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Is there a such thing as a “break-up season?” We haven’t done any studies on the phenomenon but it sure seems like a lot of celebrity couples have called it quits this fall. Maybe it’s the end of swimsuit season or the cold weather. What do you think? Is there a time of year when you’re more likely to lose your boo? Seems like that’s the case for these pairs.
There are a few—and I mean a very few—instances in which a broken relationship can be fixed and things can start anew. But you don’t just get to blindly walk into it, expecting the comfort of the familiar, and the butterflies of being reunited, to carry you through the problems that once destroyed you. There is work to be done. Here are some guidelines for getting started.
Breaking up is hard enough without being put out of house and home. And if you did live with your man, odds are you thought you’d marry one day or at least be together for a long time: so this is no mild heartbreak. Every step of the move out during the breakup is delicate, and a misstep will make things much harder. So follow these guidelines.
One day out of the blue your guy breaks up with you. You’re of course stunned, sad, and questioning everything. The breakup hits you harder than any others before because it was a complete shock. You two were doing fine, or so you thought, and you had plans for the near future. Breakups are hard, but they’re even harder when you are completely blindsided by it. Though you’ll feel plenty of emotions, don’t let yourself get too down in the dumps. Here are some tips and ways to deal with a blindsided breakup.
I’ll admit that I’m definitely one of the people who rode that Nas-and-Kelis-are-still-madly-in-love-and-are-going-to-get-back-together-someday wave. I always thought that they were an adorable couple. But truthfully, I could’ve just been romanticizing their split because we were left in the dark for so long regarding the dirty details regarding their break up. My desire for the hip-hop couple to reunite only intensified when the 39-year-old Queens rapper released his Life is Good album where he appeared on the cover, holding his ex-wife’s wedding gown and released songs that were obviously about his releationship with her such as, “Bye Baby.”
In an interview earlier this year, Nas even revealed that he and Kelis were working on their friendship and that he low-key tried to get back with her.
“We’re back together as friends. We were not the best of friends for a long time. We’re friends now and that’s what it is. We’re not together but we’re friends though. I even said, ‘yo, should we try this again?’ I’m like wow. We had all kinds of talks. You know how that is. We have a child. But we’re friends and I’m glad to be at that place. I don’t want no beef. No beef wit ya mama,” Nas honestly expressed.
Since then, there hasn’t been much said about the possibility of a romantic reunion between the pair. Well, until now, that is. One of Kelis’ Instagram followers expressed how happy they were to see Kelis back out in the spotlight and attempted to offer encouragement regarding her situation with ex-husband, Nas.
Surpisingly, Kelis responded to the fan’s well wishes, thanking them for their concern, but letting it be known that she’s not interested in reconciling with Nas because he’d been unfaithful to her.
Then, another fan chimed in, praising the “Jerk Ribs” singer for being real about her feelings and what happened.
And there you have it.
What do you think of Kelis using her Instagram page to address such a personal subject?
Ashanti Finally Opens Up About Her Split From Nelly (Sort Of): ‘I Mean Things Happen, People Get Hurt, People Have Resentment’
5+ years and a breakup later, Ashanti still likes to go on interview pretending that she was never in a romantic relationship with Nelly. It’s really seems pointless since we all know the deal at this point, but hey, to each its own. The “Never Should’ve Left Me” singer paid a visit to Hot 97 to discuss her new projects, including her upcoming album, Braveheart and her television show, Army Wives. When the time came to discuss her relationship with Nelly, in typical Ashanti fashion, she laughed the questions off and attempted to shimmy around the answers. Fortunately for nosy folks like us, the station’s programming director, Ebro, wasn’t having it and practically dragged the answers out of her. Check out a few excerpts from the interview below.
On if she still keeps in touch with Nelly:
“Yeah, we’re cool. I spoke to him yesterday. We’re good. We’re cool. [...] We were great and are [still] great friends.”
On if her new single, “Never Should Have” was based on their relationship and breakup:
“I mean, it is very obvious that the song came from a very sincere place. A lot of people are asking, ‘What is that about? Who is that about?’ It came from a very sincere place and I think a lot of people have been in a situation where they’ve been betrayed or lied to or taken advantage of.”
On if she and Nelly ever made plans to have children together:
“[Laughs] Oh my gosh, I mean me and Nelly talked about a lot of things. We talked about a whole lot. He has kids, he has great kids, his niece, his nephew. We talked about a lot, so much.”
On whether or not Nelly’s alleged cheating caused their split:
“I mean things happen, people get hurt, people have resentment. People carry old things with them. Things just happen in real life, you go through things. […] He has to do what he has to do right now, and I have to do what I have to do right now because sometimes you can distract each other.”
On if she’d ever consider dating a regular Joe, for example, A UPS guy:
“Nelly use to be a UPS bus driving dude [laughs]. Let me see, would I date a UPS guy? I don’t know, I guess [there] has to be an attraction in every facet. I have to like you. I have to like what you’re about and what you stand for. What you do, your personality. I’m not going to be able to support you, so there has to be a common balance.”
“I think it’s good to be spoiled in different ways because I can spoil somebody in a different way. I want to be spoiled. I grew up by myself for a long time until my sister came.”
Flip the switch to see Ashanti get grilled by K.Foxx and Ebro.
