’s programming was stopping her from making the next move. I didn’t accept Becky as a coaching client when referred by someone else because she seemed heavily invested in her own negativity and limitations.

Somehow in the conversation it came up that my dad is a professional writer. Miss Jackie asked me what his day job had been and seemed flabbergasted that he spent the last 40 years as a professional writer, speaker, and international expert on a topic he was passionate about.

Now, it’s your turn to tune out the Miss Jackie’s and make an impact! Ready to reinvent yourself and create your future? You can do it.

How to start your mission this year:

1. Claim your unique vision.

Your way to change the world may look completely different than your bestie’s. Starting a franchise or a credit union may support an under-served community. Using your passion for math to create a tutoring business can help others to rise and shine. You may be able to build an empire with your passion for fitness. Whether your passion is makeup or politics, you owe no apology for what makes your heart sing. The fastest way to get what you want is to help others to get what they want.

2. Become an expert.

What you majored in may have nothing to do with the business that you want to start. That’s okay. While you are alive you can be furthering your education. Grab your Kindle and start reading. Listen to audiobooks while you’re driving. Watch training programs from those who teach what you want to learn. Read biographies and autobiographies of gurus who are living their dreams. Commit to reading 100 books in your field and you will be an expert.

3. Write a book.

Every day someone asks me how they can get started writing. My biggest advice as a professional writer is JUST WRITE. Twenty-five minutes a day is a great place to begin. If there is a story within you that you want to tell, tell it. If you wrote just 1,000 words a day (half the length of this article!), you’d have a pretty meaty manuscript in a year. The best thing to turn up is your voice.

4. Take a stand.

You may have unpopular beliefs but change is made by those who have the courage of their convictions. Taking a stand doesn’t require being fearless. It requires harnessing your fear into positive energy and moving forward on your mission. Many of us are people pleasers. We were taught to be nice and not make waves. We want people to like us. Growing up is realizing that no matter what, you will never have everyone like you. You might as well stand firmly for what you believe.

5. Write a letter to the editor.

Don’t just read the news, be the news. Instead of sitting around waiting for the news to declare that you are worthy, declare it yourself. Almost every publication shares letters to the editor. The New York Times and The Washington Post feature opinion sections called the OpEd. You can get your voice into the world.

6. Blog it out.

You can start a blog in 60 seconds. Ideally, you put more energy and thought into it than that. However, in our current media climate, if it didn’t happen online it doesn’t exist. The great thing about that is that you can answer your calling from your sofa. Ebony Magazine’s dedicated and thought-provoking Jamilah Lemieux created her own award-winning platform and launched herself by blogging. There are natural hair bloggers, gossip bloggers, and business bloggers creating their own publishing — and product — empires. Stop waiting for someone to pass you the mic. Take it!

7. Podcast it.

The podcast is the multimedia syndicated approach to blogging. Most podcasts are audio, like talk radio shows, although they can be video as well. I created my first inspirational podcast, The Goddess Factory, way back in 2005. People are still listening to it on iTunes today! If your calling is poetry, maybe you interview top poets. If music makes you sing, maybe your podcast  is a showcase with valuable critiques for emerging musical artists. There’s something for everyone. The creators of a podcast called “Drunk History” have been invited to major news networks from CNN to FOX.

8. Launch a YouTube channel.

If you have a phone with a camera, and who doesn’t these days, you can launch a YouTube broadcast. There really is no excuse for not getting your voice into the world. Making sure you have something to say that is worth listening to is another conversation. The brilliant Issa Rae used her “Awkward Black Girl” channel to launch her into career as a writer and actor who is now working with HBO and producer Shonda Rhimes. You can use your YouTube channel to broadcast news, give reviews or give advice.

9. Start a hashtag movement.

A hashtag is basically a way of indexing an idea on social media and across the web. It is also the way to organize with people you don’t know around an issue. Movements like #BringBackOurGirls, #YesAllWomen and #BlackLivesMatter were powerful and attention-getting in 2014. Hashtag activism may sound like activism lite, but it is a powerful way to galvanize people everywhere to important ideas and causes.

