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In college I self-diagnosed myself with anxiety. Sounds a bit crazy, right? Well, my mother said the same thing. Nevertheless, I always felt nervous to the point of a panic attack when faced with an issue or wanting to prove myself. I would try to relax but nothing ever really worked.
Today, at 24 years old, I’m proud to say that I’ve been able to control my nervous jitters and simply stay calm. While I do notice anxiety and nervous jitters are triggered more often when I’m under lots of pressure, it’s nowhere near as bad as it was before. I never visited a therapist or sought out medical attention for my own random fear of judgment, but in a recent interview starlet Brandy had with Entertainment Tonight, she made me feel like I wasn’t alone in my struggle.
The singer/actress revealed that she has “adult nerves,” a term she coined due to her age and battle with anxiety. While many would think of the entertainer as fearless individual since she’s been performing in front of audiences since she was a teenager, that wasn’t the case when she got back into the spotlight. Brandy revealed that her new show Zoe Ever After took lots of prayer and courage.
“There were a few different steps I needed to take in order to get back to the space where I could carry and hold my own on a show again. I went into the Zoe experience wanting to feel that [Moesha confidence] all over again,” she said.” “My nerves are worse now. I was fearless as a kid. I have adult nerves now and basically they don’t go away. But I’m blessed enough to not allow them to cripple me. I’m just inspired all over again in my life!”
In support of Brandy’s own sentiments, I’ve learned to take anxiety in strides and not let it consume me. I realized the more that I thought about it, the more I would let it take over my mind to the point that I couldn’t focus on anything else but my fear. While Brandy didn’t necessarily go into detail about how she got over her nerves, other than simply pushing forward, there are a few different lifestyle changes I’ve made that have definitely made an impact on myself.
To begin, waking up early to meditate for ten minutes has been great routine. I noticed that the first thing I would do every morning was grab my cellphone and scroll through work emails. Instead, I don’t pick up my phone until an hour after waking up — unless it’s an emergency of course. This down time allows me to center myself and prepare my spirit for a positive day. Limiting my alcohol and caffeine intake has also helped a lot. I no longer drink alcohol or caffeine, which is quite hard in my field of work, but I’ve been dedicated to making it work for the past three months. Now, I opt for water all day, everyday. This keeps me refreshed and mobile without all the added sugar, which actually worsens anxiety. Sleep is also another factor that many count out. Unlike the recommend eight hours, I was clocking in at around five hours, sometimes less. These days I’m a stickler for getting home early enough to get my proper rest and relaxation to keep myself cool, calm and collected — even under pressure.
As always, we’re interested in your own stories too. Have you ever suffered from adult anxiety? What do you credit to combating it?
Toni Braxton’s Unbreak My Heart Lifetime biopic drew 3.6 million viewers, becoming the network’s most-watched film in a year. Did you enjoy it? Because we sure did. Narrated and executive produced by Toni Braxton (who sang her own music in the movie), Unbreak My Heart followed the success of Lifetime’s much talked about Aaliyah and Whitney Houston biopics. Whose life story would you love to see on screen next? From Missy Elliott’s comeback to Brandy’s interesting career and love live and Jennifer Hudson’s incredible story, here are some candidates we think Lifetime should consider.
Vanessa Williams made headlines as the first Black winner of Miss America, a title that she would later relinquish after a Penthouse scandal threatened her burgeoning career. But Williams bounced back and conquered virtually every sector of entertainment: the musical charts, Broadway, film, and television. If that doesn’t scream biopic, I don’t know what does.
On last Thursday’s episode of The Real, singer and actress Brandy Norwood served as a guest co-host and used it as an opportunity to promote her new BET series Zoe Ever After. And because the actress and singer has been vocal about her love life in the past, it was no surprise that she talked about it some more on the show. But what did shock those watching was her declaration that she never wants to get married. Like ever.
