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We told you about this new advice show, The Daily Helpline, last week when Brandy was a guest and spoke openly and vulnerably about hoping to find love before it’s too late. Someone else who has appeared on the new Fox show since is Tisha Campbell-Martin, and she too opened up in a way that we’ve never seen her do before. While giving a woman who was a victim of sexual assault some heartfelt advice, she revealed that she has gone through the same feelings and struggles the young woman had because she was also sexually abused at one point in her life.
“You can no longer be a victim. You have to be victorious at this point. You can’t play the victim because at this point, and I’m not saying this to put you down or anything. What I’m saying is that he is winning, and you are allowing him to win. You are making a conscious decision to harm yourself, to hurt yourself and allow this person to still have dominion over your life. You can’t do that anymore. The reason why I can absolutely say this to you without judgment or anything else is, and this is the first time I have ever admitted this on camera in front of millions of people is that I too have been a victim of the same thing. When I was three I was raped, by an older person. Now, I knew as child I did nothing wrong and that this wasn’t my fault, but I have found forgiveness in the guilt that I might’ve had. I felt like, did I pull this in? Did I do something? At three years old? No. It’s a heinous crime.”
You can check out Martin’s very brave admission below:
With a music career that began when she was just 15 years old, singer and actress Brandy has been in the spotlight for two decades. Being a star on the rise can be difficult to navigate for any teen, but Brandy believes that today’s young stars have it much harder than she ever did. The reason? Social media.
In the above web exclusive from Brandy’s “Oprah: Where Are They Now?” interview, she explains the challenge of living in a world that is so socially connected.
“Oh my God… the opinions are so in-your-face,” she says. “I feel for the young artists today because people can just type them anything that they want to say and [be] negative, you know?”
Had social media been around during Brandy’s teen years, she doubts she would have been able to handle her naysayers having such direct access to her. “I don’t think I would have made it in this generation,” she admits. “I don’t think I had… that strength that you need to really have a sense of self.”
Read more about Brandy’s thoughts on social media at BlackVoices.com
“I Just Want To Know The Secret Of Making It Work, Cause Time Is Ticking”: Brandy Talks Being 35 And Still Searching For Mr. Right
So many new talk shows! There’s one in particular that just started on Fox called “The Daily Helpline,” which is an advice show for people looking for help with love, dealing with drama and more. Brandy was just a guest on the show, and when speaking with hosts Spirit and Miles, she made herself very vulnerable and and asked a question that many of us are also looking for the answer to:
Brandy: “I have a deep question for you guys. I’ve been in relationships before. I’ve been the heartbreaker, I have had my heart broken to pieces. But I just want to know the secret of making it work, cause time is ticking. I’m 35 and I’m trying to one day get to the next level. The next level! You know? Like marriage one day? Help me, ya’ll looking at me like ya’ll don’t know what I’m talking about.”
Spirit: “Communication every day is the key. And I honestly think that most people aren’t willing to do what it takes to make a marriage work, much less a relationship. Most of us, we have to ask the question: Why should I share my passwords with my partner? Why do I have to tell them where I am?”
Brandy: “Oh you gon’ tell me your password! [laughs] Just kidding!”
Spirit: “That’s the right idea though! I really think with all sincerity, relationships are hard, and people don’t want to work hard. You have to tell your partner, if we’re going to do this, I mean literally do this, it needs to be ’til death do us part, not ’til divorce do us part. So if divorce isn’t an option, and your personal happiness always has to be an option, then what you’ll say is ‘Hey, we have a problem and I refuse to be unhappy so we need to figure this out. We need to get to resolution. When you take it off the table, then you have the opportunity for resolution, you have the opportunity to forgive, and you have the opportunity for forever. You can’t hold on to stuff.”
Brandy: “Why weren’t you around two years ago in my life? [laughs]”
Spirit is telling the truth! But what do you think? Check out the chat the singer had with “The Daily Helpline” hosts below and share your thoughts.
In 2002, Brandy made a big announcement. She had married secretly and was six months pregnant. Then there was that reality tv show, “Brandy: Special Delivery” where we saw Brandy and her “husband,” Robert Smith together and watched the process of her giving birth to her daughter Sy’rai. Watching the show you could tell something was off between Brandy and Robert– I just never assumed that their whole relationship was a sham.
Either way, on a recent episode of Oprah’s “Where Are They Now,” Brandy comes back to sit on Oprah’s couch (or chair) and explain why she felt she needed to lie about having a child out of wedlock.
Oprah: I asked if you were married at the time and you said you were. Why did you say that?