10. Create a weekly meetup.

I’ve heard defeatist people complain about not being able to “get ahead” because it’s about “who you know.” If that’s the case, get to know some people! Who are you spending time with? If the people you spend your time with are small-minded thinkers, you will be a small-minded thinker without even knowing it. There’s no need to be limited by the people you already have access to. Use and social media to meet new like-minded folks. The resourceful Scott Dinsmore launched the inspirational “Live Your Legend” movement by creating meetups worldwide.

11. Change your own life and teach others how to do the same.

Change your own life and then show others how to do what you did as a teacher, trainer, coach, speaker, or writer. We want to learn from those who are doing it. For example, I can teach other introverts how to conquer fears around public speaking because I’ve done it. Your ministry can be based on your own internal or external transformation.

12. Learn something new and share about your missteps.

Along those lines, you don’t have to wait until your transformation is complete to consider yourself answering your calling. Maybe you’re learning how to sew so you can become a designer and you take us on the journey. Remember the movie and book “Julie and Julia” about a woman blogging her way messily through Julia Child’s masterful cooking. Overcome your challenges and we will all be rooting for you – and learning from your journey.

13. Start a business.

Your business may be a for profit or non-profit enterprise. It may be a franchise or you may be a solopreneur. Do the research, get educated, and go for it! Stay away from non-believers and other low vibrational energy folks. Be clear about who you are serving. Don’t be afraid to be specific. As they say, the riches are in the niches.

14. Get a mentor.

Here’s where a lot of us get twisted. Stop approaching people and telling them what you want them to do for you. Asking to pick someone’s brain is insulting. Author Michelle Y. Talbert of @BlackLoveRules and #HerPowerHustle calls picking someone’s brain picking their pockets. Instead, ask yourself, what can you do for them? What are you offering? Do you want to interview them? Feature them on your blog? Guest post on their blog? Take their training course? You will get a lot further with this approach. Another way to go is to join a professional mentorship group in your field.

15. Join an organization.

There is networking everywhere from the church pews to the National Urban League. Join an organization of others who are answering a calling similar to yours. Your objective here is not shoving your business card in people’s faces or taking about yourself, but developing genuine relationships. Real relationships and referrals are the power center for anyone trying to make an impact.

16. Get coaching and support.

If Serena Williams and Oprah Winfrey have coaches and advisers, why would you think that you don’t need support?  You don’t have to be in an “Iyanla, Fix My Life” crisis to invest in your own personal Iyanla. There is a coach for every person and every need. Other famous coaches include AJ Johnson, Tony Robbins, and Lisa Nichols, who all help very different tribes of women. Their are love coaches, career coaches, and grief coaches. My Hear Me Roar Coaching Club is all about helping my sacred bombshell spiritpreneur sisters to answer their calling. If you want to get unstuck, enlist a life coach or business coach to help you move forward.

17. Speak from the “stage.”

Just like I said if you want to write just write, if you want to speak just speak. As my mom would say, “stand up and be counted. Speak up and be heard.” Malcolm X started out speaking on street corners. In our multimedia, multi-platform society, you can 10x that. If your passion is poetry, rent a spot monthly, invite other poets, and make it happen. If you’re a financial or legal wizard, rent a space weekly or monthly and give seminars. Speak for free in the beginning and then charge as much as you want. The marketplace will pay you for the value you provide.

17. Start a challenge.

The ALS ice bucket challenge was pretty memorable, wasn’t it? Create your own challenge that people everywhere can join. Partner your cause with a visual representation and tag folks. Alicia Keys’ #WeAreHere peace movement educates and subtly publicizes her music. Adam Bouska’s #NOH8 challenge educated people about marriage equality and helped him to make an impact.

18. Start a weekly Tweetup.

You want to begin to answer your calling from your kitchen? Start a Tweetup or a facebook group of aspiring vegans. This is the online version of a meetup. With a Tweetup or Twitter party, you meet weekly online organizing around a specific hashtag and ask or answer questions. You can develop a following around your message, mission or movement and spread your mojo, miracles, and magic throughout the universe.