Heartbreak stories are like opinions and buttholes – everyone has one. And while it sucks to be going through emotional roller coasters, so much can be learned from relationships that don’t end in happily ever after. Here’s my advice on how to use that newly free time to treat yo’self and get back right:
Nothing, and I mean nothing – washes away the sadness of a failed relationship like traveling. You can go around the corner, down the street, or to another city, it doesn’t matter. A change of scenery (as well as drinking out of a coconut) will have you feeling brand-spanking-new.
I remember the first time I ended a toxic relationship. I was completely elated. You couldn’t tell me nothing. After spending a little more than a year with this horrible guy, I felt like I was in a situation where I could finally heal, and like Nene, I was about to get my “happy back.” That was, until (when I was still a participant of Facebook) I signed into my account and saw that the ex that I thought I had blocked was in my suggested friends–him a picture of his new fiancee.
I was not only taken aback by the fact that he had a new girl, but why did I even care? This guy who was horrible to me, used me, lied to me, why did I care that he was with someone else? I knew I didn’t want him back. I was so sure of that, but why did I feel a certain way about it? So, I did what any confused person would do, I snooped. Saw the name of his financee and tried to see what her Facebook page said. I felt like Spongebob, ready to soak up as much information as I could and I probably looked extra goofy doing it. But, I was hit with a wall; her page could only be seen by confirmed friends. When I began to seriously consider sending her a friend request, I decided to have an intervention.
Meeting up with my friends in the lunch room I had to ask them, “What is wrong with me?”
Seeing an ex move on before you can be a very jarring experience. Those feelings that you had can come up like a shaken up soda can and then just mess up your current life. But that feeling is impacted the moment you think this toxic ex seems to be treating his new boo better than he did you.
That’s what I was dealing with. This was the same guy, who if people saw us together would say: ”Nah, that’s just my friend” has this girl in his profile pic, proclaiming her. What did I do that was wrong? Why did I get the short end of the stick? What did she do better than I did? What does she have that I don’t? The feelings of inadequacy were so strong. I already went through the harsh moments of beating myself up for staying with this guy for so long who did me so dirty; but then to feel like I was the starter relationship? The try out for how to be in a real relationship, and how far you can get with treating a girl badly?
Then it was that feeling of being duped and jealousy mixed together. No, I didn’t want him, but at the same time I felt like I held so tightly to the part of the gentleman that he was that first attracted me to him, that ended out to be just an act. Then to find out that his new girl was getting that same “gentleman,” but in a larger dose, killed me. I didn’t feel like I had ownership to him, but I mentally wanted to hold on to that, to remind myself that I might have been dumb for staying with him, but I wasn’t dumb for falling for him.
Once I began to question if I was worthy of real love that’s when I had to shut myself down. At the end, I know that even if he is with someone else, it’s better that we’re not together, and even if I had to physically write down the reasons why we shouldn’t have been together and put them on my mirror, that’s what I had to do. But I had to learn that I’m better than accepting what I was getting. Even if he’s with someone else, being by myself will always be better than romanticizing a dysfunctional relationship.
Kendra Koger is capable of loving her twitter account; and you should too, @kkoger.
During a break up there are all sorts of words said and lines dropped. When a once-good relationship is ending, it’s not uncommon for one of the two people involved to drop the “let’s be friends” line. Though it sounds good at the time, being friends after breaking up usually isn’t a wise idea and here are 14 reasons why.
Instead Of Answering A Question About Nelly Inspiring Her New Album, Ashanti Asks ‘Who Said We Had A Relationship?’
Back in December, we reported on the rumored split between Ashanti and Nelly. Not even one month later, candid boo-loving shots of Nelly and video vixen/model Lashontae Heckard started to surface. Nelly even began showing up to events with Tae on his arm. After years of both Nelly and Ashanti ridiculously denying their involvement with each other, it seems that we may finally get some insight into their relationship. In a recent interview with Sway In the Morning, Ashanti discussed her upcoming album and even hinted that some of the tracks would be about Nelly. Check out some of what she had to say.
On whether or not songs about her experiences with Nelly will appear on the album:
“Who said we had a relationship? [breaks into a fit of laughter] The name of the album is Braveheart. I’ve been recording for a couple of months now. There’s a lot of heartfelt records on there. I think everybody can relate. I’ve been writing my records since I came out and it’s been from real life experiences [laughs] and that’s how people relate.”
On dating a celebrity again:
“I think what’s important is to find someone who you have things in common with. So whether you have a 9 to 5 or you’re in the industry or I don’t know, you’re into computers or you’re into doing nails, whatever it is, find someone that you’re kind of compatible with so that you guys kind of understand whatever facet of life you’re on.”
On wanting children:
“Let me tell you something, I’m going to have an army. I love kids. I think I wanna have like six. We’ll see what happens. I know I gotta get started. I got a couple more things to do first and then I’ll really starting thinking about it.”
While Ashanti didn’t come straight out and say that her new album will feature tracks about her “secret” relationship with Nelly, we hear her loud and clear. A couple of songs based on those real-life experiences sprinkled into her latest project could do a lot for her record sales, as inquiring minds would love to finally hear her discuss that relationship.
Turn the page to see footage of Ashanti dancing around questions about Nelly.