After a sham marriage and a few failed engagements, Brandy shared that in the present day, she hasn’t dated in over a year, and she loves the single life because it’s the first time where her focus has been just on herself, her career, and her daughter. Although I am not a mother, I can certainly identify with Brandy’s need to give up on dating to just focus on the more important things in her life. Hell, I’ve met all types of strange men and have had failures that make me question why I even try anymore. Still, I wouldn’t go as far as to say that I never want to get married and that I would be okay with simply being in one relationship after another or single for the rest of my life. Life is a long journey depending on how you live it, and I wouldn’t want to go through it alone without a committed partner, intimacy or romance.
Before Brandy’s statement, powerhouse women such as Oprah Winfrey and Shonda Rhimes also went on the record to say they’re okay without marriage and commitment. Most women see this as a testament to embracing themselves and knowing what they want. And while I have embraced singlehood for the last two years, I won’t lie and say that it’s for me.
I’d like to have children and build a family at some point in my life, and I can’t do that alone. Kudos to all the single parents and women who want children without the man, but that’s not how I want my life set up. I’d like to build with someone and create a legacy and set an example of a strong family dynamic for my kids.
I’d also like to share my success with someone. Sure, it’s fun when you can share in those things with your friends and crack open a bottle of bubbly or wine and toast to good fortune. But having a life partner walking through the journey with you through the highs and lows, being there when the curtain closes and the tears fall, and then celebrating with you, is different.
The way my life is currently set up, on one end of the spectrum, I can identify with Brandy and say that I am content with being single right now and focusing on my career. Somewhere in the middle of that spectrum, I’m actually afraid to not be single and to give up my freedom, not due to commitment issues, but because of said career focus. But then there’s the lonely girl on the other end of that spectrum yearning for companionship, and someone to come home to after work. On any given day, I am at a different place on the spectrum, but I know for sure that when that time comes and I meet someone worth giving up the single life for, I am not looking back.
Brandy has dealt with her fair share of heartache and pain. And if you know her track record with love, you can’t help but root for her. You want her to be happy. And right now, being happy for Brandy is being by herself.
At least, that’s what she told the ladies of The Real when she visited the show recently to discuss her new sitcom, Zoe Ever After.
The clip from her visit started with Brandy saying she’s at peace with singledom.
“I am so satisfied being by myself. I’ve never taken this much time on myself.”
When Lonnie Love asked her if she was dating, the singer said she hadn’t gone on a date in quite some time, opting instead to focus on her work and her family.
“I don’t date. I haven’t been out on a date in a year.”
She continued, “I just like me right now. I just like the way it feels being by myself and taking care of my daughter and doing my thing. I’m all about my career right now.”
I heard that. Who hasn’t been fed up with the dating scene and just needed that break? That time alone to focus on you, who and what’s important to you, and to just love on yourself? I understood that. I respected that. I got that.
But what I didn’t get was Brandy all of a sudden saying that she never wants to get married. That just didn’t sound like her.
Jeannie Mai commended Brandy for taking a break and said women should definitely do so before getting married. That’s when Adrienne Bailon said, “But wait, she’s saying she doesn’t ever see marriage in the future.”
She expounded on that feeling, saying, “Girl, I don’t want to go down that road. I know I don’t want to…self-love is great right now.”
And that’s where she surprised me–and made me a little sad at the same time. I couldn’t help but wonder, through both her statements on the show and her demeanor as she said them, if she was telling the truth. Could Brandy really be giving up on love?
Based on what we’ve seen her go through over the years, you could understand why she might want to.
She had her heart broken by Wanya Morris of Boyz II Men when she was 18, and in the worst way:
“He fell in love with someone else, so the worst feeling is to be in love all by yourself. That feels f–ked up, honestly, it just does, and that’s the only way I can really put it. It felt like somebody had just completely taken my heart out of my body and just crushed it.”
Then there was the fraudulent union with Robert Smith, a guy who literally ran to the media after the relationship ended, embarrassing the star by sharing that they were never married.
Then, she bounced back and was engaged to former NBA star Quentin Richardson from 2004 to 2005. During that time, she even got a tattoo of his face on her back, as she was so sure that they were going to go the distance. Ater their split, she refrained from seriously dating and having sex for years.
And then, there was music executive Ryan Press. He proposed to her in 2012, and it looked like Brandy finally found her happily ever after. She was happier than ever. But in 2014, things fell apart, and the engagement was called off. When I talked to her about moving forward from that split last year, Brandy admitted it wasn’t easy.
