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Alan Thicke Comments On Son’s Split From Paula Patton: ‘I Wouldn’t Bet On Them’

April 10th, 2014 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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For awhile it looked like Robin Thicke and estranged wife, Paula Patton, were definitely going to get back together. But now that nearly two months have passed since Paula announced the separation, chances for a reunion look a bit bleak. Of course, we’re on the outside looking in and who’s to say that the couple isn’t busy privately working things out. However, judging by a recent interview done by Robin’s famous father, Alan, it looks like the couple is still apart.

“They’re doing great [post split] and Robin is pouring himself into the musical artistry,” Alan told ET Canada. “There will be a fabulous album coming out within months… he’s almost finished it.”

When asked if he believes that there is a chance for reconciliation between Robin and Paula, Alan candidly answered that he wasn’t really sure.

“They’re grown ups. I wouldn’t bet on them one way or another.”

As you may recall, back in February Paula Patton issued a statement that the couple would be separating after nearly 10 years of marriage.

“We will always love each other and be best friends, however, we have mutually decided to separate at this time.”

I guess we’ll have to stay tuned to see whether or not the split is really a permanent one.

The 6 Wackiest Break Up Lines We’ve All Heard

April 4th, 2014 - By Madame Noire
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We’ve all heard them and, most likely, we’ve all used them: the lame, not-at-all creative, not necessarily believable breakup excuses. They are cliché, catchphrase, and so common they deserve a place in the dictionary…. or the trash can. They may be all these things, but they are also here to stay.

But, that’s not even the most annoying part. The worst thing about lame breakup excuses is that they are rarely honest: if someone is breaking up with you, you want to know why, and you deserve to know why. What you don’t want is someone with an excuse that reads like it’s written on a teleprompter. “I (insert name here) am just not ready for all this…” And Blah, Blah, Blah.

That is, of course, the bad news. The good news is that lame breakup excuses provide us with, at the very least, blog material. We can poke fun at them, and poke fun at them we will. So, I give you some of dating’s dumbest, lamest, and corniest breakup excuses:

“It’s not you, it’s me”
Ah, the “it’s not you, it’s me” excuse. An oldie, but not a goodie. The lamest thing about this excuse is that it is a bold faced lie. The person who is using it is really saying, “It’s you, I’m awesome.” If it really wasn’t you, they wouldn’t be initiating a breakup to begin with.

“I’m not ready for commitment”
Taken straight from the “How to Waste Someone’s Time Handbook” comes the commitment excuse. Milli Vanilli blamed it on the rain, and the people using this excuse are blaming it on fear of obligation. What do they have in common? They are both full of crap (yet, in the spirit of full disclosure, I must confess that I still have a Milli Vanilli tape…and yes, I listen to it). People who say they are not ready to commit really mean that they are not ready to commit with you. If they weren’t ready to commit with anyone, then why would they be dating in the first place? An exception to this may be the people who insist, from the start, that they aren’t looking for anything serious. They may genuinely run from commitment like Kanye West runs toward a mirror.

Read more about breakups at YourTango.com

Girl’s Best Friend: Getting Dumped Is More Likely About Him Than You

March 16th, 2014 - By Madame Noire
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Although I hate to admit, I have been dumped a couple of times. Quite honestly, I don’t know too many people that haven’t been. It hurt like hell and left me wondering, “What did I do wrong?” Maturity has led me to realize that getting dumped probably wasn’t about me at all.

A wise friend once asked me who the most important person in my life was. At the time, I replied, “I would have to say my Mom.” He corrected me and said, “No, you are the most important person in your life.” It took me a minute to get where he was coming from, but following a further discussion I realized he was correct. At first, it may seem self-centered, but it really is very logical. Everything you do is about you even if you are doing something for someone else. It is about your choices, your beliefs, your desires, etc. Every action you take in life and every decision you make is rooted in your personal experience, which is why you are the most important person in your life.

Conceptually, I believe this is easier to digest for non-parents as good parents often put their kids first. Nevertheless, it holds true. If you don’t take care of yourself first then, you won’t be able to take care of your kids. Your very desire to put your kids first is all about your understanding and expectations of what it means to be a good parent and the same applies to relationships. We have all dated people who seemed like the perfect person on paper, but just for somebody else. And, ultimately, it wasn’t that they weren’t great it was that they just weren’t for you.

Read more on why Author Nathan Hale Williams says you shouldn’t take getting dumped so personally on Essence.

The New Heartache: Breaking Up With Your Friends

February 11th, 2014 - By Madame Noire
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Way back in Girl Scouts, I learned the song, “Make new friends, but keep the old; One is silver and the other gold.” These lyrics, made relevant again when Diane Keaton recited them for her long-time pal Woody Allen at this year’s Golden Globes, seemed to cover it all. Welcome new people into your life, but don’t let the old ones slip away—simple enough.

True, as kids we were probably more focused on selling Thin Mints and Samoas than questioning the intricacies of platonic love, but what my scout leader failed to even hint at was the possibility that these bonds could evolve into something, well, not so golden.

That’s where I find myself today: reevaluating an old friendship that’s soured over the years. I met my friend—we’ll call her Sarah—when I was in my early 20s and new to NYC. Back then we ran all over town, stretching our meager post-grad salaries at street fairs and happy hours, and generally having a great time. But now that we’re both in our 30s, the air between us has become strained. Feelings are easily hurt and we’re less willing to be vulnerable around each other.

