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When Men Clap Back: An Examination Of The Bruised Male Ego

July 22nd, 2015 - By Deja Jones
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If I had a dollar for every time I’ve walked down the street and been bombarded by catcalls only to ignore them and then be publicly insulted, I’d probably be up there with Oprah Winfrey in dollars. I’d be rolling in cash. In my interactions with guys on the streets, in relationships, and just in general, I’ve learned that the male ego is just as fragile as a raw egg. When cracked, things just get messy. This is true in all facets of life, including for men in the public eye.

For example, after learning about Ciara’s vow of celibacy with current boyfriend, Russell Wilson, rapper Future came out of nowhere to try and dump on his ex. He did multiple interviews dishing on some of his most intimate moments with Ciara, even going as far as to state that God didn’t tell him to wait to have sex with her, and that they would pray after doing the deed. He also decided to finally explain why their engagement didn’t work out, and of course, he made it seem like it was because she was forcing him to be someone he wasn’t meant to be. Future even publicly scolded Ciara’s parenting skills.  He questioned her decision to allow her new beau to be around their son. He said that if he was a kid and his mother had a man pushing his stroller who wasn’t his father, he would’ve “jumped out the stroller and slapped the sh*t out of him.” After months and months of silence, Future decided to crash the party. Did I mention that he was in the midst of promoting a new album?

The male ego is easily scarred and only time can heal wounds. But in the entertainment industry, a man’s bruised ego can quickly produce an ugly diatribe aimed at the same woman he once claimed to love. Take Jason Derulo for example. Even after a very public and nasty split from singer Jordin Sparks last year, Derulo still has a lot to say to the media about how much he is over her and how she is “so behind him.” All this despite the fact she’s the one who has moved on and found herself in a new relationship. In a recent interview with DuJour, Derulo downplayed his three-year relationship with Sparks, which inspired quite a few love songs, including “Marry Me.” He said, “I don’t think true love can be broken so I don’t think I’ve found it yet.”

And let’s not forget the kings of the clap back: Kanye West, Tyga and Wiz Khalifa. One minute they’re in love and the next they have nothing but hurtful things to say about their exes in the media. Suddenly, Amber Rose is a ho and bad mother who you have to take multiple showers after being with, and Blac Chyna has no ambition. Unfortunately, the media eats this kind of dirt for breakfast, but do we ever stop to think about the women catching all of the heat?

Women get bad raps and sadly we always have. We get labeled as sensitive, insecure and high-maintenance. When we’re upset, we get labeled as angry and bitter. But the men we love who trash us on the way out of our lives are guilty of being just as sensitive, insecure, angry and bitter.

Of course, men put up a tough exterior like nothing phases them, but give them a dose of their own medicine (or better yet, move on and be happy!) and they crumble. They break down and turn up just as easily as women.

Celebrities aside, we’ve all found ourselves in front of the moving train that is the male ego when it’s bruised. No one likes to be hurt or publicly humiliated, but men channel their pain in some very vindictive, destructive and dangerous ways. Black women are often accused of being angry, but men, whether on the way out of a relationship or simply looking for some play on the street, can be full of anger.

As for my stressful walks to and from work, some days I find myself nervous about saying “no” to a catcall coming from the guy who spends his days loitering in front of the bodega.  I don’t want to be called a b***h or some other hurtful name. Or worse. So I’m left to turn up my headphones, walk with my head down and wonder, when will men learn how to check their egos?

Love Hurts, But Not That Much: 15 Ways Not To Handle A Break-Up

November 12th, 2014 - By M A
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The old adage goes “It is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all.” Well, tell that to anyone who has had their heartbroken. While some of us are able to channel the emotional setback in positive ways, many of us take a slightly different approach. So in the spirit of encouraging rising above (and not going to jail) we bring you 15 ways not to handle a break-up.

We Hate To Say It But: 15 Celebrities Who Deserved To Get Dumped

November 3rd, 2014 - By Meg Butler
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Heartbreak is a horrible thing, but these celebrities may have deserved to get dumped. Maybe they’ll have better luck in romance when they do a little better.

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Matthew Knowles

Not one but two love children and paternity suits? Baby mama’s giving up Knowles family secrets on Inside Edition? It’s no wonder Mr. Knowles got divorced. He needs to take a break from the dating game before the Knowles family gets any bigger.

