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Brooklyn Ballet’s wonder kids, 16-year-old twin brothers Shaakir and Naazir Muhammad, star in this beautiful montage about being in ballet and following their passion. Dubbed “the Billy Elliots of Brooklyn,” back in 2011, they won full scholarships to the prestigious American Ballet Theatre in Manhattan. Like the Broadway character, the boys had to overcome some major hurdles to fulfill their dreams. Read more about their journey here.
“The second I tell someone I’m a classically trained ballet dancer, they just look at me like, what? You? You’re a dancer? Look at the way you dress. And I’m like, you’re not seeing only the way I dress, you’re looking at my skin. That’s what you’re telling me,” says Shaakir.
“I remember when I first walking into xix Studios, me and Naazir walked in…the room got quiet. Like drop dead quiet. You could feel the people stare at you and I just felt like everyone here is scared of me. My hair is not flowy and stringy like a white boys hair. I don’t have the delicate features, you know, the soft colored eyes…I don’t have that. This is me, this is how I look and I’m not going to change it for you go so I can get some part.”
“The internalized racism was crazy…you shouldn’t be wearing tights with them white boys, you might turn gay…if you stand next to Naazir for more than 30 seconds you can turn gay…all of a sudden I look up and there are no kids around me. That didn’t bother me, honestly, because they can’t give me anything to make me prosper. I want to be the first African American principal dancer. Just to get written down in Black history and kids int he future are gonna do reports on me when I’m dead, well, me and my brother, not just me. We’ll see who gets there first.”
State of the Union, January 25, 2014
What Will My Brother’s Keeper Alliance Do?
In catalyzing a national ecosystem of support to help boys and young men of color, MBK Alliance will support program interventions targeting six key life milestones:
- Entering School Ready to Learn (Early Childhood)
- Reading at Grade Level by Third Grade (Middle Childhood)
- Graduating from High School Ready for College and Career (Adolescence)
- Completing Post-Secondary Education or Training (Adulthood Transition)
- Successfully Entering the Workforce (Adulthood)
- Reducing Violence and Providing a Second Chance (Throughout Life)
“All lives matter. We care about your future. Not just sometimes, but all the time.” — Barack Obama#ChangeTheNarrative
My Brother’s Keeper Alliance (“MBK Alliance”), a new, independent nonprofit, aims to eliminate the gaps in opportunity and achievement for boys and young men of color – making the American dream available to all. This will require strategic evidence-based interventions from community, private, public and social enterprise partners that holistically tackle these gaps from cradle to career.
When my son was born he came out with the fullest hair you could see on a newborn…even the doctor was amazed! As a naturalista going on five years strong, I have always had a game plan to make sure my children stayed as natural as possible when it comes to their mane. When I found out I was having a boy that made me stop and think, do natural hairstyles apply to boys as well?
I’d say yes!
In fact, it’s pretty silly to think otherwise considering most men do not put tons of chemicals in their hair like us women. Technically, they are natural when it comes to their hair, yet it seems like society has a problem with boys rocking certain hairstyles.
“You’re hair is really cute and all but you can’t expect your son to wear it the same way,” one of my close friends told me.
I’m not trying to put him in pigtails (for the record, I don’t even wear those), but no one, including me, should feel pressured to have to do “the big chop” on a little boy’s hair because society is uncomfortable and think it will make him any less of a man. Have y’all seen the shade “Instant Mom” actress Tia Mowry-Hardrict received on social media for letting her son Cree grow his hair out? He has a beautiful Afro and sometimes rocks cornrows, so cute! I am starting to realize that I may come across the same backlash and have already got it from some of my family who think he may have gender confusion if his hair is left long.
Now I’ll be honest and say that one nurse mistook my son for a girl while I was in the hospital, but did that make me think, oh, I need to cut his hair. No. Those newborn baby blankets are full of blues and pinks so it’s hard to really differentiate the gender of a baby solely off a face – and let’s be honest, some girls don’t look too girly themselves. I digress.
