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Human beings are nosy. That’s why when someone tells us something — anything — we instantly want to know more. You’re engaged — when’s the wedding? You’re moving — where to? You’re beefing with somebody — what’d they do? You’re pregnant — who’s the daddy? Whoops.
That last question there is why Tika Sumpter chose not to go public with her pregnancy until two months before her due date, but in giving us some tidbits about her relationship in Fit Pregnancy did she actually do more damage?
And what about Brandy and Monica? The decades-old bad blood between the two has risen to the surface again, but no one is talking about what really happened. Is the slight shade played?
Join in with the editors of MadameNoire as we discuss these topics and what we would do if we were in Solange’s shoes and a white person told us to sit down at a venue in this episode of Did Y’all See?
Just when you though the long-standing pettiness beef between Brandy and Monica had come to an end, another installment in the saga emerged. Coming on the heels of Monica’s appearance on the season premiere of The Real where she spoke of how she felt about Brandy response to not joining the #SoGoneChallenge of her 2003 hit song, Brandy released her own response today that is heavy on the subliminals, but definitely manages to get her point across.
When Monica proclaimed that she was “unbothered” by Brandy’s remark of “chile bye” in response to a fan’s question about whether or not she would engage in the #SoGoneChallenge that showcased the timeless appeal of Monica’s 2003 hit, many assumed the issue was dead. Well Brandy, never one to let comments at her expense go by unnoticed, took to her Snapchat to let fans know how she felt about it.
In the series of Snapchat videos, Brandy can be heard saying that she responds to being attacked by being positive and that even though people are shady and say shady things, she takes the high road.
Read more about this never-ending feud at HelloBeautiful.com
Over the weekend, we wrote about Monica’s response to the shade Brandy threw at her #SoGoneChallenge. In case you missed it, in her interview with “The Real,” Monica took the highest road. She spoke about love, light and positivity. She said that God used Brandy’s shade to test her. She also shared how much she’s always admired Brandy’s talent. She explained that the only Grammy the both of them have ever won came when they collaborated for “The Boy is Mine.” And she admitted that despite all the bad blood, she would be happy to work with her again.
Her response was a publicist’s wet dream. And Monica came across looking like a saint.
Brandy took a different approach.
In an Instagram post that seemed to simply be celebrating her beat and braids, Brandy issued a response to Monica’s comments.
#Inspire is the only reason #IAm @beautyamazonmua #Gift @drkariwill #Gift #GoddessTwist #Brakari @brakarihaircollection Hey Hey Hey, #IKnowTHEREALStoryThatEverybodyDoesntKnow #NewKeyOnKeyNewMeOnMe #MissSubstance #PositivityIsTheOneThingYouShouldNotFake
It’s all in the hashtags. Notice how the words “The Real” were capitalized. She mentions a story that no one else knows. And then, if there were any confusion the last one told it all. “Positivity is the one thing you should not fake.”
Truth is, there are always two sides to every story. I’m sure something did go down between these two women. Something that may have been a bit muddy and murkier than Monica’s love and light message. Still, if Brandy is not going to explain what really and truly happened, then she should just leave it alone. Because, right now, in the public eye Monica is coming off as the mature and evolved one, while Brandy just looks a bit bitter and petty. Again, that might not be the reality of the situation. But in this fickle business of fame, televised interviews and social media, perception goes a long way.
What do you think about Brandy’s approach to the whole thing? Is it working in her favor or nah?
Veronica Wells is the culture editor of MadameNoire. She is also the author of “Bettah Days.”
Just last month, Monica’s 2003 jam “So Gone” was flipped on its head by social media as a viral trend, #SoGoneChallenge. From fans to celebrities, everyone got in on the action, trying their hand at freestyling to the Missy Elliott-produced track.
However, one singer wasn’t too keen on giving the challenge a try. When someone asked if Brandy would throw her hat in the ring, she replied, “Child bye,” which immediately prompted many to believe there was still bad blood between the two singers.
During a clip for the season three opener of The Real, the R&B singer spoke on the situation. Monica had actually come on the show to surprise a fan who participated n the challenge, but when Loni Love asked how she felt about Brandy’s dismissive reaction, Monica kept it real and classy.