19. Most importantly, believe in yourself.

Stop waiting for the world to give you permission. Our parents were living in a whole different time. There are almost no 40-year safety jobs anymore. It is okay to reinvent yourself.

The world is waiting for what you have to offer. Figure out what you want to do, learn how to do it, then move forward and monetize it. Don’t stay stuck in eternal preparation mode. You want to answer your sacred calling and start a movement? Just do it, Miss Noire!

Abiola Abrams is the author of the award-winning guide The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love and founder of, where she offers empowerment coaching. 

Tressenoire Brings Natural Hair Stylists Directly To Your House

January 1st, 2016 - By Lauren McEwen
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Tressenoire 2One might assume that living in a large city would automatically equal easy access to a wealth of talented styling professionals who specialize in black hair, but unfortunately, pricing issues, incompatible hours and distance can all get in the way of finding a stylist who best suits your needs. These were all factors that inspired friends Octavia Pickett-Blakely and Regina Gwynn to launch Tressenoire, a Philadelphia-based service that brings natural hair stylists straight to clients’ homes, offices and hotel rooms.

“We’re looking at this largely underserved market where women of color spend nine times more on hair care products and services than our counterparts and the convenient kinds of options aren’t available to us,” said. Gwynn.

She and Pickett-Blakely set out to fill that void, founding Tressenoire in October 2014. The company is already expanding, serving markets in Delaware, Philadelphia, New Jersey, New York City, and Westchester County.

Users can log on to the online portal, select a style (there are also examples on Tressenoire’s Instagram account, if you need inspiration) and set a date and time. While Gwynn said they are happy to schedule clients with a particular stylist, they really want the date and time to be the guiding factor in bookings.

“All of our stylists are amazing. We really do stand behind that. We select stylists from some of the best schools of the nation,” she said, explaining that the hair care professionals on their roster have worked with Carol’s Daughter and trained with Aveda and the Paul Mitchell Schools.

Clients should wash and detangle their hair before the appointment (the stylist will blow dry or re-wet the hair, if necessary). Stylists also come prepared with styling tools and products, but clients are responsible for supplying any hair extensions needed to achieve their desired style, though stylists can give detailed advice on what kind of hair to purchase.

“We like to over-communicate when we can to make sure that we’re setting ourselves up to win and can basically slay hair when we get there,” Gwynn said.

Gwynn became a naturalista long before the current onslaught of YouTube vlogs, blogs and hair care lines devoted to natural hair care began. Her friends would frequently ask her advice on how to best care for their coils and curls. Now, she says there’s almost an “information overload.” Not only do they want to provide a technology-driven, luxury service for their clients, but they also want to educate clients on how to best care for their own hair in between styling sessions.

Before the session starts, stylists do a one-on-one curl consultation with the client, making sure they understand the density and porosity of their hair in order to empower clients to take control of their hair care. Although Tressenoire doesn’t completely buy into the hair typing system, Gwynn said they do think it’s important to help clients “get into a lane that can help guide you so that the product junkie in you doesn’t go too overboard.”

“There is nothing like talking with a licensed beauty professional and having her talk specifically about your hair texture, curl pattern and hair type,” she added.

It might come as a surprise to some that a company like Tressenoire would be so popular in heavily populated, racially diverse cities like New York and Philadelphia, but Pickett-Blakely thinks that’s a “misconception.” What she’s noticed is clients don’t only require an adequate style that looks nice, but also proper care.

“Having both of those characteristics can be difficult to find,” she said. “A big part of our messaging and a big part of our goal is to make hair care and hair styling convenient, so we have stylists that are available at a variety of times each day and different times in the week week. We offer services at times that are not necessarily traditional times that other salons would be available.”



Tressenoire also strives to make their services more affordable. “There are amazing salons in these markets, but I think the other thing that comes into consideration is price,” Gwynn said of her company’s success. “I think sometimes price becomes a bit prohibitive for some women who really just want a great luxury experience, but maybe the wallet isn’t something that they can give over at that time.”