The bottom line is: many have made silent declarations of individuality and self-pride by making the choice to wear their hair natural. It’s something that is thankfully starting to become more acceptable in society with media outlets using people with natural hair in their projects. Who would have thought that this “movement” was only for us girls? Does that even make sense? I have photos of both my mother and father rocking perfectly fluffed fro’s in their day and no one thought anything of it. Fast forward to today and I know of plenty of men who rock dreads, twists and Afros very well.
My son will still be a boy whether he has short hair, an Afro, twists or braids. When he is older he can make his own decisions about what he wants to do with his hair, but at least he’ll know there are other options out there and to embrace them. And who knows, he might become the next Maxwell and you can’t tell me that brother is anything less than perfect.
Alright, alright, alright! Who else is trying to do a flip because the holidays are almost here? I think I get more excited purchasing gifts for others than I do myself – well, kinda. This holiday season I have total boy stuff on my mind as I not only prepare for the arrival of my little one, but try and scope out ideas for my two nephews. Even though most boys can be entertained by with wheels, there are an assortment of other gifts that should grab their attention. Here are some holiday gift ideas for the little gents in our lives.
2013 Holiday Gift Guide For Boys: 20 Of The Best Toys Out!
I hope you know how fortunate you are to have a father who is a very active part of your life. From the moment you were born, all I had to do was look at your father’s face and I knew he was fully committed to doing everything in his power to help you turn into a wonderful man.
Manhood is a complicated thing, and because of that I decided to write you this letter. Although your father and I share the same values, as a woman I think I have a slightly different view of manhood than he does. And, although I know you will meet women throughout your life who can tell you what they think it means to be a man, I think there is some added value in getting that information from the first woman who met you – the woman who gave you life.
One of the most important things you need to know about manhood is actually one of the most important things I want your sister to know about womanhood – you have to know who you are. Don’t ever let societal pressures cause you to behave in a manner that isn’t consistent with who you know you are. Remember that everyone has their own perception of how a black man should behave, but what matters is how you define yourself. It’s not about being macho, or tough, or hard – it’s about being real with yourself. Always.
Over time, you will form relationships with women who honestly have no idea what it means to be a man. Maybe it’s because they’ve never had a relationship with a strong, positive male figure. Whatever the case may be, they may have this inaccurate perception of what your role is in their life and what you should be bringing to the table.
I can tell you that as a woman, being a man means that you are kind and you know how to stand up for yourself and for others. Being a man means that injustice makes you angry. Being a man means that you are in touch with your emotions and you know how to express yourself. Manhood means being able to cry and making no apologies for it. It also means you are able to just walk away from any conversation or situation if you feel like your temper is escalating and may lead to a bad decision. Manhood is about knowing yourself well enough to keep yourself out of trouble.
I also want you to know that a man knows how to provide, but let me clarify this point. You are to be no one’s sugar daddy. Buying a woman presents because you are courting her is one thing, but spending countless dollars on a woman who makes you feel like spending money is the only way to keep her – well, that is a bunch of crap. Wait until you find the right woman – the one who is truly worth your time – and then spend all you’d like, because you will know she is worthy.
Although some women will make you think your manhood is directly connected to how much you make, how much you are willing to spend on them, what kind of car your drive, or how angry you get over them (or on their behalf), I want you to know that manhood is so much deeper than that. It’s about knowing right from wrong, being strong in your convictions, following your heart, and protecting what matters most to you in life.
I have no doubt you will be a wonderful man. As long as you never let anyone tell you how you should act or who you should be, you will make your dad, yourself, and me proud.
Born and raised in Brooklyn, New York, Martine Foreman is the editor and co-founder of JustDiva, a lifestyle email publication for today’s Modern Black Woman. To follow her funny and candid take on balancing life as a wife, mom and entrepreneur, you can also check out her personal blog, CandidBelle.
Remember being young and boy crazy? We do too. So we collected all of our favorite celebrity boy crushes from the ’90s. These boys made our hearts throb, filled our walls on posters, and were our favorite obsessions. Check out the list of guys every girl went crazy over back in the day. Did we miss anyone?
ABOUT THIS EPISODE
In this episode of Mommy in Chief, we are discussing how to build your child’s self esteem. It is very important as a mother to build your child’s self esteem from birth. We also have a special treat for you at the end of the segment. You don’t want to miss the cutest little kids expressing how confident and beautiful they are!