“It really did take a while. This last heartbreak was really hard, you know what I mean? It’s time. I just made a decision that even through heartbreak, you have to affirm that all will be well and in time you will feel better. And I feel better.”
Even after that split, though, Brandy didn’t give up. She appeared on a short-lived show called The Daily Helpline and sought advice on how to make relationships work.
“I have a deep question for you guys. I’ve been in relationships before. I’ve been the heartbreaker; I have had my heart broken to pieces. But I just want to know the secret of making it work, cause time is ticking. I’m 35, and I’m trying to one day get to the next level. The next level! You know? Like marriage one day? Help me.”
But now she says that she’s done with marriage?
That’s why I’m so skeptical. Some women and men, you can look them in their eyes and tell that marriage has absolutely no appeal to them. Maybe they watched the relationships of their parents fall apart bitterly, or maybe they’ve been severely hurt in a previous marriage. And while some of those people do forgo holy matrimony and just date, others find someone who changes their way of thinking and tie the knot down the line.
But someone who has been engaged more than once and openly said that she wants to be married now saying she knows she doesn’t want it at all? I don’t think so. I think Brandy’s speaking from a place of hurt, and I’ve seen quite a few men, and especially women, do that.
I know women who hit their 30s and feel as though because they weren’t already in a serious relationship, there is no hope for them. I’ve even had a friend say that after everything Brandy’s been through, it makes sense for her to want to give up on marriage. She is almost 37.
But why give up on something you’ve always been so adamant about wanting? Why turn up your face at the idea of dating and look horrified at the concept of marriage all of a sudden? What scares me is that I think many of us give up because we’re operating on the timelines society has set for us. They say that if you don’t get married by a certain age, the chances of you doing so, and the chances of you having a healthy pregnancy, dwindle. So there some of us are, depressed because we think we’ve missed the boat. The man we thought we’d marry didn’t pan out. Our attempt at online dating has been a mess. Instead of being open to love and what it could bring, we get fed up and tell people “Maybe marriage just isn’t for me.” We didn’t meet the invisible deadlines, so we decide to be defiant and reject the idea of marriage, shaking our head at the word and saying, “I don’t want that.”
But the reality is that instead of giving up on what we want for ourselves, we need to give up on the pressure people put on us to get it fast as hell. Give up on thinking that every time we step out, we need to do and wear the absolute most to get noticed. Give up on running behind and doing everything for a man who shows very quickly that he won’t reciprocate because we’re just so sure we can make him want to settle down. Give up on going into every dating situation with the desperation in our face that we want a ring, and we want it ASAP. Give up on taking a ring from a man just to say you’re engaged, and that you made the life deadline, even though you don’t know if you’re ready.
All the sh-t that people tell us we should do to make it down the aisle, and make it down before we expire like old milk (because marriage, in that realm, is more about calling yourself a “wife” than truly wanting to be one), give up on that.
I feel, in my heart, that Brandy still wants to get to that “next level,” but I think it’s time for her, and many of us, to go about doing so in a different way. As she said, self-love is great. When you take the time to love yourself and know yourself, you’re not so eager to be out in the world looking with a magnifying glass and a list of wants. Instead, you just open yourself up to what may come, politely decline what you don’t want, and focus your energy and happiness in doing the things you like. As cliche as it sounds, you really do attract some interesting things and people when you stop looking for them.
So I say this long spiel to state that no matter what you’ve been through in relationships, no matter the people you’ve encountered through this thing we call life, and no matter what people tell you about clocks and deadlines, you shouldn’t let it push you into becoming a cynic of love and marriage. The person who is so sure that it won’t happen for them that they feel the need to raise an eyebrow at the idea as if to say, “Marriage? For me? Girl, bye.” Plenty of women are being open and finding love not when society tells them they need to, but when they are truly ready for it.
At the end of the day, I just don’t want to see us shut out love because of what we’ve been through, or frown upon marriage because of what other people say it should be about. I respect that she is taking this time for herself, and, after all she’s experienced in matters of the heart, it’s only right. But a time out doesn’t have to turn into one thinking time has run out.