Lucky for Pickett-Blakely and Gwynn, their business has grown significantly during the past year due to client referrals. And their clients run the gamut from mothers who want to have their kids’ hair styled without the hassle of running after them in a salon to homebound clients who may not be able to travel for a hair appointment.

For clients who have experienced hair loss, Gwynn said having hair care services done in the privacy of their own home has been an added benefit.

“That’s definitely something that we’re mindful of. Wherever you are in your hair care journey or hair care experience, this is definitely a no judgement zone.”

For potential clients who want to check out the service before giving it an official try, or people who are struggling with their natural hair care journey and are seeking help, Tressenoire will offer a quick phone curl consultation.

“Whether you become a customer or not, we really are here to empower women and make the path to beauty a lot more easy,” said Gwynn.

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When The Wealthy Get To Say What’s Hip-Hop

December 10th, 2015 - By Charing Ball
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There is no denying that the roots of hip-hop are amongst the most disenfranchised and underprivileged.

Its sounds, groove, lyrics, and dances were once a reflection of young, urban and predominately working-class Black and Brown people. Its soul, if you will, comes from the long line of African griots who passed down knowledge, as well as stories of struggle, discontentment, war, family, love, joy and death through the oral tradition.

But that was then. Today’s hip-hop feels nothing like its predecessor. In some ways, that is understandable. Things evolve. Art is no exception.

But sometimes evolution just sucks. Especially when that evolution isn’t from natural causes, but rather, forced by capitalistic forces. Thanks to hip-hop’s commercialization, the art has shifted its focus from being the voice of history and concern for the people to now answering the question of what happens when rampant self-aggrandizing individualism and free-market capitalism runs amok.

The griots of today are not only multi-millionaires with brands and diversified incomes, but in many cases, they do the bidding of the one-percent by representing companies and products in their “art” while selling it to the same communities from whence they came.

This more evolved version of the hip-hop culture means that anyone can come and lay claim to the art. That includes Martin Shkreli.

If the name sounds familiar, that is because he is the millionaire CEO of a pharmaceutical company, which recently made headlines for jacking up the prices on the drug Daraprim, which is used by HIV patients, from $13.50 to $750 a pill.

Yeah, that guy.

And as reported by Bloomberg, that guy is now the proud owner of Once Upon a Time in Shaolin, a double album recorded and produced by legendary rap group Wu-Tang Clan. As reported in the article, there is only one existing copy of the experimental album.

Originally, the group, which is led by super-genius producer RZA, wanted $5 million dollars for the project. However, after failing to capture a buyer, they decided to put the album up for auction online.

It was reported that Shkreli only paid $2 million for Shaolin. However, RZA told the business publication that the auction for the album had attracted many serious suitors including: “Private collectors, trophy hunters, millionaires, billionaires, unknown folks, publicly known folks, businesses, companies with commercial intent, young, old…”

Whatever the price tag, the likely financial gain will probably be more than what the group has managed to earn from previous projects. According to Bloomberg, Wu-Tang’s long-awaited fourth studio album, A Better Tomorrow, which was released last December, only sold 60,000 copies in the U.S.

And it should be noted that after it was discovered that Shkreli had purchased Shaolin, RZA announced to the press that “The sale of Once Upon a Time in Shaolin was agreed upon in May, well before Martin Skhreli’s [sic] business practices came to light. We decided to give a significant portion of the proceeds to charity.”

Good to know that folks still have a conscience. Still, there are many fans of hip-hop who will likely feel uneasy about the overall structure of the album’s sale.

The album itself was conceived to be a single-sale collector’s item based on the practice of commissioned commodification, which had been popularized during the Renaissance era. Unlike hip-hop of the past, which sought its validation from the streets, Shaolin would seek its hood pass at exclusive, invite-only listening parties held at museums and high-art galleries.

That means that folks with questionable connections to the culture had the final and only say on the worth of a cultural contribution. And for a genre of music which relies heavily on keeping it real, who gets to define “realness” matters.

