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Does It Make Financial Sense To Call Off A Wedding Last Minute?

May 20th, 2015 - By Tanvier Peart
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Have you ever received an invitation to attend a wedding and made the necessary arrangements only to get a heads up days before the event it wasn’t going to happen?

Yeah, that’s pretty crazy.

Former Alaskan governor and vice presidential hopeful Sarah Palin took to Facebook recently to announce her daughter Bristol and fiancé no longer plan to exchange vows. The wedding was supposed to take place in a few days.

Of course it’s always great to dodge a bullet, especially when it comes to something big like marriage. Too many people jump into what’s suppose to be an everlasting union only to call it quits just as fast as they said “I do.” Yes things happen and folks can change over time, but when you have that “don’t do it” gut feeling, one can only hope you decide to listen to it.

Thankfully my husband and I have been doing very well in the marriage arena. Coming off our third wedding anniversary (we’ve been together for a total of seven and a half years), we have high hopes of going to the “upper room” together. Even though we didn’t jump into an engagement and rush to get married, we know of a few couples who unfortunately could not stand the test of time. In fact, many of them were together much longer than us before they even thought about becoming husband and wife.

There’s just no concrete formula to making something work.

While I didn’t have a bad feeling walking down the aisle, my mother tells me she did. My parents practically grew up together and dated throughout their high school and college years. Making the choice to exchange vows at City Hall, my mom said she felt it was the wrong decision, but was too chicken to leave my dad at the altar. Luckily for me she didn’t and the two divorced around my fifth birthday.

With the cost of weddings getting higher and higher these days, I can only imagine the sting a couple feels after calling things off. Not only do you have to deal with the emotional aspect but more than likely won’t get back any money you put into creating your special day. Sure that’s not important in the grand scheme of things (peace of mind is), but does it make more financial sense to listen to your gut sooner than later — assuming you had these feelings before the week of your wedding?

And what about the wedding party and guests? Those involved with the special day have been saying no to related events (e.g. bachelorette party and bridal shower) as it costs a small fortune. Like other guests who plan to attend, many will have to shell out money for travel expenses like airfare, hotels and dining. One can only hope everyone is understanding of the couple’s decision (it is what it is at this point), but I wouldn’t be surprised if there were some who are in their feelings for spending money they might not get back.

What a mess.

Maybe Bristol and her former beau have enough money not to care about these things, but I’d like to think the average person would.

How would you handle a situation like this? If you happen to find yourself questioning your future nuptials, here are some financial tips for calling off a wedding?

Related Can I Get My Wedding Deposit Back? 10 Celebrities Who Called Off Their Engagement

Bust The Windows Out Your Car: 15 Celebrities Who Got Revenge On Their Exes

November 10th, 2014 - By Meg Butler
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From hot grits on Al Greene to Nicki Minaj’s Waiting to Exhale moment: these are the cases of celebrity exes that go ham. Do you have a tale of revenge you’d like to share? We’d love to hear it in the comments section!

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Nicki Minaj

Nicki Minaj must have been waiting a long time to exhale when she finally ended things with her fiancee Safaree. Reports say that she was so mad when she broke things off that she chased him out of the house with a bat, smashed up his benz (a gift from her) and threw all of his clothes away.

What really went on between these two? You can hear it all in her new single Bed of Lies.

The 15 Most Trifling Breakup Texts Ever Sent

October 7th, 2014 - By Meg Butler
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Breakup texts should be at the top of everyone’s list of zero-class breakup moves to never pull. But these people broke the rules and made it clear why their exes might just be better off.

Not Really The Time For Knock-Knock Jokes

Is he serious? “Heartless” doesn’t begin to cover it.

15 Great Things That Happen After A Breakup

September 2nd, 2014 - By Meg Butler
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Breakups are always terrible. But after the storm, some of those clouds have silver linings.

15 Great Things That Happen After A Breakup

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You Reconnect with Your Friends

They say that for every serious relationship you have, you lose two friends. But that doesn’t have to be permanent. Now that you’re not occupied with a significant other you can reconnect with the friends that got left behind.

Rolling In The Deep: The Perfect Breakup Album Playlist

August 27th, 2014 - By Meg Butler
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One of the only good things that happen during a breakup is how hard breakup songs jam. Your heart is broken, your love is over, but these albums make the pain just a little bit easier.

Usher – Confessions

Almost every single song on this album is proof positive that Usher is one of the undisputed kings of the breakup album. These songs may be about Usher’s breakup with Chili, but they feel like they’re written just for what you’re going through.

Don’t Do It, Girl: 15 Things Not To Do After A Breakup

August 20th, 2014 - By Erica R. Williams
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I’ve been guilty of turning an already bad breakup into an even worse one. Every mistake that you can make after parting ways with an ex, I’ve made.

I’m a vocal person who likes to have the last word and get all of my emotions out, but I can also be moody. This is a bad combination for a breakup. One minute I can be apologetic and the next minute, depending on my ex’s response, I might spew out less than pleasant remarks and call an ex everything but a child of God.

So from my experience I can tell you that breaking up is never easy, but there are some things you can do to make the process even worse. I’ve learned from my mistakes and hope that these tips can prevent you from making a bad breakup into a super ugly one.

7 People To Stay Away From During A Breakup

March 10th, 2014 - By Julia Austin
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When you’re going through a breakup, you want comfort wherever you can find it. But some comfort comes at a price. Here are seven people to stay away from during a breakup.

 

 

 

 

10 Moments When It’s Okay To Breakup Via Text

March 6th, 2014 - By Madame Noire
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From YourTango

Yes, you read that title correctly. It’s possible.

There’s a lot of politics that go into dumping someone correctly. Ideally, it would be done face-to-face, and probably in a public area in order to avoid a crazy scene. But now, it seems like times have changed in a world where technology is interfering in more areas of our lives.

Here are 10 situations where it’s okay to dump someone through text message.

1. It’s the early days.
If you’ve only been on a few dates, a breakupmight not even be necessary, unless someone is truly confused as to why you’ve disappeared off the face of the planet. But a text message is okay in this instance. You barely know the person. Three or four dates equal about eight hours together. No need for a long handwritten letter. In fact, you probably don’t even know your dumpee’s address.

Read more breaking up via text on YourTango.com 

Signs Your Breakup Was Actually A Good Thing

March 6th, 2014 - By Julia Austin
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We’re conditioned by movies to believe that we have to be devastated after a breakup, that it will be months — if not years — before we can see the light of day again. But you know what? Sometimes a relationship ends up being nothing but a drain on your life and you’re surprisingly okay when it’s over. Here are 14 signs your breakup was definitely a good thing! So don’t second-guess yourself!

Now You Tell Me! Things Your Friends Will Only Say After You Breakup With A Guy

March 5th, 2014 - By Julia Austin
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Have you ever noticed that the moment you end things with a guy, your friends come out of the woodworks with lists of complaints about him? Wondering why they didn’t they speak up sooner? Here are 14 things your friends only tell you about your guy after it’s over.