“I’ll tell you, I’m not bothered at all,” she said. “Honestly, the old me and the new me are two different things, and this journey of self-progression and self-love and empowerment that I’m on, I can’t go backwards. I think that, that was just a test from God for me and I’ve always thought that she was one of the most legendary people and, has one of the most amazing voices in the runs and riffs. And I just think that it’s, some of it, has been blown out of proportion to a degree, but I can’t tell my kids to do something that I can’t do. So it was just a test for me to, uh, always just take the high road and know that in anything that happens in this life, if it’s meant for you, it’s yours. Nobody can stop it or stand in the way of it.”
Monica even said she’d like to put the drama in the past and collaborate with Brandy.
“I would work with her again. It’s never been an easy situation, but the reason that I would do it, is because we are from a special elite group. It was her, Aaliyah and myself. And it was a very special time where each of us were individuals, we did our own thing and we all made our own mark. And the truth and reality is the only Grammy either of us has is together. So that to me says something special. So yeah, I absolutely would.”
I have personally been “over” the Brandy and Monica beef since right around the time it began. So, I’m sure many of you will accuse me of stirring the pot. But I view this as more of a post to address a general confusion. From the last I heard, the two weren’t just getting along, they had teamed up with one another for the song, “It All Belongs To Me.” The two went on a promotional tour for the single. They appeared on the cover of Ebony and in several interviews they admitted that the things that separated them as young girls were no longer an issue. In our interview with Monica, she admitted that the feud that existed between them as teenagers had a lot to do with marketing and publicity. After all, the song was about the two of them fighting over a man. They’d grown and matured and were no longer in that space. They were even supposed to go on tour together. But that fell through with no explanation from either singer.
And earlier this year, in an interview with Entertainment Weekly, Brandy said flat out that she and Monica aren’t on great terms.
“It was so long ago, I’m just in a different space. I don’t talk to Monica. We are on different paths.”
But my question really stems from a recent social media post from Brandy. As you know, Monica’s “So Gone Challenge” has been all over the internet. And while there have been several celebrities who participated, Brandy was not one of them. And people wondered why.
When someone asked her if she could do the So Gone Challenge, Brandy responded with two words.
That was enough. We got the message but she took it a step further with another full Instagram post, that has since been deleted.
Meanwhile, if you look on Monica’s page, it’s all about love and light.
Still Working❤️I couldn’t be more grateful.. Life will be filled with moments that you will never forget. The key to continuously being blessed is being aware of what you put out.. Negativity, envy, hate & jealousy are the key to an early demise.. What ever you spread amongst the world is sure to come back to you.. It’s up to you❤I choose LOVE️, M.B. ❤️THANK YOU for my shoes Mommy I LIVE in them #StillHerBaby (clothes: @shunmelson)
So the question is, what really happened between this two?
From all the receipts presented, it would seem that Brandy is the only one to blame for their falling out. Truth is, we really don’t know. After all, Monica’s relationship with Ciara isn’t what it used to be either. Unless Brandy decides to spill the beans, I guess we may never know.
If you’ve been wondering why you haven’t heard new music from Brandy Norwood lately, it might be because her record label is making some shady moves to lock her into a contract. Entertainment Weekly reports the 37-year-old Never Say Never singer no longer wants to be down with her record label, Chameleon Entertainment. EW claims to have obtained documents of a complaint filed with L.A.’s superior court in which the singer alleges her label “will not pay for her to record new albums or allow her to otherwise release music to her fans”. Norwood claims that the move is a bold attempt to bully her into signing a new contract that is far worse for her that the present agreement she is presently under with the label.
The documents claim that Norwood is seeking $1 million in compensatory damages and calls out in particular, Breyon Prescott, head of A&R at Epic Records. Norwood also accuses the label of not holding up its end of the deal in regards to the 2012 release of Two Eleven, a record that was supposed to be the first of a five-album deal. Norwood’s legal team says, “pursuant to the Agreement, Chameleon was obligated to pay recording costs for the second album in the amount of $600,000, 10 percent of which it would owe promptly following receipt of notice that Norwood had commenced recording of the second album.” The lawsuit also alleges that the lawsuit alleges that Chameleon suspended Norwood’s contract in April 2014, sending her a letter wherein the company accused her attorney of telling Chameleon’s president that she had “failed to cooperate” with the label.