In an article I wrote previously for The Grio about the importance of African-Americans participating in the high arts, a former Haitian gallery owner told me, “It’s to the point that some African artifacts and some famous black artists are now so far out of the financial region that we [black people] can not even own their art.”

She continued, “And if we’re not owning it, that means others are. And if we are not participating, that means we have no voice in shaping culture.”

Perhaps it’s our fault as consumers for not supporting the work of artists we claim we want to hear more from. Or perhaps Shaolin might have been received just like its previous Wu offerings because it may not have been very good.

Unfortunately, we will never know the album’s true artistic and cultural value. The moment the sole copy of the album was sold to the highest bidder – a person who can afford to buy his way into culture – it was decided that whatever monetary value it has far outweighs whatever artistic and cultural contribution it could make.

Just to be clear: There is nothing wrong with knowing your worth and getting paid for your art. But there is something wrong when art that has been created and inspired by the working class, no longer is accessible to the very people who served as its inspiration. And worse, those with no clear connections to the community get to have the final say on what is hip-hop, just because they can afford it.

The Official Black Wall Street Is the Most Comprehensive Guide Of Black-Owned Businesses, Yet

November 5th, 2015 - By Lauren McEwen
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By day, Mandy Bowman is a social media strategist at a media company, but for the past year, she has steadily been developing an online directory of black-owned businesses called Official Black Wall Street (OBWS).

“I remember reading that black businesses only get around 2 percent of our [$1.1] trillion dollar buying power, and that completely blew me away,” Bowman said. “I felt like with all the racial tension, and the things that were happening from Ferguson to New York, there was a huge need for us to protest with our money and recycle that money back into our communities.”

The Brooklyn native first began the project on social media in the fall of 2014, and launched the actual site in July of this year. “I found so many amazing businesses and I really wanted to spread it to as many people as possible and get as many people to support them as I could,” Bowman said.

The site’s namesake is a nod to the legendary hub of Black business that once stood in the Tulsa suburb, Greenwood, OK. In 1921, the original “Black Wall Street” was destroyed in what has been called one of the deadliest “race riots” in U.S. history. Before it was viciously dismantled, Greenwood was a town with a booming self-sufficient economy.

“That really inspired me – just seeing how this neighborhood was able to function on such a major successful level and do it all on their own. There were movie theaters, pharmacies, doctor’s offices, lawyers and nightclubs. Just thinking about it gives me chills.”

Over the years, plenty of Black business directories of popped up online, but OBWS is one of the most user-friendly and wide-reaching, by far. The OBWS directory has listings for about 1,300 businesses, including clothing companies, skin care lines, contracting and accounting firms, personal trainers, event planning and more. Users can leave reviews, get directions to brick-and-mortar stores, and search for businesses by location and category. There is also a special offers section for shoppers on a budget.

In addition to its directory, OBWS offers original business-related content, including profiles of entrepreneurs like Maci Peterson, the creator of the On Second Thought app and inspiring posts like their list of  “kidpreneurs.”

“I really wanted Official Black Wall Street to be a hub for Black business, but also Black excellence. I wanted people to be able to go on there and support their own, but also draw inspiration from all the businesses there and all the stories about successful entrepreneurs and successful businesses that we’ve started ourselves,” said Bowman.

So far, Bowman says the response to OBWS has been amazing. She has been inundated with requests to post or promote new businesses. For a long time, Bowman says that OBWS was “a one-woman show,” but she has begun to bring on contributors and now has help updating the site and responding to emails.

“This is like my first-born, so finding the right team is very important to me. I would have to find someone who is as passionate as I am about Black culture and supporting Black businesses,” she said.

In the future, she wants to continue to publish more original content. She’s also working on an OBWS app to make the directory more accessible for shoppers, noting that when she first began her quest to support more Black businesses she found other directories but they were difficult to navigate. So far OBWS’ functionality seems to have hit the spot.

“I’m just really appreciative of all of the support from people,” Bowman said. “When I first started this, I intended for it to be something small to post on social media sites. It’s grown to be a lot larger than I expected, just with the people who are submitting businesses – both consumers and business owners.

