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While we all have girlfriends, it’s always nice to have a few guy friends in the loop who you can talk to and chill with. In many cases when you have guy friends, it’s likely that you’re bound to experience some sort of chemistry — it just happens! If you’re on the fence and completely unsure as to whether this guy is best as a friend or if he’d make a good boyfriend, here are some tips and advice to keep in mind. Don’t let the indecision ruin your relationship!
There always seems to be someone that is about to hire him, or publish his novel, or invest in his start up idea. But all the talk in the world can’t cover it up when it’s just so clear, a guy does not have his life together. Not even close. Moocher, slacker, loser—call it what you will—here are signs you’re dealing with one.
So every guy you get involved with ends up cheating, being non-committal, dropping off the face of the planet, making a terrible boyfriend or in one way or another, being a douchebag. And you’re beginning to think that you—your particular personality, or maybe the way you look—attracts douchebags. Well there’s good news and bad news: you’re not the type to attract douchebags. You’re just the type to welcome them in.
This list is to clarify that when a woman says (as so many do on Twitter, Facebook, and comment sections of this website) that she wants a “Real Man” she does not mean a beer guzzling, football watching, gym-obsessed brute that will start fights over her. She means someone who is mature, will treat her like a queen, is ready to be treated like a king and not take it for granted, and most importantly, who respects the sanctity of a relationship. And here’s a few signs that you’ve found a real man:
Calls when he says he will
A real man understands that you have a life and schedule of your own, and that you are not just some toy he can pick up when the mood strikes him. He understands that you deserve the respect of having him make plans, and following through with those plans. So, when he says he’s going to call you at a certain time, he does. Because he understands that if he calls 30 minutes late, you could have moved on with your day. As you should have!
When you’re young, you let a lot of things slide when getting to know a guy. You see behaviors as “incidental.” You don’t pick up on patterns. You don’t realize that A leads to B. But, as you date more men, you start to realize that the following behaviors all correlate with one thing: possible bad boyfriend material.
In your early twenties, when a guy tells you he’s starting his own business you see ambition, passion, money (let’s be real here), intelligence, curiosity about the world and so much more. Later in life, when a man tells you he’s starting over and thinking about starting a new business, you see a guy who is too busy to see you and even in the few hours a week he can, his brain is on the loan he just took out to start that business. A new entrepreneur sells his heart to his business until it is established and might not be the best person to try and pursue a relationship with right now.