Brandy: I said that I was married. Because at that time being pregnant out of wedlock was not a trend. It was not something that people praised. It was a sin. And I felt like I could not be honest about that. I felt the pressure of, again, having to be perfect. And I was scared. I thought that everything that I had worked hard for and everything that I worked to build, the image that I worked so hard to build was threatened. And I felt like having a child out of wedlock would ruin my career, everything that I had built.
And I’m really sorry for that because you just don’t lie to Oprah, okay?!
You can watch the video below.
In another part of the interview, Brandy explains why she doesn’t think she would have made it as a celebrity growing up in this day and age because people on social media can be so cruel. See what she had to say in the video below.
You can catch Brandy’s episode of “Where Are They Now” this Sunday, August 3 on OWN at 9 pm ET/PT.
It was the middle of Spring semester 1999 and dozens upon dozens of young women dressed in their professional best, nervously lined up outside of one of the University’s meeting hall.
It was the first orientation meeting for prospects for the first line on campus, since the organization was suspended for bad behavior by the school several years ago. Today was a new day. And we young hopefuls stood silently, surveying each other and smiling politely. It was the first time any of us had personally revealed intentions (outside of few close friends and family) publicly as well as the first time any of us got to see who else might be on the rooster.
There was lots of paranoia on campus about the Greeks. For one, talking about the fraternity or sorority you intended to pledge was akin to announcing to the campus your intentions of screwing the entire offensive line of the football squad. Ya just didn’t do it. There were horrifying urban legends and folklore about those, who let their lips do the flapping. At the very least, if all that bragging, boosting and declaring you did got back to the wrong ears, it was almost guaranteed that you would not make it – the exception was those, who were legacy of course. But that day, the cat was out the Greek letter embroidered bag and your closely guarded secret would now be known – or gossiped about – around Virginia Union’s tightly-knit campus by sundown.
I was kind of shocked when I got my letter inviting me to line. There were so many legacies at the orientation and only a few available slots and yet they choose me. As flattered as I was, I also felt like it was well earned. A year or so before the letter arrived in my mail slot, I had made it up in my mind that this organization was what I was going to join. As such, I put in the work bringing my grades up and being active on campus as well as in the community – well, as active as I could, while going to school full time and working damn near full time. In may respects, having such a prestigious and notable organization, with a long legacy in the community, notice the work I put in, actually mattered.
And then I read to the bottom of the letter, where it said that they needed $438 in a few days…
Mom wasn’t an option because she was already helping me on rent.. Dad wasn’t an option because he rarely was an option. I asked Grandma and she seemed quite confused about why I needed the money. “What kind of organization cost that much…Greek what?…Nope, I ain’t got it…” A couple of my other friends, who too were in similar financial circumstances offered to chip in, but even with all that fundraising, I had only managed to raised about half the money. Reluctantly, I contacted the line adviser, who told me that if I couldn’t raise the money, my only other option was to drop line.
She met me at my job as a cashier at a local supermarket. She waited patiently for me to finish up my last customer on the line and handed me the paperwork to fill out. I can’t remember what all it stated but the gist of it was that I was dropping line on my own volition. Technically I wasn’t, but I signed the paperwork anyway. My face must have looked pretty pitiful because without asking, she pulled me close to her for a hug and told me to have strength. I would rather money.
As hurt as I was at the time, I’m over it. No seriously, I swear I’m not bitter about it all. Looking back, I probably could have taken the risk and gambled my rent money for the month, hoping that I could find some other way to make it up. Or I could have asked the one more affluent girlfriend for the money. But I felt after all the free rides (including back and forth to Philly), food and use of her personal computer and printer ink, I just didn’t want to ask her for anymore stuff. But I could have taken the risk – I suppose.
Still, I will own up to feeling a tinge of tartness whenever I hear about and read things like this:
“Today was a very special day. I became and honorary member of #AlphaKappaAlpha! I made this very special lady proud. @sonjanorwood- My mom’s legacy as an #AKA continues. Love to all my #Sorors <3 #sisterhood #ethics #strength #class #leadership #intellect #power #LOVE”
That comment is from Brandy Norwood, who according to published reports just became an honorary member of the Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. Also according to these reports, there are also pictures of Norwood posing ever so dainty in all white and giving the Ivy symbol with her hands. I do not begrudge Norwood. But she had two advantages here: legacy and fame. Those privileges meant that in terms of gaining access to that particular organization, she never had to worry too much about risk.
