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A breakup may feel like the necessary end to a relationship, but when the dust has settled and you feel like you’re having a change of heart, what do you do?
Some love stories deserve to come to an end, but backsliding isn’t always a bad idea. If you’re thinking about going back for the following reasons, it could be a sign that this breakup was just the end of a chapter, not the whole tale.
But no one deserves unlimited chances to do better. If you keep encountering the same problems over and over again, it might be time to take that broken record off of the player.
You Broke up to Maintain Your Image
It’s happened to everyone. You were mad in the moment and badmouthed him to anyone who would listen. Now that everyone is glad that you broke up, you’ve changed your mind. But we’ve all been there, and the awkwardness of explaining your change of heart shouldn’t keep you from happiness.
Celebrity breakup announcements make it sound like everything is OK — until you hear the story behind them.
Wondering if you should stay or if you should go? Well if these are your problems, you’re doing just fine. Bail for these reasons and prepare to be salty when the next chick realizes they’re really no big deal.
He’s A Bad Kisser
Too much saliva? Open mouth kisses that reach your nose? OK. Bad kisses can be pretty bad. Luckily, kissing is a teachable skill. If you love everything else about him, sit him down for a little kissing school with a lot of positive reinforcement. Not only will your relationship heat up, but you’ll be dating your own custom-made kisser.
Looks like Chris Brown and Karrueche are on yet another break…and after she held him down during his recent incarceration. Shame.
We knew things were on a downward spiral when Chris was out here liking a Photoshopped picture of him and Rihanna in bed together. While this may seem minor to some, we all know by now that these type of social media behaviors are not by chance. We all recall the days when Chris unfollowed Rihanna or vice versa and the very next day we’d learn that the two were no longer dating.
And apparently, an Instagram like means quite a bit.
Anyway, rumor has it that when Karrueche found out Chris was liking pictures of him and his ex together, she naturally wasn’t too happy about it. Particularly because he made a mini documentary professing his love to two different women. But according to TMZ, Rihanna is only a small part of the problem. A source told TMZ that Karrueche thinks Chris is behaving immaturely, acting like a child spending more time partying than he is making music.
And from the looks of it, it doesn’t seem like Chris is taking their breakup all that hard. Instead, he posted a couple of tweets about taking relationship advice from the wrong people and the very trite and degrading “these hoes ain’t loyal” line.
He tweeted: “Be careful who u take relationship advice from. Especially if they are single. They’re single for a reason! Lol #lonelyfaceass.”
And then: “These hoes ain’t loyal but my fans damn sure are!”
It didn’t stop with the tweets, Chris went to St. Tropez. And to add insult to injury, he took one of Karrueche’s friends along with him. And of course the two were photographed together both on Chris’ personal Instagram and by the paparazzi.
Exhibit A: (She’s the girl with the dark hair, also seen with Karrueche in the picture below.)
Karrueche hasn’t exactly confirmed a split but she did post this subliminal picture on Instagram, seemingly directed at Chris.
Sometimes it really is hard to tell who celebrities are referencing with these random memes. But considering how Chris’ comb over conk was all over the internet, this one seems like it’s all about Breezy.
Either way what do you think? Is this it for Chris and Karrueche or is this just another chapter in their relationship tome?
Men speak another language. And sometimes they don’t say anything at all. He might not have the courage to tell you out loud, but unhappy partners give off plenty of signs that they’re done. Pay attention to the clues and you won’t get blindsided by the end of your relationship.
You Watch Anderson Cooper During Dinner
What started out as comfortable silence has turned into dead air. Now you spend your meal times watching in silence, wondering what he’s thinking.
“When you fight to cling to people who are no longer meant to be in your life, you delay your destiny. Let them go.”- Mandy Hale
We all know coping with a break-up is never easy. There are a rush of emotions that flood the mind, heart and body like a tidal wave smacking the shore and knocking over anyone or anything in its way. Everyone has advice, but no one feels your pain-you don’t even know how to feel your pain.
We have to understand that we will experience a range of emotions, allow yourself time to feel and deal. When I say feel I mean identify the emotion-if its” hurt” be okay with the emotion of “hurt” allow yourself time to process the feeling, don’t change the emotion to one that may be easier to handle like “anger.”When we identify the emotion it loses some of its power, because we then identify and acknowledge the situation that is responsible for this feeling.
The next step is equally as import, in order to deal you now have to isolate the emotion and begin to break it down. I remember when I was going through one of the worst break-ups I ever experienced. I felt abandoned, hurt, angry, sad, disappointed and depressed. I wondered why he would do this to me. When the question I should have been asking myself was how did we get here and how do I plan on moving forward. Coping looks different for everyone, because we all have different situations, needs and mindsets.
When dealing with a break-up, it would be beneficial to be completely honest with self when evaluating what went wrong-yes we have to accept some of the blame, none of us are perfect. We then have to accept the fact that it’s over-yes it’s hard; however time is a healer.