Iris L. Johnson, LCSW, PC, is a graduate of Hunter College School of Social Work, Ackerman Institute Externship and Hunter College’s Adoption Therapy Programs. Ms. Johnson has served in leadership positions at several New York City social service agencies and has extensive experience working with young children, adolescents, and families who have experienced trauma and socioeconomic oppression. She has presented nationally on issues that impact women and children, especially families of African descent.
She is a mother of two-one biological and one foster care/adoption.
Ms. Johnson maintains a private practice in New York City and Brooklyn, working with individuals, couples, families, and groups.
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Every parent has that moment when they have to decide if they’re going to tell their child to fight or walk away from a confrontation. For twelve years, my oldest son has lived a peaceful life. He goes to school, makes good grades and gets along with his peers and is active in sports. He is a normal 12-year-old, obsessed with video games and music. Sure, there have been instances when he got into a disagreement with a classmate but nothing that would have came to blows. That is, until today. My son came home upset because some kids on the bus were ‘picking’ on him on the bus. To make matters worse, one of the boys decided he was going to take the ‘picking’ further by taking an item that belonged to my son and walking off with it. When he came home he was upset and when he told me what happened, I had a flashback of what my mom told me as a 12-year-old when I came home upset about an altercation with another child.
Growing up if anyone messed with us, my mom’s first response was, “Did you fight?” If I said no, I was immediately marched back up to where the incident occurred and ordered to take up for myself. My mom didn’t care if I lost or won—her big thing was to not let anyone ‘bully’ me. There were many times that my mom would even come up to the school, ready to throw fisticuffs with kids if someone was messing with me. She would even confront parents if necessary—my mom was ruthless. Needless to say, I learned early to take up for myself.
As I snapped back to my son’s reality, I couldn’t help but want to drive to the middle school and handle this for him. But I knew that going to the school and threatening children would not be a smart move. I wanted to tell him to fight—defend himself—but I didn’t want to take him from a well adjusted 12 year old to a fighting thug-in-training. So I did something I never do. I just sat a thought for a moment thinking about what I was going to say while he fixed himself a snack. As I thought a thousand questions raced through my mind: Why as parents to seemingly good kids do we have to defend them from apparent thugs-in-training? Is fighting a rite of passage that all boys have to go through? If I tell him to fight will he then begin to fight every day over minute issues?
As questions still swirled through my mind, I decided to call my husband; this was a ‘Dad issue’. He broke it down calmly and straight to the point. He told me, “He has to defend himself. Call the school, arrange a conference but tomorrow let him handle it.” I hung up the phone and I called our son over to me.
I calmly asked him what he did in response to these children and their foolishness on the bus today. He explained to me how he had confronted the boy then decided to ‘walk away’ because he didn’t want to be suspended over something stupid. I further prodded him about what will happen if the boys do something to him and he said (like any wise 12-year-old would do), “Mom, I’ll handle it. I’m not a baby anymore.” And with those words he had forgotten about the confrontation and was engrossed in his math homework.
Despite his reassurances, I emailed the assistant principal of the school and will be making a visit to the school, all without him knowing just to make sure that these children don’t get away with harassing other students. But I have to let him handle certain situation—she’s not a baby anymore—despite him always being my baby. I had to let go a little bit.
Now my MommyNoire family, do you tell your children to fight or walk away?
Valentines Day is here, and love is in the air. To be honest, these days it warrants little more than a mention for me and my husband. After 20 years and 2 children together, the over-priced bouquets and twinkling trinkets have lost their appeal. Him doing the laundry every Sunday morning? Now that‘s a major turn-on.—
For our daughter, though, Valentines Day is a pretty big deal. She’s just about 7 years old and, like a lot of little girls, is enamored with hearts and flowers and the idea of love.
“I’m not in love with anyone,” she complained the other day from her carseat.
“That’s okay,” I told her. “You have lots of time to be in love.”
“Well, I was going to get married to someone,” she said, emphasizing the past tense. “But now I’m not.
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