Brandy released the single “Beggin’ and Pleadin'” earlier this year and also premiered the sitcom Zoe Ever After on BET. I don’t know about you all but I’m ready for some Never Say Never type of R&B revisited for 2016. She offered some reassurance to EW that she’s in the studio working on something new:
“There’s definitely [an album] in the works. I’m recording in Los Angeles. I’m working, singing, and I’m ready. Nothing is going to get in my way.”
We hope B-Rocka can knock those pesky legal troubles out the way. In the meantime we’ll be patiently waiting.
In college I self-diagnosed myself with anxiety. Sounds a bit crazy, right? Well, my mother said the same thing. Nevertheless, I always felt nervous to the point of a panic attack when faced with an issue or wanting to prove myself. I would try to relax but nothing ever really worked.
Today, at 24 years old, I’m proud to say that I’ve been able to control my nervous jitters and simply stay calm. While I do notice anxiety and nervous jitters are triggered more often when I’m under lots of pressure, it’s nowhere near as bad as it was before. I never visited a therapist or sought out medical attention for my own random fear of judgment, but in a recent interview starlet Brandy had with Entertainment Tonight, she made me feel like I wasn’t alone in my struggle.
The singer/actress revealed that she has “adult nerves,” a term she coined due to her age and battle with anxiety. While many would think of the entertainer as fearless individual since she’s been performing in front of audiences since she was a teenager, that wasn’t the case when she got back into the spotlight. Brandy revealed that her new show Zoe Ever After took lots of prayer and courage.
“There were a few different steps I needed to take in order to get back to the space where I could carry and hold my own on a show again. I went into the Zoe experience wanting to feel that [Moesha confidence] all over again,” she said.” “My nerves are worse now. I was fearless as a kid. I have adult nerves now and basically they don’t go away. But I’m blessed enough to not allow them to cripple me. I’m just inspired all over again in my life!”
In support of Brandy’s own sentiments, I’ve learned to take anxiety in strides and not let it consume me. I realized the more that I thought about it, the more I would let it take over my mind to the point that I couldn’t focus on anything else but my fear. While Brandy didn’t necessarily go into detail about how she got over her nerves, other than simply pushing forward, there are a few different lifestyle changes I’ve made that have definitely made an impact on myself.
To begin, waking up early to meditate for ten minutes has been great routine. I noticed that the first thing I would do every morning was grab my cellphone and scroll through work emails. Instead, I don’t pick up my phone until an hour after waking up — unless it’s an emergency of course. This down time allows me to center myself and prepare my spirit for a positive day. Limiting my alcohol and caffeine intake has also helped a lot. I no longer drink alcohol or caffeine, which is quite hard in my field of work, but I’ve been dedicated to making it work for the past three months. Now, I opt for water all day, everyday. This keeps me refreshed and mobile without all the added sugar, which actually worsens anxiety. Sleep is also another factor that many count out. Unlike the recommend eight hours, I was clocking in at around five hours, sometimes less. These days I’m a stickler for getting home early enough to get my proper rest and relaxation to keep myself cool, calm and collected — even under pressure.
As always, we’re interested in your own stories too. Have you ever suffered from adult anxiety? What do you credit to combating it?
Toni Braxton’s Unbreak My Heart Lifetime biopic drew 3.6 million viewers, becoming the network’s most-watched film in a year. Did you enjoy it? Because we sure did. Narrated and executive produced by Toni Braxton (who sang her own music in the movie), Unbreak My Heart followed the success of Lifetime’s much talked about Aaliyah and Whitney Houston biopics. Whose life story would you love to see on screen next? From Missy Elliott’s comeback to Brandy’s interesting career and love live and Jennifer Hudson’s incredible story, here are some candidates we think Lifetime should consider.
Vanessa Williams made headlines as the first Black winner of Miss America, a title that she would later relinquish after a Penthouse scandal threatened her burgeoning career. But Williams bounced back and conquered virtually every sector of entertainment: the musical charts, Broadway, film, and television. If that doesn’t scream biopic, I don’t know what does.
On last Thursday’s episode of The Real, singer and actress Brandy Norwood served as a guest co-host and used it as an opportunity to promote her new BET series Zoe Ever After. And because the actress and singer has been vocal about her love life in the past, it was no surprise that she talked about it some more on the show. But what did shock those watching was her declaration that she never wants to get married. Like ever.