Brandy is back y’all!
Fresh from the premiere of her new BET sitcom Zoe Ever After, the R&B songstress has return to her musical roots with a new track titled “Beggin & Pleadin.”
It’s been nearly four years since her last solo album, Two Eleven, but Brandy’s kept busy with gigs like reprising the role of Roxie Hart for Broadway’s Chicago and landing guest features on the album’s of Ty Dolla $ign and Tyrese this past year. While it’s unclear if we can expect an album from her in the near future or if this is just a reminder that she’s still got it, saying “My fans have been starving for new music. I just got to do it,” at the recent Television Critics Association winter press tour.
Well, we’re definitely here for the blues-inspired joint produced by Pop and Oak as Brandy croons on the chorus: “Damn boy, why you make it so hard?/Stop puttin’ your foot on my heart/Know I cussed and I screamed, even took your keys/Got so bad, yeah I stopped wearin’ my ring.”
And according to the singer, it’s all based on a true story. Interesting, much? Take a first listen to Brandy’s new track and tell us your thoughts.
Countess Vaughn Writes Open Letter To Brandy On Instagram: “I Apologize For Anything Negative I’ve Ever Done”
With the year coming to a close and many prepping their resolutions or goals to becoming a better them, actress Countess Vaughn, too, had some baggage to purge of before entering 2016.
The 37-year-old actress known for her roles in The Parker’s and Moesha, wrote an open letter on Saturday (Dec. 19). The topic, you may ask? Brandy, her former Moesha co-star. It’s been no secret that for two decades the two haven’t seen eye-to-eye. The issues were brought to public attention in VIBE’s April 1998 issue when Brandy shared that her and Vaughn were actually not the close friends that the fictional characters they played who assume:
“I think she’s very funny, very talented. I just feel like she wants to be in the position I’m in. People tell her, ‘You’re the reason why the show’s successful.’ And she’s told me that before. And she’s called me a b***h–to my face. She said, ‘I’m the reason why the show is successful, b***h.’ In front of a lot of people. And I looked at her like, Wow. I couldn’t say nothing about her because I wasn’t about to. She knows. She wakes up and looks at herself in the mirror and gets disgusted. I don’t.”
17 years later, Vaughn is apologizing for her actions and seeking to start a fresh relationship – that doesn’t necessarily mean friendship, but cordialness at the least– with Brandy.
“At the end of the day I had to learn in find myself why not be friends when we’re both talented, Why call you names when your [sic] just an amazing person,” Vaughn wrote.”I apologize for anything Negative I’ve ever done are said to you ….sorry this had to be on social media , I just want the world to see that I’ve grown out of my comfort zone ….. Hopefully one day I can tell you in person or on the phone to let you know I mean everything I’ve wrote ….”
Shortly after Vaughn posted the letter, Brandy responded saying, “I would love to start a new friendship with you with new heads on both of our shoulders. It will also be great to work together again. Without you, Moesha would not have lasted as long as it did.”
Read Vaughn’s full open letter below and Brandy’s reply.
@4everbrandy I’m proud of you. For placing one foot in front of the other. For waking up every morning and simply giving it your best shot. for placing a premium on personal growth too. We been threw are ups and downs , high and lows … But at the end of the day I had to learn in find myself why not be friends when we’re both talented, Why call you names when your just an amazing person… I’m proud of you for being you and working to rise to the best you inside of you.You are an amazing being with amazing God-given capacity. I believe in who you are and who you are working to be. We are all works-in-progress. One of life’s purposes is to improve on the wiring under the hood of our lives. I believe in your ability to stand and courageously be the person you were meant to be. Im not perfect , no where near it..I care about your life and your happiness. I wouldn’t do what I did if I didn’t. I care about you as a person. We are spiritual siblings, you and I. I know this to be true. And it means a lot to me… I apologize for anything Negative I’ve ever done are said to you ….sorry this had to be on social media , I just want the world to see that I’ve grown out of my comfort zone ….. Hopefully one day I can tell you in person or on the phone to let you know I mean everything I’ve wrote …..I didn’t do this for applause, because we all know that some people don’t believe celebrities to be “human”, but this came from a very human place. No matter how or if she respond know that the Universe will continue to bring me growth and happiness because that is what im putting out there…😘😘😘Congratulations on every thing you’ve accomplished… Love you beautiful ….happy holidays from Countess 😘😘😘😘
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“How Do You Not Tell Your Sister You’re Engaged” Brandy Shares Thoughts On Ray J Being On “Love and Hip Hop”
Every time I consider the fact that Ray J is a very regular, very ratchet cast member on “Love and Hip Hop Hollywood,” I wonder what his sister Brandy thinks about his participation on the show. And that’s not even mentioning what his parents, his father with a background in the church, have to say about the situation. In a recent interview on “The Wendy Williams Show.” Brandy addressed that very topic as well as Ray J’s alleged engagement to Princess Love.