Dunzo? Did Big Sean And Naya Rivera Call Their Wedding Off?

April 9th, 2014 - By Veronica Wells
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According to Star Magazine, which is, we’ll admit, a questionable source, Detroit rapper Big Sean and his girlfriend turned fiancé actress Naya Rivera have called off their wedding.

The couple, who got engaged after six months of dating are allegedly reevaluating their upcoming nuptials because Big Sean admitted to being unfaithful.

Uh oh…

Sources tell Star that the 26 year old Big Sean proposed back in October but didn’t start acting like a man about to walk down the aisle and commit his life to a woman. Star says “his playboy ways did not subside and he suddenly got cold feet.” The source claims, “It was too much, too case for him.”

Star reports that while the wedding is on hold for right now, the couple haven’t ended their relationship. Supposedly, her friends are trying to convince her to move on but the actress is trying to hold on to her man. The sources claim “She’s already picked out a wedding dress and doesn’t want it all to be for nothing…she’s in denial.”

Like we said, this is all heresy at this point but we’ll see how this all plays out.

Whenever a couple breaks up it’s a sad story. But do you believe this one?

 

How To Get Over The One Who Got Away

February 25th, 2014 - By Ashley Page
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When a relationship ends, it always hurts. No matter how long the relationship was, there is always a bit of a sting that comes along with it. However, the better we feel about a relationship, the more it hurts when it ends. When you break up with someone who you thought was the one, it can lead to a lot of heartache. Here are 14 ways to get over the one who got away and move on with your life.

7 Post-Breakup Behaviors That Make You Feel Worse

February 7th, 2014 - By Madame Noire
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From YourTango

So, it didn’t work out — you guys broke up, and it sucks. It really sucks. But you know what makes it worse? Doing things that you know you shouldn’t be doing, because they’re only prolonging your misery.

In our recent Break Up With Your Ex survey, we found out that 64 percent of respondents are still obsessed with a past relationship, but 86 percent agree they’d be better off making a clean break from their exes. And we’re here to help you do just that.

So get off your ex’s Facebook page (we’ll get to the defriending later), tune in and move on!

1. Jumping Into The Sack
Sleeping with someone new tonight will totally renew your diminished sense of self-worth and independence, right?! Wrong. Having sex tonight will absolutely not do either of those things. Chances are, you’ll wake up with a post-coital hangover and regret everything about your little revenge romp. Don’t get me wrong; hooking up with someone new is a completely integral part of the post-breakup process … in due time. If your mind is made up, go ahead and make out with someone, but keep your clothes on until you can make a more rational decision. I apply a similar strategy when it comes to online shopping. If I still want it in a week, I break out the plastic. Until then, I pump the breaks.

2. Social Media-Stalking
You knew this one was coming — so cut it out! The stalking needs to STOP. Oh, you don’t want to go ahead and press “unfriend” because then you’ll look like you “actually care?” Please. Are you a robot? Of course you care. Doing it today is better than doing it next week, when you can stalk to see if he or she has any new pictures, or status updates, or instagrams, or tweets, or vines. That’s right, we’re talking a cold-turkey social media separation here.

Read more on the breakup process at YourTango.com 

Computer Love: How Technology Changed The Dating Game

December 17th, 2013 - By Madame Noire
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From HelloBeautiful 

The folks over at sparks & honey have completed studies of dating in the future and explored how we will date, have sex and break-up in the next decade by looking at three “macro” trends including: how technology is speeding up how we interact; that unconventional relationships are becoming more accepted; and that kink is going mainstream.

It’s no secret that the online world is changing how we do everything, especially dating. Technology has completely changed what used to be so simple. Boy used to meet girl, flirt with her, get her house number, call her and patiently wait until they connected with that girl and they would then take it from there. Dating is different. Sex is different. Break-ups are different.

Check out these trends that effect how we will date, have sex and break-up in the next ten years:

Technology Is Speeding Up How We Interact:

Technology advances continue to shape and speed up all aspects of dating, falling in and out of love, communication and sex. People volunteer their date willingly and apps generate that information, pulling from preference settings. Technology has become a distraction from our daily lives and created a new type of love triangle.