And that is why I just don’t think honorary inductions are fair practices. Or legacies for that matter. And yet colleges, universities and all types of collegiate organizations regularly use these sorts of practices to help determine admission through its doors. Even as the practices totally spit in the face of everything everyone, including these same institutions, has ever said life was supposed to be about: hard work and merit. And if something doesn’t work out, well it is because you didn’t work hard (including taking those risk)- that has always been the narrative, anyway.
And, there is no denying that hard work matters in some respects. And there is also no denying the contributions of some folks to the greater society and it is only right they their work is honored. The AKA’s own list of other honorary members is pretty impressive. But then there are the people, who receive honorary inductions into these institutions for basically singing a song or two we liked (you can’t even say “write” as writing credits are few and far in between). And that’s when the sourness sets in…
To be clear this is not and anti-affirmative action post. Affirmative action is largely a response to what are unearned privileges, like the honorary degree and legacy clauses as well as racism and sexism. In actuality, some affirmative action, particularly an economic-based affirmative action, might have aided me in my own quest for membership. But rather this is a post about the types of messages we put out into the world and values we reinforce when those, who studied, learned the craft, did the research, walked the right lines and struggled but ultimately played the game as the rules had been laid out, find their hard work and merit overlooked in favor of the notable, the inherited and pretty much those folks who already have the advantages.
Is that really fair?
Just about an hour ago, singer and actress Brandy announced that today was a special day for her and her family.
In a picture with her mother Sonja Norwood in all white, the singer wrote:
Today was a very special day. I became and honorary member of #AlphaKappaAlpha! I made this very special lady proud. @sonjanorwood- My mom’s legacy as an #AKA continues. Love to all my #Sorors <3 #sisterhood #ethics #strength #class #leadership #intellect #power #LOVE
This is sweet, specifically since she has this familial connection to the sorority. It’ll be interesting to see if Brandy’s daughter Sy’rai will follow in her grandmother and now mother’s footsteps.
Brandy also joins director Ava DuVernay who was inducted into the sorority as an honorary member earlier this month.
Brandy even hit the Ivy pose in her all white.
Early this month, Tracy Morgan was involved in highway crash in New Jersey, which killed one of his friends (comedian Jimmy Mack) and severely injured him and other colleagues riding in the Mercedes Sprinter bus. Since then, Morgan’s reps say that he has gone from critical to fair condition and showing signs of improvement. We’re rooting for the comedian, and wish him a happy and speedy recovery.
There are numerous celebrities who’ve been involved in serious car accidents over the years. Some didn’t make it, some survived, and some hurt others when the accidents happened. Here are 15 celebrities who’ve been involved in scary collisions.
Almost six years ago, Freeman was in a terrible crash. His car flipped multiple times on a Mississippi highway. As a result he was seriously injured, suffering nerve damage and paralyzing his left hand. To this day he still wears a compression glove from time to time to help with his hand.
Amber Streeter, widely known as Sevyn Streeter has been taking the R&B game by storm with her new music, including the jams “It Won’t Stop” featuring Chris Brown, “nEXT” featuring Kid Ink, and “I Like It.” But before she was stepping out on her own to have success as a solo artist with EPs like Call Me Crazy, But…, like so many other musicians these days, she was a thriving songwriter, and really, she still is. She’s behind some recent big hits, as well as deep cuts off of albums from some of our favorite singers over the last few years. Don’t believe us? Take a look for yourself. Here are 10 songs written or co-written by Sevyn Streeter that we’re sure you’ve tried to sing or danced to before…
“Yeah 3X” by Chris Brown
It was the first time Streeter and and Brown worked together, but it wouldn’t be the last. He was so impressed with her writing skills (she co-wrote the song), and of course, her voice, that he made her his protege. Who wouldn’t? “Yeah 3X” was a massive hit internationally and helped his fourth album, F.A.M.E. sell well and get attention back on his music after being blacklisted on the radio after his assault on Rihanna in 2009.
Prom season is still going, and if we had the chance to go to prom with our dream date back in the day, I’m sure we would all name some celebrity whose posters were on our wall and that we were crushing on at the time. But what happens when your wish is actually granted? These young people reached out to stars they are huge fans of to ask them to prom, and as you will find out, they were lucky enough to go arm-and-arm with the famous folks on the big night. Here are 9 celebrities who made prom a night to remember for some of their biggest fans.
Since the 1840’s when famous ballerinas were featured as paper dolls, toy makers have loved immortalizing celebrity women in mimi-form. Many of today’s celebrities have been recreated as dolls that have been sold to the public and so here, from Nicki Minaj to Diana Ross, we count down famous women with celebrity dolls made in their likeness.
The self-professed Barbie got her wish in 2011 when Mattel created a one-of-a-kind doll in her likeness that was auctioned for charity.