After a sham marriage and a few failed engagements, Brandy shared that in the present day, she hasn’t dated in over a year, and she loves the single life because it’s the first time where her focus has been just on herself, her career, and her daughter. Although I am not a mother, I can certainly identify with Brandy’s need to give up on dating to just focus on the more important things in her life. Hell, I’ve met all types of strange men and have had failures that make me question why I even try anymore. Still, I wouldn’t go as far as to say that I never want to get married and that I would be okay with simply being in one relationship after another or single for the rest of my life. Life is a long journey depending on how you live it, and I wouldn’t want to go through it alone without a committed partner, intimacy or romance.
Before Brandy’s statement, powerhouse women such as Oprah Winfrey and Shonda Rhimes also went on the record to say they’re okay without marriage and commitment. Most women see this as a testament to embracing themselves and knowing what they want. And while I have embraced singlehood for the last two years, I won’t lie and say that it’s for me.
I’d like to have children and build a family at some point in my life, and I can’t do that alone. Kudos to all the single parents and women who want children without the man, but that’s not how I want my life set up. I’d like to build with someone and create a legacy and set an example of a strong family dynamic for my kids.
I’d also like to share my success with someone. Sure, it’s fun when you can share in those things with your friends and crack open a bottle of bubbly or wine and toast to good fortune. But having a life partner walking through the journey with you through the highs and lows, being there when the curtain closes and the tears fall, and then celebrating with you, is different.
The way my life is currently set up, on one end of the spectrum, I can identify with Brandy and say that I am content with being single right now and focusing on my career. Somewhere in the middle of that spectrum, I’m actually afraid to not be single and to give up my freedom, not due to commitment issues, but because of said career focus. But then there’s the lonely girl on the other end of that spectrum yearning for companionship, and someone to come home to after work. On any given day, I am at a different place on the spectrum, but I know for sure that when that time comes and I meet someone worth giving up the single life for, I am not looking back.
Brandy has dealt with her fair share of heartache and pain. And if you know her track record with love, you can’t help but root for her. You want her to be happy. And right now, being happy for Brandy is being by herself.
At least, that’s what she told the ladies of The Real when she visited the show recently to discuss her new sitcom, Zoe Ever After.
The clip from her visit started with Brandy saying she’s at peace with singledom.
“I am so satisfied being by myself. I’ve never taken this much time on myself.”
When Lonnie Love asked her if she was dating, the singer said she hadn’t gone on a date in quite some time, opting instead to focus on her work and her family.
“I don’t date. I haven’t been out on a date in a year.”
She continued, “I just like me right now. I just like the way it feels being by myself and taking care of my daughter and doing my thing. I’m all about my career right now.”
I heard that. Who hasn’t been fed up with the dating scene and just needed that break? That time alone to focus on you, who and what’s important to you, and to just love on yourself? I understood that. I respected that. I got that.
But what I didn’t get was Brandy all of a sudden saying that she never wants to get married. That just didn’t sound like her.
Jeannie Mai commended Brandy for taking a break and said women should definitely do so before getting married. That’s when Adrienne Bailon said, “But wait, she’s saying she doesn’t ever see marriage in the future.”
She expounded on that feeling, saying, “Girl, I don’t want to go down that road. I know I don’t want to…self-love is great right now.”
And that’s where she surprised me–and made me a little sad at the same time. I couldn’t help but wonder, through both her statements on the show and her demeanor as she said them, if she was telling the truth. Could Brandy really be giving up on love?
Based on what we’ve seen her go through over the years, you could understand why she might want to.
She had her heart broken by Wanya Morris of Boyz II Men when she was 18, and in the worst way:
“He fell in love with someone else, so the worst feeling is to be in love all by yourself. That feels f–ked up, honestly, it just does, and that’s the only way I can really put it. It felt like somebody had just completely taken my heart out of my body and just crushed it.”
Then there was the fraudulent union with Robert Smith, a guy who literally ran to the media after the relationship ended, embarrassing the star by sharing that they were never married.
Then, she bounced back and was engaged to former NBA star Quentin Richardson from 2004 to 2005. During that time, she even got a tattoo of his face on her back, as she was so sure that they were going to go the distance. Ater their split, she refrained from seriously dating and having sex for years.