How Nubian Hair Oasis Founder Donnet Bruce Is Working To Make Her Side Hustle A Full-Time Gig

September 4th, 2015 - By Rana Campbell
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Are you currently dreaming of ways to quit your job to pursue your dreams of being an entrepreneur? Or are you currently managing a side hustle and looking for ways to transition into working on it full-time? As any entrepreneur will tell you, running a business is no easy feat and knowing the right time to take the leap is crucial.

We chatted with Nubian Hair Oasis founder Donnet Bruce about what it’s like running a hair company while still maintaining a full-time job. She shared with us her inspiration for launching a side hustle, daily challenges she faces, how she manages the two responsibilities, and her plans for eventually becoming a full-time entrepreneur. Check out the interview below!

MadameNoire (MN): What inspired you to launch Nubian Hair Oasis?
Donnet Bruce (DB):  It was an idea I had for several years. I was disappointed from going to local beauty stores here in Miami, Florida. The customer service wasn’t the best. I felt as if the individuals, typically men, behind the counter were just trying to sell something instead of providing customizable options that were good for my texture of hair. I read an article in Essence about the beauty and hair industry and how much Black women spend on their hair. I wanted to start an online store where I was able to provide a really good customer service experience for women. 

I’m a woman. I love wearing extensions and wigs. I wanted to provide and source for quality products for women with textured and transitioning hair. I also wanted Nubian Hair Oasis to be a place where women left empowered, inspired, and encouraged.

MN: You also have a full-time job as a Digital Marketing Manager. How does Nubian Hair Oasis fit into your life?
DB: I’m what they call a multi-passionate entrepreneur. Prior to me getting into this corporate job over a year ago, I was freelancing. My background is in integrated marketing; I have a Masters in that. I’ve worked with different brands developing marketing strategies, public relations campaigns, social media campaigns, etc. Now, I’m working as a digital marketing manager for a major automotive group in the Southeast. That is my 9-5. On nights and weekends, I work at building and operating Nubian Hair Oasis.

I am the main person working on the company. I have an associate who is a really good friend of mine that helps out with social media. I’m working to change that. There are so many different facets and divisions within Nubian Hair Oasis. There are so many ideas I have to take the company to the next level. I will be looking for talent to help.

MN: What are some of the challenges you face while growing your company?
DB: I’m not going to sugarcoat it. It’s very challenging and exhausting. One thing that helps me is remaining in a positive state of mind. For example, when I wake up in the morning, I wake up with positive thoughts. I talk to God. I visualize myself in a year or two or what I will be doing in my life after the corporate world. I’ve gotten so used to that, as soon I wake up in the morning, my mind clicks. Everything that is happening right now is for a reason. Any job that I have or take helps me.

Yes, I could be operating Nubian Hair Oasis full-time; however, this is where I am right now. I do what I have to do during the day for my company and it really helps me get through the day. I know that everything that I am doing is setting me up for the next big thing in my life. Staying focused helps with those challenges and beating the exhaustion. Another challenge was having the time to take on and do everything. There are major roller coaster days.

Trying to find an honest manufacturer and supplier was a challenge. In the beginning, I took the time to vet several suppliers and manufacturers. I spent quite a bit of money ordering samples and taking the word of a manufacturer that said their hair was good quality and human hair. I’m all about quality. The fact that I would spend a lot of money to get the hair and have to send it back to the supplier – that was a project within itself. I took the time to pause on promotion and find the perfect supplier and build  better business relationships overseas.

My goal is to travel overseas. I want to spend some time with my makers. I am always looking for ways to improve product. I want to spend time with my manufacturers and make sure what they are producing is Nubian Hair Approved.

MN: How do you manage juggling a full-time job and being an entrepreneur?
DB: I wake up earlier, especially if I have urgent to-dos and tasks. It’s more quiet and serene at that time versus leaving the 9-5, hustling through traffic, getting home, having to make dinner, and trying to get back into that hustling mode.