Sometimes I come home from hanging out with Sarah and feel exhausted. I’m hyper aware of small jabs (or at least what I perceive as jabs), and I feel the need to constantly shield myself. I’m not sure exactly how we got here. There’s no dramatic story to tell about her stealing my boyfriend or me tossing a cocktail in her face after a drunken argument. I suppose it was a series of small disappointments that have added up over the past 10 years (I know, totally boring).

So here I am wondering, do I end things with Sarah? Is it possible to break up with a friend?

For all the advice we hear about breakups of the romantic variety, friendship usually gets the shaft. Maybe it’s assumed that we’ll all be great Girl Scouts and just stick to the song. When we do shine a spotlight on adult friendship, it usually doesn’t play out in a meaningful way. Rather than inspiring stories, words of wisdom or stories of the nuanced phenomenon of breaking it off with a friend, we get all-out spectacle. Just look at the Real Housewives of…any city, really. Bickering besties fuel nearly all the drama on those shows, whether it’s NeNe vs. Kim, Bethenny vs. Jill, or Teresa vs. everyone. Are we to only explore female friendships that end in a fury of weave pulling and insult slinging?

This may explain my male coworker’s reaction when I asked his advice about my potential friendbreakup. “Drama!!” he replied. I tried to explain that it wasn’t about drama; It was about being genuine in my relationships and surrounding myself with only people I truly enjoy. “Look,” he said, “I have three good friends and they’ve been my friends since I was 10 years old. Once you’re my friend, you’re my friend for life.”

Read more about letting friends go at YourTango.com 

10 Common Reasons Women End Relationships, But Shouldn’t

December 18th, 2013 - By Julia Austin
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Everybody has that one relationship they forever regret ending—the one that, after doing a lot more dating, they realize was actually pretty great. If you ask anyone why they ended those relationships, you can probably expect to hear one of these reasons. Here are 10 common things women feel should mark the end of a relationship that usually shouldn’t.

Ask A Very Smart Brotha: He’s Made Me The Side Chick But I Can’t Walk Away

October 23rd, 2013 - By Madame Noire
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Dear Damon,

Me & this guy met right in the middle of our respective divorces. What was supposed to be a two week rebound for me turned into 4 months–we came to genuinely care for one another. I broke if off gently, saying we should give one another some time to heal. I go to therapy, he goes straight to the next girl (and therapy). However, we “hang out” regularly, and of this his gf is aware. I doubt she knows it’s every weekend. She definitely doesn’t know I sleep over (just sleep for now).

Months pass and for some reason, the chemistry’s still there. The old me woulda cut this off as soon as I heard about the new chick, but since I’d gotten so close to the family, I felt that would be wrong of me. Besides, his parents, brothers, and friends love me and I came to love them too-they were super supportive through my divorce since my parents couldn’t be.

More months pass and he’s still seeing the same girl, but the chemistry between us remains. I try to avoid him as much as I can. Now it’s been a year since he and I stopped dating each other. I’m still not dating by choice. he’s still dating homegirl, still calling me twice a week, and we’re hanging out almost every weekend. I’ve since moved outta state but like an idiot started sleeping with him right before I left. He still calls me twice a week without fail. I’ve been lying to get outta taking his calls for a couple weeks now.

I’ve finally accepted he has no plans to do any self-reflection any time soon, and I want out of whatever kind of relationship this is (side chick? Ex? whatever) and I thought putting a couple states between us would do it. Talking to him just causes me a lot of anxiety, but I still talk to his parents regularly. How do I gently convince this guy to leave me in peace, hopefully without alienating the fam? Or has this ship simply sailed?

- Bad with Breaking It Off

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13 More Than Legit Reasons To Dump A Cheater

September 23rd, 2013 - By Ashley Page
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Some women are more than willing to forgive their man for cheating. Some say, and believe, that infidelity can be overcome if the right amount of time, effort, and emotions are put into forgiving. However, even if you are able to forgive your man for cheating on him, you’re never able to forget the experience and emotions that you were put through. Once infidelity has made its way into your relationship, things are rarely ever the same; hence are 14 legit reasons to dump a cheater, even if you think you can forgive him.

Note: These reasons are more pertinent to relationships, rather than marriages.

15 Mistakes People Make After Breaking Up

September 20th, 2013 - By Ashley Page
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Breaking up is never an enjoyable part of the dating game, but sometimes it’s more than necessary. The key though, when you find yourself on the wrong side of a breakup, is making you sure a) don’t have a complete breakdown, b) don’t end up in jail, c) don’t end up in the same situation again. Here are 15 mistakes people make after breaking up, so be sure to avoid them if you really want to be able to move on from this.

One Foot In The Door And One Foot Out The Other? How To Keep Your Man From Walking

September 18th, 2013 - By Ashley Page
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Relationships are never perfect and, in some instances, there are times when you, or your man, may begin to pull away from one another. Men can be really hard to understand because many of them refuse to be openly emotional and communicative, which really makes keeping a stable and happy relationship that much harder. If you’re finding that your man seems to be slipping through your hands like water or you’ve committed a major offense in the relationship, don’t give up hope just yet. Here are 14 ways to keep your man from walking.

Stop Faking It! Signs You’re Not As Into Him As You Thought

July 18th, 2013 - By Julia Austin
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After you’ve already dedicated time getting to know someone, getting attached to someone and getting involved in their life, it’s depressing to think that was all just a waste of time. But you know what the real waste of time is? Spending your life with someone you’re not 110% into. And here are signs that you’re on that path.