And then, there was music executive Ryan Press. He proposed to her in 2012, and it looked like Brandy finally found her happily ever after. She was happier than ever. But in 2014, things fell apart, and the engagement was called off. When I talked to her about moving forward from that split last year, Brandy admitted it wasn’t easy.
“It really did take a while. This last heartbreak was really hard, you know what I mean? It’s time. I just made a decision that even through heartbreak, you have to affirm that all will be well and in time you will feel better. And I feel better.”
Even after that split, though, Brandy didn’t give up. She appeared on a short-lived show called The Daily Helpline and sought advice on how to make relationships work.
“I have a deep question for you guys. I’ve been in relationships before. I’ve been the heartbreaker; I have had my heart broken to pieces. But I just want to know the secret of making it work, cause time is ticking. I’m 35, and I’m trying to one day get to the next level. The next level! You know? Like marriage one day? Help me.”
But now she says that she’s done with marriage?
That’s why I’m so skeptical. Some women and men, you can look them in their eyes and tell that marriage has absolutely no appeal to them. Maybe they watched the relationships of their parents fall apart bitterly, or maybe they’ve been severely hurt in a previous marriage. And while some of those people do forgo holy matrimony and just date, others find someone who changes their way of thinking and tie the knot down the line.
But someone who has been engaged more than once and openly said that she wants to be married now saying she knows she doesn’t want it at all? I don’t think so. I think Brandy’s speaking from a place of hurt, and I’ve seen quite a few men, and especially women, do that.
I know women who hit their 30s and feel as though because they weren’t already in a serious relationship, there is no hope for them. I’ve even had a friend say that after everything Brandy’s been through, it makes sense for her to want to give up on marriage. She is almost 37.
But why give up on something you’ve always been so adamant about wanting? Why turn up your face at the idea of dating and look horrified at the concept of marriage all of a sudden? What scares me is that I think many of us give up because we’re operating on the timelines society has set for us. They say that if you don’t get married by a certain age, the chances of you doing so, and the chances of you having a healthy pregnancy, dwindle. So there some of us are, depressed because we think we’ve missed the boat. The man we thought we’d marry didn’t pan out. Our attempt at online dating has been a mess. Instead of being open to love and what it could bring, we get fed up and tell people “Maybe marriage just isn’t for me.” We didn’t meet the invisible deadlines, so we decide to be defiant and reject the idea of marriage, shaking our head at the word and saying, “I don’t want that.”
But the reality is that instead of giving up on what we want for ourselves, we need to give up on the pressure people put on us to get it fast as hell. Give up on thinking that every time we step out, we need to do and wear the absolute most to get noticed. Give up on running behind and doing everything for a man who shows very quickly that he won’t reciprocate because we’re just so sure we can make him want to settle down. Give up on going into every dating situation with the desperation in our face that we want a ring, and we want it ASAP. Give up on taking a ring from a man just to say you’re engaged, and that you made the life deadline, even though you don’t know if you’re ready.
All the sh-t that people tell us we should do to make it down the aisle, and make it down before we expire like old milk (because marriage, in that realm, is more about calling yourself a “wife” than truly wanting to be one), give up on that.
I feel, in my heart, that Brandy still wants to get to that “next level,” but I think it’s time for her, and many of us, to go about doing so in a different way. As she said, self-love is great. When you take the time to love yourself and know yourself, you’re not so eager to be out in the world looking with a magnifying glass and a list of wants. Instead, you just open yourself up to what may come, politely decline what you don’t want, and focus your energy and happiness in doing the things you like. As cliche as it sounds, you really do attract some interesting things and people when you stop looking for them.
So I say this long spiel to state that no matter what you’ve been through in relationships, no matter the people you’ve encountered through this thing we call life, and no matter what people tell you about clocks and deadlines, you shouldn’t let it push you into becoming a cynic of love and marriage. The person who is so sure that it won’t happen for them that they feel the need to raise an eyebrow at the idea as if to say, “Marriage? For me? Girl, bye.” Plenty of women are being open and finding love not when society tells them they need to, but when they are truly ready for it.
At the end of the day, I just don’t want to see us shut out love because of what we’ve been through, or frown upon marriage because of what other people say it should be about. I respect that she is taking this time for herself, and, after all she’s experienced in matters of the heart, it’s only right. But a time out doesn’t have to turn into one thinking time has run out.