These days, technology has turned our culture into a microwave society and we’re too impatient when it comes to anything, especially dating. Well, let me speak for myself. I want things QUICK! If I text a guy and he doesn’t get back to me that day or even within that hour, I think he’s just not that into me and I don’t consider him a potential any longer. And don’t get me started online dating. Forget sites like OkCupid and Match.com, the apps that allow people to meet by simply swiping, proclaiming their interest or non-interest in someone have created instant gratification that is unrealistic in the “real world.”

How will technology continue to influence dating? Read more at HelloBeautiful.com 

‘He Wants To Do What A 23-Year-Old Do:’ K.Michelle On Her Split From NBA Boo Lance Stephenson

November 5th, 2013 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Over the summer, we learned that Love & Hip Hop star K.Michelle was exclusively dating 23-year-old Indiana Pacers shooting guard, Lance Stephenson. Unfortunately, their romance was short lived. By October, we were reporting on the couple’s split. Though she didn’t originally offer an explanation for their breakup, the “V.S.O.P.” singer later revealed that Lance had been unfaithful. During a recent interview with Power 105.1’s Breakfast Club hosts, K further discussed their split.

“We’re good. I just took a step back, but we’re good. We’ve been like, communicating. I think it’s the age. Let us just be friends,” she said.

The reality star went on to discuss his alleged cheating ways.

“He wants to do what a 23-year-old do, but he still don’t want me to do—you know how that goes. So I’m just like, ‘Okay, we might as well be friends,”‘ she added.

Though K admits that it was best that the they go their separate ways, she says that he was definitely one of her better boyfriends.

“You know, I’ve had some awful ones. He actually had some really nice qualities within him other than his… You know, so we’re cool. We really are good.”

Infidelity wasn’t the only issue though, the “I Just Wanna” singer also blames their hectic schedules for putting a strain on things.

“That’s another thing. I don’t think he was jealous, I just know that we never have time. Like my tour starts Monday and I haven’t seen him since like September. The season started and I haven’t had anytime, so…”

Watch her interview on the next page.

Unfollow, Unfriend & Other Ways To Make Your Break Up Less Messy

September 24th, 2013 - By Dee Rene
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Make Your break up less messy

Break ups were never meant to drag on and on for weeks at a time, quietly ruining your friendships, future relationships, and sanity. Some break ups are amicable and easy, and others may result in the authorities being called. If you are having an epic heartbreaking break up, there is a way to make it less messy. You really can have a clean break and be ready to start again.

‘Without Her I Wouldn’t Be Here:’ Big Sean On Ex-Girlfriend Ashley

August 14th, 2013 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Despite dropping a cosgining verse on girlfriend Naya Rivera’s diss track aimed towards his exes, Big Sean maintains his love and respect for his ex-girlfriend Ashley. During a recent interview with Necole Bitchie, the 25-year-old rapper discussed parting ways with his longtime sweetheart and finding love in Naya.

On catching heat over his break-up with Ashley:

“A lot of people criticized me or whatever. I’ve known her since I was 16 years old. A lot of the people criticizing me, I wanna ask, ‘Are y’all motherf***ers still with the same person that you was with when you was 15 or 16 years old?’ Me and her grew up. We didn’t always live in the same place and things got hard.”

“She graduated school and didn’t really like LA and she wanted to move to New York. And I’m like, ‘No man, you should be with me.’ Then it was just like, ‘Well, we can make it work long distance.’ For me, it was a little too hard. I feel like that’s just one of the reasons why it didn’t work. I don’t have anything but love for her.

On how he feels about Ashley: 

“No matter what, I got love for her and I’m pretty sure she has love for me. That’s always going to be there and that’s why I made sure I kept that song on this album after I did it and after we broke up. She deserves a beautiful song for her because without her, I wouldn’t be where I am period. She deserves 10 songs like that honestly.”

On his track titled, “Ashley:”

“It’s not just a tribute to her. I’m just telling the different stories we had and people will be able to relate to it in their own love lives. Everybody has their… you know, for me, it’s Ashley. “

On messing up during their relationship:

“I messed up a lot. We would just go through things that young people do. I made mistakes, she made mistakes. At least I’m man enough to admit it.”

Check out Sean’s full interview below.