Now it’s time to start the healing process. Remember we are not expected to be Superwoman, Wonderwoman, She¬-Ra or any other superhero, it’s okay to hang up our “capes” for a while and allow ourselves to grieve. Yes grieve, we are now transitioning from a state of” WE” back to “ME.”
Here are a few strategies:
• Keep a journal -write down your feelings on a daily basis, this not only helps you express emotions, but helps you track your progress.
• Stick to your normal routine-Helps to reduce anxiety, promote stability and give you some feeling of normalcy.
• Talk it out – Talking with a trusted friend or family member can help you realize you are not alone, others have been through heartache, releasing of the bottled up emotions and can help you gain a new perspective.
• Cut all Ties with Ex – by that I mean if you do not have to communicate then don’t (If you have children together, depending on the age of the child you may have to communicate-keep the conversations strictly about the children)
• Prayer/Meditation – Spiritually cleansing is necessary when healing and starting anew.
• Nurture Self – Exercise, explore new interests or take time out to simply “do you.”
• Move On – I know it may be difficult, however you have to put yourself back out there.
It’s no secret that this will be painful, that’s totally normal and a necessary part of the process. Growing pains hurt, rather they’re physical, emotional or spiritual. We know that breakups are a possibility, nothing is guaranteed.
Perception is key- use this experience to learn, grow and change what needs to be changed. Give yourself the time you need, but get back out there and date again. Life has many lessons.
LIVE, LEARN, GROW AND MOVE ON!
“Since everything is a Reflection of our Minds….Everything can be changed by our Minds”- Buddha
We’ve all heard them and, most likely, we’ve all used them: the lame, not-at-all creative, not necessarily believable breakup excuses. They are cliché, catchphrase, and so common they deserve a place in the dictionary…. or the trash can. They may be all these things, but they are also here to stay.
But, that’s not even the most annoying part. The worst thing about lame breakup excuses is that they are rarely honest: if someone is breaking up with you, you want to know why, and you deserve to know why. What you don’t want is someone with an excuse that reads like it’s written on a teleprompter. “I (insert name here) am just not ready for all this…” And Blah, Blah, Blah.
That is, of course, the bad news. The good news is that lame breakup excuses provide us with, at the very least, blog material. We can poke fun at them, and poke fun at them we will. So, I give you some of dating’s dumbest, lamest, and corniest breakup excuses:
“It’s not you, it’s me”
Ah, the “it’s not you, it’s me” excuse. An oldie, but not a goodie. The lamest thing about this excuse is that it is a bold faced lie. The person who is using it is really saying, “It’s you, I’m awesome.” If it really wasn’t you, they wouldn’t be initiating a breakup to begin with.
“I’m not ready for commitment”
Taken straight from the “How to Waste Someone’s Time Handbook” comes the commitment excuse. Milli Vanilli blamed it on the rain, and the people using this excuse are blaming it on fear of obligation. What do they have in common? They are both full of crap (yet, in the spirit of full disclosure, I must confess that I still have a Milli Vanilli tape…and yes, I listen to it). People who say they are not ready to commit really mean that they are not ready to commit with you. If they weren’t ready to commit with anyone, then why would they be dating in the first place? An exception to this may be the people who insist, from the start, that they aren’t looking for anything serious. They may genuinely run from commitment like Kanye West runs toward a mirror.
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If you’re ever wondering what’s going on with Chris Brown on the relationship front, all you need do is find out who he is and isn’t following on Twitter. As dumb as that sounds, in the past, it’s been an insanely accurate depiction of his relationship status with the infamous love triangle members, Brown, Karrueche and Rihanna.
And today, it looks like Karruche Tran is on the chopping block…again. Not only did Chris Brown and Karrueche stop following each other, Chris also tweeted these cryptic messages:
Don’t sleep with a white tee on next to ya shawty. Gonna wake up wit footprints on ya back.
— Chris Brown (@chrisbrown) October 22, 2013
Back turned walking away from the situation. Hamisheh asegh!
— Chris Brown (@chrisbrown) October 22, 2013
Umm…yeah I don’t exactly get it either. But according to the IBTimes.com, “Hamisheh asegh” is Persian for “perpetual lover.” And we don’t know if this is related, but it’s also a nice, little melodic song.
Who knows. Right now, it’s a bit too early to tell; but we’re sure with Chris’ penchant for the dramatics, we’ll know what’s up one way or another.
Chris and Karrueche are supposed to be hosting a Halloween event together in Las Vegas, let’s see if they show up for that.
Though some breakups are mutual, most of them are bitter and sometimes blindsiding. When a relationship ends on bad terms, both parties walk away with a sense of bitterness, anger, and frustration. Even though some time has passed, you probably still harbor some ill feelings towards your ex. However, let the past be the past and mind what comes out of your mouth. Here are 14 things to never say about an ex.