Check out the excerpts on her brother below. And for the rest of the interview, where she talks co-parenting with her daughter’s father, her new show on BET and more, watch the video below.
Wendy: What is going on with your ratchet brother?
(Makes sad face.) Awww… I love Ray J. I used to watch [“Love and Hip Hop] before Ray J was on it.
So why don’t you watch, because you’re embarrassed?
Not embarrassed but I’m his sister and I don’t know what he’s going to do.
What about Willie and Sonja, do they watch?
No, my mom and dad don’t watch.
Do they know what’s going on?
A little bit.
Is he really engaged to Princess Love?
What do you call her Princess? Love? or Susan?
That’s her real name. That’s her real name.
What?! The ratchet…
Don’t…Wendy…Wendy, she’s like a sister to me.
So what do you call her?
Princess, that’s her name.
Are they really engaged?
They are really engaged. And I told him I was coming here–and I didn’t know. Like, I’m really mad about that. Like, how do you not tell you’re sister that you’re engaged.
How’d you find out?
I called him yesterday. I said, ‘Yo, Wendy’s going to ask me if you’re engaged or not and I need to know what it is.’ And he goes, ‘Yeah, tell her that I’m engaged.’ And I said, ‘So that means you’re engaged?’ And he says yes.
That’s not a real engagement, do Willie and Sonja know?
I think my mom is going to find out today, after watching the show.
Watch the rest of the interview in the video below.
Brandy is really spreading her wings into this acting game. In addition to her wildly successful run as the lead in Broadway’s Chicago, she also returning to BET for a new show “Zoe Ever After.”
Unlike her tenure on “The Game,” Brandy will be playing the lead role.
The show is described as a romantic comedy following a recently divorced single mother trying to launch a new cosmetics line.
You can take a look at the trailer in the video below.
Maybe it’s just me, but the show reminded me a lot of “Eve” back in the day on UPN. The project will debut in January on BET.
What do you think of the trailer? Will you check this out?
If there’s one thing that’s for certain, it’s definitely that controversy sells. But as more and more stars stage beefs and fights to drum up publicity, it’s getting harder and harder to tell the real from the fake. Click through the next slides as we get down to business as to whether these celebrity beefs were staged just for attention or not.
Nicki Minaj vs. Miley Cyrus
Viewers tuned into this year’s MTV VMAs were left with their mouth’s gaped open during Nicki Minaj’s acceptance speech. The Young Money princess called host Miley Cyrus out of her name over the comments she made in an interview leading up to the awards show. Minaj became a trending topic for calling Cyrus a b*tch live on the air, but many felt the entire scene was concocted to spice things up for the awards show. Last year’s ratings were down nearly two million viewer’s from the previous year. Neither camp has commented on the incident, but MTV VMAs executive producer Vin Toffler said, “It was [real]. In no way was any of that planned.”
Last night CoverGirl announced a new “Star Wars” campaign featuring Janelle Monae and today the cosmetics brand made the big reveal of the ad starring the “resistance pilot.” Looking stunning as usual, Janelle’s ad got us thinking about some of our favorite CoverGirl Beauties from years gone by and we even rediscovered a few we’d forgotten about. Check out this list of the best Black CoverGirl beauties to date. Who’s your fave?