On weekends, you can find me at a coffee shop or somewhere in Miami – headphones in, working on inventory, a new collection, or answering customer emails. Also on Saturday,  I fulfill orders.

I put everything in my calendar. I even put my 9-5 schedule. I designate days when I work for Nubian Hair Oasis. I use the Passion Planner – which is a calendar and journal in one. It’s filled with good quotes and milestone evaluations.

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MN: What’s been the hardest part about keeping Nubian Hair Oasis in business while still having a 9-5 job?
DB: Finances. I’m funding my business on my own. I pay for marketing, shoots, inventory, etc. I don’t have any major complaints because it’s something that I wanted to do.

MN: Do people at your job know that you have your own company?
DB: I believe in operating with integrity. I don’t want my bosses to think that I am on the job trying to sell and promote. Once I leave, that’s when I turn into Nubian Hair Mode. I have let a couple coworkers know that I operate and run Nubian Hair Oasis, but you don’t want your boss or employer to feel like there is something else taking you away from doing the job or that you are heavily promoting your company too much on their time. There are some companies that encourage their employees to share their side hustle. I’ve worked for one before. If you’re in a setting where you know it’s not encouraged, keep it private.

MN: What plans are you putting in place so that you can run Nubian Hair Oasis full-time?
DB: Save. You should always have your exit strategy account going. As you get paid, continue saving. You’ll know for a fact that if you decide to resign, you have cushion.

Set a goal. If there’s a date that you want to leave, set it and post it by your bed or night stand. Do everything you have to do to prior to that date. That includes getting more sales, gaining more customers, marketing and promoting more.

Always meet and network with people. I just spoke at the New Orleans Hair Expo for Essence Festival. I met so many women there and got sales. Continue getting the word out about your business. Use social media. That will help make it a little bit easier when you decide to leave your job.

MN: What’s the best piece of business advice you’ve received?
DB: Just the other day I was talking to a friend who is heavy in the tech scene, has opened businesses and runs a few companies. She told me I cannot do it on my own. You need a team of ninjas/superstar people who are going to help you take your company to the next level. As I grow I delegate, and if I’m not strong in a certain area I make sure I outsource those tasks instead of spending a slew of hours on something and the end result may not even be to my liking or match the brand.

Give tasks to someone who can knock them out. Pay them and keep it moving. Learn the art of building a team. I believe in my vision and mission to take Nubian Hair Oasis to the next level. As a CEO and creative director, I oversee so many different areas. I oversee branding, marketing, PR, operations, inventory…having a strong solid team will help.

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MN: How do you respond to those who think you aren’t qualified to run a hair company?
DB: My background is in integrated marketing, experiential marketing, branding, and social media. There may be questions that arise. People [may think], “Donnet is not a hairstylist. What does she know? Why should I trust her?” It goes back to why I wanted to do this. I love hair, styling, and makeup. I know quality. I really care about making sure women go out into the world with something that they are happy with and looks good. I love protective styling and rocking extensions, especially being a natural now. Eventually, I do want to open up a storefront. We need that in South Florida — a Black-owned beauty supply store. 

When I have my customers send me emails praising the fact that they loved the hair during vacation  and went on a romantic getaway, and everyone is complimenting them on their looks, that makes me feel good. It makes me think about why I even started in the first place. Everything that you do in life sets you up for the next chapter. I probably didn’t even realize how branding and marketing would help me. It helped me establish the logo, feel, and colors — everything about Nubian Hair Oasis.

[Not feeling qualified] was one of the reasons I put [starting a business] off for so long. It’s a personal thing – one of those things where you are talking yourself out of something. You’re your worst critic or enemy. Year after year, the idea would come to me.  I’d always push it off and say, “Naw, I went to school for this. This is the path I should be on. What are you talking about?” Even talking to friends, I was like,“No, I can’t do that. That’s not what I went to school for. I ain’t no hair stylist.” It’s a testament to doing what’s in your heart. Do what you want to do and love to do.

Rana Campbell is a freelance writer and marketing/branding strategist. Connect with her on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin or visit